Heart Work After Betrayal | Infidelity, Marriage, Forgiveness, Loneliness, Trust

Julia Carlton - Relationship Coach & Infidelity Recovery Mentor
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***TOP 5% GLOBALLY RANKED PODCAST*** Heart Work After Betrayal For Christian wives rebuilding trust after infidelity Are you a Christian wife trying to rebuild trust after infidelity? Do you feel alone, triggered, and torn between healing your marriage and protecting your heart? Have you been asking questions like: - How do I heal from the pain and broken trust after infidelity? - How do I rebuild trust after cheating? - How do I know whether to stay or leave? - How do I forgive without losing myself? - How do I find emotional healing and safety again? - How do I reconnect with God, myself, and my spouse after betrayal? If that sounds like you, this podcast is for you. Heart Work After Betrayal is for Christian wives who are married, have walked through infidelity, and want help navigating the pain, confusion, triggers, trauma, and loss of identity that often follow betrayal. Maybe you struggle with intense loneliness because of the broken trust by the one who was supposed to be your partner for life and feel like a rug has been pulled out from under you. Or you feel overwhelmed with the pain but still having to show up either for your kids or at work. Or you feel like you should be further along already since it’s been a few months or even years ago when you found out about the betrayal. This space is here to help you feel seen, supported, and grounded. I’m Julia Carlton, Relationship Coach and Certified 5 Voices Practitioner. After experiencing the pain of infidelity in my own marriage, I learned that healing after betrayal does not begin by trying to fix everything overnight. It begins by rebuilding trust in yourself, rebuilding your spiritual foundation, and rebuilding relational trust with wisdom, honesty, and emotional safety. Each week on this Christian marriage podcast, we focus on: rebuilding trust in yourself after betrayal rebuilding your spiritual foundation and restoring your identity in Christ rebuilding relational trust and discerning reconciliation wisely emotional healing and safety after infidelity how to trust again after cheating move towards healing your marriage without ignoring the pain healthy boundaries, forgiveness, and communication finding support when you feel alone in betrayal recovery HEART WORK after Betrayal is about doing the deep heart work required to rebuild trust with yourself and God first, restore identity, walk in forgiveness, and move forward with strength and clarity.  If you are looking for faith-based support after infidelity and want personal help rebuilding trust and discerning your next steps, I also offer private 1:1 Heart Work Coaching for Christian wives healing after betrayal. Healing is possible. Trust can be rebuilt. Emotional safety can be restored. And if reconciliation is right, a renewed relationship can be pursued with wisdom, faith, and truth.

  1. 1d ago

    65 | Rebuilding Trust Begins With Rebuilding Your Identity in Community

    Do you feel like it's all on you, you are responsible for your healing and moving on after the betrayal in your marriage? Do you wonder whether loving him again automatically means reconciliation? Are you confused on what it actually looks like to respond from a place of feeling rooted and grounded in the love of Christ when all you know right now is pain after the betrayal? Do you wish for a community of others that simply understand because they have been or currently are where you are at?    YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... The full picture behind the crown series and that walking it out takes others to walk alongside you Clarity that loving your husband doesn't automatically mean reconciliation and why that mirrors how God loves too Why isolation is the most dangerous place to process betrayal, even though it feels the safest An invitation to keep doing this work in community, together, at a live workshop! PART 2: EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS This is the finale of the five-week CROWN series. Today we wrap it all up: Our unshakable identity in Christ and true authority and choice that comes with it, and what walking it out really entails and most importantly how community is the thing that will really excel the healing journey around the picture that started it all: a woman wearing both a crown and an apron, from 1 Peter 5:5. Even though we learn to serve and lay down our lives for each other once we are established in our true identity in Christ, loving your husband doesn't automatically mean reconciliation. We get to follow the same pattern God shows in His own love: desiring reconciliation without demanding it or compromising His standards. ***JOIN THE HEART RESET WORKSHOP on October 6th at 5PM EST! *** New to the series? Start with Episode 56 for the full journey from the beginning. PART 3: RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 1 Peter 5:5  "clothe yourselves with humility" (the servant's apron picture in the Greek) 📖 Romans 12:2 "be transformed by the renewing of your mind" 🎙️ Episodes 56–64: the full CROWN series 💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter , be the first to know when Heart Reset Workshop registration opens 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle ❓ Submit a listener question PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS 📧 hello@juliacarlton.com 🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: ***JOIN THE HEART RESET WORKSHOP on October 6th at 5PM EST! *** Subscribe to the newsletter so you're the first to know when the Heart Reset Workshop registration opens!! Name one person or space you'll bring this ongoing work to, instead of carrying it alone Catch up on Episode 56 if you're new to the series This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

