A couple investigates the landscape of modern relationships, exploring their own issues as they reveal how connections are often born, solidify, and at times unravel. Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born (both highly trained as clinical psychotherapists) take an intimate and probing look at the mysteries of committed connections, monogamy, infidelity, marriage, eroticism, forgivingness, attachment and trust. Their story offers a vision of real people taking extraordinary risks, caring courageously and loving like hell.
1. Cultivating Friendship Within Romance
We can often get so wrapped up in maintaining the longevity of a romantic relationship that we become rigid and fixed in our viewpoints. We create rules and boundaries that get in the way of growth and expansion. When the relationship can truly be based in friendship, there is so much more room for new opportunities and new experiences. Today Kristi and Rainer talk about how important it is to keep that friendship alive for a relationship that’s on fire.
16. It Was Good Until it Wasn’t: Remembering Rightly
Everything in life has an ending. When major parts of our lives end or change, it’s easy to look back and only remember the good or only remember the bad. Remembering rightly takes a conscious effort of looking at multiple points of data and recognizing the perspective and feelings of everyone involved. From that place of remembering rightly, we can move forward in truth. This episode takes a look into the steps to do that.
15. Let’s Talk About Sex
Sex is the originating source of life. It is such a potency and such a power….and so many of us are so afraid to talk about it. Why is that? This episode dives into the topic of sex. Where did we learn about it, what shapes our perception of it, and why is it such a heavy topic of conversations? Everything gets laid out here.
14. What is Marriage? Pt 2
Love is expansive and cannot be placed in a box. Marriage is more nuanced than a simple piece of paper or agreement. There’s depth in the journey and how do we navigate that journey, how do we move forward together. What is the real meaning of marriage? What is the real meaning of love? In this episode, Kristi and Rainier open up about their experiences and everything they learned in this journey.
13. What is Marriage? Pt 1
Love is expansive and cannot be placed in a box. Marriage is more nuanced than a simple piece of paper or agreement. There’s depth in the journey and how do we navigate that journey, how do we move forward together. What is the real meaning of marriage? What is the real meaning of love? In this two part episode, Kristi and Rainier open up about their experiences and everything they learned in this journey.
How often do we find ourselves losing “our self” in relationships? We have a tendency to self sacrifice and betray our own wants and desires for the perceived needs of another. That tendency is a road to self betrayal. It is profoundly important to both mutually and independently trust ourselves and create an atmosphere where our partner can trust themself. Then we can both accept the whole of ourselves and the self in the other. This episode dives into the personal experiences of this type of self betrayal in Kristi and Rainier’s own relationship.
I hope you both know what you are doing & the impact you are truly making on human lives like mine. I have been yearning for a story outside of my own for a sense of hope & healing. The stories you share of your marriage, infidelity and healing have been a source of comfort in a world that says bad people cheat and there’s no way to come back from it. Thank you for being human and showing your humanness in a world where we don’t do it enough. I thank you and am sincerely grateful for you.
Fantastic dive into the human experience
Incredible podcast! I love the delicious way both Rainier and Kristi speak about their journey, emotional expression, and experience to self. Insightful, warm, and inspiring.
I’ve been waiting for this ♥️
You both are so incredible! I love how you flow together in the conversations. The kindness, the willingness, the active listening and tenderness that goes back and forth like a perfect tennis match. The curiosity to know more about each other, regardless of the years you’ve been married to each other. The vulnerability!!!