Modern Marriage with Monica

Monica Almaguer
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A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks. But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast! Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive. If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!

  1. 2d ago

    The Playbook to Genuine Sexual Desire (It’s Not Reason, Logic, or Shame)

    The real playbook for genuine desire isn't what most men think. If your wife isn't showing up for you sexually, the problem usually isn't her—it's that she's simply not attracted to you enough. And here's what most men get wrong: you can't logic, shame, or scripture her into genuine desire. That only creates obligatory sex with a woman who's mentally checked out. The real playbook works with how women actually operate—through their feelings, their attraction, and their respect. In this video, I break down: ✓ Why the male playbook (logic, reason, obligation) backfires every time ✓ The 6 main reasons attraction dies in long-term marriages ✓ The 3-part formula: Attraction + Respect + Fear of Loss ✓ How to activate genuine desire by working with her biology, not against it ✓ Why "Beast Mode" matters more than you think ✓ What happens when you get the playbook right (and wrong) The hard truth: You can play this perfectly and she might still not respond. But when you do, you have absolute assurance that you showed up—and that's everything. This is exactly what I teach in my complete method. Full breakdown in The Smoking Hot Marriage Method course. Join Monica's Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Benefits Include: 1. Early Access to Videos 2. Free Twice Monthly Group Coaching Calls 3. Ability to ask Monica Questions Directly 4. Podcast Notes 5. The support of the community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience. Contact Monica: Interested in Coaching? Book a call today! calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com Want to Fast Track Your Relationship Results? Check Out My Course https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Socials: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer Sexless marriage low libido wife marriage advice for men how to attract your wife genuine desire attraction in marriage marriage communication married men wife not interested in sex how to fix sexless marriage marriage tips male perspective marriage relationship advice marriage coaching Why women lose attraction how to get wife attracted to you again marriage without sex men's perspective on marriage real marriage advice for men keeping attraction alive in marriage

  2. Aug 3

    Trapped In A Sexless Marriage? The Divorce Already Happened

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  3. Jul 28

    Why Women Don’t Need Respect (And What They Actually Need Instead)

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  4. Jul 13

    #1 Bedroom Coach Stirling Cooper Reveals How to Bring the Passion Back (Married Men Listen)

