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Language of Love is a weekly podcast where Dr. Berman shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started? 

Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman The Language of Love

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.7 • 145 Ratings

Language of Love is a weekly podcast where Dr. Berman shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started? 

    Diary of a Human Lie Detector with Annie Särnblad

    Diary of a Human Lie Detector with Annie Särnblad

    You ever wonder if someone is telling the truth? It turns out each of us can be a human lie detector! There's no magic involved, only science. It's all about understanding the language of micro facial expressions. By paying attention to small changes in a person's face, we can uncover the truth and strengthen our relationships with others. Whether it's picking up on tiny expressions to see if someone’s into you, understanding the hidden meaning behind a friend's smile, or determining if someone is telling you the truth, knowing the language of facial expressions can make all the difference.

    In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Annie Särnblad, a global speaker and certified expert in the Facial Action Coding System (FACS), to learn all about the art of reading micro expressions. 

    Annie's journey into the realm of facial expressions is as personal as it is professional. Stemming from a childhood marked by abuse, she developed a heightened sensitivity to non-verbal cues as a survival mechanism. This hyper-awareness evolved into a passion for understanding the subtle signals conveyed through our facial expressions, particularly microexpressions—those fleeting, involuntary movements that can betray our true feelings.

    We break down:

    Annie's personal and professional background in understanding facial expressions, especially microexpressions

    The universality of facial expressions across different cultures and languages

    How to read micro expression to identify genuine emotions and building trust

    Physiological connections to facial expressions, such as the link between disgust and sense of smell

    Challenging misconceptions about empathy in individuals with autism

    The importance of cultural awareness and considering cultural variations in non-verbal communication

    The significance of non-verbal cues in creating authentic connections in various types of relationships


    Check out Annie’s book “Diary of a Human Lie Detector: Facial Expressions in Love, Lust, and Lies.” You can also visit her website and follow her on LinkedIn and Instagram to learn more about her work.
    Make sure to visit my website to check out my books on love, sex and relationships and explore my available courses. Tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better. 
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    • 46 min
    The Body as the Boss

    The Body as the Boss

    In this Language of Love session, I sit down with Regine, a listener facing the dual challenges of a partner with PTSD and her journey through grief and caregiving. She's navigating the delicate balance between her social desires and her partner's need for solitude due to PTSD. It's a dance many couples know all too well – the push and pull of togetherness and independence. This has put a strain on their relationship, as Regine longs for shared social experiences and support, especially after the loss of her son and the emotional toll of caring for her mother with Alzheimer's. We also touch on something incredibly profound – the connection between our bodies and our emotional well-being. Regine shares her journey of caregiving and personal loss, and together, we discuss the transformative power of tuning into our bodies to find healing and peace.

    We deep dive into:

    Life's fragility and the desire to cherish every moment

    The roles of victim and villain in relationship dynamics

    The importance of understanding love languages in a relationship

    The importance of having a supportive community outside the relationship

    The impact of grief and loss on relationships

    Finding the middle ground and compromising in relationships

    Why you should be listening to your body and use your heart as a compass


    Don't forget to check out my website for helpful meditations on the Quantum Love page that can assist you with your relationships. Take a look at the list of available meditations and see which ones resonate with you. 

    Also, if you are a mother who has lost a child in any way, join my retreat for grieving mamas at 1440 Multiversity in Santa Cruz, California. Experience healing, community, and workshops with experts like David Kessler and Paul Selig. Visit 1440.org for more information and join us in the beautiful redwoods for four amazing days.
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    • 50 min
    Overcoming Codependency

    Overcoming Codependency

    Have you ever found yourself constantly prioritizing the needs of others while neglecting your own? Do you get anxious when those you care about are anxious or angry? Do you find arguments leave you contorted, desperately seeking forgiveness and acceptance from your partner? If this sounds like you or someone you love, its time to confront the possibility that you may be trapped in the clutches of codependency. 

    This Language of Love Bite, I dive into the complex world of codependency, its roots, its effects on our relationships, and the path to healing. The origin of codependency can be traced back to traumatic childhood experiences, such as being raised by an addict, a narcissist, or enduring emotional or physical abuse. These early life challenges often lead to "parentification," where children assume the emotional and sometimes physical responsibilities of caring for their parents, setting the stage for codependent behaviors later in life.

    Despite the challenges, I acknowledge the positive aspects of codependency, such as the innate desire to give and receive love. Join me in exploring these insights further and taking the steps toward healing and growth.

    In this Bite, I explain:

    Codependency as an addiction and a lifetime of recovery

    The role of traumatic childhood experiences in developing codependency

    Codependents' fear of abandonment and susceptibility to toxic partners

    The struggle to discern authentic love from manipulation

    The positive and manipulative elements of codependency

    How to heal from codependency through inner child work and setting boundaries

    The challenges codependents may face when setting boundaries and standing up for themselves


    Remember, if you're looking to enhance both your love life and sex life, whether you're in a relationship or not, I highly recommend checking out my free course on Quantum Sex. 

    Additionally, if you're seeking to break free from codependency, there are some valuable resources I suggest exploring. Co-dependents Anonymous is a great program that can provide the guidance you need. Another excellent resource is Melodie Beattie's influential book, "Codependent No More." 

