Ask The Betrayed

Sharon & Rae
  • 4.5 (6)
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The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to hear professionals who have personally experienced the deep traumatic pain of betrayal: Ask the Betrayed not only provides expert insight, it is hosted by two Betrayed Partners in long-term recovery from Betrayal Trauma, Sharon and Rae, who both specialize in helping Betrayed Partners, the Unfaithful and Couples recover from betrayal: - Sharon is a Licensed Therapist and Certified Professional Coach who is certified in betrayal trauma and, along with her husband, James Annear (@AskTheUnfaithful) - Rae is a Master Certified Life, Relationship and Divorce coach Ask the Betrayed airs every other week, alternating with it's companion channel, Ask the Unfaithful (@asktheunfaithful)

  1. Jul 8

    WHAT IF YOUR UNFAITHFUL DOESN'T WANT TO DO THE BETRAYAL RECOVERY WORK?

    What if your unfaithful partner doesn't want to do the recovery work? One of the hardest realities after infidelity is realizing that you can't force someone to heal, grow, or fight for the relationship. So what do you do when you're the only one showing up? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most painful questions betrayed partners face: How do you move forward when your unfaithful partner won't? Together they discuss: • Why you have more power (choices) than you think  • How to get clear about what you want—and what you will no longer accept  • Why boundaries are an act of love, not punishment  • How betrayal trauma can disconnect you from your own values  • The antidote to confusion and ambiguity  • How to recognize progress-blocking patterns instead of isolated incidents  • Why your partner's refusal to change does not determine your worth  • How to begin healing, even if reconciliation isn't happening  If you're feeling stuck, waiting for your partner to change, or wondering whether you're asking too much, this episode offers practical guidance, hope, and validation grounded in betrayal trauma recovery. You deserve clarity. You deserve healing. And you deserve to know that your future is not determined by someone else's choices. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com ) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

  2. Jun 24

    S3 - A Simple Tool for Measuring Progress

    Healing after betrayal doesn't always happen in big, obvious moments. Sometimes recovery looks like one calmer day. One difficult conversation handled differently. One moment where you feel a little more grounded than you did last week. In this Ask The Betrayed Short, Rae shares a simple but powerful tool for tracking your healing journey. Using this method, you can begin to see patterns in your emotional wellbeing, recovery progress, and relationship dynamics—without adding another overwhelming task to your to-do list. If you've ever wondered: • "Am I actually making progress?" • "Why do some days feel so much harder than others?" • "How can I track my healing without journaling for hours?" This simple practice will help you notice growth that would otherwise go unseen. Remember: Healing isn't linear, but progress leaves clues. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com ) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

  3. Jun 10

    IMPACT STATEMENTS: THE HEALING POWER OF SHARING THE IMPACT OF BETRAYAL WITH THE UNFAITHFUL

    Have you ever wished your unfaithful partner could truly understand what betrayal has done to you? In this powerful episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most transformative tools in betrayal trauma recovery: the Impact Statement. An Impact Statement gives betrayed partners the opportunity to put words to the emotional, relational, sexual, spiritual, financial, vocational, and personal injuries caused by betrayal. It is a chance to tell the truth about what happened—not only to the relationship, but to you. In this episode, we discuss: ✔ What an Impact Statement is and why it matters ✔ How impact statements fit into the betrayal recovery process ✔ Different ways to write and structure an impact letter ✔ Why this process can be empowering and healing ✔ The role of professional support during impact statement work ✔ How impact statements help unfaithful partners understand the true impact of betrayal ✔ Real examples of powerful impact statement language ✔ Why being witnessed matters in healing from betrayal trauma Whether your relationship survives or not, your story deserves to be heard. One of the most painful realities of betrayal is carrying the impact alone. An Impact Statement creates the opportunity to reclaim your voice, organize your experience, and speak the truth about what happened to you. Because healing begins when your reality is no longer minimized, dismissed, or hidden. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com )   Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

  4. May 30 ·  Bonus

    ATB Short S2 Momentum

    Have you ever felt like the healing work you're doing after betrayal has stalled? In this deeply powerful short episode of Ask The Betrayed, Rae speaks directly to betrayed partners who feel stuck, plateaued, or discouraged in their healing journey after infidelity.  Using a simple but unforgettable metaphor, Rae explores one of the hardest truths in betrayal recovery: 👉 Sometimes healing is happening even if it's not readily apparent. This episode is for you if: • You feel emotionally exhausted by the healing work you're doing • You wonder if therapy, coaching or recovery is actually helping  • You feel stuck, plateaued, or hopeless despite the work you've already done  • You're looking for reassurance that progress is still possible  If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com ) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

  5. May 16

    Feeling Unseen After Betrayal? This Is Why.

    In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae take a deeper look at limerence—not just as something that happens in affairs, but as an often misunderstood part of all relationships… and what happens when that illusion breaks.  If you've ever felt: • Used, unseen, or misunderstood in your relationship  • Like your partner loved how you made them feel - not who you actually are  • Confused about what was real and what wasn't  …this conversation is for you. You'll learn: • What limerence really is (and why it happens in every relationship)  • The difference between healthy connection and fantasy-based love  • How betrayal shatters the illusion—and why that pain cuts so deeply  • How to reclaim yourself instead of trying to "fix" the relationship  • Why authenticity—not perfection—is the path to healing  • How truth, faith, and intentional action rebuild stability after betrayal  This episode goes beyond theory. It gives you real, practical ways to move forward, including: • How to reconnect with who you really are  • How to stop abandoning yourself to "save" the relationship  • How to test whether your relationship can actually hold you  • Why healing is both time and intentional action—not one or the other  Core Message: You don't need to recreate what you had before. You need to build something more real than it ever was. This episode is for you if: • You're recovering from infidelity or betrayal  • You feel lost, diminished, or unsure of your identity  • You're trying to understand what was real in your relationship  • You want to heal—whether the relationship survives or not  If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal.

