Cool Hand Dross

Cool Hand Dross

Cool Hand Dross is a candid podcast about mental health, books, and the stories we carry—especially the ones we avoid until life forces us to listen. The show blends raw monologues, personal storytelling, and cultural reflections to explore anxiety, recovery, identity, creativity, and the pursuit of a more genuine life. Each episode weaves together: 📚 Books & Writing 🧠 Mental Health 🫙 True Tales from the Mason Jar 🎭 Culture Call Outs This podcast is for readers, writers, and deep thinkers who feel restless, reflective, or slightly out of step with the current world—and still believe stories heal, words save lives, and change is possible.

  1. 4d ago

    Full Disclosure: NO Even Flow, Free Flow Redux | Episode 41

    Hospice care, anticipatory grief, caregiving, mortality, family, and end-of-life dignity take center stage in one of Cool Hand Dross’s most personal episodes yet. As his family navigates home hospice and end-of-life care for a loved one, Cool Hand Dross steps away from the usual format for a brief, unscripted reflection on what it means to accompany someone through the final stage of life. He discusses the emotional reality of family caregiving, the extraordinary compassion of hospice nurses, friends, and relatives coming together during crisis, and why having your financial, legal, and end-of-life affairs in order is one of the greatest gifts you can leave your family. The experience has also raised bigger questions about the sanctity of life, personal health, aging, mortality, peaceful passing, autonomy, and death with dignity. There are no easy answers here, just an honest conversation from the middle of a difficult experience. For anyone navigating hospice, caring for an aging parent or loved one, anticipatory grief, end-of-life decisions, or the loss of someone close, this episode is about being present when life becomes fragile and reconsidering what really matters. Topics include: hospice care, home hospice, end-of-life care, caregiving, anticipatory grief, grief and loss, hospice nurses, aging parents, family caregiving, mortality, health, peaceful passing, death with dignity, end-of-life planning, compassion, and personal growth.

  2. Aug 25

    Move In Day, and Compassionate Consistency | Episode 38

    This week, Michelle and I dropped our son Dalton off at college and suddenly eighteen years of parenting came down to one difficult, beautiful moment: trusting that we gave him the tools to step into adulthood on his own. In this episode of Cool Hand Dross, I reflect on the bittersweet reality of college move-in day, the fear and freedom that come with letting go, and one unavoidable truth: the only constant is change. I also dig into a phrase that has become increasingly important in my own life: Compassionate Consistency. The idea that real growth rarely happens through dramatic transformations. It happens quietly, through small decisions, patience, discipline, returning after setbacks, and learning to recognize progress that may be almost invisible while it’s happening. At 55, while Dalton begins his next chapter, I’m confronting one of my own: redefining work, creativity, health, purpose, and what I want the next ten years of my life to look like. There’s no orientation, no campus map, and no guaranteed path forward,Move In Day, and Compassionate Consistency | Episode 38 just the decision to keep showing up. Plus, a look ahead at what’s coming to Cool Hand Dross: Eli Capel returns to discuss Cormac McCarthy’s Blood Meridian, we continue Be the Book Club with Lolita, and upcoming conversations include writer and community-builder Siobhan Cleveland, entrepreneur and educator Salim Holder, and a future college-life check-in with Dalton and one of his roommates. The entire Cool Hand Dross catalog is also headed to YouTube. Change is inevitable. Growth is slower. Compassionate consistency is how we stay in the game. If the show resonates with you, follow, rate, review, and share Cool Hand Dross with someone who might need a little shelter from the modern-day storm.

  3. Aug 18

    Tony Soprano’s Depression, The Road & Carry the Fire | Episode 37

    What keeps us moving when the world around us or the world inside us starts to feel unbearable? In Episode 37 of Cool Hand Dross, Scott explores two seemingly different stories that wrestle with the same question: HBO’s The Sopranos and Cormac McCarthy’s Pulitzer Prize-winning novel The Road. We look at Tony Soprano’s depression, anxiety, panic attacks, therapy, and emotional isolation, and why James Gandolfini’s portrayal of a powerful man quietly struggling with his mental health was so groundbreaking. Tony has money, family, status and power—yet something inside him is collapsing. Then we travel into the devastated world of Cormac McCarthy’s The Road, where a father and son have almost nothing left except each other, their determination to survive, and the idea of “carrying the fire.” One man has almost everything and struggles to find meaning. The other has almost nothing and knows exactly what matters. This episode explores: Tony Soprano, depression and the hidden face of male mental health James Gandolfini’s remarkable portrayal of anxiety, loneliness and emotional pain Therapy, panic attacks and the difference between self-awareness and real change Cormac McCarthy’s The Road and the father-son relationship at its center “Carrying the fire” as a metaphor for hope, humanity and perseverance Finding purpose when life changes, plans disappear, and the road ahead becomes uncertain Why sometimes the goal isn’t figuring out your entire life—it’s simply taking the next step Most of us live somewhere between Tony Soprano and the father walking down McCarthy’s road. We lose people. Jobs change. Relationships change. We get older. We lose versions of ourselves. And sometimes we wonder what the hell we’re doing. Maybe we don't need to see the entire road. Maybe we just need something worth carrying. Keep moving. Carry the fire. 🎙️ Cool Hand Dross Podcast — Episode 37Mental Health | Books | Culture | Storytelling | Life If this episode resonates with you, follow the podcast, share it with someone who might need it, and help us continue growing this quiet little corner of the world.