    These resources can offer invaluable insights and support on your journey towards personal growth and independence.
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    • 11 min
    Breaking the Cycle of Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Mariel Buque

    Breaking the Cycle of Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Mariel Buque

    What if I told you that your ancestors' traumas could be actively influencing your life today? What if the pain they endured, generations ago, could still shape your relationships, behaviors, and even your DNA? It's a thought-provoking concept, isn't it? Welcome to the world of intergenerational trauma. 

    In this  Language of Love Conversation, I am excited to be joined by Dr. Mariel Buque, a Columbia-trained mystic psychologist, professor, sound bath meditation healer, and intergenerational trauma expert. Dr. Mariel brings a wealth of knowledge to our discussion, which centers around her new book, “Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma.” Together, we dive deep into the heart of what it means to carry emotional burdens from our past and how we can liberate ourselves and our future generations from these invisible chains.

    Here's a glimpse of what we discuss:

    The impact of healing from intergenerational trauma on family dynamics and relationships

    The energetic perspective and the impact of past family members on our lives

    How to handle family members who resist or deny their trauma

    The concept of “parenting back, parenting forward” and intergenerational re-parenting

    Seven key areas for fostering growth and healing from intergenerational trauma

    The potential consequences of anxious-attachment parenting

    How to impart legacies to future generations and learn to apologize to our kids


    Remember to check out Dr. Mariel’s book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma, for more tools, techniques, suggestions, and guidance on intergenerational trauma. 

    Also, if you are experiencing grief, know that you are not alone in this journey. Consider checking out my course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love, on my website for additional support and guidance.
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    • 54 min
    A Journey of Exploration and Connection

    A Journey of Exploration and Connection

    In today's episode we’re continuing our journey with Ken and Marla, a couple I've been helping to boost their intimacy. Their story is like so many others. Marla has been opening up about her shyness around masturbation, and I've got to say, I'm proud of her for being so honest. Ken has been amazing, too—totally supportive of Marla's journey into self-exploration.
    I always tell people how crucial masturbation is for your personal health and really getting to know your body. It's a game-changer, especially for your sex life together. I've recommended a vibrator that I think could be a great fit for Marla, and I'm all about them experimenting to find out what feels good.
    And it's not just about those intimate moments in the bedroom. Ken and Marla have been finding ways to connect in their everyday lives, which is just beautiful. They're on this path to achieving orgasm together during sex, and let me tell you, they're making some fantastic progress.

    Here is a glimpse of what we explore:

    Ken and Marla's relationship update and experiences with intimacy

    Incorporating a vibrator into sexual activities

    Guidance on enhancing physical intimacy

    Ken and Marla's efforts to maintain physical connection

    Prioritizing Marla's pleasure during intimate moments

    Recommendations for exploring new ways of intimacy

    Masturbation and its role in understanding one's body and enhancing comfort

    Advice on using a specific vibrator and experimenting with different options

    The importance of consistent physical intimacy and building intimacy in different moments

    The goal of achieving an orgasm during a sexual encounter and inspiring others through their journey


    This episode is a big one because it's not just their story—they inspire so many others dealing with the same issues. Stick with me, and let's see where their journey takes us next!
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    • 34 min
    Monogamy Ain't Natural

    Monogamy Ain't Natural

    Lifelong monogamy can be quite a challenge in our world today. We're living longer, our needs are evolving, and there are so many different factors at play. You see, we humans are kind of wired to be what you could call "serially monogamous." It's like we're designed to form temporary relationships for the purpose of raising children. And interestingly, this ancient instinct still seems to influence our modern relationships. Just look at the stats – divorce rates tend to spike when the youngest child is about 2 or 3 years old. It's a complex topic that's worth exploring, and that's exactly what we'll do in this Language of Love bite.

    While monogamy may not be our natural state, it's a choice that many of us make for various reasons. Whether it's for the sake of raising children, maintaining stability, or simply because of personal preference, monogamy requires effort and commitment. But with the right approach, it's a choice that can lead to fulfilling and lasting relationships.
    Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.
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    • 9 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
145 Ratings

145 Ratings

ImTLC4u ,

I absolutely LOVE this podcast!!!

This is my all-time FAVORITE podcast!! It’s like a few shows in one. I love the episodes where Dr. Laura answers relationship questions. She’s such an expert in that arena, I learn something from every single one of those. I also love the short ones where she expounds on a particular topic like bringing back the spark in your love life or sex after menopause or the ‘art of kissing’. She’s laser focused and there’s sooo much content in even just those short ones. But I think my favorite is when she interviews people, many of whom are from the spiritual world. I started keeping a list of my favorites: Anita Moorjani, Gabor Mate, Ainslie MacLeod, Lee Harris, etc. etc. I now have 21 episodes in my ‘favorites’ list! Laura is real and raw and super smart and funny and completely candid! I learn, I laugh, and my heart gets touched. Like I said ALL TIME FAVORITE PODCAST! And I’ve listened to a LOT of them!!

shockersfan ,

Terrible, absolutely awful

The host used to be informative, but the podcast now is simply awful. There’s no useful information provided, but rather bunch of cryptic garbage thrown at listeners. The host should at least try to put in some effort in putting together the content, but all she provides bunch of nonsense. Stay away from this one, don’t waste your time.

HaileyT1 ,

Dr. Laura is the best!

I love her podcast- so informative and makes me smile

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