Unpacked & Unfiltered | Travel, Modern Spirituality, and Real Girl Talk

Bexx & Noie
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Welcome to Unpacked & Unfiltered, where best friends Bexx and Noie talk about the messy middle of being a woman who’s still figuring it out—on purpose. They’re the kind of friends who will hype you up in Tulum, pull cards in the kitchen, and admit when life feels like too much. From divorce, grief, and loss to travel, sex, motherhood, money, and starting over at 30, 40, or 60, they explore what it really looks like to reinvent yourself without apologizing for it. Join them for explicit, unfiltered girl talk about change, shame, “being too much,” value beyond a paycheck, modern spirituality, and the shift from chasing your “purpose” to actually finding peace. This is a podcast for everything that comes after you stop living for everyone else and start actually living an unapologetic life that’s yours.

  1. 1d ago

    “I’m the Problem, I’m the Solution” | Keith Yackey on Rebuilding Attraction in Marriage

    “If you're showing up any less than that for your current wife right now, then you don't have a standard.” Bexx and Noie sit down with Keith Yackey, a contractor turned real estate investor turned relationship coach, best known online as the "Pastor of P***y" and creator of The Married Game. Together, they discuss Keith’s collapse of his marriage nine years ago and how that moment forced him to confront the ways he'd stopped showing up for her. He introduces the “holy trinity of married game,” a framework centered on personal responsibility, rebuilding attraction, and becoming a stronger partner. Keith then dives into his "five dial system," a framework he teaches hundreds of men for rebuilding attraction inside long-term relationships. Bexx and Noie add their own thoughts on emotional neglect, the difference between being needed and being wanted, and why consistency and follow-through matter more than grand gestures. This conversation offers practical steps for rebuilding attraction, intimacy, trust, and personal identity within marriage. Chapters [Start] Introducing Keith Yackey: Bexx and Noie introduce Keith, and they discuss his many roles in life and the moment that made his life turn around. 04:45 Building Real Attraction: Keith discusses the "three Ps" myth and why emotional connection sustains real attraction for men and women. 12:26 Winning Her Back: Keith describes his experience after his wife left and what he realized he needed to do to come back stronger than ever. 35:38 The Five Dial System: A full breakdown of the five dials that Keith uses to teach men to rebuild attraction in their marriages. 1:03:00 Back to the Basics: Keith’s last pieces of advice on how to treat a woman the right way to keep attraction alive in marriage. Links and Resources Connect with Keith YackeyInstagramKeith's Book | The Married Game: The Secret Playbook to Primal Sex and Unlimited Pleasure Inside Your MarriageMarried Game Podcast | Apple PodcastsMarried Game Podcast | Spotifyhttps://www.marriedgame.com/Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  2. Aug 18

    Breaking the Cycle | Healing Attachment Styles and Relationship Patterns

    Why do some relationships make you feel completely secure while others leave you overthinking every text, craving reassurance, or pulling away before someone can hurt you?  Bexx and Noie dive into one of their most requested topics: attachment styles. What begins as a conversation about anxious, avoidant, fearful, and secure attachment quickly becomes a much deeper exploration of how childhood experiences, grief, and past relationships quietly shape the way we love today. Through vulnerable personal stories, they reflect on marriages, loss, family dynamics, and the moments that changed how they viewed themselves and their relationships. Rather than labeling attachment styles as permanent, they explore how awareness creates the opportunity for healing, helping you move toward healthier relationships without shame or self-judgment. Chapters [Start] Did You Have to Be Something to Be Loved?: A listener-requested topic leads Bexx and Noie into a conversation about attachment styles. 05:08 How Relationships Shape Your Attachment Style: Why secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment aren't fixed labels, and how grief, trust, and consistency can change the way you show up. 13:57 Childhood, Love, and the Stories We Carry: Looking back at family dynamics, emotional safety, and the experiences that quietly shaped their beliefs about love and connection. 30:09 The Habits That Keep Us Stuck: From checking locations to rewriting texts, Bexx and Noie unpack the everyday behaviors that reveal deeper attachment wounds and relationship patterns. 36:11 Close the Book, Start a New Story: Why healing begins when you stop reliving the past, give yourself grace, and intentionally move toward secure attachment. Links and Resources BlackHill Law Contact BlackHill Law Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  3. Aug 11

