Live IFS Internal Family Systems Sessions

🔸 Alethea Hanna is a trauma recovery coach with IFS Level II training. She is passionate about the IFS model and looks forward to the day when everyone can regularly experience the relief of looking at and listening to their parts with love.

She can be reached at alethea.hanna@gmail.com

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🔸 The cost of youthfulness; making sense of “You’re ugly” 2️⃣ The precious house, where the little girl was almost strangled to death.

🔹 Parts:


P Everything is my fault, im a monster, im selfish.
P Afraid of change, the new relationship, having someone say he loves me
P ”I'm able to make somebody feel good??” Afraid I will soar too high
P/E? I’ll go under if someone leaves (and if i'm not ugly).
E knotted up, fear stricken, awaiting ultimate punishment. Nothing stays, nothing to hold on to, everything leaves. Maybe 5-8

2️⃣


Ice cold exclusion, utter despair and pain
Panic: “if he sees behind the mask, sees how ugly I am, then he will leave me too”
E: 6, 7, 8 - grandma disappearing is all my fault. Taking on gaurdian's shame. Have to put on a mask to show the world What a good granddaughter I am, Grandad and mom never talked to me about it. Nasty kettle. Bottomless guilt. Mom will do anything to tame that strong will. Wants a desert, place without walls, nothing hard, without judgement, can sink into sand.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Don’t know. Maybe not much. Felt bad ending the call where we did but it didn’t seem too disruptive. Not sure how to handle when a part says “don’t leave” and I'm like “ok time to go”. I’ll try to get Mio in again soon, but I'm also curious how she handles it on her own.

2️⃣

Kept my foot on the gas the whole time; not stopping to check with every protector. Felt right.

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🔸 Getting to matter

🔹 Parts:


P: Realist, tired of the rollercoaster
P: Enthusiasm & Inspiration
P: We've done this before
E: Dismissible. Gymnast. Just wanted her mom to care. Not allowed to have reaction to being told no.



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🔸 1️⃣ Beyond committed. The art and science of figuring out your entire self

2️⃣ Deep down bad parts. It’s crazy the way kids are treated.📌 1️⃣ Olivia Followed up: i will say-- i actually wish i talked more about this on the pod but the mdma aftermath isn't always a treat, there are actually some big feelings of turmoil afterwards, you kind of feel like your life is a mess for a couple weeks because stuff is hitting you. i felt that way and my friend also felt that way... but the ensuing clarity and breakthroughs are worth it it's like you're ripped open a bit and then enable to heal though the healing still requires a good amount of work or at least it did in my case, i found it hard to even do my job for a week, and i was constantly feeling like, how do i figure out this maze of feels?! james: 
Ive not experienced that negative side, but maybe I had less I was needing (or willing) to heal Olivia: 
i'm definitely willing to believe it's different for everyone my friend for instance, i dont think she would even say she did a lot of work to get to her breakthrough she was just a mess for 2 weeks and then had kind of a sudden realization

🔹 Parts:


P: holds tension, clenching chest, hanging on to sense of dread. Needs manager not rush on to new shiney
P: manager “if I don’t watch this how will I learn” a person glued to the screen
P: tape playing, carrying the memories. I love my memories!
P: managers are bad! Read the IFS book!

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

1️⃣ Do differently? No; whatever got me here, to this place, with this person, makes me glad I did everything the way did.

Cynical part's answer: quit Live IFS, start Live MDMA.

2️⃣ It’s been 2+ weeks of high stress / high stakes stuff for me. I've been increasingly concerned about the effects on my health, multiple ailments reappearing. Today was *my* do whatever day, finally vacation day. I just lounged around, fed the crows, stretched a lot, ate what & when I wanted, skipped exercise (and that ~hour of call prep I normally do). So this was fitting.

When I start getting sick, my “figure it out” part takes over, researching like mad, making a project out of it, documenting everything, reviewing old notes. But lately I've been working with it more, taking it seriously, and allowing that process to complete. Then I actually arrive at “I've read enough, made enough todos and appts, time for that part to rest. Let's try calm, space, and see what intuition (now more informed) brings.
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🔸 A floating freight train

🔹 Parts:


Bullshit detector
Freight train of sadness
Get a compliment then fall apart

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I coulda been a little quicker on the draw. Kinda feel that way about all my calls. But. I have time. I rarely regret taking it

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🔸 Overwhelming beauty: Charlotte's wins and/or "too high on life"



🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Climate control new IFS room. Oh, it was Frank Anderson saying "source", not Jay Early.

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