Love Yourself Thin Podcast

Dara Tomasson
  • 4.7 (61)
  • SELF-IMPROVEMENT
  • UPDATED WEEKLY

Love Yourself Thin Podcast is where quilters come to create the life they truly want—on and off the sewing machine. Hosted by life coach Dara Thomason, this show helps you ditch the overwhelm, understand your habits, and build a healthier relationship with yourself and with food. Whether you want more confidence, more energy, or more joy in your quilting and everyday life, you'll learn practical tools, mindset shifts, and empowering strategies that help you feel better in your body and in your mind. It's the same heart and mission you loved from The Quilter's Coach Podcast—now with a name that reflects Dara's lifetime program and her belief that transformation begins with loving yourself first. If you're a quilter ready to live intentionally, feel lighter emotionally and physically, and design a life you love, this podcast is for you. For more visit daratomasson.com

  1. 5D AGO

    243. Distractions That Keep You From Losing Weight

    What if the things you're most proud of… are actually keeping you stuck? In this episode of Love Yourself Thin, Dara explores the concept of acceptable buffering—the socially praised habits we use to avoid uncomfortable emotions. While many people think buffering only looks like scrolling social media or overeating, it can also show up as being the perfect wife, devoted mother, high achiever, or tireless homemaker. These behaviors may look admirable on the outside, but they can quietly drain your energy and distract you from the deeper emotional work that leads to permanent weight loss. Dara shares a powerful coaching story from inside her program that reveals how childhood patterns of seeking approval can shape the way we show up as adults. When we spend our lives trying to prove our worth through productivity, success, or caretaking, we often ignore the emotions underneath—and turn to food or other distractions to cope. Instead of another diet or stricter willpower, Dara invites you to look inward and ask a deeper question: What emotions am I avoiding, and how am I buffering them? When you begin to notice these patterns with compassion and curiosity, real transformation becomes possible. In This Episode, You'll Learn: What buffering really means and why it's more than just emotional eating How "acceptable" behaviors like overworking or people-pleasing can hide deeper struggles Why traditional diets fail to address the emotional roots of weight challenges How childhood approval patterns can influence your relationship with food and self-worth A simple daily exercise to help you identify where your time, energy, and mental focus are going Key Takeaway Permanent weight loss doesn't come from stricter rules around food—it comes from understanding your thoughts, emotions, and patterns. When you stop buffering and start processing your feelings with compassion, you gain the clarity and freedom needed to change your habits for good. A Simple Practice to Try For one day, take a daily inventory of your thoughts and energy: What are you spending your time thinking about? Where is your mental energy going? Are you trying to prove your worth, or are you caring for yourself? This awareness can reveal the hidden habits that are quietly influencing your health and your relationship with food.   If this episode resonated with you, consider exploring deeper support and tools through Dara's coaching programs, where you'll learn how to build healthier emotional patterns and create lasting change. Learn more about Dara's program HERE. Book a call with Dara to learn more about if she is a right fit for you HERE. Get Dara's free self-assessment to help you figure out what thoughts are holding you back from losing weight HERE

