Permission To Desire: Relationships, Sex, Love, and Liberation

Brian G. Murphy
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  • Self-Improvement
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What if wanting more wasn’t selfish, but sacred?Permission to Want is a podcast for the curious, the courageous, the quirky, and consciously nontraditional. Hosted by author and certified relationship coach Brian G. Murphy, this show explores what it means to build fuller, more alive relationships and erotic lives and paints a picture of what’s possible when you find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want and say goodbye to shame or “shoulds.”Grounded in the wisdom of polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy, you’ll hear real-life stories and actionable insights that can enrich every relationship type: monogamous, open, polyamorous, single, or solo. Whether you're hoping to rekindle passion in a long-term relationship, healing from sexual shame, considering opening up, or just craving more intention in how you live and love, this is your permission slip.

  1. 4h ago

    Save The Date: Free open relationship training

    I’m teaching an action-oriented, hands-on training on Tuesday, November 10 at 6pm ET : "Open & Closer Than Ever: Build an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the ‘hard’ conversations" Register here: https://thisisbgm.com/workshop/ If you’ve been looking for the solution to having an open relationship built on trust, communication, transparency, connection, and fun, THIS is your roadmap.  During this training, I’m going to teach the 4 steps that take my clients from feeling uncertain, scared, and frustrated in their relationships to clear, comfortable, and connected If you opened your relationship and it’s not going as easy as you thought it would (or it’s not as comfortable or fulfilling as it used to be), you might think there’s something wrong with you or your relationship. You might even worry that you’re just “not cut out for an open relationship.” But that’s not it at all! You just need a different approach. And it’s easier than you think (it’s definitely easier than continuing to spin your wheels and hope). You can start making SMALL changes that make a BIG impact in your relationship right away. I’m going to show you what those are. Save your spot: https://thisisbgm.com/workshop/ 🔎 Want to go from safe to sexually charged? Brian works with clients to build fuller, more honest, more alive relationships and sex lives. Your desires aren't separate from your romance-novel relationship, they can be part of it. An even more expansive relationship is possible. Apply for a (free) next steps call: https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/ Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/ Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

  2. 3d ago

    Good hard work vs Bad hard work

    Let’s get you an easier open relationship / more sex / on the same page about the future / [insert what you want more of in your relationship] without the emotional equivalent of DOMS 🤣 The “work” of shifting and strengthening your relationship can be the good, easy, productive type of hard when you learn new skills and have a coach guiding you. I got you! Schedule a free next steps call where I'll put together a custom plan for what you can focus on to have a stronger, safer and sexier relationship without any shame, scarcity, or “should”s. Learn more & find a time here. 🔎 Want to go from safe to sexually charged? Brian works with clients to build fuller, more honest, more alive relationships and sex lives. Your desires aren't separate from your romance-novel relationship, they can be part of it. An even more expansive relationship is possible. Apply for a (free) next steps call: https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/ Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/ Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

  3. 5d ago

    Orgasms aren't optional

    Even if you've been out and proud for decades, been in an open relationship for years, been sex-positive for just as long... STILL sometimes parts of your sexuality and sex life can start to feel secretive, maybe even shameful. You might feel like pursuing your desires is selfish in some way or worry they'll be your undoing. If any of that sounds like, then you've got to listen to this episode. In it, Brian shares how learning to recognize and name his true desires—and the sometimes confusing or uncomfortable feelings that can come with them—helped him move beyond hiding and autopilot. Brian then teaches what the first step is to creating even more more authenticity and connection relationship with yourself and your partner. Referenced in this episode: download list of feelings here 🔎 Want to go from safe to sexually charged? Brian works with clients to build fuller, more honest, more alive relationships and sex lives. Your desires aren't separate from your romance-novel relationship, they can be part of it. An even more expansive relationship is possible. Apply for a (free) next steps call: https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/ Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/ Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

  4. Sep 22

    Open Relationship vs Polyamory: What's the difference?

    f you want to be in a relationship that doesn't quite fit the monogamy mold, you've probably come across both the ideas of both "open relationship" and "polyamory" ... what's the difference between them and which one is right for you? Polyamory and open relationship are two BIG umbrella terms in the ways folks structure their not-monogamous relationship lives. I explain the basics of each, how they overlap sometimes, and what you need to know to decide which — if any! — is right for you. I also share a relationship idea that's somewhere between "monogamous" and "open relationship" ... what Dan Savage calls "mongamish" 🔎 Want to go from safe to sexually charged? Brian works with clients to build fuller, more honest, more alive relationships and sex lives. Your desires aren't separate from your romance-novel relationship, they can be part of it. An even more expansive relationship is possible. Apply for a (free) next steps call: https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/ Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/ Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

  5. Aug 19

    Are you edging your open relationship?