    Mom Guilt Is Lying to You | Letting Go of Guilt and Shame

    Bexx and Noie dive into the heavy weight of guilt that can run so many women's lives: leaving town, spending money on yourself, or even simply being happy. They talk about what it’s like to find joy again after loss, and how grief can make happiness feel like something to apologize for. They also share the realities of being encouraged to take time off as a mom, only to come home to resentment and trust issues. From there, Bexx and Noie dig into where all this guilt actually comes from. They uncover everything about religious conditioning, cultural expectations, and the idea that a "good woman" doesn't have needs of her own. To help overcome this guilt, they share a list of questions you can ask yourself the next time guilt creeps in. This conversation is all about learning to mother yourself the way you'd mother anyone else; with grace instead of guilt. Chapters [Start] The Invisible Weight of Guilt: Bexx and Noie open up about the guilt many moms and women experience during their day-to-day lives. 07:18 Guilt vs. Shame: Bexx breaks down healthy guilt, the guilt-shame cycle, and why release matters. 10:14 The Five Questions: A practical framework for checking whether guilt is actually warranted. 21:55 Loving Yourself Like Your Best Friend: How to love and depend on yourself when it feels like no one else is there for you. 30:41 Your Dream Life: Letting go of guilt associated with chasing your dreams and reaching for what you want in life. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  4. Aug 4

    Do You Know Your Own Emotions? | The Truth About Resentment

    Where have you felt resentment in your life? Bexx and Noie dive into what resentment is and how it actually shows up on a day-to-day basis. Most people think about resentment as anger towards other people, but Bexx and Noie show why resentment isn't about the other person at all; it's about the parts of ourselves we're abandoning to keep the peace. They talk about ego versus higher self, judgment versus discernment, and unpack how resentment builds over time. Together, they share the four-step framework they lean on any time resentment starts creeping in. This conversation is key to understanding how to move on from other people’s feelings and unlock your true potential. Chapters [Start] What is Resentment?: Bexx and Noie break down the true meaning of resentment and how it shows up in our lives. 01:57 Ego vs. Higher Self: How our ego wants to protect and blame others, while the higher self asks the bigger questions. 09:25 Four Steps to Release Resentment: Bexx's go-to framework for identifying and overcoming resentment in the moment. 23:58 The Truth About Forgiveness: Noie and Bexx debate whether forgiveness means "release" and whether stepping away is enough. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  5. Jul 28

    “This is Something I’m Very Petty On” | The Hills We Will Die On

    Bexx and Noie are getting petty, and they aren’t sorry about it. They run through a full list of society's tiniest hot-button issues and hash out exactly where they stand. And spoiler: they don't always agree. This conversation is packed with hot takes on travel etiquette, relationship texting rules, cabinet doors, top sheets, and even more. But this isn’t just all laughs. Bexx and Noie also dive into the deeper stuff hiding underneath the pettiness. They talk about what it means to support your partner in public versus private, and how being intentional with your time might actually change your life. By the end, you'll be mentally drafting your own list of petty hills to die on. Come unpack it with them. Chapters [Start] Our Petty Hills: Bexx and Noie kick off the petty topics and dive into some of their pet peeves. 07:45 Relationships & Communication: How Bexx and Noie feel about morning texts, read receipts, and giving partners extra compassion. 16:40 Home & Household: Thoughts on open cabinet doors, top sheets, toilet paper direction, butter placement, and cup storage. 25:44 Texting & Mental Clutter: A look at texting habits and multitasking vs. time-blocking. 34:33 Holidays & Soft Launches: Bexx and Noie finish with their opinions on Elf on the Shelf, matching pajamas, liking your own posts, and soft-launching a relationship. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  6. Jul 21