  6. May 3

    FROM FANTASY LOVE TO REAL HEALING AFTER BETRAYAL

    What if the pain you feel after betrayal isn't just about the affair—but about realizing you were never fully seen? In this powerful episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore a rarely discussed layer of limerence in relationships—when the betrayed partner realizes they were not truly loved for who they are, but instead experienced as a fantasy, an emotional projection, or a source of validation. This conversation goes beyond traditional discussions of limerence and infidelity. It dives into the deeply painful realization of feeling used, manipulated, and diminished, and what it takes to reclaim your identity, your voice, and your truth.  You'll learn: • What limerence really is—and how it can exist inside your relationship  • Why feeling unseen cuts so deeply in betrayal trauma  • The difference between fantasy-based connection and real, healthy love  • How "love bombing" and intensity can mask emotional immaturity  • Learn what the key is to healing—even if it changes everything  • How to rebuild your identity beyond the role of "betrayed partner"  This episode is for you if: • You feel like your relationship was built on something that wasn't real  • You're struggling with feeling diminished, used, or unseen  • You're trying to understand how to rebuild after betrayal  • You want to move from emotional survival into authentic living  Whether your relationship survives or not, this conversation offers a path forward—grounded in truth, self-reclamation, and real connection. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com ) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

  7. Apr 15

    SURVIVING LIMERENCE

    When the unfaithful partner is in limerence, it can feel like emotional chaos - confusing, and deeply painful - for the betrayed partner. In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae break down what limerence really is, why it feels so powerful, and most importantly—how you can survive it without losing yourself. If your partner seems "in love" with someone else… If you feel compared, replaced, or not enough… If you're stuck trying to understand what they see in the affair partner… This episode is for you. You'll learn: • What limerence actually is (and why it's NOT real love)  • Why the unfaithful partner's brain becomes "hijacked"  • How limerence functions like an addiction  • The critical boundary every betrayed partner must understand  • Why comparing yourself to the affair partner retraumatizes you  • What real recovery requires from the unfaithful partner – and how to spot if they're doing it • How to reclaim your self-worth and identity after limerent betrayal  This conversation also addresses: • Emotional affairs vs. fantasy-based limerence  • Why cutting off the "limerent object" is essential for healing  • The difference between a "soulmate" and a "wound mate"  • How betrayed partners can stop the cycle of self-abandonment that can result from their unfaithful partner's limerence Most importantly, this episode offers hope: Limerence can end. Healing is possible. And you can come back to yourself stronger, clearer, and more grounded than before. Related Episodes: • ATU E48 – When the Unfaithful Is "In Love" With the Affair Partner  • ATU E58 – Limerence: Can the Damage Ever Be Repaired? If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

  8. Apr 3

    EMPATHY IN ACTION - WHEN THE UNFAITHFUL IS TRYING, BUT THERE'S SOMETHING MISSING

    What do you do when your partner is trying after infidelity… but they haven't yet moved from their head to their heart? In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae respond to a powerful listener question about a common but confusing stage of recovery: when the unfaithful partner says the right things, shows up, and is committed to healing—but still feels emotionally disconnected or "robotic." If you've ever thought: • "They're doing everything right… so why doesn't it feel better?"  • "Is this normal in recovery?"  • "Am I expecting too much—or not enough?"  You're not alone. We break down: • Why empathy is not a thought—it's an action  • The difference between intellectual responses vs emotional connection  • Why this is a predictable, and nearly universal, stage in recovery • How to offer grace for growth without lowering your standards  • Where the line is between supporting vs over-functioning  • How to invite deeper empathy without becoming your partner's therapist  • Practical phrases to help your partner move from words → felt connection  We also explore: • Why healing often happens in the messy middle (not black and white)  • How unfaithful partners develop emotional literacy over time  • Why this stage can feel confusing—but is often a sign of progress  This episode is for betrayed partners who are: ✔ Trying to understand emotional disconnection in recovery ✔ Struggling with "they're trying… but it's not landing" ✔ Learning how to hold boundaries while staying open to healing   Key Takeaway: Empathy isn't something your partner understands. It's something they do—and learn to feel over time. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast.  🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

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The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to hear professionals who have personally experienced the deep traumatic pain of betrayal: Ask the Betrayed not only provides expert insight, it is hosted by two Betrayed Partners in long-term recovery from Betrayal Trauma, Sharon and Rae, who both specialize in helping Betrayed Partners, the Unfaithful and Couples recover from betrayal: - Sharon is a Licensed Therapist and Certified Professional Coach who is certified in betrayal trauma and, along with her husband, James Annear (@AskTheUnfaithful) - Rae is a Master Certified Life, Relationship and Divorce coach Ask the Betrayed airs every other week, alternating with it's companion channel, Ask the Unfaithful (@asktheunfaithful)

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  • Creator
    Sharon & Rae
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    30
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    Ask The Betrayed

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