    A short and sweet one from my phone to yours today with a message that maybe you need to hear. Are you approaching your open relationship like an edge... always almost but hardly ever going all the way? If so, it's up to you to decide: do you actually want to get off? No wrong answer, just choose on purpose. And if you do want that's more comfortable to actually act on, what are you going to do about it? 🔎 Want to go from safe to sexually charged? Brian works with clients to build fuller, more honest, more alive relationships and sex lives. Your desires aren't separate from your romance-novel relationship, they can be part of it. An even more expansive relationship is possible. Apply for a (free) next steps call: https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/ Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/ Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

  6. Aug 18

    Balancing fear with possibility in an open relationship (with Keller)

    When John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built. Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory. There were still some bumps along the way, and whenever they hit a bumpy patch, they brought it to coaching to be able to talk it through in a controlled, facilitated environment, and to walk away with specific suggestions to try. That was 2021. Today, Keller and John are still together, they got married a few years ago — and are navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. When I caught up with Keller recently, he told me that even his grandmother knows about non-monogamy and met one of his other partners! Talk about progress! Keller also shared that he and John return to some of the foundational exercises they learned in Relationshift at least once a year, pulling out old worksheets and cheatsheets and taking a look at what, if anything, they want to adjust or revisit. If you want some of that for yourself and your relationship, join us in Relationshift. Enrollment is open through Friday August 21, 2016 - https://thisisbgm.com/group/ 🔎 Want to go from safe to sexually charged? Brian works with clients to build fuller, more honest, more alive relationships and sex lives. Your desires aren't separate from your romance-novel relationship, they can be part of it. An even more expansive relationship is possible. Apply for a (free) next steps call: https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/ Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/ Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

  7. Aug 14

    The bump you hit 2 years into an open relationship (and how to get out of it)

    You know how new relationships come with a honeymoon period? The first few months to first few years after opening up have their own honeymoon period too. If you hit a bumpy patch a year or two after opening up, you are not alone. There are a few common reasons and once you know what they are, you can know what to do about them. In this episode, I'm going to talk you through through the most common pressure points that can turn an open relationship from fun to frustrating. Things like jealousy, time pressure, ineffective open relationship rules, and hurtful communication. Then, I share what it takes to move into a more sustainable, intentional phase. An open relationship can bring you closer together than ever before so if you're navigating some rough waters, this is your lifeline! 🔎 Want to go from safe to sexually charged? Brian works with clients to build fuller, more honest, more alive relationships and sex lives. Your desires aren't separate from your romance-novel relationship, they can be part of it. An even more expansive relationship is possible. Apply for a (free) next steps call: https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/ Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/ Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

  8. Aug 12

    Workshop Replay: Open & Closer Than Ever

    If you'd like to watch along with the video and slides, you can see the video replay at https://thisisbgm.com/workshop/replay/ 🔎 Want to go from safe to sexually charged? Brian works with clients to build fuller, more honest, more alive relationships and sex lives. Your desires aren't separate from your romance-novel relationship, they can be part of it. An even more expansive relationship is possible. Apply for a (free) next steps call: https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/ Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/ Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

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What if wanting more wasn’t selfish, but sacred?Permission to Want is a podcast for the curious, the courageous, the quirky, and consciously nontraditional. Hosted by author and certified relationship coach Brian G. Murphy, this show explores what it means to build fuller, more alive relationships and erotic lives and paints a picture of what’s possible when you find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want and say goodbye to shame or “shoulds.”Grounded in the wisdom of polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy, you’ll hear real-life stories and actionable insights that can enrich every relationship type: monogamous, open, polyamorous, single, or solo. Whether you're hoping to rekindle passion in a long-term relationship, healing from sexual shame, considering opening up, or just craving more intention in how you live and love, this is your permission slip.

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