Relationship Advice

Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
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Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships. Looking for old episode from "Relatable"? Click here.

  1. 4d ago

    You Don’t See What I’m Carrying

    How often do we judge a partner’s apparent inaction while feeling entirely overwhelmed by our own stress? When everyday household friction erupts into an argument, the conflict is rarely about time management—it is a cry to have our unseen emotional burdens recognized. In this episode, we unpack the hidden internal loads partners carry and explore how shifting from quick assumptions to compassionate curiosity transforms relational strain into deep connection. Main Talking Points: Uncovering Invisible Emotional Loads Assessing Individual Daily Capacity Replacing Assumptions With Curiosity Validating Unseen Relational Strain Respecting Varying Nervous Capacities Connecting Beyond Full Understanding You do not need to fully comprehend every detail of your partner's internal struggle to offer meaningful relief. Relational safety grows the moment you pause, validate their experience, and acknowledge the weight in each other's backpacks. Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    You Don’t See What I’m Carrying

  2. Oct 15

    The Passion Triangle with Dr. Cheryl: QUICK ADVICE

    ⁠Click here to sign up for Relationship Academy Ready for the next step? Choose your Passion Masterclass time and learn how to bring more connection, intimacy, and passion back into your relationship: https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/masterclass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. Oct 12

    The Difference Between Being Loved and Being Liked with Jonathan Van Viegen

    Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Can a marriage survive when love remains, but genuine likability has eroded? In this episode, marriage and family therapist and author Jonathan Van Viegen joins us to explore why restoring mutual likability matters far more than obsessing over chore division or endless interrogation. We unpack how shifting from scarcity-driven "needs" to open "wants"—and balancing radical maturity with forgiveness—can transform relational injuries into lasting connection. Main Talking Points: Loving Versus Liking Curiosity Over Resentment Radical Behavioral Maturity Navigating Forgiveness Journeys Eliminating "Why" Interrogations Reframing Needs To Wants Rebuilding a thriving partnership isn't about perfection or scorekeeping; it's about showing up with the willingness to choose each other every day. Real connection unfolds when you trade defensive interrogation for curiosity and work together toward mutual abundance. Connect with Jonathan Van Viegen: Jonathan Van Viegen’s Book: Choosing Us https://jonathanvanviegen.com/book Jonathan Van Viegen's Website: https://jonathanvanviegen.com Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The Difference Between Being Loved and Being Liked with Jonathan Van Viegen

  4. Oct 8

    Finding The One? Try Becoming The One: QUICK ADVICE with Monica Berg

    Join our live coaching call tomorrow at 3pm EST for Relationship Advice listeners! Click here to sign up. Today is the last day to get in at the founders rate! Check out Monica's Masterclass Follow Monica on instagram Stop trying to “find the one” — focus on becoming the one.A strong relationship starts with knowing yourself: your values, purpose, patterns, and who you want to become. The danger is expecting a partner or marriage to somehow complete your growth for you. The right relationship should help you become more yourself, not less.Monica’s Michelangelo vs. Golem distinction is probably the strongest concept in the episode: a healthy partner helps reveal a version of you that you also want to become. An unhealthy dynamic tries to sculpt you into the person they want you to be. Relationship satisfaction has a lot to do with how we interpret our partner.Early on, we naturally magnify the positive; later, we can start magnifying the negative. Healthy relationships require intentionally cultivating appreciation, challenging our assumptions, and reframing what’s happening instead of automatically concluding, “My partner is the problem.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. Oct 5

    The Fight Is Not About The Fight

    Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Why do small everyday annoyances so easily turn into explosive arguments? When couples get stuck in repetitive friction, the surface issue is rarely the real battleground. In this episode, we explore how superficial conflicts actually point to deeper emotional needs, and how stepping back allows you to move from defensive cycles into genuine connection. Main Talking Points: Underlying Relational Drivers Power And Control Closeness And Care Respect And Recognition Window Of Tolerance Intention Versus Impact True relational resolution isn't about winning an argument over surface logistics, but about creating enough safety to understand what is truly being triggered. When you look past the immediate friction, every conflict becomes an opportunity to deepen trust and mutual care. Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The Fight Is Not About The Fight

  6. Sep 28

    Why You Keep Having the Same Sex feat. Laurie Watson

    Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Why do so many couples find themselves stuck repeating the same awkward sexual patterns or avoiding physical intimacy altogether? True sexual connection isn't about forced perfection or quick mechanical fixes, but about building attachment security and communicating openly about your erotic mind. In this episode, Dr. Laurie Watson unpacks how to navigate desire discrepancies, tolerate vulnerability, and reframe sexual friction into deeper relational safety. Main Talking Points: Sex Therapy Beyond Mechanics Tolerating Awkward Intimacy Attachment In The Bedroom Individuation Fueling Erotic Energy Managing Desire Discrepancies Debunking Common Sex Myths Great sex doesn't require flawless performance, but rather the courage to tolerate anxiety, honor differences, and stay curious about one another. When you turn sexual friction into honest dialogue, awkwardness becomes a doorway to genuine connection. Visit Dr. Laurie Watson's Website: https://www.lauriewatson.com Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Why You Keep Having the Same Sex feat. Laurie Watson

  7. Sep 24

    Why You Keep Dating The Same Person In A Different Body: Dr. Gillian O'Shea Brown

    Join Relationship Academy today for a complementary 1:1 with one of the hosts! Right now, buy one pair of glasses and get 20% off any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/RELATIONSHIP Dr. Gillian's Book! We often repeat the same relationship pattern with different people because familiar pain can feel safer than uncertainty. Noticing the pattern is the beginning of change—but lasting growth requires identifying the unmet need behind it. The “erotic emotional map” helps reveal recurring dynamics by describing the qualities of past relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  8. Sep 21

    Stop Taking Your Partner's Feelings Personally

    Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy When your partner walks through the door in a bad mood, do you immediately wonder what you did wrong or rush to fix it? Taking your partner's emotions personally turns their everyday stress into relational friction, forcing them to manage your reaction on top of their own feelings. In this episode, we unpack the shift from carrying emotional responsibility to offering true empathy, giving both of you permission to feel. Main Talking Points: Personalizing Versus Empathy Unpacking Emotional Responsibility Breaking Fixing Cycles Tolerating Partner Discomfort Reducing Emotion Layers Frameworks Over Scripts Secure relationships aren't built on avoiding uncomfortable feelings, but on cultivating the capacity to tolerate and hold space for them together. Real connection happens when you allow feelings to be felt without making them about you. Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships. Looking for old episode from "Relatable"? Click here.

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  • Creator
    Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
  • Years Active
    2014 - 2026
  • Episodes
    617
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Thrive Therapy Scottsdale, LLC
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    Relationship Advice

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