Stillness in the Storms

Is there a difference between CARING and EMPATHY

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Understanding is the key to finding inner peace, and that's what we're diving into today. I’ve learned that when I truly get what others are going through, I end up knowing myself better too. This episode is all about how understanding helps us judge less—both others and ourselves. We’ll also explore the difference between caring and empathy, which is super important for developing compassion. By the end, I hope you’ll have a clearer picture of these concepts and how they can lead to a more peaceful life.

Is there a difference between caring and empathy? Everybody believes they are caring, and almost everybody I talk to believes they have some form of empathy. What is the difference between empathy and caring? And does everybody really have both?

Takeaways:

  • Understanding others leads to inner peace and a better understanding of ourselves.
  • Empathy and caring are different; caring is about our feelings, empathy is about others'.
  • Developing empathy requires us to think about others' feelings, not just our own.
  • We learn through experiences and exposure, which shapes our understanding and compassion.
  • Caring can sometimes be misguided when we project our needs onto others.
  • Healthy empathy allows us to feel others' feelings without becoming burdened by them.


Navigating the complexities of life often requires a deep understanding of ourselves and others. I’ve discovered that this understanding leads to inner peace and reduces judgment, fostering compassion. In today’s podcast, I explore the differences between caring and empathy—two concepts that, while related, are not the same. Caring is often about our emotional responses to others, projecting our feelings onto them, whereas empathy involves genuinely connecting with and feeling the emotions of another. This nuanced understanding can change how we interact with others and ourselves.

I share my personal journey, filled with challenges that have tested my resilience, such as being paralyzed and facing bankruptcy. These experiences have taught me the importance of understanding life's struggles and how they shape our perspectives. When we learn to judge less, we open the door to compassion. I emphasize that empathy is not just a skill but a process that requires effort and reflection. It’s about recognizing that our initial reactions often stem from our feelings, while true empathy allows us to prioritize the emotions of others.

As we conclude, I urge listeners to reflect on their own interactions. Understanding the difference between caring and empathy can lead to a more compassionate and peaceful existence. By fostering empathy in our lives, we can create deeper connections and a better understanding of the world around us. Let’s work together towards cultivating a more empathetic society, where we can all thrive.