Things My Mother Forgot to Mention

Jan Bergstrom and Patti Meyer

Things My Mother Forgot to Mention is the podcast for every woman who’s ever said, “Wait—why didn’t anyone mention this to me?” Join Jan and Patti—two outspoken, curious, outrageous women—as they dive headfirst into the messy, magical, and often WTF realities of aging, health, and womanhood. From rogue chin hairs and vaginal thinning, to mental status, perimenopause, and scalp cancer (yes, really)—nothing is off limits. It’s funny. It’s raw. It’s real talk your mother definitely skipped.

  1. Oct 22

    What’s Really Underneath Your Anger (and What to Do About It)

    Most of us were taught one of two things about anger: swallow it whole, or let it rip. Neither is working out great for us. In this episode it’s just the two of us, talking about where we first learned what anger looks like, what’s usually hiding underneath it, and what to do when it shows up uninvited. Patti opens up about her own long, complicated relationship with anger, and Jan puts her therapist hat on to help make sense of it all. We get into: The two extremes most of us grew up with, and the middle ground nobody showed usWhy picking a fight can feel easier than saying goodbyeThe two-word phrase Jan and her husband use to keep each other humbleA “five-minute” check-in that’s more like ten (and worth every one)There are no bad emotions, just information. If you’ve ever been told your anger was too much, or never got to have any at all, come sit with us for a bit. Then tell us what your anger has been trying to say. Jan’s book, Gifts From a Challenging Childhood, and her free downloadable forms are available at https://mountainstreampublishingcompany.com/download Find resources mentioned in this episode here. Learn more about this podcast here. Submit your 90-second lesson/experience here. Apply to be a guest here. Stay updated on new episodes here. *Information shared on this podcast is not medical advice. If you have a concern about your physical or mental health, please seek support from a proessional.

    What’s Really Underneath Your Anger (and What to Do About It)
  2. Oct 8

    Death Doulas & End-of-Life Planning Before You Need It with Christa Ovenell

    If your first question is "What's a death doula?", you're in good company. Not a lot of people have heard of an end-of-life doula! But this week, we’re talking to one! This week, Christa Ovenell joins us to talk about what doulas actually do (spoiler: it's way more than sitting at the bedside), and why the most common call a funeral home gets is "What do I do now?" In this episode: What does a death doula do?Why "death and taxes" doesn't quite hold upThe cremation details many people don’t knowThe things you can do now to make everyone’s life…and death…easierThe big difference between Canada's and the US's assisted dying lawsKnowing if you want to be buried or cremated is a great start, but it's one decision out of many. The best time to think about the rest is now, while you're calm and curious and nowhere near a funeral home office. Grab Christa's free resources we discuss in the epsiode and below and start the conversation with your people. About Christa Ovenell: Christa Ovenell is a licensed funeral director and embalmer, an end-of-life doula, and founder of Death’s Apprentice Education & Planning. As a CBC radio columnist and longtime death educator, she believes that death is part of life, so it’s time we started treating it that way. Christa’s Links & Resources: Christa's Website IG @deathsapprentice.ca What to Do with the Ashes Questions a Funeral Director Asks What Does a Doula Do? Not Another Checklist Find resources mentioned in this episode here. Learn more about this podcast here. Submit your 90-second lesson/experience here. Apply to be a guest here. Stay updated on new episodes here. *Information shared on this podcast is not medical advice. If you have a concern about your physical or mental health, please seek support from a proessional.

    Death Doulas & End-of-Life Planning Before You Need It with Christa Ovenell
  3. Sep 24

    70 Is Not the New 60: The Fun of Aging

    When did you first realize you were getting older? For Patti, it was the doctor saying "it's time for a colonoscopy" at 45. For Jan, it was turning 70 and discovering that 70 is definitely not the new 60. In this episode, we talk about aging from two very different spots on the timeline. We talk about how your calendar fills up with doctor appointments, how your skin turns into tissue paper, and how you start watching the people you love get older and wondering what that means for you. We also talk about grief. Not the kind that comes when you lose someone, but the kind that shows up when you find an old photo of yourself dancing and realize you're a long way from that now. Why an anesthesiologist's confused look made Patti's whole dayThe toilet, the washing machine, and other surprise bruise hazardsJan's husband and his "fourth quarter" football pep talkWhat Dolly Parton's passing has to do with living right nowThe one thing we both agree matters most as you get olderIf you're in the thick of it, you're not whiny and you're not alone. Feel the sad parts, share the good parts, and call the people you love. We'll be right here figuring it out with you. Find resources mentioned in this episode here. Learn more about this podcast here. Submit your 90-second lesson/experience here. Apply to be a guest here. Stay updated on new episodes here. *Information shared on this podcast is not medical advice. If you have a concern about your physical or mental health, please seek support from a proessional.

