Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing

Eirene Torres
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Hosted by Eirene, Born Tired is a storytelling podcast for those who grew up in survival mode and are now ready to heal out loud. Each episode explores the quiet grief that comes after walking away from chaos — the distance from family, the weight of generational patterns, and the peace that comes from finally choosing yourself. As a truth-teller, former family scapegoat, and lifelong cycle breaker, Eirene shares deeply personal stories about identity, C-PTSD, estrangement, being the “black sheep,” and learning to live in truth after years of being silenced. Through honest reflections and lived experience, Born Tired offers a space for those raised in dysfunction to rest, rebuild, and remember that healing isn’t a destination — it’s a homecoming. Credits: Written & narrated by Eirene Torres Audio production by Carlos Torres Original music by Carlos Torres Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This show is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. Listener discretion is advised. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

  1. 4d ago

    She Is Not My Second Chance

    Sometimes the mother wound does not only live inside the relationship we had with our mothers. Sometimes it follows us into motherhood itself. Into the way we respond to emotions, the way we try to protect our children, the way unresolved grief and inherited survival patterns can surface even when we are deeply trying to do things differently. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I reflect on the emotional complexity of mother daughter relationships, generational patterns, and what it means to raise children while still healing parts of yourself. I talk about becoming a mother while carrying unmet emotional needs from childhood and the ways those experiences can shape parenting without us fully realizing it. The longing many daughters carry to create something softer than what they experienced growing up. The hope that awareness alone will automatically protect our children from the things that hurt us. And the humbling realization that healing is not about becoming perfect. It is about becoming conscious enough to notice inherited patterns when they surface and choosing differently in real time. This episode explores the emotional inheritance passed through generations and how children often absorb emotional lessons before they fully understand them. I reflect on becoming a mother to neurodivergent children and learning that love is not about giving children what we needed growing up. It is about learning to recognize and honor what they need individually. I share personal moments that forced me to separate my own unmet needs from my daughter’s emotional reality and how motherhood became one of the greatest mirrors for my own healing. I also talk about emotional dismissal and how easily inherited responses can repeat themselves without conscious intention. The ways many survivors struggle sitting with emotions because vulnerability was not modeled safely growing up. And how moments of repair, accountability, and emotional honesty can become some of the most healing parts of parent child relationships. This conversation reflects on the emotional complexity of mother daughter dynamics and the ways daughters often mirror the places where mothers are still healing. The way children observe how we regulate emotions, navigate boundaries, respond to stress, handle vulnerability, and whether their inner world feels emotionally safe in our presence. I reflect on how healing often requires learning to parent from intention instead of reaction and understanding that children are not extensions of ourselves, emotional replacements, or second chances at recreating our own childhood. At the same time, this episode is also about grief, and the emotional process of acknowledging what was missing growing up without unconsciously asking our children to compensate for it. I reflect on the importance of allowing children emotional autonomy, individuality, and space to become fully themselves without carrying the emotional weight of generations before them. This episode is about accountability, repair, emotional presence, and understanding that breaking cycles rarely happens through perfection. It happens through small adjustments. Through listening instead of controlling, apologizing without defensiveness, and staying emotionally present long enough for something new to take root. Because healing is not about becoming the opposite of your mother. It is about becoming aligned with your values, and children do not need flawless parents. They need parents who are willing to see them clearly, repair when necessary, and create relationships where honesty does not threaten connection. Gentle Reminder:This podcast includes conversations about trauma, alcoholism, addiction, emotional abuse, dysfunctional family systems, enabling, hypervigilance, parentification, mental health, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. 🤍 Support the podcast:Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 📌 Follow me:Instagram: @borntiredpodcastThreads: @borntiredpodcastTikTok: @borntiredpodcastSubstack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast Credits:Written & narrated by Eirene TorresAudio production by Carlos TorresOriginal music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer:Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

