The Golden Ball

Jung Platform

How depth psychology can help you play the game of life in a more fulfilling way. Three depth psychologists, one of them a former World Cup soccer player, explore soccer as a metaphor for life. 

Episodes

  1. 2h ago ·  Video

    Believing in Yourself

    What does it really mean to believe in yourself? And when does that belief become the very thing that gets in your way? In this episode Self-belief is one of the most talked about qualities in sport and in life. But what actually is it? And why does telling someone to "just believe in yourself" so often miss the mark entirely? In this episode, three depth psychologists, one of them a former World Cup soccer player, sit down to explore one of the most nuanced psychological balancing acts a person can face. Not just how to build self-belief, but how to hold it lightly enough that it stays alive, honest, and genuinely useful. The conversation moves between the soccer field and the inner life, between mythology and the nervous system, between Messi sensing destiny in the 2022 World Cup final and a young drummer who discovered that loving something and being talented at it are not always the same thing. What you will hear: The difference between self-belief, self-confidence, self-efficacy, and self-concept. Why they are related but not the same, and why the distinction matters.Why telling someone to believe in themselves is often not only unhelpful but can make things worse. And what actually works instead.The role of the mentor. How a single person seeing something in you can unlock a freedom that no amount of internal pep talk can reach. John shares how Jan Wouters at Ajax changed the trajectory of his career simply by believing in him first.How self-belief connects to inner authority. The ability to make choices that are in alignment with your own nature rather than living by the rules of an outer authority.Why the shadow matters here. The parts of yourself you prefer to keep hidden have a way of undermining self-belief from beneath. You cannot fully believe in yourself while hiding from yourself.The myth of Icarus. What happens when belief tips into grandiosity, when the cheering of the stadium, the praise of the agent, and the worship of the crowd convinces a player they no longer need to do the defensive work.The placebo effect as a reality-creating principle. Why what you believe about the future actually shapes what becomes possible.Messi and the sense of destiny. The difference between trying to believe and simply knowing. And whether that kind of knowing can be cultivated or only received.The practical wisdom of chunking. You do not need to believe you will win the whole tournament. You only need to believe you can beat the next team. You do not need to believe you will write a great book. You only need to believe you can write the first chapter.One insight that stays: Self-belief is not a destination. It is not something you achieve once and then check off. It is an art. And like all art, it needs practice, joy, and a willingness to keep showing up without a guarantee of how it will turn out. The question we leave you with: Think of something that truly matters to you. What would you do differently if you genuinely believed you could?  We would love to hear your answer. Share it with us at hello@thegoldenball.fm  About the hosts John O'Brien is a former World Cup soccer player and sports psychologist who combines performance tools with sand, symbols, and imagination to help athletes and others perform and understand themselves more deeply. johnobriensportpsych.com Machiel Klerk is a psychotherapist, founder of Jung Platform, and lifelong lover of the game. machielklerk.com  Akke-Jeanne Klerk is a personal development coach, teacher, and co-founder of Jung Platform. akkejeanneklerk.com  The Golden Ball — where depth psychology and soccer help us play life better.