    70 Is Not the New 60: The Fun of Aging
  4. Sep 10

    Medicine-Assisted Therapy: Healing in an Altered State with Alissa Aune

    A few episodes back, we told you about our own experiences with psychedelics, and we promised we'd bring in someone who actually does this work professionally. Meet Alissa Aune, a licensed marriage and family therapist with more than two decades of experience in developmental and relational trauma, and the founder of Embodied Journeys Collective. Alissa walks us through what medicine-assisted psychotherapy really means in Minnesota right now, which is ketamine and cannabis. She explains what happens in a two-hour ketamine session, why the flower matters and gummies don't, and why the therapeutic dose of cannabis is roughly three times what she'd use recreationally without ever feeling high. We dive into: Why timing and screening matter, and who is not a good candidate right nowThe difference between doing ketamine alone in a clinic and having a guide in the roomWhat "bad" journeys can teach you, including one of Alissa's ownThe questions to ask any practitioner before you trust them with an altered stateWhether you can travel to a legal state for a session, and what Alissa is curious about doing nextIf this is something you've been circling for a while, we hope this gives you enough real information to ask better questions. Start with your state's regulations, ask your own therapist what they know, and don't be shy about vetting whoever you choose. And if you've got a story about your own experience with any of this, we'd love to hear it. About Alissa Aune: Alissa is a licensed marriage and family therapist with more than two decades of experience. She specializes in developmental and relational trauma, helping adults understand how early life experiences continue to shape the way they relate to themselves, others, and the world. Her work is grounded in the belief that our bodies hold our stories, and that lasting healing happens when we engage the whole person - mind, body, and spirit. Her work integrates the Healing Our Core Issues model, somatic approaches, attachment theory, EMDR, and medicine-assisted psychotherapy. Beyond individual therapy, she is passionate about creating spaces where healing can happen in community. Through Embodied Journeys Collective, her hope is to bring together therapists, educators, bodyworkers, and wellness practitioners who share a common vision: to create a safe, trauma-informed environment where people can explore healing in many different ways. Rather than believing there's one path to healing, they believe that each person's journey is unique, and that healing often happens when people feel deeply seen, supported, and connected. It is a privilege for her to walk alongside people as they rediscover their resilience, reclaim their personal power, and come home to themselves. Alissa’s Links: https://www.findingyourunity.com https://www.embodiedjourneyscollective.com Find resources mentioned in this episode here. Learn more about this podcast here. Submit your 90-second lesson/experience here. Apply to be a guest here. Stay updated on new episodes here. *Information shared on this podcast is not medical advice. If you have a concern about your physical or mental health, please seek support from a proessional.

    Medicine-Assisted Therapy: Healing in an Altered State with Alissa Aune
  5. Aug 13

    The Money Talk We Still Need Today with Briana Williams

    We’ve discussed many taboo topics on this podcast, but we’ve overlooked a big one until now. Money! That’s why we brought in financial empowerment coach Briana Williams to help us get honest about it. Briana's own money story starts with $110,000 in debt and she walks us through exactly how she climbed out of it, what she'd do differently, and why she thinks most of us were never taught any of this in the first place. We get into the shame that creeps in around money, why budgeting doesn't have to mean saying no to everything you love, and the surprisingly simple way to start investing even if you think it's not for you. Here's a taste of what's inside: Why Briana graduated with $110,000 in debt, and how she paid it all offThe $2-a-month investing trick that makes the whole thing feel less scaryWhat financial advisors don't always tell you about how they get paidJoint account or separate? We debate it, and we don't fully agreeThe books that changed how we think about money and self-worthIf you've ever felt behind on money, or too embarrassed to even bring it up, this conversation is for you. It's never too late to start, and you don't have to figure it out alone. About Briana: Briana Williams helps women rewrite their relationship with money so they can create deeper relationships, more purposeful work, and a bigger, wilder, and more abundant life. Through practical financial strategy and intuitive coaching, she guides women toward aligned spending, intentional wealth-building, and the clarity to make empowered decisions in every area of their lives. Briana's Website: https://wildsoulwork.com Find resources mentioned in this episode here. Learn more about this podcast here. Submit your 90-second lesson/experience here. Apply to be a guest here. Stay updated on new episodes here. *Information shared on this podcast is not medical advice. If you have a concern about your physical or mental health, please seek support from a proessional.

