MADRES & Desmadres

Mirlein Tovar, Lili Aquino, & Esme Buchan

Instagram: @madres.and.desmadres Motherhood is beautiful, exhausting, hilarious, messy… and sometimes completely unhinged.  MADRES & Desmadres is where three comadres sit down, pour the cafecito, or the wine, and talk about the things we’re all thinking but don’t always say out loud. From motherhood and marriage to parenting, friendships, family, work, relationships, body changes, mental load, menopause, and the everyday chaos of trying to keep everyone—and ourselves—together… we’re talking about it all. No perfect moms. No perfect lives. No pretending we have it all figured out. Just real women, real stories, different perspectives, honest conversations, and plenty of laughs—with a little Spanglish and a whole lot of desmadre along the way. Because sometimes you don’t need advice… you just need a friend to say, “Girl… ME TOO.” Pull up a chair, grab your cafecito, pour the wine, and join the conversation. MADRES & Desmadres — Real moms. Real life. A little desmadre. 

Episodes

  1. 3d ago

    From Treats To Traditions

    Send us Fan Mail Music:  "Quiere Una" by Azucares, the Illstrumentalist, licensed under Epidemic Sound.  Original work available at https://www.epidemicsound.com/music/tracks/29d58a25-051f-40b0-99e0-f66e26a49fea/ Halloween may be about costumes, candy, and spooky fun, but the traditions we carry with us go much deeper. In this episode of MADRES & DESMADRES, we take a trip down memory lane to revisit our favorite Halloween memories, compare childhood traditions with motherhood today, and share the meaning behind Día de los Muertos. From ofrendas and marigolds to favorite foods, family stories, and the loved ones who continue to shape our lives, we reflect on the beautiful ways we keep their memories alive and pass our traditions on to the next generation. Of course, we bring our usual cafecito, laughs, and a little desmadre along the way!  But we also make room for the heartfelt moments that remind us where we come from and what we hope our children will carry forward. Because traditions don’t have to stay exactly the same to remain meaningful. Sometimes, it’s the stories we tell, the memories we share, and the love we pass down that matter most. Dime, Madre… What family tradition do you hope your children carry on? Tune in, share this episode with your comadres, and join the conversation! MADRES & DESMADRES — Real Moms. Real Life. A Little Desmadre. And remember Madres, nobody has this shit figured out.  We're just doing our best, one desmadre at a time.

  2. Oct 23

    Is It Hot In Here Or Am I Having A Hot Flash?!

    Send us Fan Mail Music:  "Quiere Una" by Azucares, the Illstrumentalist, licensed under Epidemic Sound.  Original work available at https://www.epidemicsound.com/music/tracks/29d58a25-051f-40b0-99e0-f66e26a49fea/ Hot flashes, brain fog, mood swings, and forgetting why you walked into a room… comadres, nobody prepared us for THIS part of being a woman! In Episode 6 of Madres & Desmadres, we’re talking perimenopause and menopause—the symptoms nobody warned us about, the moments that make us question our sanity, and the struggle of trying to function at work when our bodies and brains seem to have other plans. We’re playing “Menopause or Nah?!”, sharing our own experiences, and getting into the big debate: Should women get paid menopause days off? If companies offer maternity leave, should they also recognize the challenges that can come with menopause? Or should workplaces focus on more flexible support for everyone? We’re laughing, keeping it real, and talking about what women actually need—from better education and healthcare to understanding, flexibility, and the freedom to speak up without feeling embarrassed. Because this isn’t just about hot flashes. It’s about our health, our work, and learning to navigate a new chapter of life without feeling like we have to suffer in silence. ¿Y tú, Madre? Would you use paid menopause days if your job offered them? Madres & Desmadres — real moms, real life, and a little desmadre.  Educational note: This episode is for general conversation and education, not personal medical advice. And remember Madres, nobody has this shit figured out.  We're just doing our best, one desmadre at a time.

  3. Oct 16

    When Did We Become The Señoras?!

    Send us Fan Mail Music:  "Quiere Una" by Azucares, the Illstrumentalist, licensed under Epidemic Sound.  Original work available at https://www.epidemicsound.com/music/tracks/29d58a25-051f-40b0-99e0-f66e26a49fea/ When did we go from staying out late to getting excited about canceled plans and being home by 9:30?  In this episode of Madres & Desmadres, we’re laughing about the moment we realized we’ve officially entered our señora era! From sounding just like our mothers and embracing our new habits to debating what actually counts as señora behavior, we’re sharing funny stories, embarrassing confessions, and plenty of relatable moments. But it’s not just about getting older. We’re also talking about how our priorities change, the boundaries we learn to set, and finding comfort in who we are instead of who we thought we’d be. Because maybe becoming a señora isn’t about getting older… it’s about finally becoming comfortable with yourself.  ¿Y tú, Madre? When did you realize you’d become a señora? Nobody has this shit figured out. We’re just doing our best, one desmadre at a time!  And remember Madres, nobody has this shit figured out.  We're just doing our best, one desmadre at a time.

  4. Oct 9

    Am I Crazy Or Just A Mom?

    Send us Fan Mail Music:  "Quiere Una" by Azucares, the Illstrumentalist, licensed under Epidemic Sound.  Original work available at https://www.epidemicsound.com/music/tracks/29d58a25-051f-40b0-99e0-f66e26a49fea/ Ever overthink everything, lose your patience over something tiny, or fantasize about hiding in the bathroom just to get five minutes of peace? Girl, same.  In this episode of Madres & Desmadres, we’re bringing in a Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) to help us unpack mom madness mode—the mental load, mom guilt, constant worrying, feeling overwhelmed, and why sometimes everyone talking at once is enough to send us over the edge. From hilarious mom confessions and “Is this normal, Doc?” moments to real questions from overwhelmed madres, we’re getting honest about what motherhood does to our minds and how we can give ourselves a little grace. Because sometimes we’re not crazy… we’re just carrying 20 things in our heads at once. ¿Y tú, Madre? Are you overwhelmed, overthinking, or just ready for five minutes of silence? Remember, Madres… nobody has this shit figured out. We’re just doing our best, one desmadre at a time! And remember Madres, nobody has this shit figured out.  We're just doing our best, one desmadre at a time.

