Ask The Betrayed

Sharon & Rae
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The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to hear professionals who have personally experienced the deep traumatic pain of betrayal: Ask the Betrayed not only provides expert insight, it is hosted by two Betrayed Partners in long-term recovery from Betrayal Trauma, Sharon and Rae, who both specialize in helping Betrayed Partners, the Unfaithful and Couples recover from betrayal: - Sharon is a Licensed Therapist and Certified Professional Coach who is certified in betrayal trauma and, along with her husband, James Annear (@AskTheUnfaithful) - Rae is a Master Certified Life, Relationship and Divorce coach Ask the Betrayed airs every other week, alternating with it's companion channel, Ask the Unfaithful (@asktheunfaithful)

  1. Aug 5

    When Has The Unfaithful Had Enough Attention?

    Are you constantly watching your unfaithful partner, hoping they'll finally make you feel safe again? After betrayal, it's completely understandable to focus on what your partner is doing. They're the source of the trauma. But what if true healing begins when your sense of safety no longer depends entirely on their choices? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most important—and often overlooked—concepts in betrayal trauma recovery: building internal safety. You'll learn why hypervigilance, while a completely understandable trauma reaction, can keep you trapped in survival mode, and how shifting your focus back to yourself creates the stability needed for lasting healing. In this episode, you'll discover: Why betrayed partners naturally become hypervigilant after infidelity. The difference between external safety and internal safety. Why your healing cannot depend entirely on your partner's recovery. How betrayal trauma disrupts your sense of trust in yourself and the world. Five practical ways to build internal safety. How learning to trust yourself again becomes one of the greatest gifts of healing. Learn how your greatest source of safety can become you. Healing isn't about pretending the danger never existed. Healing is about re-learning that you can navigate life - even when uncertainty remains. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

  2. Jul 23

    HOW TO TAKE BACK CONTROL OF YOUR HEALING AFTER BETRAYAL

    Healing from betrayal trauma doesn't happen by accident. It happens one intentional step at a time. In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon Rinearson, LCSW, CCPS, and Rae explore practical tools and takeaways that can help betrayed partners become more intentional, thoughtful, and compassionate in their healing journey. From journaling and nervous system check-ins to goal setting, somatic interventions, and recognizing signs of healing, this episode is packed with actionable strategies that you can begin using today.  If you've ever wondered: • "What am I supposed to do with all of the information I'm learning?"  • "How do I know if I'm actually healing?"  • "How do I stop feeling stuck?"  • "How do I reconnect with myself after betrayal?"  • "What tools actually help betrayal trauma recovery?"  This episode is for you. In This Episode You'll Learn: • How to identify and apply the "gold nuggets" from therapy, podcasts, and recovery work.  • A powerful tool for tracking healing and identifying patterns.  • How to use morning and evening check-ins to support nervous system regulation.  • Practical somatic exercises to calm your body and reconnect with yourself.  • A method to heal yourself in the moment. • How to set measurable healing goals that actually move recovery forward.  • Why betrayal trauma is never your fault, yet healing is your responsibility. • How to identify signs of healing that you may be overlooking.  • Why intentional self-care is one of the most powerful forms of recovery.  • How to move from simply surviving betrayal to actively participating in your healing.  One of our favorite reminders from this episode is: "You are not broken. You are wounded. And there is wound care that must take place." You didn't cause the betrayal. You don't deserve what happened to you. But you do deserve thoughtful, intentional healing.  Healing isn't about doing everything perfectly. It's about learning to listen to yourself, honor your nervous system, celebrate the smallest signs of progress, and take one meaningful step at a time. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

  3. Jul 8

    WHAT IF YOUR UNFAITHFUL DOESN'T WANT TO DO THE BETRAYAL RECOVERY WORK?

    What if your unfaithful partner doesn't want to do the recovery work? One of the hardest realities after infidelity is realizing that you can't force someone to heal, grow, or fight for the relationship. So what do you do when you're the only one showing up? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most painful questions betrayed partners face: How do you move forward when your unfaithful partner won't? Together they discuss: • Why you have more power (choices) than you think  • How to get clear about what you want—and what you will no longer accept  • Why boundaries are an act of love, not punishment  • How betrayal trauma can disconnect you from your own values  • The antidote to confusion and ambiguity  • How to recognize progress-blocking patterns instead of isolated incidents  • Why your partner's refusal to change does not determine your worth  • How to begin healing, even if reconciliation isn't happening  If you're feeling stuck, waiting for your partner to change, or wondering whether you're asking too much, this episode offers practical guidance, hope, and validation grounded in betrayal trauma recovery. You deserve clarity. You deserve healing. And you deserve to know that your future is not determined by someone else's choices. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com ) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

  4. Jun 24

    S3 - A Simple Tool for Measuring Progress

    Healing after betrayal doesn't always happen in big, obvious moments. Sometimes recovery looks like one calmer day. One difficult conversation handled differently. One moment where you feel a little more grounded than you did last week. In this Ask The Betrayed Short, Rae shares a simple but powerful tool for tracking your healing journey. Using this method, you can begin to see patterns in your emotional wellbeing, recovery progress, and relationship dynamics—without adding another overwhelming task to your to-do list. If you've ever wondered: • "Am I actually making progress?" • "Why do some days feel so much harder than others?" • "How can I track my healing without journaling for hours?" This simple practice will help you notice growth that would otherwise go unseen. Remember: Healing isn't linear, but progress leaves clues. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com ) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