  2. 5d ago

    64 | Why Isolation After Betrayal Feels Safe But Isn't: The One Practice That Finally Broke Mine

    Have you been telling yourself that healing alone is safer, easier, and more controlled only to end up stuck in the same loop? Do you feel like no one can really understand what you're going through, so why even try to explain it? Do you keep the hardest parts of your healing entirely in your own head, journaling in private but never saying it out loud to another person? YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... Why isolation quietly works against every practice this series has built so far A real story of what changed the moment healing stopped happening in private One simple practice: saying one thing out loud to a real person instead of carrying it alone A heads-up about something new coming this Thursday This is the final letter of the CROWN series: N, Never Do It Alone. The core idea: every practice from this series: Catching a thought, Reviewing it, Owning your response, Walking it out, all of it, gets stronger in community but quietly erodes in isolation, because a false thought left unchallenged in your own head just keeps running on repeat. New here? This episode caps a five-week series. Start with Episode 56 if you want the full journey from the beginning. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle 💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter ❓ Submit a listener question   CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS 📧 hello@juliacarlton.com 🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Pick one thought or struggle you've been carrying privately this week Share it with one safe person or even better, share with our private FB Community - the Heart Work Healing Circle, no advice needed, just say it Mark your calendar for Tuesday, October 6th for a new live training coming - more details to come in the next episode!!! Catch up on Episode 56 if you're new to the series This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

  3. Sep 11

    63 | The Secret for Healing After Betrayal Lies in This One Heart Shift

    Have you been given contradicting advice that seemed all across the board about how to respond to your husband's betrayal or unfaithfulness?  Do you find yourself doing all the "right" things, forgiving, serving, loving but you still end up resentful and exhausted? Have you ever wondered if peace is even possible while you're still deciding whether to stay or go? YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... The difference between a heart that's trying to do love and do the right thing and a heart that can freely love A way to check your own motivation before an act of service, so you're not building resentment without realizing it Permission to pursue this kind of "freely loving" whether or not you ever decide to reconcil This is Week 4 of the CROWN series, a deep dive into our identity (Episode 57), authority (Episode 59), choice (Episode 61) as we wrestle through what this all means for us after betrayal in our. marriage. This week, I make the four points on why the crown has to come first, why it isn't the whole picture on its own, what it looks like to wear both day to day, and how to ask the same honest question in your own life. New here? Start with Episode 57 to start at the beginning of the series PART 3: RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 1 Peter 5:5 "clothe yourselves with humility" (the servant's-apron picture in the Greek) 🎙️ Episode 57: "5 Truths About Who You Are That Betrayal and Infidelity Cannot Touch" 🎙️ Episode 59: "Dreaming of a Mind That Isn't Hijacked by Triggers? 4 Truths to Rediscover the Authority That's Always Been Yours" 🎙️ Episode 61: "Why the Truth Doesn't Feel Better Yet — And What to Do About It Anyway" 🎙️ Episode 62: "Walk It Out: The Neuroscience-Backed Practice That Makes Peace Your Default" 💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle ❓ Submit a listener question PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS 📧 hello@juliacarlton.com 🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Before your next act of love toward him, pause and check your heart. Bring what you're wrestling to the Healing Circle, you don't have to sort this out alone Catch up on Episode 57 if you're new to the crown This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

  4. Sep 8

    62 | Walk It Out: The Neuroscience-Backed Practice That Makes Peace Your Default

    Have you ever felt your heart start racing before you even finished the thought that set it off and it felt like your body reacted before you even had a chance to choose? Have you ever felt like a prisoner to triggers, panic, or a spiral you couldn't out-argue no matter how hard you tried? Do you assume a spiraling thought will take just as long to undo as it took to go down the spiral in the first place?  YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... A real, brain-scanned example of how fast your body reacts to a thought, both for better or worse The difference between the "switch" (instant) and the "path" (built through repetition) and why confusing the two is what makes people quit too soon A concrete weekly practice: pause, notice your body's response, write it down, and let that memory become your fuel for choosing the better path next time This is Week 4 of the CROWN series, landing on W - Walk It Out: when PTSD, triggers, and panic attacks that feel like they run the show the shift that can happen when you take charge of your thoughts instead of letting any thought have free rein a real case study from neurosurgeon Dr. Lee Warren shows how fast a thought changes your physical state the trail-through-the-woods picture for why the path still takes repetition even though the switch itself is instant  a journal practice that turns your own felt experience into the thing that makes the next right choice easier PART 3: RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Colossians 3:15  "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts" 📚 Dr. Lee Warren, neurosurgeon, the fMRI case study on the brain's instant response to a thought 🎙️ Episode 60: "Anyway: The One-Word Practice That Stops the Spiral" 🎙️ Episode 61: "Why the Truth Doesn't Feel Better Yet — And What to Do About It Anyway" 💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle ❓ Submit a listener question PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS 📧 hello@juliacarlton.com 🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Catch one thought this week, negative or true, and pause to notice how your body responds Write it down: what the thought was, and what happened in your body Bring what you're noticing to the Healing Circle, you don't have to track this alone Revisit your notes before the same spiraling thought shows up again This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

