Modern Marriage with Monica

Monica Almaguer
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A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks. But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast! Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive. If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!

  1. 6d ago

    How to be a Great ”Provider” Without Losing Your Wife and Marriage in the Process

    Every entrepreneur tells himself the same lie: "I'm doing this FOR my family." Then his marriage crumbles while his bank account grows. This interview with serial entrepreneur Chaz Wolfe exposes the real problem—and the system that fixes it. Chaz has built and sold multiple businesses while keeping his marriage and family thriving. Here's what separates him from the guy grinding himself into divorce: ✓ Why most entrepreneurs DON'T use an operating system (and why this destroys their marriages) ✓ The specific delegation framework that works in business AND at home ✓ How to assign roles to eliminate resentment (and mental load) in your marriage ✓ What your wife actually needs to hear about commitment ✓ Managing high testosterone, impulse control, and sexual energy as a man ✓ The spiritual component to sexual intimacy most couples are missing ✓ How to build a family unit that operates like a championship team Chaz breaks down the granular details—from who owns the dishes to how to design your home like you'd design a company. This isn't soft marriage advice. This is practical systems thinking applied to the life you actually live. If you're building a business and wondering why your marriage is falling apart, or if you're struggling to balance ambition with presence at home, this one's for you. RESOURCES: Gathering The Kings: gatheringthekings.com Follow Chaz: @chazwolfe Join Monica's Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Benefits Include: 1. Early Access to Videos 2. Free Twice Monthly Group Coaching Calls 3. Ability to ask Monica Questions Directly 4. Podcast Notes 5. The support of the community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience. 6. Attend live in person podcasts with famous guests for FREE. Contact Monica: Interested in Coaching? Book a call today! calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com 🔥 Modern Marriage with Monica | Smoking Hot Marriage Method https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Socials: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer #Marriage #Entrepreneurship #MasculineFeminine #RelationshipAdvice #BusinessSystems #CouplesDynamics

  2. Sep 7

    Why Your Wife Won’t Initiate Sex (And It’s Not About You)

    Think your wife should want sex as much as you do? Think again. Most men don't understand why their wives rarely initiate—and that misunderstanding is creating resentment, disappointment, and ultimately, a sexless marriage. In this video, I break down the biological differences between male and female desire and explain why your wife's lack of initiation has nothing to do with how attracted she is to you. You'll learn: Why women don't think about sex the way men do The difference between spontaneous vs. responsive desire How stress affects male vs. female libido differently Why receptivity is a better measure of desire than initiation The critical distinction between attraction, libido, and desire How sexual leadership actually works in marriage What happens when you stop resenting her lack of initiation This isn't about accepting a mediocre sex life. It's about understanding your wife's biology so you can stop creating stories about what her lack of initiation means—and start building the smoking hot marriage you both want. The skeleton meme exists for a reason. But waiting for your wife to initiate the way you do? That's setting yourself up for disappointment. Learn what actually works. Watch this if: Your wife rarely or never initiates sex You feel undesired or rejected in your marriage You're stuck in a sexless or low-sex marriage You want to understand female desire You're looking for real solutions, not therapy-speak Join Monica's Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Benefits Include: 1. Early Access to Videos 2. Free Twice Monthly Group Coaching Calls 3. Ability to ask Monica Questions Directly 4. Podcast Notes 5. The support of the community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience. 6. Attend live in person podcasts with famous guests for FREE. Contact Monica: Interested in Coaching? Book a call today! calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com Want to Fast Track Your Relationship Results? Check Out My Course https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Socials: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer

