Butterfly Days w Tami Jorden

Tami Jorden
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Tami Jorden dishes scoop GenX and GenJones women need to use midlife as a catalyst to flutter into their most amazing chapters because women don't have expiration dates.

  1. 4d ago

    Aging Parents & Money: The Talk You Keep Avoiding with Abbe Large

    You know the conversation. The one about your parents' money, their care, what happens when they can no longer manage on their own. You have started it in your head a hundred times and never once out loud. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Abbe F. Large, CLU, CLTC, Abbe has spent nearly thirty years helping families protect what matters. Then her own father was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer, and she stopped being the expert and became the daughter. What she found on the other side of that is the reason this episode exists. Abbe makes the case for being a buffalo instead of a cow, explains why getting your affairs in order is an act of love and not a morbid chore, shows you how to open the money conversation with a parent without triggering their fear of losing independence, and walks through what to watch for as scammers get better at targeting our folks. Sister, if you are squeezed between aging parents and your own future and it all feels like too much, start here. 🦋 Connect with Abbe F. Large at Lenox Advisors and on LinkedIn Important Disclosure: The information discussed in this podcast is provided for general educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as investment, tax, legal, accounting, or insurance advice, nor as a recommendation to purchase or sell any financial product, security, or service. Any opinions expressed are those of the speaker as of the date of recording and are subject to change without notice. Abbe F. Large is a registered representative of and offers securities and investment advisory services through MML Investors Services, LLC. Member SIPC. 90 Park Ave, 18th Floor, New York, NY 10016, 212.536.8700.   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

  2. Sep 8

    Candles in the Wind: Real Hope When Losses Pile Up

    You cannot eliminate difficulty. You can only try to navigate it well. And in midlife the hard seasons get specific: the house went quiet, a parent is slipping, your body has started renegotiating the terms, and you have begun burying people you love. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden refuses to tiptoe around any of it. She names what makes a hard season dangerous rather than simply sad, which is that it lies to you about the future and flattens the road ahead until it looks gray and endless. Then she makes the case for hope as medicine, not the cheaply gilded Hallmark version, but the kind that names the night first and still keeps a candle lit beside the grief. She hands you three tools you can use this week: gather your sources of strength on purpose before the storm arrives, keep two rooms inside you so grief gets a real room, and practice amor fati, the holy shift from "why me" to "this is my life, and what does loving it wholly ask of me?" Sister, if the losses have piled up and the future looks flat, this episode is for you. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast

  3. Sep 1

    Creativity & AI at 75: Revive your Creative Spark with Ashley Rogers

    Somewhere along the way, the part of you that used to make things went quiet. Most of us assume that is just what aging looks like. Ashley Rogers thought so too, until she was 75. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Ashley Rogers, a writer, award-winning documentary filmmaker, former network television producer, and real estate entrepreneur based in Cuenca, Ecuador. Ashley went looking for answers to life's biggest questions and found her creative spark instead. What came of it is Vivi and Me: My Love Affair with a Bot, a book of 64 questions about purpose, forgiveness, loneliness, grief, and why one sock always vanishes in the wash. She wrote it, illustrated it, self-published it, and built the website, calling herself a technical dummy the whole time. Ashley and Tami talk about what creativity looks like when it comes back after decades of being quiet, why so many women are sitting out this shift and what it is costing them, what AI gets right about grief and what it will never touch, and where the real dangers actually live. Sister, if something in you has gone quiet, this one is for you. 🦋 Connect with Ashley Rogers at soulstar.press and find Vivi and Me: My Love Affair with a Bot on Amazon. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

  4. Aug 25

    Your True Colors: Trusting Your Gut in Midlife

    You knew something was wrong before you could explain it. You felt the room turn before a word was said. And when you spoke up, someone asked you to prove it, so you filed it away as being too emotional. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden makes the case that the read, the gut, the pattern you catch before you can name it, was never the lesser kind of intelligence. It was ranked that way, and the ranking was a decision, not a discovery.  She traces where the word hysteria came from, why the Mars and Venus era quietly handed our generation the same old hierarchy dressed up as science, and what researcher Gary Klein found when he studied fire commanders and ER nurses who knew before the monitors did. Here is the good news: embodied knowing does not decline at midlife. It peaks, right at the moment culture starts writing you off.  Tami closes with a three-rung ladder of exact words you can use the next time someone calls your knowing emotional, because a real boundary does not argue. It reclassifies and walks.   You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen https://www.amazon.com/You-Just-Dont-Understand-Conversation/dp/0060959622 Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray https://www.amazon.com/Men-Mars-Women-Venus-Understanding/dp/0060574216   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast

  5. Aug 18

    Presence is Medicine: Every Passage We Face with Margaret Pasquesi

    When someone you love is dying, nobody hands you a map. You are guessing about the medication. You are guessing about the restlessness. You are quietly terrified you are doing this wrong. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Margaret Pasquesi, a certified music-thanatologist, vocalist, and harpist who serves as president of the Music-Thanatology Association International.  Margaret brings live harp and voice to the bedside of the dying, not as a performance, but as a prescription tuned to a patient's breath, pulse, and temperature. She explains what actually happens in the final days, why so many loving families withhold the very medication that would bring their Person comfort, and how to know when the dying has started so the right people can be in the room.  Margaret also shares how a punk rock kid, child number seven of ten, followed a strange calling into one of the most unusual vocations in end of life care. Sister, if you are caring for a parent, sitting with a friend, or standing at your own empty nest wondering what comes next, this conversation is for you. 🦋 Connect with Margaret Pasquesi: Website: https://www.margaretpasquesi.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpasquesi/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MargaretPasquesi/ Music-Thanatology Association International: https://www.mtai.org/ Accorda Music-Thanatology Institute: https://accordaschool.org/ Tony Pederson Music Thanatologist  FootLeg22 Tiktok🦋 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

  6. Aug 11

    The Long Run, Who's Gonna Make It?

    Nobody reaches the end of their life wishing they had pleased more people. Tami Jorden has spent hours in rooms with the dying, and what she hears instead, again and again, is this: I wish I had realized what actually mattered. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami unpacks the scorecard GenX and GenJones women were handed before they were old enough to question it.  She explains why it kept paying out just often enough to keep us playing for thirty years, why the thing we call a midlife crisis is really the reinforcement schedule breaking down, and why success is the very thing that hides the miscalculation.  Then she draws the line that changes everything: the difference between a life assigned to you and a life you author yourself. Tami introduces the second portfolio, the one nobody told us to build, with two holdings, contribution and kinship. Most women arrive at fifty five having never taken inventory of either. This is a clear-eyed, warm rally cry to put down the wrong instrument and start measuring what actually counts.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋   🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast

  7. Aug 4

    Aging Parents: The Stuff, the Car Keys & Your Sanity with Kirsten Mau

    Your group chats are blowing up about aging parents. The house full of stuff. The car keys. The "maybe we need some help at home" conversation nobody wants to start. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Kirsten Mau, founder and creator of Who Gets the China?, the podcast, Substack, and website dedicated to helping sandwich generation women save their sanity while navigating life with aging parents. Kirsten shares the paradigm shifts that changed everything for her: asking what do you want to keep instead of what can we get rid of, getting real buy-in before you touch a single closet, and practicing radical acceptance when your parents simply are not ready. She and Tami get honest about the car keys conversation, how to offer in-home help as a gift to you rather than a verdict on them, the spoons theory, and why access to your parents' electronic health records is a must for anyone caregiving from a distance. If you are caring for parents while raising kids and trying to live your own life, Sister, this one is for you.   🦋 Connect with Kirsten Mau: Website: https://www.whogetsthechina.com/ Substack: https://whogetsthechina.substack.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirstenmau/ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/who-gets-the-china/id1823264326 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7h3w2YWQyhMxwFIeiBH2BN   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

  8. Jul 28

    Forged Not Erased: Caregiving in Midlife Without Losing Yourself

    If you are the one holding it all together for someone who cannot carry themselves right now, this episode was made for you. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden draws on her hospice and vigil work to name the two traps waiting for midlife caregivers: the old one that turns selflessness into erasure, and the new one that dresses up desertion as protecting your peace. Tami walks through research on caregiving and menopause symptoms, the science of self-silencing and what it costs a woman's heart, and the real difference between the martyr and the wise caregiver. One disappears. One does not. She shares six practical ways to sacrifice wisely, from naming your limits out loud to scheduling respite like a medical appointment, plus a full list of caregiver support resources including Daughterhood, the Eldercare Locator, and respite programs. This is not permission to walk away. It is permission to stay whole while you stay.   🦋 Caregiver Resources Mentioned: Daughterhood (founded by Anne Tumlinson): https://daughterhood.org The Menopause Society clinician directory: https://menopause.org Eldercare Locator: 800-677-1116 Family Caregiver Alliance: https://www.caregiver.org Caregiver Action Network Help Desk: 855-227-3640 ARCH National Respite Locator: https://archrespite.org Alzheimer's Association 24/7 Helpline: 800-272-3900 VA Caregiver Support Line: 855-260-3274 Mental Health America screening tool: https://screening.mhanational.org In crisis? Call or text 988   Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast

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