    14 min

  2. MAR 5

    242. How Guilt and Regret Hold You Back from Weight Loss

    If you regret certain choices you've made around food and you're not sure what to do about it, this episode is for you. In this powerful conversation, Dara Tomasson explores the connection between regret and weight loss, and how unprocessed emotions can quietly shape your patterns with food for years. So many women believe weight struggles are a private failure — something shameful that should be handled alone. But when we begin talking openly about our experiences, something shifts. We relax. We feel hopeful. And real change becomes possible. The Hidden Role of Perfectionism Dara also explores how perfectionism acts as a protective shield. If we look perfect, perform perfectly, or take care of everyone else, maybe we won't be judged or rejected. But perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing are survival strategies — especially for women who learned early that acceptance meant safety. When perfectionism runs the show, weight loss becomes another arena to "prove" worthiness. And when perfectionism inevitably cracks, regret rushes in. Instead of seeing weight regain as data, we interpret it as failure. Emotional Regulation Is the Missing Skill At the heart of this episode is a powerful truth: many of us were never taught emotional regulation. We weren't shown how to feel disappointment. How to process bitterness. How to sit with regret without turning it into self-punishment. So we buffered. Food became an acceptable coping strategy — one that dampened noise, distracted from discomfort, and helped us survive. But if we don't learn how to feel our feelings directly, no diet strategy will create lasting weight loss. The old coping mechanisms will return. Until we slow down and identify the survival patterns underneath — perfectionism, procrastination, people-pleasing — the system remains broken. This episode is a compassionate reminder: You are not bad. You are not weak. You are not incapable of change. You simply didn't get the full picture. When you begin to see how regret, perfectionism, and emotional avoidance have shaped your behaviors, you gain power. You move from shame to awareness. From autopilot to intentional growth. When you learn to process regret instead of reliving it, and practice emotional regulation instead of buffering, everything changes. Listen in and start turning regret into growth. Watch the YouTube video with Dr Benjamin Bikman - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyFSkGMWP5Q Connect with Dara: Book a consult call to find out if her program is right for you - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/contact Follow Dara on Instagram - @dara_tomasson Check out Dara's upcoming live trainings - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/upcoming-classes-and-events

    16 min

  3. FEB 26

    241. Eating When You Aren't Hungry and What to Do About It

    Have you ever caught yourself eating when not hungry and wondered, Why did I just do that? In this episode, Dara Tomasson breaks down what's really happening during emotional eating, especially when it feels automatic or out of your control. If you've ever found yourself eating when full, reaching for food on autopilot, or stuck in patterns of compulsive eating, this conversation will help you understand why. Your brain is wired for survival through something called the motivational triad: stay safe, seek pleasure, avoid pain. When stress, boredom, loneliness, or fear show up, your nervous system may turn to food before you're even consciously aware of it. That doesn't mean something is wrong with you — it means your brain is doing its job. In this episode, you'll learn: ✔️Why eating on autopilot is a safety response ✔️How fear of failure, visibility, abandonment, or rejection can drive emotional eating ✔️The connection between tribal belonging and food  ✔️How to separate your actions from your identity ✔️Dara's 5-step "I don't know why I'm eating" protocol This is not about shame. It's about awareness. When you pause, name the feeling, and consciously choose your next step, you move from autopilot into leadership over your own life. If you're ready to go deeper, Dara is hosting a live Emotional Eating Masterclass where you'll practice these tools together and build the emotional intelligence needed to create lasting change. Sign up here - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/emotional-eating-class You are not broken. You are wired for survival. And you can learn how to work with your brain instead of against it. Connect with Dara: Website: https://daratomasson.com Instagram: @dara_tomasson Book a Free Consult: https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/contact Join Love Yourself Thin: https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/love-yourself-thin

    15 min

  4. FEB 19

    240. What Boredom Eating Really Means

    Boredom and restlessness are some of the most misunderstood reasons we overeat. We tell ourselves we're bored, but often what's really happening is that we're avoiding something—desire, growth, pride, even happiness. In this episode, Dara unpacks what boredom is actually protecting you from, why food becomes the default solution, and how to create a simple boredom protocol that doesn't rely on self-control or shame. This one might make you uncomfortable—but that's exactly why you need to hear it. What You'll Learn: The definitions of bored vs. restless (and why the distinction matters) The real question: Why do you let yourself believe you're bored? What boredom is really protecting you from: happiness, success, feeling proud, confidence, connection The core issue underneath boredom eating: WORTHINESS The Bored Eating Protocol (5 simple steps) Where "bored" sits on the Emotional Wheel (under "bad" → bored → indifferent/apathetic) Alternative words for "I'm bored": unsatisfied, unhappy, confused, directionless, uncertain The Bored Eating Protocol: Name it - "Oh, I'm telling myself I'm bored." Question it - "Am I actually bored, or am I avoiding something?" (Go back to the definition: feeling weary because something is uninteresting or repetitive, a lack of stimulation) Identify what you're avoiding - "What would I do right now if I believed I was worthy? If I didn't have to prove myself to anyone?" Take one small action toward that thing - Not the whole project. Just one stitch. One phone call. One sentence. Notice - How does it feel to move toward what you actually want instead of away from it? Powerful Story from This Episode: Dara shares the memory of walking into her grandma's kitchen at age six during Christmas. There was a mountain of dishes—and her grandma was laughing and having a ball. No paper plates, just joy in the work. That moment changed Dara's life: "You can take any job, any task, and decide if it's going to be awesome or not. I've never been bored in my life because I made that decision." But her grandma didn't have the tools to deal with stress. She turned to Coke (calling it her "medicine"), food, and baking. She had a heart attack at 64. This is why Dara does this work—so women don't have to keep beating themselves up and feeling trapped in their own bodies. What Boredom Is Really Keeping You Away From: Happiness - What if you pursued what you really wanted? Success - What if you actually finished that quilt and entered the show? Feeling proud - What if you achieved something and had to own it? Confidence - What if you believed in yourself? Connection - What if you put yourself out there? Resources Mentioned: Three Ways to Work with Dara: Join Love Yourself Thin Membership - The full program with ongoing support and community Emotional Eating Mini-Class - Free Masterclass Free 20-Minute Consult - Book a call to identify what's blocking you (Dara shares that one woman got so much clarity in just 20 minutes from YouTube)   Watch this episode on YouTube!     Coming Up Next Week: Episode 241: Emotional Eating When You Don't Even Know Why You Ate - The most mysterious type of emotional eating, where we pull everything together.

