Live IFS Internal Family Systems Sessions

🔸 IFS for headaches. What is this crazy magic?

🔹 Parts:


P: The headache. Blocks out the emotional pain of:
E: Failing to relate. People aren't safe, can't be trusted. Not being seen. Not safe/allowed to be my emotional self (sad/angry). Memories of life in London flat. Needs the listening circle. Start with attention.
P: Find the answers, or else you won't do it right. You can't do it on your own.

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🔸 "I'm bad, I'm bad, I'm bad for rejecting my mother." Another exile?

🔹 Parts:


E: Guilt for rejecting mother. Obscured by something dark and wooly. Below the naval.
P: Run away from that feeling! Run away, and also run towards Dad
P: Judging this exile, the cocreators of the guilt, necessary to keep the rage from getting destructive. Afraid she might hurt herself.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:It's been about a month since we talked, so I think our rhythm was a little off. I could have jumped in and been more directive with targeting. But I think we did a good job *not* going to the wrong parts, the ones we met before. -----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone

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🔸 "Nothing will make anything right." The biggest scariest exile and the stressed-out captain.

🔹 Parts:


E: 9yo. Anxiety, dread. "Can't handle anything", "Nothing is worth whatever pain I'm in".
P: Fear if this part overwhelms, Olivia becomes suicidal. "Dont get too close" "Nobody else can help", "You have no idea", "If you could help, you already would have"
This protector has a big shift in finally recognizing Olivia and speaking to her like this for the first time. Wants evidence she can help. How? "Just listen."

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:This convo felt like a re-run at first, but I don't see that as a failure. Like I said to Olivia, we're getting much more efficient, and getting to know these parts this way is great, especially with such a scary exile. They are concerned she won't/can't show up, and this is evidence to the contrary. -----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone

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🔸 "You will not receive love, just give up" on romance.

🔹 Parts:


P: "Just give up" is persistent but not dramatic. In the head, arms crossed, cold, afraid of wasting time and the disappointment from:
E: Wants more love than she gets, feels dismissed, outside, an inconvenience. Too little, too boring, has to do everything herself. Was this the 4yo?
E: 7 Year old, similar.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:Theresa's making this easy for me. I could push back on some of the analyzing, but it doesn't seem to be interfering much with the work. And my own analyzing parts like the company.
I didn't ask the age of first exile, and stayed confused about who was who when another entered. I was wanting to stay open to it also being a protector.
I wonder if we bypassed a protector that would be fighting the "give up" protector. -----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone

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🔸 Direct access of the Reacher.

After listening back to this (about 3 months and sessions later) Rosie followed up:

"...noticed this reaching part coming up as I was sitting in an audience starting to anticipate my cameo appearance, and was able to turn towards, right there in the audience, and relax it. The performance had other technical issues, but I was much more grounded in myself. ‘Twas good 😊"

🔹 Parts:


The Reacher, constricting, pushing Self out, to reach others. To get what infant needs.
The Infant, needs what infants need.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I know how to help people talk to their parts, and I know how to talk to my parts, but how to talk to others' parts? I used to feel like direct access required a big shift, a different approach. And there are far fewer examples to learn from.
It sounds obvious now, but, I realized I don't need a third language; I just make them mine, invite them to stay at my place for a while.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone

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🔸 “I’m a mess”


The feral 7-year-old in me says: no describe.

🔹 Parts:


Avoidant 7yo on the edge of the forest (two parts?). "Just move on". Wants us to avoid the:
The Depressor (23-24 yo, drugs, in hospital). “You left me here”
Avoidant's communication gets blocked by the people pleaser, nice guy.

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