Heads and Tails

Kate + Jay White
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Heads and Tails is a candid, heartfelt and often humorous podcast hosted by longtime couple Jay and Kate White.. ...a psychologist and an OB/GYN who've been married for 26 years. Named for their dual perspectives on the mind and body, this show dives into the real challenges of midlife with warmth, wisdom, and occasional glass of wine. ​ From navigating midlife dating or keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships, to launching kids, caring for aging parents, maintaining friendships, and even changing careers — Heads and Tails covers it all. With Jay's insight into the psychological and Kate's expertise in the physical, each episode offers practical, relatable advice in a tone that feels more like a conversation in your living room than a lecture. ​ Real talk. Real laughs. Real life. Because midlife isn't a crisis—it's a recalibration.

  1. 6D AGO

    Episode 13: Eggnog & Etiquette: The Southern Playbook for Dodging Drama at Family Functions.

    The holidays have a way of bringing out the best in people… and also the comments they should've kept in their pocket. In this episode of Heads and Tails, Kate and Jay tackle how to stay grounded when you're navigating family gatherings, in-laws, friend groups, and even your "work family" at the holiday party—without losing your composure or your mind.   We keep it practical, playful, and politely Southern: how old roles creep back in, why "well-meaning" remarks can hit sideways, and what to do in the moment when you feel your blood pressure rising under your holiday outfit. We also dig into one of the season's biggest stress points—difficult in-laws (or any complicated family dynamic)—and how couples can stay aligned instead of turning on each other.   The goal isn't perfect harmony or forced cheer. It's making it through with your dignity intact, your relationship protected, and your boundaries delivered with a smile… and just enough "bless your heart" energy to get the point across. Featuring: •   Southern-style boundary setting: warm tone, firm line    •   Scripts for work parties and family tables (exit ramps that sound nice)

    44 min

  2. NOV 28

    Episode 12: Residency to Menopause Revolution: The Havers & The Whites on Growing Together in Midlife

    What happens when your residency buddy becomes the global voice of menopause—and you've both spent 27 years growing up, growing families, and growing careers side by side?   In this episode of Heads & Tails, Kate and Jay sit down with long-time friends Dr. Mary Claire Haver and Chris Haver for a deeply personal conversation about medicine, marriage, and what it means to evolve together over decades.   Today, Dr. Mary Claire Haver is a superstar in menopause education and nutrition— author of The New Menopause and The Galveston Diet, and the force behind a massive social media platform that has helped millions of women find evidence-based guidance through the menopause transition. But before all of that, the Havers and the Whites were just four exhausted humans trying to survive OB/GYN residency while having babies, building practices, and figuring out marriage on no sleep.   This episode pulls back the curtain on the inside story:   How friendship started in the chaos of residency—with babies, call nights, and "we're just trying to make it to tomorrow" energy   What it was really like being married to busy obstetrician-gynecologists while raising tweens and teens   Parenting teens in perimenopause: hormones, emotions, and why everyone needed a little more grace   How Mary Claire's rise as a menopause and nutrition leader reshaped roles, rhythms, and expectations in her marriage with Chris   The reality of building big, mission-driven businesses in midlife (Kate and Mary Claire) while protecting and nurturing the partnership behind the scenes   Sharing the load: how both couples have navigated caregiving for aging parents while still caring for their own marriages   Now as menopausal empty nesters—why neither couple is slowing down, and how they're intentionally planning the next 20 years of health, work, and love together   If you've ever wondered how a couple holds onto their relationship while one partner becomes a public figure—or how long-term friendships can anchor you through every season from residency to reinvention—this conversation is honest, warm, and full of hard-earned wisdom.

    1h 9m

  3. NOV 21

    Episode 11: Laugh Lines & Life Lines: Midlife with Chuck Nice

    Guest: Chuck Nice — comedian, lifelong science lover, and long-time co-host of the award-winning StarTalk Podcast with astrophysicist Neil deGrasse Tyson (@startalkradio) Hosts: Dr. Kate Schuh White & Jay White, LMFT   This week on Heads & Tails, we welcome the incomparable Chuck Nice, whose rare blend of insight, science curiosity, and razor-sharp humor makes him the perfect guide through the messy, magical middle of life.   Together, we dive deep into midlife's biggest questions — with equal parts honesty, heart, and hilarity:   🎭 What it's really like to be in a relationship with a comedian The charm, the creativity, and the moments when you wonder if the joke will ever end.   🔥 Why midlife women are the most desirable partners you'll ever have Confidence, competence, clarity, and an unapologetic understanding of who they are.   🧬 Biology meets psychology meets comedy We unpack the physical and emotional shifts of midlife — with Chuck translating the human condition into stories that make you think and laugh.   🧠 How mental health struggles can open life in unexpected ways Chuck shares how facing his own challenges expanded his purpose and deepened his relationships.   📡 And yes — science! As the long-time co-host of StarTalk with Neil deGrasse Tyson, Chuck brings his signature "just smart enough" humor to aging bodies, changing brains, and the cosmic perspective on growing older.   This episode is honest, heartfelt, and ridiculously fun. Chuck brings the comedy. Kate brings the biology. Jay brings the therapy. And midlife finally gets the three-dimensional conversation it deserves.   🎤 Watch Chuck's standup special "Chuck Nice: Just Smart Enough" on Amazon Video, and see where he's performing next on Instagram or X: @chucknicecomic

