Content warning: this episode includes discussion of suicide. Please take care while listening. If you’re affected by anything raised in this conversation, Samaritans are available free, 24/7, on 116 123. What drives someone toward violence? And what helps them change? In this unfiltered episode of Change Is Possible, Bob Cullen shares the raw reality behind violence, prison, addiction, and recovery. From childhood trauma and self-hatred, to suicide attempts, armed crime and a 10-year prison sentence, Bob explains how he internalised a powerful belief that vulnerability was weakness. As bullying, exposure to violence and family breakdown compounded that belief, anger became protection, and violence became his currency. Bob speaks candidly about: Being held at gunpoint as a teenagerThe night that led to his arrest involving firearmsChildhood experiences of violence and bullyingSuicide attempts and deep mental health strugglesHow shame, masculinity and the fear of appearing “weak” shaped his identityHow he's now doing a Master's in CriminologyThe psychology of violence and masculinityWhat prisons taught him about trauma, rehabilitation and restorative justiceBob’s story challenges black-and-white narratives about offenders. Beneath the violence was a young boy who felt alone, ashamed and desperate to belong. His journey illustrates how unprocessed trauma, substance abuse and societal neglect can spiral into destruction. Bob’s story is raw, confronting and deeply human. But this is not just a personal story. This conversation explores the psychology of violence, why prison often makes people worse, and how connection, not punishment, creates real change. Connect with Bob Cullen Connect with Brian ⬛ Get FREE access to Brian’s online courses ⬛ Buy Brian’s memoir, Bonus Time ⬛ Follow Brian on Instagram ⬛ Follow Brian on LinkedIn Sponsors: Founded by the Fabulous Pharmacist, Laura Dowling, I'm delighted to partner with Fabuwellness, a company dedicated to empowering your health with science-led, nature-inspired supplements. We're also delighted to continue our partnership with The Kyne Foundation, with whom I'm closely collaborating on a special project that aligns with our joint mission to nurture youth well-being in Ireland. Chapters 00:00 Bob Cullen on waking up in a Garda cell 03:45 Addiction, suicide and the night his life collapsed 08:55 Childhood trauma, violence and negative self-beliefs 12:45 Bullying, shame and why violence felt like survival 20:05 Youthreach, arrests and rejection at home 25:35 Chef by day, addict by night 33:00 Selling drugs, self-hate and total chaos 39:30 Suicide attempt and rock bottom 46:30 Trying to get help and being failed by the system 49:15 Sponsor break 50:00 Threats, crime and the path to prison 57:40 Prison sentence and where change began 66:30 Meditation, healing and personal transformation 74:15 Why prison does not rehabilitate people 82:45 Prison reform, patriarchy and changing Ireland 85:55 Masculinity, vulnerability and emotional strength 94:05 Why toxic masculinity is socially rewarded 96:45 Accountability, forgiveness and hope Keywords: Trauma recovery, addiction recovery story, prison rehabilitation, criminal justice reform, mental health and crime, masculinity and emotions, personal transformation story, life after prison, restorative justice, childhood trauma impact, resilience and healing, social inequality and crime, recovery journey podcast