    Sterling Cooper — former high-class escort, ex-adult film performer, and now one of the most in-demand bedroom coaches in the world — sits down with me in Vegas to talk about what actually keeps the passion alive in a marriage. Sterling brings something rare to the table: a combination of real-world experience in the adult industry and a background in pharmaceutical chemistry, so he understands both the psychology and the biology of what's happening between two people. We get into the stuff most couples never say out loud — the questions men are too embarrassed to ask their friends and the things women wish they understood about their husbands. We start with Sterling's story: how he went from a chemistry career to working as an escort for wealthy businesswomen, into adult film, and finally to coaching men and women full-time after seeing how much they were struggling. From there we get into why habitual adult online content quietly wrecks so many men in the bedroom, and why the very first thing Sterling tells a struggling guy to do is cut it out completely and see how much changes. We talk honestly about whether it's realistic to expect married men in sexless marriages to simply give up on intimacy forever, and where the healthy line actually sits. Then we go deep on the practical side. Does size actually matter? Sterling breaks down girth versus length and why men and women are usually talking about two completely different things. We cover the "technique trap" — the orgasm-obsessed mindset that keeps men racing to the finish line instead of building the experience — and why the female orgasm is doing far more for your marriage and your pair bond than you realize. Sterling explains how to pull a couple out of a dead bedroom by breaking the stress that gets anchored to your own home, why time apart is where desire is actually created, and how sexting is really just fully-clothed foreplay you can use all day long. We also talk about one of the most important shifts a married man can make: being decisive. Sterling and I both see the same thing constantly — men who've been told for two generations that making decisions is "controlling," when in reality a confident, decisive man is one of the most attractive things a woman can experience. We get into how that dominance and playfulness outside the bedroom feeds directly into what happens inside it, and how great sex has a way of ending the nagging and resetting the whole relationship. Finally, we flip it and speak directly to the women: the enthusiasm that beats any lingerie, the truth about the real male G-spot (it's not what you've been told), the anti-circumcision conversation nobody expects, and a dead-simple four-word system that takes all the guesswork out of pleasing each other — for both men and women. This one is honest, practical, science-backed, and yes — a little spicy. Grab a timestamp below and dive in.⏱️ Chapters0:00 – Sterling Cooper Comes to Vegas 0:36 – From Escort to Adult Film to #1 Bedroom Coach 4:02 – Why He Got Into the Industry 6:05 – Why He Walked Away From It 9:18 – Is Watching Adult Content Really That Bad? His Honest Take 11:47 – Adult Content, Dead Bedrooms & Married Men 12:44 – Does Size Actually Matter? Girth vs. Length 15:21 – What Actually Works for Enhancement 17:36 – The "Technique Trap" Most Men Fall Into 18:45 – Why the Female Orgasm Matters More Than You Think 21:10 – Guys, Make Some Noise (Give Her Feedback) 23:58 – Escaping the Dead Bedroom: Break the Stress Anchor 26:00 – Making the Ordinary Exciting Again 27:12 – How to Navigate Intimacy With Kids in the House 28:53 – Sexting as Fully-Clothed Foreplay 30:54 – Why Time Apart Is Where Desire Lives 32:08 – Male Friends, Testosterone & Polarity 33:11 – Sterling's Favorite Technique (Orgasm Denial) 36:49 – The Art of Teasing: Build It, Don't Rush It 38:46 – How Great Sex Ends the Nagging 40:20 – Being Congruent: Lead In and Out of the Bedroom 43:03 – Stay Hot. Stay Decisive. 44:24 – Why Men Stopped Being Decisive 49:06 – For the Ladies: The Real Male G-Spot 51:04 – The Four-Word System for Better Oral 56:21 – Enthusiasm Is the Female Superpower 58:03 – Biohacking His Evolutionary Wiring 1:01:28 – The #1 Strategy for a Happy Marriage 1:02:03 – Where to Find Sterling

  5. Jul 6

    Rollo Tomassi: The Real Fix for Your Sexless Marriage

    Rollo Tomassi — the godfather of the manosphere and author of *The Rational Male* — sits down with me in Vegas to talk about what actually keeps a marriage hot for decades. We go deep on why he's been married 30 years while everyone insists a "red pill" guy can't be, why he's not anti-marriage but *anti the way we do marriage now*, and the exact framework he gives men stuck in a sexless marriage. If you're a married man wondering how to turn desire back on — or a wife who wants to understand what's really driving attraction — this one's for you. We cover Money, Muscles & Game, the truth about hypergamy, validational vs. transactional sex, why women marry a lifestyle instead of a man, the "reconstruction project" for men who woke up already married, mental point of origin, and the biology behind jealousy and cuckolding. This is the conversation the traditional-conservative crowd and the angry men's-coach crowd both avoid — because neither knows what to do with a guy who's been happily married for three decades and still teaches raw male-female dynamics. ⏱️ **Chapters below.** Grab your timestamp and dive in. 0:00 – How Monica & Rollo Connected (The DM Slide) 0:34 – The Godfather of the Manosphere: Rollo's 24-Year Origin Story 4:26 – How the Red Pill Space Has Changed 7:08 – Why an Entire Generation of Men Lost Their Social Skills 8:34 – The "666" Myth — Where It Actually Came From 11:16 – Money, Muscles & Game Explained 14:12 – Why Guys Can't Read Male Banter Anymore 17:45 – The Beat-Up Toyota Story: How Rollo Stepped Into His Frame 25:11 – Is Rollo Actually Anti-Marriage? His Real Position 34:27 – Why Men Shouldn't Get Married Before 35 36:35 – How to Keep a Marriage Hot (Ending the Dead Bedroom) 40:42 – Validational vs. Transactional Sex 43:05 – 2025 Marriage Rates & the Rise of "Divorce Porn" 46:14 – A Wife's Responsibility & the Power of Pre-Selection 51:53 – Q&A: Is Hypergamy Too Simple a Model? 58:15 – Awakened While Married: The Reconstruction Project 1:04:35 – Lightning Round: Can Frame Fix a Desire Problem? 1:05:44 – Mental Point of Origin & Enlightened Self-Interest 1:10:51 – Cuckolding, Jealousy & the Biology Behind It 1:18:26 – Wrap-Up ``` 🔥 Get Her Naked. Keep Her Naked. — my full course on building long-term sexual attraction: smokinghotmarriage.com 📅 Book a 1-on-1 coaching call with me: calendly.com/monicaalmaguer 👥 Join the community (where these Q&A questions came from): https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about 📚 Rollo's books, including Reignite:https://amzn.to/4f1MyY2 🎙️ Rollo's podcast, The Rational Male: https://amzn.to/4y6YVe3 Follow Rollo Tomassi on X: https://x.com/RationalMale #ModernMarriage #RolloTomassi #TheRationalMale #Manosphere #DeadBedrood #MarriageAdvice #SexlessMarriage #MaleAttraction #Hypergamy #MensDatingAdvice #RelationshipCoach