    23 min

  2. May 25

    The Silence Around the Abuse

    Sometimes the most confusing part of growing up around abuse is not only the person causing harm. It is the silence surrounding it. The excuses, minimization, and the way everyone in the family quietly adjusts themselves around the dysfunction so life can continue without anyone fully naming what is happening. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I reflect on the role enablers play inside dysfunctional family systems and how those dynamics shape a child’s relationship with truth, safety, boundaries, and self trust. I talk about growing up with an alcoholic father and the emotional confusion that comes from watching harmful behavior repeatedly normalized by the people around it. The way children learn to read tension before they have language for it, the hypervigilance that develops when instability becomes part of daily life, and the psychological disorientation that happens when the harm is visible, but the environment encourages you to question your own perception of it. This episode explores how enabling often develops as a survival strategy inside dysfunctional homes. The ways family members smooth things over, protect the illusion of stability, encourage silence, or prioritize keeping the family together over confronting what is causing harm. I reflect on how some enablers are also victims themselves, and how holding compassion for that reality can still coexist with acknowledging the damage those dynamics create. I also talk about the long term nervous system impact of growing up in environments where emotional inconsistency becomes normalized. The way many survivors learn to prioritize attachment over self protection. How people pleasing, emotional overextension, difficulty setting boundaries, and hyper independence often begin as adaptations to childhood environments where stability depended on keeping other people emotionally regulated. This conversation reflects on the roles dysfunctional families unconsciously organize themselves around. The scapegoat. The enabler. The truth teller. And how the person who finally names the dysfunction often becomes viewed as disruptive simply because they stopped participating in the silence that allowed the system to continue functioning. At the same time, this episode is also about clarity, and understanding that the confusion many survivors carry was never a personal flaw. It was a natural response to growing up in environments where truth and denial existed side by side. I reflect on the process of rebuilding trust in your own instincts, learning that protecting your sense of reality is not betrayal, and recognizing that safe relationships do not require you to disappear in order to maintain connection. This episode is about breaking silence, and allowing yourself to acknowledge the full picture of what you lived through without minimizing it to protect the comfort of others. And about understanding that healing begins the moment truth no longer has to compete with denial just to exist.Because survivors deserve relationships where honesty is not punished, where boundaries are respected, and where safety does not depend on staying quiet. Gentle Reminder:This podcast includes conversations about trauma, alcoholism, addiction, emotional abuse, dysfunctional family systems, enabling, hypervigilance, parentification, mental health, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. 🤍 Support the podcast:Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 📌 Follow me:Instagram: @borntiredpodcastThreads: @borntiredpodcastTikTok: @borntiredpodcastSubstack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast Credits:Written & narrated by Eirene TorresAudio production by Carlos TorresOriginal music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer:Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

    22 min

  3. May 18

    Between Worlds: The First Generation Experience

    Growing up first generation often means learning how to live between worlds before you have the language to explain what that actually feels like. Between cultures. Between expectations. Between gratitude for everything your family sacrificed and the quiet emotional weight of carrying responsibilities too early. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I reflect on the emotional reality of growing up as the eldest daughter in a first generation Dominican American household and the ways those experiences shaped how I learned to move through the world. I talk about the invisible responsibilities many first generation children quietly step into. Translating paperwork and phone calls. Learning systems your parents are still learning themselves. Becoming dependable early, observant, and the child who figures things out in real time while also helping everyone else navigate alongside you. I talk about how those experiences can create both resilience and exhaustion at the same time. This episode explores the emotional complexity of existing between identities. The experience many first generation children know well: “ni de aquí, ni de allá.” Not fully from here. Not fully from there. I reflect on assimilation, cultural expectations, language, belonging, and the subtle moments that remind you your identity is often being filtered through assumptions about appearance, ethnicity, or where people believe you are “really” from. I also talk about parentification, hyper independence, perfectionism, and the nervous system impact of growing up in environments where responsibility arrives before emotional support does. The way many eldest daughters become the steady one long before they are emotionally ready to carry that role. The way survival quietly becomes identity. And how difficult it can feel in adulthood to rest, ask for help, or allow yourself to be supported without guilt. At the same time, this conversation is also about compassion. About recognizing the strength it took immigrant families to begin again in unfamiliar places while still acknowledging the emotional complexity their children carried inside that process. About understanding that gratitude and grief are not opposites. Both can exist together. We can love where we come from while still telling the truth about what shaped us. This episode reflects on what healing looks like for first generation adults who are learning that survival does not have to be the only way they know how to live. The shift from constant proving into self acceptance. The realization that being capable does not mean you have to carry everything alone. And the understanding that your need for rest, support, belonging, and peace is not weakness. It is human. Because healing is not about rejecting your roots. It is about creating enough space inside your story for yourself to exist too. Gentle Reminder:This podcast includes conversations about trauma, family dynamics, parentification, mental health, cultural identity, perfectionism, hyper independence, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. 🤍 Support the podcast:Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 📌 Follow me:Instagram: @borntiredpodcastThreads: @borntiredpodcastTikTok: @borntiredpodcastSubstack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast Credits:Written & narrated by Eirene TorresAudio production by Carlos TorresOriginal music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer:Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

