Break Free with Becky

Becky Garner
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Feeling stuck? Break free from anxiety, depression, and the patterns that hold you back. Join me as I share my recovery journey, along with practical coaching tools to help you grow stronger, feel capable, and create a life you love.

  1. 2d ago

    Ep. 44 | Break the Rules: Why Doing It “Right” Is Holding You Back

    What if the reason you struggle to stay consistent isn’t because you’re doing it wrong… but because you’re following rules that don’t actually fit you? In this episode, we’re talking about the pressure we often put on ourselves to do things the “right” way. I share my own early struggles with meditation—how I thought it had to look a certain way, feel a certain way, and be done perfectly—and how everything shifted when I stopped forcing myself into rigid rules and started allowing myself to experiment with finding my way. As a bonus, I also cover a couple of different meditation styles that are good for the anxious mind.  But this isn’t a meditation episode. It’s a deeper conversation about how much freedom we lose when we try to follow someone else’s system instead of learning how we actually work. In this episode, you’ll learn:  Why “doing it right” often creates resistance instead of progress  Why consistency improves when you remove pressure and perfectionism  How rigid rules in any area of life can block long-term change  A new way to think about discipline: personalization over perfection  How breaking “rules” can actually create more peace, not less  If you’ve been feeling boxed in—or secretly rebellious—about something you want to do, this episode is for you.  Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away.Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work.Book your free consultation Here. Loved This Episode? Follow the showLeave a reviewShare it with someone you know

    30 min

  2. Jun 3

    Ep. 43 | Permission To Want More

    Have you ever secretly wanted something for your life—but immediately talked yourself out of it? In this episode, I share the story of how I went from someone who dreaded travel, battled intense anxiety, and avoided unfamiliar experiences… to someone ziplining through Mexico, traveling solo, trying new foods, and fully participating in life in a way I never thought possible. But this episode isn’t about travel - nor is it about me. It’s about the dreams we quietly carry.The desires we suppress.And the ways we convince ourselves that growth, freedom, confidence, joy, or a different life are for other people—but not for us. You'll learn:  How to identify the hidden dreams you’ve been suppressing Why acknowledging your desires is the first step toward change How fear and “practical thinking” keep us from pursuing what we want  The danger of obsessing over “the how”  Why imagination and daydreaming matter more than most people realize  How your brain uses your past to limit your future  Why real transformation starts with giving yourself permission to want more If you’ve ever felt stuck in fear, self-doubt, shame, anxiety, or old beliefs about who you are, this episode is for you. Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away.Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work.Book your free Stuck to Clear consultation Here. Loved This Episode? Follow the showLeave a reviewShare it with someone you know

    33 min

  3. May 27

    Listener Favorite: Controlling Thoughts vs Believing Thoughts (The Key to Mental Freedom)

    This is one of my most downloaded and most listened-to podcast episodes—and for good reason. I’m re-airing it this week because this is one of those core skills in mental and emotional freedom that almost everyone needs repeated exposure to. It’s simple in concept, but incredibly powerful in practice—and it’s also one that most of us were never really taught. Have you ever been told to “just stop thinking about it”… and immediately found that you couldn’t? In this episode, we unpack why that happens—and why trying to control your thoughts often makes them stronger, not quieter. We also dive into how your brain is actually designed to think constantly, what’s happening in the default mode network when your mind runs on autopilot, and how to work with your thoughts instead of against them. Most importantly, you’ll learn the difference between having a thought and believing a thought—and why that distinction is where real mental freedom begins. You’ll walk away with simple, practical tools for working with persistent or repetitive thoughts (instead of getting stuck in them), including a framework for how to relate to your mind in a much lighter, more useful way. If you’ve already heard this episode before, I really encourage you to listen again. These are the kinds of ideas that tend to land differently depending on what season you’re in—and this one is absolutely worth revisiting. ResourcesFree course: How To Get Unstuck at beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck

    26 min

  4. May 20

    Ep. 42 | Creating A Future You Can't See Yet

    In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about chronic back pain, a breaking point that brought me to tears, and the moment everything began to shift. After months of pain and frustration, I had an unexpected thought during prayerful meditation: “There’s dancing in your future.” At the time, it made no logical sense. I could barely move without pain. But that single thought became a turning point—one that changed how I focused my mind, how I showed up, and ultimately, what I started creating in my life. This episode isn’t just about healing.It’s about understanding how your brain works—and how to use it on purpose to create your future you can't see yet. In this episode, you’ll learn:  How one powerful thought can begin to shift your future  How to recognize thoughts that actually move you forward (vs. ones that don’t stick)  A simple way to connect, listen, and access more powerful guiding thoughts  How to start intentionally creating a future that feels aligned, hopeful, and possibleHow your brain naturally creates more of what you focus on  The difference between letting your brain run vs. directing it on purpose   Your brain is always moving toward something.  The question is—are you choosing the direction?