  6. Jul 1

    Why Having Kids Kills Her Sex Drive — And What You Can Do About It

    Nobody warns you about this one. You get the "your life is about to change" congratulations after a pregnancy announcement — but nobody tells you exactly what that change means for your sex life. Once kids enter the marriage, for a lot of men, his sex life leaves. And it's usually not on purpose. In this episode I break down the real biology behind it — the testosterone gap that already puts her libido behind yours before kids even show up, then what pregnancy hormones, breastfeeding, and prolactin do to shut the whole system down. I also get into why libido and desire are not the same thing, why the marital bed matters more than people think, what "touched out" actually means, and how her identity shift from wife to mom can quietly bury the woman you married. But this isn't a free pass for either of you. I lay out what you owe her during this season — and what she owes you, including the six-month-to-a-year window where hormones are a legitimate explanation... and what it means if you're still sexless well past that point. If you're in a marriage where the kids became the built-in excuse, this one's for you. 🏡 JOIN MONICA'S COMMUNITY 👉 https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Inside the community you get: ✅ Early access to videos ✅ Free twice-monthly group coaching calls ✅ Direct access to ask Monica questions ✅ Podcast notes ✅ Support from a community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience 📞 WORK WITH MONICA Interested in 1-on-1 coaching? Book a call today: 👉 calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Want to fast-track your results? Check out the course: 👉 https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Have a question? Email: 📩 ChilatMedia@gmail.com 📱 FOLLOW MONICA Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast X / Twitter → https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer Spotify Podcast → https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 All Links → https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer --- #deadbedroom #sexlessmarriage #lowlibido #marriageadvice #kidsandmarriage #ModernMarriageWithMonica #KeepHerNaked

  7. Jun 16

    Why Divorce Always Has to Be on the Table to Get Your Wife to Desire Sex and Have a Happy Marriage