  5. Sep 4

    61 | Why the Truth Doesn't Feel Better Yet And What to Do About It Anyway

    Have you ever caught a lie, examined it, knew it wasn't true and picked it back up anyway, because the truth just didn't feel as good yet? Do you assume something's wrong with you when change feels harder than it "should," instead of expecting it to feel that way? Are you stuck trying to just stop thinking the old thought, with nothing ready to actually replace it? YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... A clear picture of the one idea that has to be in place before any thought can actually change Permission to expect resistance without mistaking it for failure A concrete way to decide in advance what truth will replace an old thought The full catch → examine → own process walked through in one real example A way to keep going when change feels slow, without turning it into more self-effort This episode walks through five aspects of owning your response, built around a picture of choosing healthy food over junk food 1) believing that God is good before anything else can change 2) expecting resistance without mistaking it for failure 3) deciding in advance what truth will replace the old thought 4) walking the full Catch/Review/Own process in a real example 5) trusting grace to do the sustaining work instead of white-knuckling through it This is the third week in our C.R.O.W.N series - start with Episode 57 if you want to start at the beginning! PART 3: RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 2 Corinthians 10:5  📖 Romans 12:2 💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle ❓ Submit a listener question  CONNECT WITH JULIA  📧 hello@juliacarlton.com 🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Pick one recurring thought this week and walk it through catch, examine, own Join the Heart Work Healing Circle for support along the way Subscribe to the newsletter so you don't miss a Monday or Thursday Submit your own question, it might shape a future episode This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

  6. Aug 31

    60 | Anyway: The One-Word Practice That Stops the Spiral

    Have you ever felt a single thought hijack your whole afternoon before you even realized what happened? Do you ever agree with a fearful thought out of habit, without ever stopping to ask if you actually wanted to? What if the way out of a spiral wasn't a longer fight, but one simple word? This is Week 3 of the CROWN series. If you haven't listened to Heart Checks 56 and 58 yet, start there first, this week builds directly on both. C - Catch the Thought: how to stop the thought spiral and practice to trace what thought led to another R - Review and Examine the Thought: how three questions can put any thought on trial. This week, we land on O - Own Your Response. Once you've caught a thought and examined it, you still get to decide what to do with it: agree with it, or don't. Today I'm giving you one simple word how to “address” that thought, and then turn to Jesus and agree with Him instead.  RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 56 | Spiraling Thoughts After Betrayal or Infiidelity? One Simple Practice to Catch Them Before They Take Over - start here with the first Heart Check C.R.O.W.N series  💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle: a private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: Tired of trying to heal alone? HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***NOW OPEN A private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle   DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

  7. Aug 27

    59 | Dreaming of a Mind That Isn't Hijacked by Triggers? 4 Truths to Rediscover the Authority That's Always Been Yours

    Have you ever felt like a triggered thought didn't just visit, it moved in and tried to take over the whole house? Do you ever white-knuckle your way through an anxious thought because it doesn't feel like you have any real say over it? What if the thought that's been ruling you this week was never actually in charge to begin with? Last week we started the identity teaching in the CROWN series, based on 2 Cor 10, and we are slowly making our way through what it really means to take every thought captive. This episode answers the question underneath that whole practice: where do you get the right to arrest and put a thought on trial in the first place? I'm walking you through the authority you carry as a daughter of the King, the real, positional authority over your own mind, which is what gives Monday's trial its legal standing. This is Week 2 of the CROWN series,  If you haven't listened to last week’s episodes, start there! RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Ephesians 2:6  You are seated with Christ in heavenly places, the seat of your authority 📚 Dr. Lee Warren, The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery 🎙️ Episode 56 Monday Heart Check: “Spiraling Thoughts After Betrayal or Infidelity? One Simple Practice to Catch Them Before They Take Over" 🎙️ Episode 57 Thursday Deep Dive: "5 Truths About Who You Are That Betrayal and Infidelity Cannot Touch And How to Finally Start LIving From Them” 🎙️ Episode 58 Monday Heart Check: "3 Questions to Ask Every Fearful Thought Before It Can Spiral And How the Answers Will Bring You Peace" 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle: a private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: Tired of trying to heal alone? HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***NOW OPEN*** A private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle on Facebook DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