    29 min

  5. May 13

    Ep. 41 | How to Stop Negative Self-Talk: Change the Questions You Ask

    Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I get it together?” Those questions might seem harmless—but they’re not. Your brain is always working to answer the questions you give it. And if you’re asking disempowering questions, you’re going to get disempowering answers. In this episode, I’m breaking down how the questions you ask yourself every day are shaping how you feel, what you believe, and what you do. We’ll talk about:  The most common negative questions people ask themselves  Why those questions keep you stuck in shame and frustration  How to recognize when a question isn’t actually helping you How empowering questions generate momentum, solutions, and powerful self-talk Simple, practical ways to shift to more empowering questions I’ll also share real examples from my own life—like the question that used to run on repeat in my brain (“What’s wrong with me?”) and what I replaced it with instead. This is a powerful shift that you can start using today. It can completely change the way you think and feel. If you’ve been stuck in negative self-talk, this episode will show you a simple way out. Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps people stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting your mindset right away.Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work.Book your free chat Here. Loved This Episode? Follow the showLeave a reviewShare it with someone you know

    25 min

  6. May 6

    Ep. 40 | Gratitude That Rewires Your Brain (and Changes How You Feel Every Day)

    What if gratitude isn’t just something you're supposed to practice… but a way you live? In this episode, we’re going deeper than surface-level gratitude. Not just writing a list or saying “I’m thankful”—but learning how to actually feel gratitude in your body and use it to create real change. If you’re someone who is hard on yourself, constantly noticing what’s not enough, or feeling like your brain is always scanning for what’s wrong… this episode will show you a different way. You’ll learn how gratitude retrains your brain, increases emotional resilience, and helps you shift from pressure and self-criticism into more confidence, peace, and freedom. We’ll also talk about the simple neuroscience behind why felt gratitude is so powerful—and how just a few seconds a day can start to rewire your patterns. And of course, I’ll give you practical ways to start using this immediately in your own life. You’ll learn:  Why most gratitude practices don’t actually work (and what to do instead)  The difference between thinking gratitude and feeling gratitude  How gratitude retrains your brain to focus on what’s working  The simple neuroscience behind felt emotions What your amygdala and hippocampus do—and why they matter for change  3 simple gratitude practices you can start today If this episode resonates, share it with someone who could use a little more peace and perspective—and don’t forget to leave a review so more women can find it 🤍 Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps people stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting your mindset right away.Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re tired of being stuck in your own head and ready to finally feel free, come work with me. This is the work I do with clients every day. Book a free consult Here. Loved This Episode? Follow the showLeave a reviewShare it with someone you know

    33 min

  7. Apr 29

    Ep. 39 | The Hidden Energy Leaks Draining Your Day

    Most of us assume energy runs out because we’re doing too much. We think of energy like a battery that slowly drains from 100% to 0% as the day goes on. But what if that’s not actually what’s happening? What if certain thoughts are like background apps running all day, quietly draining your charge without you noticing? In this episode, we’re talking about energy leaks—the hidden thoughts that quietly drain your energy all day long.  Thoughts like “I don’t want to,” “I’m tired,” and “I can’t” may seem harmless or factual, but they create resistance, heaviness, and constant low-level drain. They leave you feeling like you’re running on 10% by evening—even if your day wasn’t objectively that intense. In this episode, I’ll show you how these mental energy leaks show up in real life, why your brain defaults to them, and how to start plugging them so you can actually create more energy as you go through your day. You’ll learn:  The “energy battery” model most people use—and why it’s incomplete  What an “energy leak” actually is in your thinking  How thoughts like “I don’t want to,” “I’m tired,” and “I can’t” quietly drain your energy  Why your brain is wired to default to these draining patterns  How resistance creates exhaustion even when nothing physically changes  Simple ways to start plugging energy leaks in real time  How to shift from draining thoughts to energy-building thoughts on purpose If you’ve been ending your days exhausted and wondering why you’re so tired, this episode will help you see what’s really going on—and what to do differently starting today. Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps people stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting your mindset right away.Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re tired of being stuck in your own head and ready to finally feel free, come work with me. This is the work I do with clients every day. Book a free consult Here. Loved This Episode? Follow the showLeave a reviewShare it with someone you know

    31 min

  8. Apr 22

    Ep. 38 | Why You Shutdown, Overreact, or People Please

    Have you ever jumped at a shadow, frozen in place, or felt yourself saying “yes” when you really wanted to say “no”? In this episode, we’re exploring your nervous system… through a haunted house ghost story. I’ll walk you through a hilarious tale of a comedian, his mom, and a haunted house that had him yelling, jumping, and breaking through a door. Along the way, you’ll see how your body naturally reacts to stress—and why your reactions are normal and not a sign that something is wrong with you. We’ll laugh at the story, relate it to real-life reactions, and break down fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and shutdown in a way that makes sense for your own life. By the end of this episode, you’ll feel like you finally understand your body—and be able to laugh at all its reactions because it will finally make sense.  You’ll Learn  How imagined threats can trigger real nervous system responses.  How to recognize what nervous system state you're in.   Why your reactions aren’t a sign that you’re “too sensitive” or “too emotional."  How fawn (people-pleasing) is your nervous system trying to keep you safe.  How freeze and shutdown can look similar—but feel very different inside.  Simple, practical strategies to help your body feel safe and regulated. You're going to love this episode! It will change the way you view yourself and everyone around you.  Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps people stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting your mindset right away.Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re tired of being stuck in your own head and ready to finally feel free, come work with me. This is the work I do with clients every day. Book a free consult Here. Loved This Episode? Follow the showLeave a reviewShare it with someone who needs this message

    30 min
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Feeling stuck? Break free from anxiety, depression, and the patterns that hold you back. Join me as I share my recovery journey, along with practical coaching tools to help you grow stronger, feel capable, and create a life you love.

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  • Creator
    Becky Garner
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    45
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    © 2025 Becky Garner Coaching. All rights reserved.
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