    Check Out My Course https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Most men think staying in a bad marriage is the noble thing to do. But what if the very fact that you'll never leave is the reason your marriage is dying? In this video I'm pulling back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood concepts in marriage — and honestly one that most coaches, therapists, and relationship experts will never touch because it makes people uncomfortable. We're talking about why divorce needs to always be on the table, what it actually means to be willing to walk away, and why that willingness is the one thing standing between you and a wife who genuinely respects and desires you. Here's what nobody tells you. A marriage where divorce is never an option is not a thriving marriage — it's a stalemate. When a woman knows you will never leave no matter how she treats you, she has zero motivation to show up as the wife you deserve. Not because she's a bad person. Because that's human nature. We all respond to consequences. Remove the consequences and you remove the incentive. This is not about threatening your wife. This is not about manipulation. This is not about blowing up your family. This is about becoming a man whose standards are real, whose boundaries mean something, and whose presence in the marriage is a choice — not a guarantee. There is a massive difference between a man who stays because he has no other option and a man who stays because he chooses to every single day. She feels that difference. And it changes everything. If your wife has stopped treating you like a priority, if the intimacy has dried up, if the respect has eroded, if you feel more like a roommate or a paycheck than a husband — this video is for you. And if you're a man of faith who's wrestling with whether any of this even applies to you, I address that too. Because your faith does not require you to accept a marriage without intimacy, respect, or connection. This is just part one. In the next video we go even deeper — into why she needs to see you as her best option and exactly how to make sure she does. Videos Referenced: When Is It Time to Leave a Sexless Marriage? | Dead Bedroom Advice for Men https://youtu.be/3MBw7GISDpg The Hidden Truth About Sex, Marriage & Divorce in Scripture: For Men Suffering in a Dead Bedroomhttps://youtu.be/urt7LVT3C8Y Benefits Include: 1. Early Access to Videos 2. Free Twice Monthly Group Coaching Calls 3. Ability to ask Monica Questions Directly 4. Podcast Notes 5. The support of the community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience. Contact Monica: Interested in Coaching? Book a call today! calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com Want to Fast Track Your Relationship Results? Check Out My Course https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Socials: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer #MarriageAdvice #DeadBedroom #ModernMarriageWithMonica #MarriedMen #RelationshipCoach #ChristianMarriage #MarriageHelp #LowLibido #SexlessMarriage #RelationshipCoach

  8. Jun 7

    Should Wives Obey Their Husbands? The Honest Answer That Even Churches Refuse to Say Out Loud

    Pearl Davis has been standing outside churches with a sign asking one simple question: should a wife obey her husband? And the wildest part is who's pushing back. Not the secular crowd you'd expect — the Christians. The people whose own book is clear about it. In this conversation I sat down with Robin and Avis to dig into why that word — obey, submit — makes even faithful women flinch, and why almost every objection ends up in the same place: "I'll submit if he's worthy." Which sounds reasonable until you realize it's the loophole that swallows the whole thing. Because the second she gets to decide what counts as worthy, her version of the truth always wins. There's no structure left. There's just two people who never actually agreed on who makes the call. We get into the part nobody wants to admit: someone has to be the tiebreaker. You can talk it out forever, but "we'll just keep discussing it" is a fantasy that holds right up until the day you genuinely can't agree — and then what? In my own marriage, I give my opinion, my husband hears it, and he makes the decision. Not so we land on a consensus. So he understands where I'm standing before he carries the weight. And here's the part I want every husband watching to hear clearly: this is not "I'm the leader, now bow down." A man who doesn't use his wife as a sounding board is being an idiot. Get the input. Gather everything you can. Make the smartest call for your family. But the responsibility lands on you — and that's exactly what makes it a gift to her, not a punishment. Because the wife who thinks it's her job to police her husband, to catch every wrong call and twist the knife when he gets it wrong, will never relax in her own marriage. She can't. She's appointed herself the corrections officer. Take that role away and something softens. She finally gets to stop carrying a load that was never hers. We also get into the question for the women who aren't religious at all — what's the actual benefit here, faith aside? There's a real one. We talk about it. If you've ever felt blindsided in your own marriage, or you're trying to build something that lasts, this one's for you. Follow Rob and Avis Ramble on X: https://x.com/rob_avis_ramble Join Monica's Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Benefits Include: 1. Early Access to Videos 2. Free Twice Monthly Group Coaching Calls 3. Ability to ask Monica Questions Directly 4. Podcast Notes 5. The support of the community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience. Contact Monica: Interested in Coaching? Book a call today! calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com Want to Fast Track Your Relationship Results? Check Out My Course https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Socials: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 #ModernMarriage #Submission #MarriageAdvice #Polarity #PearlDavis

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A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks. But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast! Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive. If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!

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  • Creator
    Monica Almaguer
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    20
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2024 All rights reserved.
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    Modern Marriage with Monica

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