KimYaps

Kiminou Knox
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KimYaps is where Kiminou Knox talks through faith, Black boyhood, masculinity, relationships, culture, grief, discipline, purpose, love, and the parts of life people usually struggle to say plainly. Some episodes start with Scripture, some start with a question, some start with something happening in real life, but the point is always to think deeply enough to leave with something useful. Kiminou is a Bay Area raised, New Orleans based author and poet and the author of ten original books.

  1. 6d ago

    GO WHERE YOU’RE APPRECIATED, NOT WHERE YOU’RE TOLERATED

    GO WHERE YOU’RE APPRECIATED, NOT WHERE YOU’RE TOLERATED | KIMYAPS What does it actually mean to be appreciated in a relationship? In this episode of KimYaps, Kiminou takes a phrase that sounds simple on Instagram and pulls it apart in real life: the difference between being loved, being needed, being tolerated, and actually feeling like your presence matters. From perceived partner responsiveness and rejection sensitivity to reciprocity, emotional investment, overthinking, potential, nonchalance, and the small everyday moments that relationships are really built on, this episode looks at what happens when one person starts carrying the emotional weight of two. Because not every uncomfortable relationship is unhealthy. Sometimes people are tired. Sometimes they misunderstand you. Sometimes your own fear of rejection makes ambiguity feel like proof. But there is also a point where patience becomes over-functioning, empathy becomes obligation, and you realize you weren’t participating in the relationship. You were powering it. This is a conversation about learning the difference between temporary imbalance and a relationship built on imbalance, loving people without disappearing inside of that love, and remembering that appreciation isn’t applause. It’s evidence. Small, human, imperfect evidence that your existence matters to somebody. Go where you’re appreciated, not where you’re merely tolerated. And when you get there, make sure the people beside you feel appreciated too. I love y’all, but Jesus loves you more.

  2. 6d ago

    ANOTHER TUESDAY: TURNING 20, NASTY 19, AND THE MYTH OF GROWING UP

    ANOTHER TUESDAY: TURNING 20, NASTY 19, AND THE MYTH OF GROWING UP I turn 20 in 23 days. Ew. There’s something about losing the “teen” at the end of your age that makes adulthood suddenly sound way more official than it actually feels. Nineteen still gives you an alibi. You make a terrible decision? You’re 19. Fall in love after three conversations at 2 in the morning? Nineteen. Spend money you absolutely should’ve saved? Nineteen. But 20? Twenty sounds like taxes. Dental appointments. Stress. Apparently lobotomies. In this episode, I’m talking about what I affectionately call Nasty 19: one of the strangest years of my life. Changing environments, business, basketball, school, relationships, family, my body reminding me that mortality is real, my relationship with God, and the uncomfortable realization that “future me” eventually becomes…you. We grow up imagining certain ages as destinations. Twenty. Twenty-one. Thirty. Forty. Like one morning you’re supposed to wake up and suddenly understand money, love, purpose, your parents, your body, and why everybody keeps pretending they know what they’re doing. Then you get there. And it’s Tuesday. So maybe adulthood isn’t becoming some completely different person. Maybe it’s realizing your parents are human. The people you love are human. The people who hurt you are human. The adults you thought had everything figured out were freestyling too. And maybe growing older is less about finally arriving somewhere and more about learning how to actually be present for the life that was happening while you were waiting to arrive. So yeah. I’m finna be 20. Still sounds disgusting. But I think I’ll be alright. I love you, but Jesus loves you more.

  3. Sep 3

    God Knows Your Heart. Are You Sure That’s Good News?

    Everybody loves saying, “God knows my heart.” Okay. But have you ever actually thought about what that means? In this episode of KimYaps, Kiminou sits with the first five verses of Proverbs 21 and somehow ends up everywhere from basketball coaches and controlling parents to gossiping aunties, pride, procrastination, worship, and the little stories we tell ourselves so we can keep believing we were right. Because you can make almost anything sound reasonable in your own head. You remember everybody else’s tone in 4K and somehow your own attitude comes back in 140p. You call it closure when you want control. You call it protecting your peace when you really do not want to have the conversation. You call it waiting on the right time when you might simply be scared to be seen trying. And then Proverbs comes in and ruins the whole defense. God weighs the heart. So maybe the fact that God knows your heart should comfort you. Maybe it should scare the hell out of you too.