  8. Aug 25

    58 | 3 Questions to Ask Every Fearful Thought Before It Can Spiral And How the Answers Will Bring You Peace

    Do your thoughts after betrayal feel so real and so certain that you automatically believe them even when something inside you suspects they might not be telling you the whole truth? Have you ever wondered how to tell the difference between a thought that is actually true and one that only feels true because the pain attached to it is so intense? Have you been catching yourself in the thought spiral this week noticing the chain and wondering what to do with what you found? Last week we started the CROWN series: five Monday Heart Check practices that together spell C-R-O-W-N and build on each other week by week. Last week was C - Catch the Thought. This week is R - Review and Examine the Thought. In this episode I am introducing the second step in taking every thought captive: putting the thought on trial. I am walking you through three simple questions to ask every fearful thought after betrayal so you can begin separating what is actually true from what only feels true. A thought is not automatically true just because it feels true. We are wearing the crown, our true identity in Christ, which is the evidence you bring into the courtroom when the thought stands up and makes its case. This is Week 2 of the CROWN series. If you have not yet listened to Episodes 56 and 57 go back and start there first. Everything we are building this week depends on that foundation. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 2 Corinthians 10:5 (The Message version): "fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ" 🎙️ 56 | Spiraling Thoughts After Betrayal or Infiidelity? One Simple Practice to Catch Them Before They Take Over (Week 1 of the CROWN series, listen to this first) 🎙️ Episode 57 "5 Truths About Who You Are That Betrayal and Infidelity Cannot Touch And How to Finally Start Living From Them” (Introducing the crown we are all wearing, listen to this first) 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle : A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***NOW OPEN!!! A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle on Facebook DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

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***TOP 5% GLOBALLY RANKED PODCAST*** Heart Work After Betrayal For Christian wives rebuilding trust after infidelity Are you a Christian wife trying to rebuild trust after infidelity? Do you feel alone, triggered, and torn between healing your marriage and protecting your heart? Have you been asking questions like: - How do I heal from the pain and broken trust after infidelity? - How do I rebuild trust after cheating? - How do I know whether to stay or leave? - How do I forgive without losing myself? - How do I find emotional healing and safety again? - How do I reconnect with God, myself, and my spouse after betrayal? If that sounds like you, this podcast is for you. Heart Work After Betrayal is for Christian wives who are married, have walked through infidelity, and want help navigating the pain, confusion, triggers, trauma, and loss of identity that often follow betrayal. Maybe you struggle with intense loneliness because of the broken trust by the one who was supposed to be your partner for life and feel like a rug has been pulled out from under you. Or you feel overwhelmed with the pain but still having to show up either for your kids or at work. Or you feel like you should be further along already since it’s been a few months or even years ago when you found out about the betrayal. This space is here to help you feel seen, supported, and grounded. I’m Julia Carlton, Relationship Coach and Certified 5 Voices Practitioner. After experiencing the pain of infidelity in my own marriage, I learned that healing after betrayal does not begin by trying to fix everything overnight. It begins by rebuilding trust in yourself, rebuilding your spiritual foundation, and rebuilding relational trust with wisdom, honesty, and emotional safety. Each week on this Christian marriage podcast, we focus on: rebuilding trust in yourself after betrayal rebuilding your spiritual foundation and restoring your identity in Christ rebuilding relational trust and discerning reconciliation wisely emotional healing and safety after infidelity how to trust again after cheating move towards healing your marriage without ignoring the pain healthy boundaries, forgiveness, and communication finding support when you feel alone in betrayal recovery HEART WORK after Betrayal is about doing the deep heart work required to rebuild trust with yourself and God first, restore identity, walk in forgiveness, and move forward with strength and clarity.  If you are looking for faith-based support after infidelity and want personal help rebuilding trust and discerning your next steps, I also offer private 1:1 Heart Work Coaching for Christian wives healing after betrayal. Healing is possible. Trust can be rebuilt. Emotional safety can be restored. And if reconciliation is right, a renewed relationship can be pursued with wisdom, faith, and truth.

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