  3. Sep 1

    6 Things Married Women Get Wrong About Sex | What’s Killing Your Marriage

    Most married women believe things about sex that are completely wrong—and it's destroying their marriages. These 6 misconceptions don't just damage intimacy; they're the reason husbands check out, feel rejected, and eventually look elsewhere. In this video, I'm breaking down exactly what married women get wrong about sex—and why these beliefs are costing them their relationships: Sex is just physical You should say no if you're not in the mood Your experience in the bedroom should be all on him I never vowed to have sex He should just be okay with being celibate Sex is weaponization and control If your marriage feels distant, cold, or disconnected, this video might be the wake-up call you need. Understanding how your husband's brain works when it comes to sex isn't about being his "toy"—it's about recognizing his primary love language and choosing to speak it. Sex isn't a luxury in marriage. It's the foundation. And when you withhold it, refuse to take responsibility for your own pleasure, or use it as a weapon—you're not protecting yourself. You're destroying the one thing that holds a marriage together. This is for women who are ready to stop making excuses and start saving their marriages. SUBSCRIBE for weekly content on marriage, sex, intimacy, and what actually makes relationships work from a male perspective. Join Monica's Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Benefits Include: 1. Early Access to Videos 2. Free Twice Monthly Group Coaching Calls 3. Ability to ask Monica Questions Directly 4. Podcast Notes 5. The support of the community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience. 6. Attend live in person podcasts with famous guests for FREE. Contact Monica: Interested in Coaching? Book a call today! calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com Want to Fast Track Your Relationship Results? Check Out My Course https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Socials: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almague #MarriageAdvice #SexInMarriage #MarriageCoach #RelationshipAdvice #WifeTips #MarriageProblems #SexlessMarriage #CouplesTherapy

  4. Aug 17

    5 Things I Can Say That Your Therapist Can’t (Sexless Marriage Truths)

    Your therapist has their place. But there are 5 things I can say that they can't—and those are the things that actually change marriages. Therapists operate under laws, codes, and ethical boundaries designed to keep them neutral. That's their job. But sometimes neutrality keeps couples stuck. Sometimes the truth needs to cut through the noise. In this video, I break down the 5 uncomfortable truths about dead bedrooms, attraction, and what actually fixes a marriage: ✓ #1: "Your Wife Isn't Attracted to You" (And why therapists dance around this) ✓ #2: "She's Stringing You Along" (When behavior tells the real story) ✓ #3: "It's You" (Not her—why you're the variable you can control) ✓ #4: "Freedom Comes When You Stop Caring About the Outcome" (The paradox that changes everything) ✓ #5: "Your Wife Owes You Sex" (And the flip side—you owe her a man worth wanting) What you'll learn: Why therapists can't say the things that actually work How to spot when she's stringing you along (vs. genuinely trying) The moment everything shifts (and why it's rarely what you think) How obligation and genuine desire work together The paradox: Fix your marriage by being willing to lose it Real talk: Therapy is valuable for addiction, infidelity, abuse—things that need professional depth. But for dead bedrooms? For attraction? For the day-to-day navigation of a sexless marriage? That's where coaching cuts through. This is what I teach in The Smoking Hot Marriage Method course—the full breakdown of how to be the man your wife actually wants. https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Join Monica's Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Benefits Include: 1. Early Access to Videos 2. Free Twice Monthly Group Coaching Calls 3. Ability to ask Monica Questions Directly 4. Podcast Notes 5. The support of the community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience. Contact Monica: Interested in Coaching? Book a call today! calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com Socials: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer

  5. Aug 11

    The Playbook to Genuine Sexual Desire (It’s Not Reason, Logic, or Shame)

    The real playbook for genuine desire isn't what most men think. If your wife isn't showing up for you sexually, the problem usually isn't her—it's that she's simply not attracted to you enough. And here's what most men get wrong: you can't logic, shame, or scripture her into genuine desire. That only creates obligatory sex with a woman who's mentally checked out. The real playbook works with how women actually operate—through their feelings, their attraction, and their respect. In this video, I break down: ✓ Why the male playbook (logic, reason, obligation) backfires every time ✓ The 6 main reasons attraction dies in long-term marriages ✓ The 3-part formula: Attraction + Respect + Fear of Loss ✓ How to activate genuine desire by working with her biology, not against it ✓ Why "Beast Mode" matters more than you think ✓ What happens when you get the playbook right (and wrong) The hard truth: You can play this perfectly and she might still not respond. But when you do, you have absolute assurance that you showed up—and that's everything. This is exactly what I teach in my complete method. Full breakdown in The Smoking Hot Marriage Method course. Join Monica's Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Benefits Include: 1. Early Access to Videos 2. Free Twice Monthly Group Coaching Calls 3. Ability to ask Monica Questions Directly 4. Podcast Notes 5. The support of the community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience. Contact Monica: Interested in Coaching? Book a call today! calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com Want to Fast Track Your Relationship Results? Check Out My Course https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Socials: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer Sexless marriage low libido wife marriage advice for men how to attract your wife genuine desire attraction in marriage marriage communication married men wife not interested in sex how to fix sexless marriage marriage tips male perspective marriage relationship advice marriage coaching Why women lose attraction how to get wife attracted to you again marriage without sex men's perspective on marriage real marriage advice for men keeping attraction alive in marriage