    45 min
  2. Jun 4 ·  Video

    Striving for Gold

    What are you really chasing? The literal gold the world can see, or, the gold only you can feel?  In this episode With the World Cup on the horizon, three depth psychologists and one of them a former World Cup player sit down to explore one of the most universal human questions: what does it mean to strive for gold? On the pitch, and also in your career, your relationships, and your daily life. John O'Brien, who played in two World Cups, opens by saying that striving for gold requires, paradoxically, a kind of non-striving. A letting go. A trust in yourself that no amount of external pressure can replace. From there the conversation moves into territory that goes far beyond sport. What you will hear: The difference between external gold and internal gold. And why confusing the two can quietly undermine everything you are working toward. The myth of King Midas: what happens when the hunger for status and recognition becomes the thing that poisons the very life you were trying to build. The story of a high-potential athlete turned finance professional who kept getting promoted, until one day the promotion arrived and the fulfilment did not. Why fear is not the enemy of peak performance. It is the entrance ticket. And what a healthy relationship with fear actually looks like on the pitch and off it. The three strategies we all use to avoid the vulnerability that gold requires: avoidance, control, and compliance. How to spot them in players, coaches, journalists, and yourself. How to watch the World Cup differently and learn about your own psychology.  And finally, where each of the three hosts finds their own gold. In creativity, in presence, in the moments when time disappears. The image that stays: A princess plays with her golden ball at the edge of a well. It slips. It falls into the water. A frog appears and offers to retrieve it, for a price. The gold was never lost. It was always there. The question is only what you are willing to do to get back in touch with it. A key insight from this episode: The gold is already present. It is not something you have to create or earn or prove. The talent, the spontaneous inclination to express yourself, is already in you. The inner work is not about becoming someone different. It is about trusting what is already there enough to let it show. The question we leave you with: Do you show up for what truly matters to you? We answered it in this episode. We would love to hear yours. Share your answer with us: hello@thegoldenball.fm  About the hosts John O'Brien is a former World Cup soccer player and sports psychologist who combines performance tools with symbol, sand, and imagination to help athletes understand themselves more deeply. johnobriensportpsych.com Machiel Klerk is a psychotherapist, founder of Jung Platform, and lifelong lover of the game. machielklerk.com Akke-Jeanne Klerk is a personal development coach, teacher, and co-founder of Jung Platform. akkejeanneklerk.com The Golden Ball — where depth psychology and the beautiful game help us play life better.

    47 min
  3. Jun 1 ·  Video

    Introduction

    When we watch soccer, something happens that has nothing to do with the game and everything to do with it.  In this introduction, three depth psychologists and one of them a former world cup soccer player, explain why this podcast exists, and answer the question that will run through every episode to come: when did you fall in love with the game? And what were you really falling in love with? What this podcast is about The Golden Ball works on three levels. First, the game itself: what psychological attitudes make you a better player? How do you handle pressure, lead, lose, and recover? Then the same questions turn toward daily life. Everything that happens on the pitch also happens at home, at work, and in the quiet moments in between. And then through a depth psychological lens, the big questions emerge. What is winning really about? What are the values that secretly drive the way we play the game of life? And what does it mean to step onto any field, in sport or in life, with full courage and full presence? This podcast is an invitation to look at the game differently. Not just as a sport, but as a metaphor for life. In this episode Three personal stories about falling in love with the game. Each one different, each one pointing at the same thing underneath. Akke-Jeanne remembers standing outside the Olympic Stadium in Amsterdam in 1994, AJAX about to face AC Milan, the reigning European champions. The atmosphere was electric before a ball had even been kicked. What she took away that night had nothing to do with the result. It had everything to do with a question she still carries: when I face something that feels much larger than me, do I step in with courage? or do I shrink? John describes the feeling that starts before the game even begins. Looking out at a big open green field, white lines, colorful uniforms, and feeling his skin begin to tingle. For him, soccer has always been a language, one that travels across cultures, backgrounds, and borders. A language of the feet. Machiel traces his love back to the streets of the Netherlands, to his father's stories about heroic players, to the dreams in which Johan Cruyff still appears. Two great loves, depth psychology and soccer, that have always, for him, been the same thing in different clothes. Why they said yes to creating this podcast Sometimes an idea arrives that feels less like a decision and more like an invitation. All three said yes to play, to explore, to sit together with two things they love and see what they have to teach each other and anyone willing to listen. The question we leave you with: When did you fall in love with the game? And what were you really falling in love with? We answered it. We would love to hear yours. Share your answer with us at helllo@thegoldenball.fm  About the hosts John O'Brien is a former World Cup soccer player and sports psychologist who combines performance tools with symbol, sand, and imagination to help athletes understand themselves more deeply. johnobriensportpsych.com Machiel Klerk is a psychotherapist, founder of Jung Platform, and lifelong lover of the game. machielklerk.com  Akke-Jeanne Klerk is a personal development coach, psychology teacher and co-founder of Jung Platform. akkejeanneklerk.com  The Golden Ball is a podcast sponsored by Jung Platform; the largest global platform for depth psychology. Jung Platform offers courses and certificate programs. Website: jungplatform.com The Golden Ball, where depth psychology and the beautiful game help us play life better.

    11 min

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How depth psychology can help you play the game of life in a more fulfilling way. Three depth psychologists, one of them a former World Cup soccer player, explore soccer as a metaphor for life. 

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