  5. Jun 10

    IMPACT STATEMENTS: THE HEALING POWER OF SHARING THE IMPACT OF BETRAYAL WITH THE UNFAITHFUL

    Have you ever wished your unfaithful partner could truly understand what betrayal has done to you? In this powerful episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most transformative tools in betrayal trauma recovery: the Impact Statement. An Impact Statement gives betrayed partners the opportunity to put words to the emotional, relational, sexual, spiritual, financial, vocational, and personal injuries caused by betrayal. It is a chance to tell the truth about what happened—not only to the relationship, but to you. In this episode, we discuss: ✔ What an Impact Statement is and why it matters ✔ How impact statements fit into the betrayal recovery process ✔ Different ways to write and structure an impact letter ✔ Why this process can be empowering and healing ✔ The role of professional support during impact statement work ✔ How impact statements help unfaithful partners understand the true impact of betrayal ✔ Real examples of powerful impact statement language ✔ Why being witnessed matters in healing from betrayal trauma Whether your relationship survives or not, your story deserves to be heard. One of the most painful realities of betrayal is carrying the impact alone. An Impact Statement creates the opportunity to reclaim your voice, organize your experience, and speak the truth about what happened to you. Because healing begins when your reality is no longer minimized, dismissed, or hidden. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com )   Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

  6. May 30 ·  Bonus

    ATB Short S2 Momentum

    Have you ever felt like the healing work you're doing after betrayal has stalled? In this deeply powerful short episode of Ask The Betrayed, Rae speaks directly to betrayed partners who feel stuck, plateaued, or discouraged in their healing journey after infidelity.  Using a simple but unforgettable metaphor, Rae explores one of the hardest truths in betrayal recovery: 👉 Sometimes healing is happening even if it's not readily apparent. This episode is for you if: • You feel emotionally exhausted by the healing work you're doing • You wonder if therapy, coaching or recovery is actually helping  • You feel stuck, plateaued, or hopeless despite the work you've already done  • You're looking for reassurance that progress is still possible  If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com ) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

  7. May 16

    Feeling Unseen After Betrayal? This Is Why.

    In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae take a deeper look at limerence—not just as something that happens in affairs, but as an often misunderstood part of all relationships… and what happens when that illusion breaks.  If you've ever felt: • Used, unseen, or misunderstood in your relationship  • Like your partner loved how you made them feel - not who you actually are  • Confused about what was real and what wasn't  …this conversation is for you. You'll learn: • What limerence really is (and why it happens in every relationship)  • The difference between healthy connection and fantasy-based love  • How betrayal shatters the illusion—and why that pain cuts so deeply  • How to reclaim yourself instead of trying to "fix" the relationship  • Why authenticity—not perfection—is the path to healing  • How truth, faith, and intentional action rebuild stability after betrayal  This episode goes beyond theory. It gives you real, practical ways to move forward, including: • How to reconnect with who you really are  • How to stop abandoning yourself to "save" the relationship  • How to test whether your relationship can actually hold you  • Why healing is both time and intentional action—not one or the other  Core Message: You don't need to recreate what you had before. You need to build something more real than it ever was. This episode is for you if: • You're recovering from infidelity or betrayal  • You feel lost, diminished, or unsure of your identity  • You're trying to understand what was real in your relationship  • You want to heal—whether the relationship survives or not  If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal.

  8. May 3

    FROM FANTASY LOVE TO REAL HEALING AFTER BETRAYAL

    What if the pain you feel after betrayal isn't just about the affair—but about realizing you were never fully seen? In this powerful episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore a rarely discussed layer of limerence in relationships—when the betrayed partner realizes they were not truly loved for who they are, but instead experienced as a fantasy, an emotional projection, or a source of validation. This conversation goes beyond traditional discussions of limerence and infidelity. It dives into the deeply painful realization of feeling used, manipulated, and diminished, and what it takes to reclaim your identity, your voice, and your truth.  You'll learn: • What limerence really is—and how it can exist inside your relationship  • Why feeling unseen cuts so deeply in betrayal trauma  • The difference between fantasy-based connection and real, healthy love  • How "love bombing" and intensity can mask emotional immaturity  • Learn what the key is to healing—even if it changes everything  • How to rebuild your identity beyond the role of "betrayed partner"  This episode is for you if: • You feel like your relationship was built on something that wasn't real  • You're struggling with feeling diminished, used, or unseen  • You're trying to understand how to rebuild after betrayal  • You want to move from emotional survival into authentic living  Whether your relationship survives or not, this conversation offers a path forward—grounded in truth, self-reclamation, and real connection. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com ) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

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4.1
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The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to hear professionals who have personally experienced the deep traumatic pain of betrayal: Ask the Betrayed not only provides expert insight, it is hosted by two Betrayed Partners in long-term recovery from Betrayal Trauma, Sharon and Rae, who both specialize in helping Betrayed Partners, the Unfaithful and Couples recover from betrayal: - Sharon is a Licensed Therapist and Certified Professional Coach who is certified in betrayal trauma and, along with her husband, James Annear (@AskTheUnfaithful) - Rae is a Master Certified Life, Relationship and Divorce coach Ask the Betrayed airs every other week, alternating with it's companion channel, Ask the Unfaithful (@asktheunfaithful)

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  • Creator
    Sharon & Rae
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    32
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    Ask The Betrayed

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