    50 min

  4. NOV 6

    Episode 10: Opposites Attract- then collide. Stop Fighting About What Once Made You Fall in Love

    You fell in love with their spontaneity, their energy, their calm, their structure — whatever it was that balanced you out. But fast forward a decade (or two), and those same traits are now the source of your biggest fights. In this Heads & Tails episode, Dr. Kate and Jay White unpack what happens when the differences that once sparked attraction start to cause friction. From savers vs. spenders, early birds vs. always late, and introverts vs. extroverts, to the classic messy vs. clean showdown, they explore why these dynamics shift over time and what they reveal about deeper emotional needs.   You'll learn:    •   Why "opposites attract" isn't a myth — but also why it's not enough to sustain connection    •   How to move from criticism to curiosity when your partner's habits drive you crazy    •   What these personality pairings can actually teach you about your own blind spots    •   Practical tools to recalibrate instead of resent    •   How midlife, empty-nest transitions, and career shifts can magnify or mellow your differences Because staying connected isn't about becoming the same — it's about learning how to stay on the same team, even when you play different positions. 🪙 Flip a coin moment: Which side are you on — the saver or the spender, the messy or the meticulous? DM us your "opposite" story @headsandtailspodcast!

    51 min

  5. OCT 24

    Episode 9: Launch, Linger, and Loop Back Home: Parenting on the Edge of the Empty Nest

    Just when you think you're done parenting… it shifts again. The house gets quieter — or not. The fridge stays full — or empties overnight when your twenty-something swoops back in. Whether your kids are launching, lingering, or looping back home, this stage of parenthood is one of the biggest emotional recalibrations of midlife. In this Heads & Tails episode, Dr. Kate White and Jay White dive into what it means to parent on the edge of the empty nest — when your role, your relationship, and your sense of self are all in flux. You'll hear:    •   🧭 How to tell if it's a kid problem or a parent problem — are you helping, hovering, or holding them back?    •   💞 How launching affects your partnership — when the kids leave (or don't), couples often find hidden fractures or brand-new freedom.    •   🧠 The psychology of letting go — why identity loss and control issues sneak up in this transition.    •   💬 Real-life strategies for recalibration — setting loving boundaries, supporting independence, and rediscovering connection with your partner.    •   🌱 How to turn the "empty nest" into an "open nest" — one that invites growth, new adventures, and space for yourself. Because parenting doesn't end when they fly — it evolves. And so do you.

    30 min

  6. OCT 10

    Episode 8: The Silent Squeeze of Midlife Caregiving

    When the roles reverse and you find yourself caring for the ones who raised you — no one really prepares you for that. From emotional burnout to strained sibling dynamics, financial stress, and intimacy on pause… this episode gets real about what it really means to parent your parents. Practice This in the Mirror: "I want to understand what matters most to you as you're older and how I can be helpful without stepping on your independence." 👵👶 Sandwiched between aging parents and growing kids? This one's for you. 💬 Tag a friend who's living this right now — let them know they're not alone.  #CaregiverLife #SandwichGeneration #ParentingYourParents

    44 min

  7. SEP 26

    Episode 7: Menopause and ADD: Hot flashes, Hormones and Half Finished Projects

    This episode explores the tricky overlap between menopause and Attention Deficit Disorder. Many women find that as estrogen levels drop, symptoms of ADD—like forgetfulness, distractibility, and trouble staying organized—can intensify. We'll unpack why hormonal changes impact brain chemistry and focus, and talk openly about how this can affect work, relationships, and self-esteem. Alongside personal stories, we'll highlight coping strategies, treatment options, and the importance of recognizing that you're not "losing it"—your brain is simply navigating a new hormonal landscape.

    50 min

  8. SEP 12

    Episode 6: Midlife Vacation: Passport to Passion (and patience)

    Vacation in midlife hits different: one of us packs 6 SPF options, the other packs…opinions. 😜 In this episode of Heads & Tails, we unpack how to plan a trip you'll both actually enjoy—budget battles, nap negotiations, solo time vs together time, and how to come home closer (not crankier). Hot tips inside: the "two-list" plan, the 24-hour rule for fights on the road, and a script for saying "I need an hour alone" without starting World War III. Drop your most relatable travel fail or best hack below 👇 and tell us: are you Team Itinerary or Team Vibes?

    45 min
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Heads and Tails is a candid, heartfelt and often humorous podcast hosted by longtime couple Jay and Kate White.. ...a psychologist and an OB/GYN who've been married for 26 years. Named for their dual perspectives on the mind and body, this show dives into the real challenges of midlife with warmth, wisdom, and occasional glass of wine. ​ From navigating midlife dating or keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships, to launching kids, caring for aging parents, maintaining friendships, and even changing careers — Heads and Tails covers it all. With Jay's insight into the psychological and Kate's expertise in the physical, each episode offers practical, relatable advice in a tone that feels more like a conversation in your living room than a lecture. ​ Real talk. Real laughs. Real life. Because midlife isn't a crisis—it's a recalibration.

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  • Creator
    Kate + Jay White
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    13
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