Reclaiming the Gentle Man

Dave Lishansky
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Reclaiming the Gentle Man is for those seeking to better understand the men in their lives, for men ready to reclaim their relationships, and for all who are ready to transform the ways we show up to love. Listen to move beyond looping conflicts that never end, to stop allowing old stories to define our partnerships, and to avoid letting our trauma run the show. This is a revolution of deepening connection. Join host Dave Lishansky and explore how to create lasting intimacy through more courageous love, brilliant presence, and willingness to step toward each other—especially when it’s hard.

  1. Sep 3

    Ep. 66 - Are Your Partner’s Emotions Creating a Toxic Environment?

    When your partner’s anger, sadness, anxiety, or frustration fills the room, it can be easy to decide that their emotions are the problem. In this episode, we explore how our relationships expose the emotions we have the hardest time being with, why discomfort and toxicity aren’t necessarily the same thing, and how developing a healthier relationship with emotional intensity can create more freedom, presence, and intimacy. Get in touch with Dave:Instagram: @Dave_lishanskyWebsite: davelishansky.com

  2. Aug 28

    Ep. 65 - 5 Reflections for Reigniting Your Marriage

    On my way to officiate the wedding of two dear friends and coaching clients, I found myself reflecting on what officiating weddings, coaching couples, and being in a committed relationship myself have taught me about sustaining love. For more practical resources for having the hard conversations better and sustaining a passionate committed relationship, follow me on Instagram @dave_lishansky or visit davelishansky.com.

  3. Aug 13

    Ep. 64 - Have You Developed Your Capacity for Attraction?

    What happens when you deeply love your partner—but you’re not sure where your attraction to them has gone? Or maybe you’re on the other side of that question: lying next to someone you love, wondering if they still desire you the way they once did. We tend to treat attraction like a binary: chemistry or no chemistry, my type or not my type. But what if attraction isn’t only something another person either triggers in us or doesn’t? What if part of our capacity for desire is something that can deepen, mature, and become more embodied over time? In this episode, we explore where our “types” come from, the hidden meanings we attach to the people and bodies we desire, and how evaluating our partner can sometimes keep us safely on the surface of intimacy. We also look at what happens as bodies inevitably change—and whether attraction itself can learn to age, grow, and become more sensitive alongside the people we love. This isn’t an argument for forcing attraction, ignoring physical desire, or staying in a relationship where something essential is missing. It’s an invitation to ask a more interesting question than “Are they my type?” What kind of lover have I trained myself to be? Maybe mature attraction isn’t about learning to ignore the body. Maybe it’s about learning to experience more of the person through it. May this episode invite you to become more curious about your desire, more sensitive to what lives beneath it, and more awake to the person unfolding in front of you. Learn more about Dave’s work at davelishansky.comFollow Dave on Instagram @dave_lishansky

  4. Aug 6

    Ep. 63 - Crossing the Threshold That Scares You, with Jose Alejandro

    Maybe you've read the books and you've sat in the circles. Maybe you've done the ceremony, maybe more than one. And somewhere underneath all of it there's still a version of you running the show... the one who needs to be seen, who's still looking for a father figure in every teacher he finds, who's still trying to earn something. More tools didn't touch him. Jose Alejandro guides men through wilderness rites of passage, and his read on this is uncomfortable: we've become very good at self-initiating without actually crossing the thresholds that matter most. There's no line, no severance, no moment where the old version of you that's holding you back actually falls away. In this interview, we talk about courage and capacity and conviction, and where compassion fits in to the work.  Mentioned in this episode Jose Alejandro on Instagram: @rjose_alejandro Jose's work and rite of passage programs: https://josealejandro.co Get in touch with me: davelishansky.com Follow along on Instagram: @dave_lishansky

  5. Jul 31

    Ep. 62 - Can We Change Inside a Relationship?

    You've had the conversation. You named the pattern, you saw where it came from, and for a few days it felt like something moved. Then it happened again. Same fight, same shutdown, same apology that sounded right and changed nothing. Somewhere along the way we started treating insight as the finish line. Know your attachment style, name the wound, understand why conflict felt dangerous in the house you grew up in... and something is supposed to shift. But knowing why you go quiet has never once stopped you from going quiet. This one's about what has to happen after the awareness — how to tell the difference between a pattern that's worth staying inside of and one that's slowly costing you yourself, and the one thing love can't run on forever. Email: dave@davelishansky.com Instagram: @dave_lishansky

  6. Jul 23

    Ep. 61 - My Interview on Unblock Your BS

    This is a re-air of a conversation I had with Tara on her podcast, Unblock Your BS. Thank you to Tara and her team for the permission to share it here in my feed. I think this episode gives a lot more detail into my thoughts on a number of different topics — and into my own story as well. Follow Tara at Unblock Your BS: -Apple Podcasts -Spotify -Instagram Connect with me: - Instagram (@dave_lishansky) -davelishansky.com

  7. Jul 16

    Ep. 60 - The Most Important Responsibility in a Relationship

    There's something just about everyone does in a relationship that feels totally innocent and fair, but which causes more harm to your connection than almost anything else. In this episode, we start with a couple stuck in a familiar pattern: he feels like he's carrying everything, and when she asks for one more small thing, he explodes. He's emotionally exhausted and doesn't know it. From there, we get to the one responsibility that determines whether you feel seen, heard, and loved in your relationship — what it asks of men and women both, and why everything changes when you decide to take it on. Mentioned in this episode: Take the Reconnection Code assessment to find your disconnection pattern: https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.appInterested in coaching or joining a men's group? Email dave@davelishansky.comFollow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dave_lishansky/

  8. Jul 10

    Ep. 59 - You're Supposed to Be Bad at This

    None of us come into relationships knowing how to love well, and the gap between not knowing and knowing feels existential when it's love on the line — which is exactly why tiny arguments blow up. Drawing on Dr. Becky Kennedy's framing of resilience as tolerance for that gap, we get into why the best relationships aren't the ones without conflict — they're the ones where both people learn to sit in the hard stuff long enough to move forward as a team.  If you've been convinced that struggling means something's broken, this one reframes what the struggle actually means. Mentioned in this episode: Dr. Becky on resilience: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DS27FyFCcus/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Take the free Reconnection Code assessment: https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app Follow along @dave_lishansky New slots for women's relationship coaching are open — learn more by emailing: dave@davelishansky.com

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Reclaiming the Gentle Man is for those seeking to better understand the men in their lives, for men ready to reclaim their relationships, and for all who are ready to transform the ways we show up to love. Listen to move beyond looping conflicts that never end, to stop allowing old stories to define our partnerships, and to avoid letting our trauma run the show. This is a revolution of deepening connection. Join host Dave Lishansky and explore how to create lasting intimacy through more courageous love, brilliant presence, and willingness to step toward each other—especially when it’s hard.

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  • Creator
    Dave Lishansky
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    69
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Dave Lishansky
  • Show Website
    Reclaiming the Gentle Man

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