  4. Aug 11

    Blazers, Strippers and Steak Juice | Episode 36

    A bachelor party in Manhattan. A steakhouse inside a strip club. A mandatory blazer. What could possibly go wrong? In Episode 36 of Cool Hand Dross, we open the Mason Jar for one of the most ridiculous true stories yet. Years ago, Sean’s bachelor party brought Team Rash into New York City for a night at Hustler Gentlemen’s Club, a strip club that somehow also claimed to have a high-end steakhouse, complete with a jacket-required dress code. What followed was a perfect storm of strong IPAs, empty stomachs, missing dinner courses, an overwhelmed waiter, angry security guards, a brand new baby blue blazer covered in steak juice, and several hundred dollars of completely useless Hustler funny money. And that was only the beginning. The night eventually spirals into maraschino cherries, a rainy McDonald’s drive-through, what appeared to be a horrifying medical emergency, a destroyed screen door, two ruined blazers, and one unforgettable lesson about friendship, aging, alcohol, and knowing when you have officially outgrown the bachelor-party lifestyle. Funny, embarrassing, nostalgic, and completely true. This is Blazers, Strippers and Steak Juice, a True Tale from the Mason Jar. Cool Hand Dross Podcast explores mental health, books, writing, culture, friendship, aging, and the strange true stories we collect along the way. Subscribe, follow the show, leave a comment or review, and share the episode with someone who has survived a night they would rather never repeat.

  5. Aug 4

    Angel Down, Pen to Paper, and Tony Soprano | Episode 35

    After five weeks on the road, CHD returns home and begins the slow process of rebuilding his routines, reconnecting with family, and settling back into the daily practices that support his mental and physical health. In this episode of Cool Hand Dross, we explore the powerful connection between anxiety, hypochondria, thought loops, and physical sensations and share how simple practices such as exercise, body-scan meditation, box breathing, healthier eating, and compassionate consistency can help interrupt the mind-body anxiety cycle. The conversation then turns to Daniel Kraus’s unconventional World War I novel, Angel Down, a brutal yet beautifully written story told as one continuous sentence. We reflect on the novel’s supernatural premise, its exploration of faith and human nature, and the way its breathless writing style places the reader inside the chaos and psychological trauma of war. CHD also opens up about losing momentum with his own novel, Novella Painting, and his plan to return to writing for just twenty minutes each day. Sometimes inspiration does not come before the work. Sometimes beginning the work is what creates the inspiration. For Culture Call Out, we revisit Martin Scorsese’s The Departed, examining why the crime drama still holds up and how its characters reveal the masks people wear to hide fear, insecurity, ambition, and divided identities. He also considers rewatching The Sopranos one episode at a time as a nightly ritual—a little “Scott time” at the end of the day. Finally, the Mason Jar opens just enough to preview the next true story: Blazers, Strippers and Steak Juice. A Manhattan strip club. A torrential rainstorm. Maraschino cherries. Projectile vomiting. McDonald’s. A destroyed blazer. And one world-class hangover. This episode is about coming home, managing anxiety, rebuilding healthy habits, returning to creative work, appreciating great books and films, and allowing ourselves a little quiet time at the end of the day. Welcome back to our quiet little corner of the podcasting universe, the little shelter we are trying to build together from the modern storm. Please subscribe, leave a rating, and share Cool Hand Dross with someone who might enjoy the conversation

  6. Jul 28

    From Foster Care to Founder | Marina Aris on Resilience, Publishing & the Life Changing Power of Books

    Can books change the course of a life? For Marina Aris, they already have. In this powerful and deeply candid episode of Cool Hand Dross he sits down with author, entrepreneur, publisher, and Founder & CEO of Book Biz Hub, the company behind the award-winning Brooklyn Writers Press and AVANTHAM—the first hybrid publishing press dedicated entirely to teen authors. Growing up in and out of the New York State foster care system, Marina found something many children never do: consistency. Books became her refuge, her teachers, and ultimately her lifeline. That love of reading evolved into writing, entrepreneurship, and a mission to help authors tell stories that matter. For years, Marina quietly built her publishing company before work, after work, and on weekends while maintaining a demanding career in financial services. In September 2025, she took the leap into entrepreneurship full-time, proving that meaningful success is often built through years of quiet consistency before anyone else notices. We also discuss the upcoming re-release of her memoir, Running Into the Night, why she founded AVANTHAM to give teenagers the opportunity to become professionally published authors before graduating high school, and how one book can forever change a young person's confidence, identity, and future. ​Growing up in foster care and finding hope through books​How reading and writing became tools for healing​Building a publishing company while working a full-time career​Entrepreneurship, persistence, and betting on yourself​Independent publishing and hybrid publishing​Why Marina created a publishing press exclusively for teen authors​The re-release of Running Into the Night​Storytelling, resilience, purpose, and second chances​Why books still have the power to transform lives This was one of the most honest conversations we've had on Cool Hand Dross. Marina is a remarkable human being, not only a survivor, but a striver. What she endured as a child and what she has gone on to accomplish as an entrepreneur, publisher, and author is extraordinary. Her story is a testament to resilience, perseverance, and the incredible things that become possible when we refuse to let our past define our future. Whether you're an author, entrepreneur, educator, parent, reader, or someone navigating your own difficult chapter, I believe you'll find inspiration, wisdom, and hope in this conversation. Marina can be found at: http://ArisPublishingGroup.com

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Cool Hand Dross is a candid podcast about mental health, books, and the stories we carry—especially the ones we avoid until life forces us to listen. The show blends raw monologues, personal storytelling, and cultural reflections to explore anxiety, recovery, identity, creativity, and the pursuit of a more genuine life. Each episode weaves together: 📚 Books & Writing 🧠 Mental Health 🫙 True Tales from the Mason Jar 🎭 Culture Call Outs This podcast is for readers, writers, and deep thinkers who feel restless, reflective, or slightly out of step with the current world—and still believe stories heal, words save lives, and change is possible.