Resiliently Rising Podcast

Carrie Holladay

Join husband and wife as they share their betrayal trauma healing journey using a somatic-based approach. This podcast explores nervous system regulation, self-trust, and practical tools for restoring relationships with yourself and others. Whether you're navigating betrayal or seeking deeper emotional healing, you'll find insights, support, and expert guidance to help you move from survival to safety. Carrie Holladay is a Trauma-Trained Somatic Practitioner and founder of Resiliently Rising, where she helps individuals heal from betrayal trauma through body-based, nervous-system-informed approaches. After years of living in survival mode following both childhood and marital betrayal, Carrie discovered the power of somatic healing—learning that true recovery begins not just in the mind, but in the body. She’s trained in Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Attachment Therapy, the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Treating Trauma and Affairs, Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness, and Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy. Today, Carrie support survivors around the world in reconnecting with their body’s wisdom, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and connection. Her work blends professional training with lived experience, offering a grounded and compassionate approach to trauma recovery that helps people move from surviving to thriving. *This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.*

  1. Ep 45. WYW: How Do I Make the Anxiety Stop?

    2d ago

    Ep 45. WYW: How Do I Make the Anxiety Stop?

    Betrayal trauma reshapes your nervous system — and anxiety is often the loudest signal of that change. In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David respond to a listener struggling with constant anxiety after discovering her husband's porn addiction. Carrie explains why anxiety after betrayal isn't a flaw but a survival response, and introduces a powerful reframe: instead of asking how do I make it stop, ask what is my anxiety trying to protect? David speaks honestly about how he mishandled Carrie's anxiety early on — and what actually helped. Practical somatic tools, a section for betrayers on what their partner's anxiety actually needs, and a candid look at what non-linear healing really looks like. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

    34 min
  2. Ep 44. The Secret Sexual Basement: Understanding Betrayal, Lies & Integrity Abuse with Janae Lindsey

    Jun 9

    Ep 44. The Secret Sexual Basement: Understanding Betrayal, Lies & Integrity Abuse with Janae Lindsey

    This week on the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie sits down with therapist and betrayal trauma specialist Jenae Lindsey for a powerful conversation about the hidden damage of deception, secrecy, and integrity abuse in relationships after betrayal. Together, they unpack the concept of the “secret sexual basement,” why the lies and manipulation often hurt more than the behavior itself, and how betrayal impacts the nervous system, self-trust, and reality itself. This episode offers validation, education, and hope for anyone navigating betrayal trauma... whether you’re struggling with hypervigilance, questioning your intuition, trying to rebuild trust, or simply wondering if healing is even possible. Carrie and Jenae explore topics like compartmentalization, betrayal blindness, attachment, self-trust, emotional safety, and why healing requires addressing both the compulsive behaviors and the integrity wounds underneath them. Connect with Janae: 📲 Instagram: @couchtalkers https://www.desertbloomrecovery.org/   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

    53 min
  3. Ep 43. Disclosure vs. Discovery: Why the Way Truth Comes Out Matters

    Jun 2

    Ep 43. Disclosure vs. Discovery: Why the Way Truth Comes Out Matters

    In this episode, Carrie and David explore the powerful difference between disclosure and discovery in betrayal trauma recovery. They unpack why trickle truth, partial disclosures, and ongoing deception can be just as damaging... and sometimes more damaging... than the original betrayal itself.  They discuss how secrecy impacts trust, why the body often knows something is wrong before the mind can explain it, and what happens when a relationship is built on incomplete information. Whether you're the betrayed partner questioning if you have the whole truth or the person who caused harm and is struggling with fear, shame, and honesty, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and hope for what real healing requires.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

    41 min
  4. Ep 42. Somatic Safety Session: Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does

    May 26

    Ep 42. Somatic Safety Session: Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does

    In this episode, we slow down and explore that moment where your body knows before your mind catches up. We talk about how your nervous system is constantly reading for safety, how it communicates through sensation and reaction, and why those early signals are often more honest than the story your mind tries to build afterward. You’ll begin to understand how to recognize those subtle cues instead of overriding them or second-guessing them. And most importantly, how to start building trust with your own internal signals again—so you can move through life with more clarity, steadiness, and self-trust, even in moments that feel uncertain or overwhelming.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar    👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay   This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

    15 min
  5. Ep 40. The Wounds of Betrayal with KayLee Dunn

    May 12

    Ep 40. The Wounds of Betrayal with KayLee Dunn

    In this powerful conversation, Carrie sits down with trauma psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach KayLee Dunn to explore the deeper wounds betrayal creates beyond just the initial trauma. Together, they unpack how betrayal impacts identity, self-trust, reality, attachment, and agency… and why so many people feel “regulated but still lost” long after the crisis phase has passed. KayLee shares both personal and professional insight from nearly two decades in the betrayal trauma field, offering language, validation, and hope for those trying to reconnect with themselves after betrayal. This episode is a compassionate, deeply validating conversation about healing, meaning-making, and finding your way back to who you are. Connect with KayLee: https://www.kayleedunn.com/ Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

    48 min
  6. Ep 39. Fight Right: What the Gottmans Want You to Know About Conflict

    May 5

    Ep 39. Fight Right: What the Gottmans Want You to Know About Conflict

    In this episode, Carrie and David break down why so many relationship conflicts—especially after betrayal—feel like they go nowhere and leave both partners more hurt. Drawing from the Gottmans’ Fight Right, they explain how conflict itself isn’t the problem… it’s how we handle it that determines whether it builds connection or creates more damage. They unpack what happens in the body during an argument, including “flooding”… when the nervous system goes into survival mode and real communication becomes impossible. They also explore the difference between solvable and perpetual problems, why most relationship conflicts never fully “go away,” and how trying to win those arguments often keeps couples stuck. This episode offers practical, compassionate guidance on recognizing your own triggers, taking effective pauses, and learning to approach conflict with more awareness and intention… so you can stop fighting against each other and start understanding what’s really underneath.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!    🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

    30 min
  7. Ep 38. Somatic Safety Session: Coming Home to Yourself

    Apr 28

    Ep 38. Somatic Safety Session: Coming Home to Yourself

    *]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto">A gentle, guided somatic practice focused on healing your relationship with yourself after betrayal. This episode helps you move out of self-judgment and into compassion through simple, body-based awareness… creating small moments of connection, kindness, and internal safety that begin to rebuild self-trust from the inside out. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8  🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar *]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto">  👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay   This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

    18 min
5
out of 5
20 Ratings

About

Join husband and wife as they share their betrayal trauma healing journey using a somatic-based approach. This podcast explores nervous system regulation, self-trust, and practical tools for restoring relationships with yourself and others. Whether you're navigating betrayal or seeking deeper emotional healing, you'll find insights, support, and expert guidance to help you move from survival to safety. Carrie Holladay is a Trauma-Trained Somatic Practitioner and founder of Resiliently Rising, where she helps individuals heal from betrayal trauma through body-based, nervous-system-informed approaches. After years of living in survival mode following both childhood and marital betrayal, Carrie discovered the power of somatic healing—learning that true recovery begins not just in the mind, but in the body. She’s trained in Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Attachment Therapy, the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Treating Trauma and Affairs, Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness, and Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy. Today, Carrie support survivors around the world in reconnecting with their body’s wisdom, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and connection. Her work blends professional training with lived experience, offering a grounded and compassionate approach to trauma recovery that helps people move from surviving to thriving. *This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.*

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