    21 min

  4. May 11

    The Scapegoat and the Witch: Family Roles and Truth Telling

    There are certain stories that don’t just entertain us. They reach into something deeper. They touch the parts of us that remember what it felt like to be misunderstood, misrepresented, or cast into a role we never chose. Watching Wicked brought me face to face with something familiar: the experience of being the scapegoat in a dysfunctional family system. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I reflect on the emotional parallels between Elphaba’s story and what it means to grow up as the child who notices everything. The one who sees the tension no one talks about, recognizes the inconsistencies, and feels the emotional undercurrent inside the room long before anyone says it out loud. And how, in many families, the person who tells the truth becomes the problem. I talk about the scapegoat archetype, emotional neglect, projection, and the loneliness of being positioned as “too much” for reacting to something that was real. The experience of growing up in environments where accurate perception is treated like defiance, and how that shapes the nervous system long after childhood ends. The hypervigilance, self-doubt, over-explaining, and the deep longing to simply be believed. This episode also explores the grief that comes with being unsupported by the people you hoped would defend you. The ache of invisibility. The reality of going no contact and stepping outside of family roles that required silence in order to survive. I reflect on how scapegoating functions inside dysfunctional systems, and why the person who disrupts denial often becomes the one blamed for the discomfort of others. At the same time, this conversation is about what healing looks like after that role no longer defines you. The difference between shame and grief. The shift from needing validation to developing self-trust. And what it means to stop organizing your life around proving your reality to people committed to misunderstanding you. Because healing doesn’t always look like being redeemed by the people who hurt you. Sometimes it looks like releasing the need to be rewritten into someone else’s version of acceptable. Sometimes it looks like building a life outside of the narrative entirely. And maybe the most powerful realization of all is this:Being misunderstood does not mean you were wrong. Gentle Reminder:This podcast includes conversations about trauma, family dynamics, mental health, estrangement, eating disorders, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. 🤍 Support the podcast:Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 📌 Follow me:Instagram: @borntiredpodcastThreads: @borntiredpodcastTikTok: @borntiredpodcastSubstack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast Credits:Written & narrated by Eirene TorresAudio production by Carlos TorresOriginal music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer:Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

    21 min

  5. May 4

    The Weight a Birthday Carries: Mother Wounds and Grief

    Birthdays are often seen as something simple. A day to celebrate, to feel loved, to be surrounded by people who recognize your presence. But for some of us, birthdays carry more than that. They hold memory, absence, and the quiet awareness of what was there and what wasn’t. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I reflect on what it means to move through life with a complicated relationship to being celebrated. Not just on birthdays, but in the deeper sense of being seen, valued, and held in moments that were meant to center you. When those experiences are inconsistent or missing, the impact doesn’t stay in childhood. It shapes how safe it feels to receive attention, how natural it feels to be recognized, and how your body responds to being seen at all. I share my personal experience of growing up without that consistent sense of being celebrated, and how that has followed me into adulthood. The tension between recognizing love in the present and still feeling the urge to withdraw from it. The way those early experiences shaped my relationship with closeness, attention, and self-worth. This episode is also layered with the reality of being born on Mother’s Day, and what it means to carry a complicated relationship with motherhood while stepping into that role myself. I reflect on emotional neglect, the mother wound, and the experience of being the scapegoat, and how those dynamics shape not just how we see others, but how we come to see ourselves. At the same time, I speak to what it looks like to create something different. To move through these moments with awareness, to understand where the discomfort comes from, and to allow yourself to stay present instead of disappearing. Not forcing yourself to feel something you don’t, but making space for something new to exist alongside what has always been there. Because healing doesn’t erase what happened. It changes how you relate to it. And sometimes, that shift begins in small moments, like allowing yourself to remain present in a day that once felt easier to get through than to experience. Gentle Reminder:This podcast includes conversations about trauma, family dynamics, mental health, estrangement, eating disorders, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. 🤍 Support the podcast:Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 📌 Follow me:Instagram: @borntiredpodcastThreads: @borntiredpodcastTikTok: @borntiredpodcastSubstack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast Credits:Written & narrated by Eirene TorresAudio production by Carlos TorresOriginal music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer:Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