    13 min

  5. FEB 12

    239. Strategies for Emotional Eating When You're Lonely

    Loneliness doesn't always look like being alone. Sometimes it shows up as feeling disconnected, unseen, or like you're carrying everything by yourself. If food has been your go-to in those moments, hear this clearly: It makes sense. Food was there for you. It gave comfort and relief when connection felt out of reach. In this episode, you'll learn why eating when you feel lonely isn't a lack of self-control—it's a learned regulation tool. And more importantly, you'll discover how to create real connection without turning food into the only solution. What You'll Learn: The Emotional Wheel: How loneliness sits on the spectrum between sadness and feeling abandoned Why turning to food when you're lonely makes perfect biological sense (dopamine, vulnerability, and survival) The difference between true connection and false connection (and why social media feels like sugar) How to create true connection through physical, creative, and spiritual practices The 4-step process for building your relationship with yourself: Recognize that 95% of your thoughts are on autoplay Do a thought capture throughout the day Question one belief you've been carrying Curate that belief in your favor Ways to Create True Connection (Mentioned in Episode): Physical Connection: Hugs (even self-hugs—hand on heart, shoulders squeeze) Real conversations on the phone or in person Physical exercise (walking, dancing, stretching) Warmth practices (hot tub, heated car seat, fire, warm blankets) Creative Connection: Sewing, quilting, knitting Playing music or singing Clay or Play-Doh Sand, gardening Other Forms: Listening to music that moves you Making food mindfully for yourself or others Journaling Reaching out to one person (even just a text) Religious practice, prayer, meditation Resources Mentioned: Emotional Eating Mini-Class - The all-year-round version of Dara's hit holiday class, now with office hours where you can get expert coaching on concepts like "Pause Before Pantry." This isn't just another online class you hope to watch—the office hours make all the difference. Join the 3 day masterclass here - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/free-emotional-eating-masterclass  Connect with Dara: Website:  https://daratomasson.com Instagram: @dara_tomasson YouTube: Ask questions in the comments—Dara loves interacting with you! Leave a Podcast Review: It makes such a difference!