    The Money Talk We Still Need Today with Briana Williams
  6. Jul 30

    The Cycle Every Couple Falls Into (and How to Break It)

    We're talking relationships today, and Jan's bringing the wisdom she's collected from 30 years as a couples therapist (plus 36 years of her own marriage). Jan shares bits of the toast she's given at both of her sons' rehearsal dinners: her four hard-won truths about what actually makes relationships work. Then we dig into Pia Mellody's three golden rules of interdependence, the ones Jan says could make her rich if she had a quarter for every time she needed to explain them to a couple. We get into: Why "falling out of love" might be the wrong way to think about it entirelyThe listening exercise Jan still uses in her own marriageWhat "celebrate the no" means and why it might save your relationshipThe pattern almost every couple falls into without realizing itWhy keeping your side of the street clean changes everythingIf you've ever caught yourself waiting for someone to just know what you need, or you're tired of carrying resentment instead of saying what's actually true, this episode is for you. Whether you're solid in your relationship or in the thick of a rough patch, these are the practices that hold up either way. Find resources mentioned in this episode here. Learn more about this podcast here. Submit your 90-second lesson/experience here. Apply to be a guest here. Stay updated on new episodes here. *Information shared on this podcast is not medical advice. If you have a concern about your physical or mental health, please seek support from a proessional.

    The Cycle Every Couple Falls Into (and How to Break It)
  7. Jul 16

    The Life You Weren't Sold (But Might Actually Want)

    This week we're talking with Jodi Brown, a life strategist who's spent decades living outside the path most of us were handed: get married, have kids, build a nest egg, retire comfortably. Jodi chose her own path that she’s loved. And now she spends her time helping women figure out what a full, connected life looks like when it doesn't follow that script, whether by choice or because divorce or widowhood rewrote the plan. We were so excited to talk to Jodi because more women, including Patti, feel very similarly to Jodi and are seeking their own lives outside the paths we were sold. A few things we get into: What it actually looks like to build a fulfilling life without marriage or kids, or after losing that partnership later in lifeWhy community, not a spouse, is the safety net Jodi and Patti both believe in as we ageThe practical side of women living together in community: sharing skills, space, and supportHow to look at everything you've done, in life and work, not just job titles, to find income that doesn't look like a traditional jobWhy Jodi calls this stage "the invisible years," and what she's hearing from thousands of women in the same boatThis isn't a checklist for how to do it right. It's a real conversation about building a life that actually fits, on your own terms. About Jodi: Jodi Brown is a life strategist who helps women figure out what actually works next when the life they’ve built no longer fits. After decades of real-life experience navigating major transitions, including rebuilding her life as a homeowner in New Orleans in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina, Jodi brings a deeply practical, lived perspective to the work she does today. She shares her process in real time through social media, where she’s built a rapidly growing audience of women looking for clear, grounded ways to move forward. Her work focuses on helping women think through their options, understand trade-offs, and make decisions that support the life they actually want, not just the one they’ve been told to build. While housing, including tiny homes and shared living, is part of that conversation, Jodi’s work goes far beyond it. She’s part of a growing movement of women reimagining how they want to live, age, and support each other in community. Jodi’s Website Follow Jodi: @iamjodibrown everywhere. Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube. Find resources mentioned in this episode here. Learn more about this podcast here. Submit your 90-second lesson/experience here. Apply to be a guest here. Stay updated on new episodes here. *Information shared on this podcast is not medical advice. If you have a concern about your physical or mental health, please seek support from a proessional.

    The Life You Weren't Sold (But Might Actually Want)

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Things My Mother Forgot to Mention is the podcast for every woman who’s ever said, “Wait—why didn’t anyone mention this to me?” Join Jan and Patti—two outspoken, curious, outrageous women—as they dive headfirst into the messy, magical, and often WTF realities of aging, health, and womanhood. From rogue chin hairs and vaginal thinning, to mental status, perimenopause, and scalp cancer (yes, really)—nothing is off limits. It’s funny. It’s raw. It’s real talk your mother definitely skipped.

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