  6. Aug 3

    Trapped In A Sexless Marriage? The Divorce Already Happened

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  7. Jul 28

    Why Women Don’t Need Respect (And What They Actually Need Instead)

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  8. Jul 13

    #1 Bedroom Coach Stirling Cooper Reveals How to Bring the Passion Back (Married Men Listen)

    Sterling Cooper — former high-class escort, ex-adult film performer, and now one of the most in-demand bedroom coaches in the world — sits down with me in Vegas to talk about what actually keeps the passion alive in a marriage. Sterling brings something rare to the table: a combination of real-world experience in the adult industry and a background in pharmaceutical chemistry, so he understands both the psychology and the biology of what's happening between two people. We get into the stuff most couples never say out loud — the questions men are too embarrassed to ask their friends and the things women wish they understood about their husbands. We start with Sterling's story: how he went from a chemistry career to working as an escort for wealthy businesswomen, into adult film, and finally to coaching men and women full-time after seeing how much they were struggling. From there we get into why habitual adult online content quietly wrecks so many men in the bedroom, and why the very first thing Sterling tells a struggling guy to do is cut it out completely and see how much changes. We talk honestly about whether it's realistic to expect married men in sexless marriages to simply give up on intimacy forever, and where the healthy line actually sits. Then we go deep on the practical side. Does size actually matter? Sterling breaks down girth versus length and why men and women are usually talking about two completely different things. We cover the "technique trap" — the orgasm-obsessed mindset that keeps men racing to the finish line instead of building the experience — and why the female orgasm is doing far more for your marriage and your pair bond than you realize. Sterling explains how to pull a couple out of a dead bedroom by breaking the stress that gets anchored to your own home, why time apart is where desire is actually created, and how sexting is really just fully-clothed foreplay you can use all day long. We also talk about one of the most important shifts a married man can make: being decisive. Sterling and I both see the same thing constantly — men who've been told for two generations that making decisions is "controlling," when in reality a confident, decisive man is one of the most attractive things a woman can experience. We get into how that dominance and playfulness outside the bedroom feeds directly into what happens inside it, and how great sex has a way of ending the nagging and resetting the whole relationship. Finally, we flip it and speak directly to the women: the enthusiasm that beats any lingerie, the truth about the real male G-spot (it's not what you've been told), the anti-circumcision conversation nobody expects, and a dead-simple four-word system that takes all the guesswork out of pleasing each other — for both men and women. This one is honest, practical, science-backed, and yes — a little spicy. Grab a timestamp below and dive in.⏱️ Chapters0:00 – Sterling Cooper Comes to Vegas 0:36 – From Escort to Adult Film to #1 Bedroom Coach 4:02 – Why He Got Into the Industry 6:05 – Why He Walked Away From It 9:18 – Is Watching Adult Content Really That Bad? His Honest Take 11:47 – Adult Content, Dead Bedrooms & Married Men 12:44 – Does Size Actually Matter? Girth vs. Length 15:21 – What Actually Works for Enhancement 17:36 – The "Technique Trap" Most Men Fall Into 18:45 – Why the Female Orgasm Matters More Than You Think 21:10 – Guys, Make Some Noise (Give Her Feedback) 23:58 – Escaping the Dead Bedroom: Break the Stress Anchor 26:00 – Making the Ordinary Exciting Again 27:12 – How to Navigate Intimacy With Kids in the House 28:53 – Sexting as Fully-Clothed Foreplay 30:54 – Why Time Apart Is Where Desire Lives 32:08 – Male Friends, Testosterone & Polarity 33:11 – Sterling's Favorite Technique (Orgasm Denial) 36:49 – The Art of Teasing: Build It, Don't Rush It 38:46 – How Great Sex Ends the Nagging 40:20 – Being Congruent: Lead In and Out of the Bedroom 43:03 – Stay Hot. Stay Decisive. 44:24 – Why Men Stopped Being Decisive 49:06 – For the Ladies: The Real Male G-Spot 51:04 – The Four-Word System for Better Oral 56:21 – Enthusiasm Is the Female Superpower 58:03 – Biohacking His Evolutionary Wiring 1:01:28 – The #1 Strategy for a Happy Marriage 1:02:03 – Where to Find Sterling

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A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks. But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast! Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive. If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!

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  • Creator
    Monica Almaguer
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    20
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2024 All rights reserved.
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    Modern Marriage with Monica

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