    18 min

  6. FEB 5

    238. Eating When You're Stressed or Overwhelmed

    If you've ever reached for food when you're stressed and then immediately judged yourself for it, this episode is for you. Stress eating isn't a willpower problem—it's a nervous system response. Your brain is actually doing exactly what it was designed to do: protect you. In this episode, you'll discover what stress actually does inside your body, why "I'll start fresh Monday" advice completely misses the mark, and the 5-step protocol that will help you close the mental and emotional loops that drain your energy and keep you stuck in overwhelm. What You'll Learn: Why your brain scans for danger 5x more than it looks for safety (and what this has to do with stress eating) The role of cortisol in triggering cravings for quick energy—salty, sugary, and fatty foods Why modern stress (deadlines, family conflict, financial worry) doesn't go away after you eat The "car analogy": You don't need to know how to fix your brain, but you do need to understand how it works The 5-step protocol for closing thought loops and creating permanent change: Accept/Acknowledge Ask Action Assess Acclimatize   Resources Mentioned: Emotional Eating Mini-Class - Learn how to handle emotional eating 24/7, 12 months of the year. This revamped class includes office hours where you can get personalized support. Join the free masterclass and learn more - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/free-emotional-eating-masterclass  Connect with Dara: Website:  https://daratomasson.com Instagram: @dara_tomasson Join Dara live for her next training! -  https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/upcoming-classes-and-events   Watch this episode and more on YouTube - https://youtu.be/x23lLj3rKIs

    10 min

  7. JAN 29

    237. 4 Words for Weight Loss Success

    We're ending January with the four words that can change your relationship with food, your body, and yourself forever. In this episode, you're going to learn: Why "This will not stand" and "I will not give up" keep you locked in battle The clinic lobby story and why "calm down" never works — on anyone The real difference between addressing actions vs. needs The moment a therapist flipped the switch with one question How acknowledging emotions creates instant empathy and relief Why force creates resistance — and how it turns you into your own enemy The four most powerful words: "What do I need?" How to use this question to meet fundamental needs directly Why Connie Rice's work proves you cannot legislate behavior change How compassion turns enemies (even inner ones) into allies Key Takeaway: The next time you're face-to-face with cravings, resistance, or old patterns, don't attack yourself. Instead ask: "What do I need?" Those four words are where permanent weight loss truly begins. Inside Love Yourself Thin, you'll learn to meet your needs, calm your brain, and build a life you love. This is where your repair, renewal, and long-term freedom begins — no matter your age, your history, or how long you've struggled. I've done this myself, and I've helped hundreds of women do the same. You deserve that freedom too. Learn more: https://daratomasson.com  Catch more of Dara's free trainings, sign up here: https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/upcoming-classes-and-events    Watch this episode (and more!) on YouTube - https://youtu.be/2ptWyMgnyq4

    11 min

  8. JAN 22

    236. Weight Loss Isn't What You Think It Is

    Three weeks into January — this is the perfect moment to ask: Why do you want to lose weight? Your answer determines everything. In this episode, you'll discover: ✔️Why your past "failures" don't diminish your worthiness ✔️The life-changing difference between "needing" to lose weight vs. "wanting" to ✔️Self-esteem vs. self-compassion — and why one abandons you when you fail ✔️How self-esteem traps you in conditional worth ✔️How self-compassion creates solid, stable self-worth that shows up when you need it most ✔️Why compassion is collaboration, not domination or punishment ✔️How new solutions appear when you stop trying to earn your value ✨The truth: you never had to earn the right to care for yourself   Key Takeaway: Your worth was decided long before your weight ever changed. You matter now. And from that place, you're allowed to want more for yourself. Inside Love Yourself Thin, you'll learn how permanent weight loss comes from caring for yourself — not proving yourself. Learn more: https://daratomasson.com Get the free Perfectionist Recovery Program Course Here - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/opt-in-perfectionist-recovery-mini-course Follow Dara on Instagram @dara_tomasson

    17 min
See All (244)

4.7
out of 5
61 Ratings

About

Love Yourself Thin Podcast is where quilters come to create the life they truly want—on and off the sewing machine. Hosted by life coach Dara Thomason, this show helps you ditch the overwhelm, understand your habits, and build a healthier relationship with yourself and with food. Whether you want more confidence, more energy, or more joy in your quilting and everyday life, you'll learn practical tools, mindset shifts, and empowering strategies that help you feel better in your body and in your mind. It's the same heart and mission you loved from The Quilter's Coach Podcast—now with a name that reflects Dara's lifetime program and her belief that transformation begins with loving yourself first. If you're a quilter ready to live intentionally, feel lighter emotionally and physically, and design a life you love, this podcast is for you. For more visit daratomasson.com

Information

  • Creator
    Dara Tomasson
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    244
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    Copyright © 2022 Dara Tomasson

You Might Also Like