  4. Sep 3

    Homosexuality, God, and What the Church Gets Wrong

    What does Christianity actually mean when it calls homosexuality a sin, and why has the church done such a terrible job explaining it? In this episode of KimYaps, Kiminou talks through homosexuality, sexual acts, attraction, identity, the circle of life, sin, death, friction, church hypocrisy, Catholicism, the Black Church, and the difference between disagreeing with somebody and believing you have the right to condemn them. This is less of a sermon and more of a conversation about why Christian sexual ethics exist in the first place, what people misunderstand about them, and why gay people have so often been treated like their sin somehow belongs in a different category than everybody else's. And somewhere underneath all of it is a larger question. What happens when what you desire and what you believe God requires from you do not agree?

  5. Jun 25 ·  Bonus

    The Abandoned Son and the Caged Daughter: How Childhood Wounds Shape Love

    The conversation delves into the meeting of two survivors of childhood trauma and the impact of family dynamics on their psychological development. It explores the daughter's upbringing, the son's experience, their initial meeting, the unconscious dance of projection and defense, inner work and healing, conscious naming and neural integration, and the process of building a new sanctuary. Takeaways Survivors of childhood traumaImpact of family dynamics on psychological development Chapters 00:00 The Meeting of Two Survivors13:02 The Son's Experience20:18 Inner Work and Healing27:34 Building a New Sanctuary

  6. Jun 25 ·  Bonus

    Adam, Eve, and Black Love

    The conversation delves into the psychological exploration of love, archetypes, and the impact of systemic trauma on African American relationships. It highlights the suppression of vulnerability, the projection of toxic media narratives, and the importance of reclaiming projections and inner gold. The journey of reconciliation, shared vulnerability, and the symbolism of the Mandorla in relationships are emphasized, along with the significance of inner work in human consciousness. Takeaways The impact of systemic trauma on African American relationshipsThe importance of reclaiming projections and inner gold in relationships Chapters 00:00 Exploring Archetypes of Love06:37 Systemic Trauma and Coping Mechanisms13:26 The Strong Black Woman and Emotional Sensitivity20:18 Projection and Psychological Violence25:49 Reclaiming Projections and Inner Gold36:26 The Mandorla and Reconciliation42:23 The Fire and the Rose

  7. Jun 24

    Psychology Of The Abandoned Son

    The episode explores the psychological impact of father absence on sons, delving into the themes of abandonment, silence, overachievement, rebellion, mother-son dynamics, the search for masculine guidance, impact on intimate relationships, the shadow side of abandonment, literary archetypes, the necessity of forgiveness, reparenting and inner healing, breaking the generational curse, and transformation and resilience. Takeaways Father absence has a profound impact on the psychological development of sons.The journey of the abandoned son is a hero's journey of resilience and transformation. Chapters 00:00 Transformation and Resilience

  8. Jun 24

    Black Mothers, Black Daughters, and What We Inherit

    The toxic mother-daughter dynamic in black households is a complex and multi-layered issue, shaped by history, trauma, and the struggle for survival. It involves the interplay of strength, control, and the internalization of external sieges. Liberation from this dynamic is a revolutionary act of reclaiming one's humanity and breaking free from the cage of inherited pain. Takeaways Toxic mother-daughter dynamics in black households are shaped by history, trauma, and the struggle for survival.Liberation from this dynamic is a revolutionary act of reclaiming one's humanity and breaking free from the cage of inherited pain. Chapters 00:00 The Journey to Liberation

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KimYaps is where Kiminou Knox talks through faith, Black boyhood, masculinity, relationships, culture, grief, discipline, purpose, love, and the parts of life people usually struggle to say plainly. Some episodes start with Scripture, some start with a question, some start with something happening in real life, but the point is always to think deeply enough to leave with something useful. Kiminou is a Bay Area raised, New Orleans based author and poet and the author of ten original books.

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  • Creator
    Kiminou Knox
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Kiminou Knox
  • Show Website
    KimYaps