Shameproof Your Desires

Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife
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Shameproof Your Desires is the podcast for women standing at a turning point: divorce, loss, career change or simply the decision that you don't have to answer to anyone the same way anymore. Hosted by Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife, a certified sex and relationship coach, this show is for the woman who's done believing she's “too much,” especially when it comes to what she wants sexually. Auntie Carmen is your trusted, spicy friend who never shames you, she just holds space while you figure it out and nudges you a little closer to the edges you've been circling, kinky or otherwise.

  1. 2d ago

    The Good Girl Lane: Why You're Still Waiting for Permission You'll Never Get

    In this episode, Auntie Carmen names the pattern she calls the Good Girl Lane, the invisible habit of waiting for permission before claiming the sex and desires you actually want. She breaks down why this pattern forms, what it quietly costs you in real relationships, and what shifts the moment you stop waiting for a green light that was never coming. Topics covered: good girl conditioning, waiting for permission, sexual autonomy, resentment in relationships, becoming shameproof Keywords: good girl conditioning, waiting for permission, claiming your kink, sexual autonomy, women and sexual shame, shameproof desires Join Shameproof Your Desires: [course link here]Join Camp Claim It on Skool for free resources: [Skool link here]

  2. Sep 1

    The Secret I Kept Even From Myself: Discovering What I Actually Wanted

    In this episode, Auntie Carmen picks up where episode eight left off, exploring what happens once desire comes back but you don't yet have language for what you actually want. She shares how she began getting curious about power exchange dynamics and her own bisexuality, and why solo self-exploration mattered just as much as anything she discovered with a partner. Join Camp Claim It in Skool here https://www.skool.com/campclaimit Topics covered: discovering hidden fantasies, sexual self-discovery, exploring power exchange and BDSM for the first time, bisexuality exploration, solo self-exploration, becoming shameproof Keywords: hidden sexual fantasies, discovering your kink, exploring desire after divorce, sexual self-discovery, power exchange fantasies, kink curious women, shameproof desires

  3. Aug 25

    The Good Mom Trap: When Motherhood Became My Excuse to Ignore My Own Desire

    In this episode, Auntie Carmen opens up about a belief that quietly ran her life for years: that being a good mom and having real, active sexual desire couldn't exist in the same woman. She shares what happened during a decade-long sexless marriage, and what it was like when her libido came roaring back after divorce with nowhere to go. If you're a mother wondering whether you're allowed to want the things you want, this episode is for you. Join Auntie Carmen's Camp Claim It Community on Skool here: ⁠https://www.skool.com/campclaimit/about⁠ Topics covered: motherhood and sexual identity, sexless marriage, libido returning after divorce, permission and desire, good girl conditioning, becoming shameproof Keywords: libido after motherhood, sexless marriage, mom sexuality, reclaiming desire as a mom, sexual shame in marriage, midlife libido, shameproof desires

  4. Aug 18

    I'm Not a Trad Wife, But I Am in My Dynamic

    In this episode, Auntie Carmen picks up where episode six left off and takes listeners inside the real, everyday version of her power exchange marriage. She breaks down the difference between being a trad wife and choosing to be "in her dynamic," introduces her husband and explains the small daily rituals that keep a D/s dynamic alive once real life, moving, and logistics take over. If you've ever wondered what power exchange actually looks like on a random Tuesday rather than in a fantasy, this episode answers it. Topics covered: the difference between trad wife roles and chosen power exchange dynamics, service submission in daily life, co-creating roles with a partner, maintaining a D/s dynamic through life transitions, daily rituals and mini-moments in relationships Keywords: alpha sub, power exchange marriage, D/s dynamic daily life, not a trad wife, service submission, Dominant husband, kink relationship rituals, sex coach for women

  5. Aug 11

    From Controlled to Collared: My Real Story of Finding Consensual Submission

    In this episode, Auntie Carmen goes deep into her origin story, from a controlling first relationship in high school to a sexless ten-year marriage, and finally to the consensual power exchange dynamic she shares with her husband today. Carmen opens up about her first taste of submission with a partner who "unlocked" something in her, exploring non-monogamy and her own bisexuality, learning to spot predators posing as Dominants in the kink community, and the collaring ceremony that marked the beginning of her marriage. If you've ever wondered whether someone can fully see and desire the parts of you that feel "too much" or unnamed, this episode is proof that it's possible. Topics covered: healing from a controlling relationship, discovering sexual submission, non-monogamy and bisexuality exploration, collaring ceremonies and D/s ritual, long-distance courtship, becoming shameproof, exploring desires, post divorce explorations Keywords: collaring ceremony, consensual submission, power exchange dynamic, D/s relationship, kink after divorce, sex coach for women, shameproof desires

  6. Aug 4

    Too Much Was Never the Problem

    Can you remember the first time someone made you feel like you wanted too much? In this episode, Auntie Carmen, the Kink Midwife, traces the exact moment "too much" got written into your story, and how family, partners, culture and religion all piled on to make it feel like the truth instead of just the loudest voice in the room. If you're a woman standing at a turning point, a divorce, a loss, a big life shift, and you're done shrinking yourself to keep other people comfortable, this episode is your invitation to start questioning who actually wrote that story in the first place. It's part of Shameproof Your Desires, the podcast helping women become impossible to shame so they can finally live and love on their own terms. Follow Carmen on IG https://www.instagram.com/shameproofyourdesires/ To learn more about Shameproof Basecamp email Carmen@shameproofyourdesires.com Keywords: too much sexual desire, sexual shame after divorce, kink coach for women, midlife women sexuality, reclaim your identity after divorce, women's shame recovery podcast, kink midwife, judgment-free sex coach, shameproof your desires, sexual desire coaching for women, unlearning sexual shame, women starting over after divorce, sex positive podcast for women, becoming impossible to shame, women starting over after life change, post loss new identity

  7. Jul 28

    Your Line in the Sand

    Standing at a turning point, a divorce, a loss, a big life change, and wondering what you actually want now? Auntie Carmen opens the show by asking the question most women are afraid to answer: what turns you on, specifically, right now, in the life you're actually living. A permission slip for women starting over and done believing they're “too much.” Email to get on the waitlist for Shameproof Basecamp carmen@shameproofyourdesires.com Follow the show and share with someone who needs it!

  8. Jul 21

    The Fantasy You've Never Said Out Loud

    There's a fantasy you've never said out loud to a single person, and it's been sitting there this whole time, taking up more space than you realize. In this episode, Carmen the Kink Midwife unpacks why women lock their most specific desires away, what it actually costs to keep them hidden, and the one small, private step that starts changing everything. If you've got a kink or a want you've never dared to name, this episode is for you.

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Shameproof Your Desires is the podcast for women standing at a turning point: divorce, loss, career change or simply the decision that you don't have to answer to anyone the same way anymore. Hosted by Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife, a certified sex and relationship coach, this show is for the woman who's done believing she's “too much,” especially when it comes to what she wants sexually. Auntie Carmen is your trusted, spicy friend who never shames you, she just holds space while you figure it out and nudges you a little closer to the edges you've been circling, kinky or otherwise.

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  • Creator
    Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    49
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife
  • Show Website
    Shameproof Your Desires