Can attachment theory influence concussion recovery, chronic pain, dysautonomia, and the success of rehabilitation? In Part 2 of this conversation, Dr. Ayla Wolf sits down with psychologist, somatic therapist, and Chinese medicine practitioner Dr. Matthew Tolstoy to explore how unconscious nervous system patterns shape the therapeutic relationship, why The Body Keeps the Score is often misunderstood, and how psychotherapy, EMDR, somatic therapy, and physical rehabilitation all work to influence the same underlying autonomic physiology. If Part 1 introduced the foundations of attachment theory and the autonomic nervous system, this episode takes the conversation even deeper—into what actually happens inside the treatment room. Dr. Tolstoy offers a rare behind-the-scenes look at the thought process of an experienced psychotherapist, explaining how clinicians create safety, build trust, and recognize when a patient's response to treatment may have less to do with the technique itself and more to do with deeply ingrained patterns of nervous system regulation. Together, we discuss why two patients with the same diagnosis can respond completely differently to the same intervention, how rehabilitation providers can thoughtfully introduce referrals for psychotherapy or somatic therapy, and why the therapeutic relationship itself may be one of the most powerful tools for healing. We also tackle one of the most misunderstood ideas in trauma therapy: "The Body Keeps the Score." Is trauma actually stored in the hips? Can emotions simply be "released" through bodywork? Or is something far more sophisticated happening within the nervous system? Dr. Tolstoy explains how unconscious protective strategies can manifest as chronic muscle tension, pain, and autonomic dysregulation—and why understanding the underlying neuroscience changes the way we think about healing. The conversation concludes with a fascinating discussion on the neuroscience of affect, emotion, and feelings, exploring how the unconscious brain continuously shapes our physiology, attention, and behavior long before we become consciously aware of what's happening. In this episode, you'll learn: How attachment theory influences the therapeutic relationship Why two patients with the same diagnosis may respond differently to treatment How to discuss psychotherapy with patients without implying "it's all in your head" When rehabilitation providers should consider referring for EMDR, somatic therapy, or psychotherapy What The Body Keeps the Score really means—and what it doesn't Why chronic muscle tension may represent protective nervous system strategies rather than "stored trauma" The neuroscience behind affect, emotion, and conscious feelings How unconscious survival programs shape physical symptoms and emotional regulation Why the therapeutic alliance is one of the strongest predictors of successful psychotherapy How awareness helps bridge subconscious autonomic patterns and intentional healing Perhaps the most important message from this conversation is that healing isn't simply about finding the right technique. Whether you're recovering through physical therapy, acupuncture, chiropractic care, psychotherapy, vestibular rehabilitation, or functional neurology, lasting change often begins when the nervous system feels safe enough to update the protective patterns it developed long ago. As Dr. Tolstoy explains, awareness doesn't eliminate unconscious programming—but it creates the opportunity for neuroplasticity, healthier autonomic regulation, and meaningful, lasting change. Whether you're recovering from a concussion, living with chronic pain, navigating dysautonomia, or you're a healthcare professional interested in the intersection of neuroscience, psychology, and rehabilitation, this episode offers a thoughtful and eye-opening perspective on how the therapeutic relationship itself can become part of the healing process. Work with Dr. Tolstoy: website Send us a Message! 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