    22 min

  6. Apr 27

    The Cost of Shining: What Happens When You Stop Playing Small

    Growth is often spoken about as something positive. Something we should feel proud of, and that naturally brings more connection, alignment, and ease. But for some of us, growth has never felt that simple. It has felt isolating, unsettling. Like something that quietly creates distance in the very relationships we thought would hold us. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I reflect on what it feels like when your growth is not met with celebration, but with subtle shifts in energy. The quiet moments when something good happens, and instead of feeling supported, you feel distance. The way joy can start to feel heavy when it isn’t received the way you hoped. Growing up, when love is inconsistent, conditional, or unevenly given, something deeper begins to take shape. You learn how to be there for others. How to support, to hold space, to stay connected through struggle. But you’re not always shown how to be supported in return. And over time, that pattern doesn’t stay in the past. It follows you into your friendships, your relationships, and the way you show up in the world. In this episode, I share my personal experiences with friendships that felt close during moments of hardship, but distant during moments of growth. The comments, lack of acknowledgment, and the ways connection changed when I began to expand. I reflect on how those experiences shaped the way I saw myself, the way I shared my life, and the way my nervous system learned to associate visibility with loss. This episode also explores the deeper patterns behind those experiences. How early family dynamics can create a blueprint where love feels limited, attention feels conditional, and  taking up space feels unsafe. How those patterns show up as people-pleasing, emotional overgiving, and the tendency to shrink in order to stay connected. I speak to the role of projection, comparison, and discomfort that can arise when someone begins to heal. How growth can challenge the people around you, not because you are doing something wrong, but because your expansion asks them to look at parts of themselves they may not be ready to face. This episode is about understanding that your growth was never the problem. It is about recognizing the patterns that made you feel like you had to stay small, and beginning to choose something different. More intentional, aligned, and supportive of who you are becoming. Because healing doesn’t just change you. It changes the relationships around you, and sometimes, it creates space for the ones that can truly meet you. Your voice matters.Your story matters.And you are not alone. Gentle Reminder:This podcast includes conversations about trauma, family dynamics, mental health, estrangement, eating disorders, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. 🤍 Support the podcast:Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 📌 Follow me:Instagram: @borntiredpodcastThreads: @borntiredpodcastSubstack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast Credits:Written & narrated by Eirene TorresAudio production by Carlos TorresOriginal music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer:Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

    22 min

  7. Apr 20

    Joy Without Fear: Learning to Feel Safe Again

    Joy is often spoken about as something natural. Something we should be able to feel freely. Something that returns as we heal. But for some of us, joy has never felt simple. It has felt temporary. Fragile. Like something that disappears the moment we let our guard down. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I reflect on what it feels like when safety is repeatedly taken from you, and how that shapes your relationship with peace, comfort, and happiness. Not just in your thoughts, but in your body. I explore how the nervous system learns through repetition, and how experiences of harm can turn even the safest moments into something that feels uncertain. Growing up, when the places that were supposed to protect you become the places where you are hurt, something deeper shifts. Safety stops feeling stable. Joy stops feeling safe. And over time, your body begins to anticipate harm, even when nothing is happening. In this episode, I share my personal experiences of being violated in spaces that once felt safe. The way those moments didn’t just create fear, but changed how I moved through the world. The way my body learned to associate calm with what comes before harm, rather than what comes after it. I reflect on how that pattern can make it difficult to relax, to trust good moments, and to fully receive the life you are building. This episode also explores the deeper impact of trauma beyond the moment itself. How it spreads into your relationship with connection, belonging, and joy. How it creates a constant sense of anticipation. And how it can lead to hyper-awareness, self-protection, and a quiet disconnection from the present. I also speak to the grief that comes with this experience. Not just grief for what happened, but for what was lost. The loss of innocence. The loss of ease. The loss of being able to feel safe in moments that should have felt good. It is a quiet kind of grief that often goes unseen, especially when you appear to be functioning on the outside. This episode is about understanding the patterns your body created to survive. It is about recognizing that your responses were never a flaw, but a reflection of what you lived through. And it is about beginning to rebuild safety, slowly, in ways that feel real and sustainable. Because healing is not about forcing yourself to feel safe. It is about creating new experiences that allow your body to learn something different. It is about meeting yourself where you are, without pressure, and without expectation. And it is also about something deeper. Reclaiming. Because when you begin to trust that you can protect yourself now, something shifts. Not all at once. But enough to start letting moments of peace last a little longer. You don’t need to fix yourself to be here. You don’t need the right words.You just need to arrive as you are. Your voice matters.Your story matters.And you are not alone. Gentle Reminder:This podcast includes conversations about trauma, family dynamics, mental health, estrangement, eating disorders, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. 🤍 Support the podcast:Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 📌 Follow me:Instagram: @borntiredpodcastThreads: @borntiredpodcastSubstack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast Credits:Written & narrated by Eirene TorresAudio production by Carlos TorresOriginal music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer:Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

