In this episode, Arnold Beekes asks what seems like an easy question: what do you want? He remembers being asked it by a coach 25 years ago, after he had lost his job, was going through a divorce and had lost his father. He spent the session listing what he didn’t want, no boss, no large corporation, and the coach asked what he did want. He had no idea, and nobody had ever asked him before, not his parents, teachers or bosses, who mostly want you to do or be something. That started his journey to understand who he is. Arnold explains why focusing on what you don’t want backfires: where your attention goes is what you attract, like being told not to think of a pink elephant. He gives Anita Moorjani, who grew up being told constantly not to get cancer and then did, and Brian Johnson’s Don’t Die movement as examples of focusing on what you want to avoid. He suggests focusing on what you do want, accepting that it changes as you grow, so choose for the next few years rather than for life. He also says money is not the answer, noting that the millionaires he played golf with were mostly unhappy and unhealthy. His practical exercise is to split life into areas and write down what you want in each, one topic per week, then repeat it every year or two. His inner life areas are mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health, creativity, learning, work, family, home, money, service and nature, and his outer life areas are the senses, nutrition, sleep, exercise, recovery, the people around you and your environment. Right now what he wants most is silence. The episode closes with an everyday beauty story about research from a Nigerian university on water in diesel emulsion, which across 35 peer-reviewed studies cut nitrogen oxides by 67 percent and particulate matter by 68 percent, stays stable for up to 60 days and needs no engine modification. 🔗 About Your Host (Arnold Beekes) 🌐 Website: https://bio.link/beekes 💪 Brain Gym: https://braingym.fitness 🧠 Brain Athletes: https://brainathletes.club 🚀 Innovation Athletes: https://innovationathletes.club 🎓 Join our Skool brain-fitness community: https://www.skool.com/brain-fitness-7070 Roy Coughlan · The Podfather Network — Editor & Promoter Website: https://roycoughlan.com/ Virtual Assistants: https://va.world/ Private Networking Group: Learn about a Private Networking Group in 50 US States & 50 Countries with 700+ Members https://connectedleaders.academy Brain Upgrade: https://brainupgrade.org/ The Authority Alliance: A Foundation of Experts — community for entrepreneurs, coaches, and thought leaders to connect, collaborate, and grow their authority together: https://theauthorityalliance.com/ EMF Protection: https://protectfromemf.org/ Health & Wellness: https://podfather.thefrequencyawakening.com/ #BetweenTheEars #BrainUpgrade #WhatDoYouWant #Attention #EverydayBeauty #ArnoldBeekes #SelfAwareness