    “I Lost My Dream Forever” | Grieving a Future We Never Had

    “There is a time to pick up your option B and be like, okay, my life can still be pretty f*cking beautiful.” Bexx and Noie take a step back to reflect on the dreams they've had to grieve and the futures they held onto long after those futures stopped being possible. From everything, including lost marriages and children, to lost versions of themselves, they dive into what it actually takes to let go of your ideations and accept life as you have it. That process can feel painful, but what comes next is beautiful. By talking about their personal experiences, Bexx and Noie dive into their ideas on post-traumatic growth, psychological flexibility, and "Option B" thinking. Through it all, they come to see that releasing a dream isn't giving up; it's making room for something you couldn't have imagined yet. Chapters [Start] Grieving a Future We Never Had: Bexx and Noie open up about the feeling of mourning an imagined future, not a person. 08:22 Why We're Bad at Predicting the Future: Some research on how humans overestimate both happiness and devastation. 17:24 Building New Dreams: A look at psychological flexibility and being okay with choosing plan B over plan A. 36:10 Post-Traumatic Growth: What it feels like to grow after experiencing traumatic and life-altering events. 50:31 Closing Challenge: Bexx and Noie give a challenge to everyone to help experience growth and reflect positively on life’s challenges. Links and Resources BlackHill Law Contact BlackHill Law  Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  7. Jul 14

    Plant Your Own Roots | Finding Yourself and Growing Into Someone Better

    “There's a reason why people are constantly searching for roots or constantly avoiding roots.” Bexx and Noie dive into the tension between craving stability and fearing it'll turn into a cage. Noie reflects on a message she received during a meditation in Bali, which sparks the question, “What does it really mean to feel rooted?” They trace the idea through attachment theory and the nervous system, unpacking why safety can feel more uncomfortable than chaos. They get into some genuinely vulnerable territory, including grief, past relationships, and the fear of losing freedom. Bexx and Noie close with a challenge for everyone to pick one area of your life this week and practice choosing rootedness on purpose, then get curious about whatever discomfort shows up. Chapters [Start] Finding True Roots: Bexx and Noie talk about different kinds of roots in our lives and how they help us find connection. 08:30 Attachment Theory: Looking at the differences between a secure base and having freedom to explore using the bird and butterfly metaphor. 19:53 Roots and Cages: Talking about relationship and commitment fears, including the difference between settling and choosing. 27:28 Learning to Be Alone: Noie opens up about how the losses of her children taught her how to sit in silence. 32:39 Closing Challenge: A one-week challenge to practice rootedness and notice how it influences different areas of your life. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  8. Jul 7

    You Need to Fix Your Priorities | The Importance of Being Present

    “Nothing surpasses that opportunity to witness another human being and be present with them.” Bexx and Noie talk about one of the biggest problems our society faces: distraction. They open up about phone usage and the strange way technology rewards us for leaving the present moment with those around us. They both draw on their personal experiences to unpack why being fully present with the people we love is so rare, yet so powerful when it happens. Their conversation explores the brain science behind why we're wired to chase safety and productivity rather than stillness. Noie shares some of the lessons she learned through profound loss in her family, and how that experience reshaped the way she parents and prioritizes her time. Being present isn’t hard to do. But it does take effort, even if it’s only for five minutes of your day. Chapters [Start] Phones at the Table: Bexx and Noie talk about what it’s like to be with someone who's fully present vs. distracted, and how it feels to be on either side. 08:52 The Science of Distraction: A look at Lisa Feldman Barrett’s research on why our brains are wired for safety, not presence. 16:34 Presence with Loved Ones: Some personal stories about what it means to be present with loved ones and the emotional impact it has. 27:48 The Five-Minute Challenge: Bexx and Noie issue a challenge that only takes five minutes of your day to help you be more present. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

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Welcome to Unpacked & Unfiltered, where best friends Bexx and Noie talk about the messy middle of being a woman who’s still figuring it out—on purpose. They’re the kind of friends who will hype you up in Tulum, pull cards in the kitchen, and admit when life feels like too much. From divorce, grief, and loss to travel, sex, motherhood, money, and starting over at 30, 40, or 60, they explore what it really looks like to reinvent yourself without apologizing for it. Join them for explicit, unfiltered girl talk about change, shame, “being too much,” value beyond a paycheck, modern spirituality, and the shift from chasing your “purpose” to actually finding peace. This is a podcast for everything that comes after you stop living for everyone else and start actually living an unapologetic life that’s yours.

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