    21 min

  8. Apr 13

    Forgiveness Without Accountability

    Forgiveness is often spoken about as something healing. Something freeing. Something necessary for moving forward. But in some environments, forgiveness is not offered as a choice. It is expected. Encouraged prematurely. Used to restore comfort without addressing what caused the harm in the first place. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I reflect on what it feels like when forgiveness is used to bypass accountability. Not as a genuine process, but as a way to silence, to smooth over, or to move on without acknowledgment. I explore how the pressure to forgive can create confusion. How it can shift the focus away from what happened, and onto how quickly you are willing to let it go. Growing up, many of us are taught that forgiveness is a sign of growth. That holding onto pain means something is unresolved within us. That being the bigger person is the goal. But those beliefs can make it difficult to recognize when forgiveness is being used to protect others from discomfort, rather than support our healing. In this episode, I share my personal experience with that dynamic. The expectation to move forward without repair. The subtle ways accountability is avoided. The internal conflict that comes from knowing something was not addressed, while being encouraged to act as though it was. I reflect on how that pattern shapes your relationship with your voice, your boundaries, and your sense of self-trust. This episode also explores the difference between forgiveness and acceptance. Between choosing peace and being asked to tolerate what has not changed. I talk about how clarity begins to form when you allow yourself to name what happened without rushing to resolve it. And how healing is not found in forcing closure, but in honoring your own timeline. Because forgiveness, when it happens, should come from within. Not from pressure. Not from expectation. And not at the cost of your truth. This episode is about recognizing when something is being asked of you before you are ready. It is about understanding the impact of unresolved harm, and the quiet strength it takes to remain honest about what you feel. It is about reclaiming the space to decide what healing looks like for you. And it is also about something deeper. Integrity. Because when you stop abandoning your own experience to maintain connection, something begins to shift. Not all at once. But enough to begin again. You don’t need to fix yourself to be here. You don’t need the right words.You just need to arrive as you are. Your voice matters.Your story matters.And you are not alone. Gentle Reminder:This podcast includes conversations about trauma, family dynamics, mental health, estrangement, eating disorders, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. 🤍 Support the podcast:Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 📌 Follow me:Instagram: @borntiredpodcastThreads: @borntiredpodcastSubstack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast Credits:Written & narrated by Eirene TorresAudio production by Carlos TorresOriginal music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer:Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

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Hosted by Eirene, Born Tired is a storytelling podcast for those who grew up in survival mode and are now ready to heal out loud. Each episode explores the quiet grief that comes after walking away from chaos — the distance from family, the weight of generational patterns, and the peace that comes from finally choosing yourself. As a truth-teller, former family scapegoat, and lifelong cycle breaker, Eirene shares deeply personal stories about identity, C-PTSD, estrangement, being the “black sheep,” and learning to live in truth after years of being silenced. Through honest reflections and lived experience, Born Tired offers a space for those raised in dysfunction to rest, rebuild, and remember that healing isn’t a destination — it’s a homecoming. Credits: Written & narrated by Eirene Torres Audio production by Carlos Torres Original music by Carlos Torres Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This show is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. Listener discretion is advised. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.

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