  5. Oct 2

    Mom Has Plans Too!

    Send us Fan Mail Music:  "Quiere Una" by Azucares, the Illstrumentalist, licensed under Epidemic Sound.  Original work available at https://www.epidemicsound.com/music/tracks/29d58a25-051f-40b0-99e0-f66e26a49fea/ What happens when your kid has Homecoming… but Mom has a concert?  In this episode of Madres & Desmadres, we’re talking about the guilt that comes with making plans for ourselves while raising kids. From Homecoming and those “firsts” that feel so important, to concerts, girls’ nights, travel, and simply having a life outside of motherhood, we’re asking: Can moms choose themselves without feeling guilty? We get real about mom guilt, kids growing up, learning to let go, and the reminder that being a good mom doesn’t mean giving up who you are. Because sometimes choosing yourself doesn’t mean choosing your kids less. ¿Y tú, Madre? What would you do? Same Madres, new desmadre.  And remember Madres, nobody has this shit figured out.  We're just doing our best, one desmadre at a time.

  6. Sep 25

    So Much For The Plan

    Send us Fan Mail Music:  "Quiere Una" by Azucares, the Illstrumentalist, licensed under Epidemic Sound.  Original work available at https://www.epidemicsound.com/music/tracks/29d58a25-051f-40b0-99e0-f66e26a49fea/ Before kids, we had plans… and then motherhood had other plans for us.  In this episode of Madres & Desmadres, the three comadres take a trip down memory lane to talk about who they were before motherhood, the moms they thought they would become, and the reality that came with raising kids. From pregnancy surprises, sleepless newborn nights, toddler tantrums, and homework struggles to teenagers who challenge everything you thought you knew about parenting, we share the stories, laughs, and lessons that came along the way. We talk about the things we swore we’d never do as moms, the parts of our old selves we miss, becoming a “mama bear,” breaking generational patterns, and the things we believe we actually got right—being present, listening to our kids, showing affection, and learning to grow alongside them. And in true Madres & Desmadres fashion, there’s plenty of laughter, embarrassing mom confessions, a little desmadre, and a reminder that nobody has this shit figured out. So grab your cafecito—or your wine—and join us for another conversation about motherhood, life, and all the shit nobody warned us about.  And remember Madres, nobody has this shit figured out.  We're just doing our best, one desmadre at a time.

  7. Sep 18

    So...Who Let Us Start a Podcast?

    Send us Fan Mail Music:  "Quiere Una" by Azucares, the Illstrumentalist, licensed under Epidemic Sound.  Original work available at https://www.epidemicsound.com/music/tracks/29d58a25-051f-40b0-99e0-f66e26a49fea/ So… Who Let Us Start a Podcast? Well… we did.  In our very first episode of Madres & Desmadres, you’re officially meeting the three women behind the microphones. We’re telling you how we met, how our friendship came together, where the name Madres & Desmadres came from, and why we decided it was a good idea to start a podcast in the first place. We get into why we chose a Spanish name and what “desmadre” means to us and to the crazy lives we’re living. Then things get a little more personal with our “Who Knows the Comadre?” game, where we find out just how well we actually know each other.  Of course, we couldn’t start a podcast without talking about the madres part—motherhood, the things it has taught us, the things nobody warned us about, and the parts we can finally laugh about. We’re also getting real about why we started this podcast, what we’ll be talking about, and what you can expect from us—motherhood, relationships, friendship, getting older, work, body changes, everyday life, and all the beautiful chaos in between. So pull up a chair, grab your cafecito—or your wine—and hang out with us. Welcome to Madres & Desmadres.  And remember Madres, nobody has this shit figured out.  We're just doing our best, one desmadre at a time.

  8. Season 1, Episode 1 Trailer

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    Send us Fan Mail Music:  "Quiere Una" by Azucares, the Illstrumentalist, licensed under Epidemic Sound.  Original work available at https://www.epidemicsound.com/music/tracks/29d58a25-051f-40b0-99e0-f66e26a49fea/ Trailer. And remember Madres, nobody has this shit figured out.  We're just doing our best, one desmadre at a time.

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Instagram: @madres.and.desmadres Motherhood is beautiful, exhausting, hilarious, messy… and sometimes completely unhinged.  MADRES & Desmadres is where three comadres sit down, pour the cafecito, or the wine, and talk about the things we’re all thinking but don’t always say out loud. From motherhood and marriage to parenting, friendships, family, work, relationships, body changes, mental load, menopause, and the everyday chaos of trying to keep everyone—and ourselves—together… we’re talking about it all. No perfect moms. No perfect lives. No pretending we have it all figured out. Just real women, real stories, different perspectives, honest conversations, and plenty of laughs—with a little Spanglish and a whole lot of desmadre along the way. Because sometimes you don’t need advice… you just need a friend to say, “Girl… ME TOO.” Pull up a chair, grab your cafecito, pour the wine, and join the conversation. MADRES & Desmadres — Real moms. Real life. A little desmadre. 

Information

  • Creator
    Mirlein Tovar, Lili Aquino, & Esme Buchan
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    8
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 MADRES & Desmadres
  • Show Website
    MADRES & Desmadres

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