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A podcast hosted by Kayla Lords and John Brownstone to share what a love of BDSM looks like in a loving relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. People new to the lifestyle or new to the idea that BDSM and love can mix will find something to learn or realize they're not alone in their experiences or feelings.

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A podcast hosted by Kayla Lords and John Brownstone to share what a love of BDSM looks like in a loving relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. People new to the lifestyle or new to the idea that BDSM and love can mix will find something to learn or realize they're not alone in their experiences or feelings.

    Answering Listener Questions

    Answering Listener Questions

    Right after we decided to make this week a question and answer episode, we thought of other ideas (funny how that works!). We received more questions than we wanted to answer in a single episode, so some of those may be used for inspiration for other topics in the coming weeks, too! We got questions on kinky toys, topping from the bottom, heartbreak, being outed, and parenting while kinky.

    Thanks to our Patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Janie K., Fairy, B, Jessica G., and Babyspun420

    Links from the episode:

    Shop Hot Octopuss — use code CMM15 thru July 21, 2020 to save 15 percent off sitewide! (affiliate link)

    Watch Elegantly Owned Review — and enter the giveaway

    Friday night (July 10) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EST (video may not be available after the stream)

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    • 1 hr 40 min
    It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Right Now

    It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Right Now

    No real tips or advice in this week’s episode. We just needed space to be able to say that we’re not always okay (even though we’re doing FINE!!) and we wanted to make that kind of space for anyone else who’s not doing okay right now, too. The world is on fire, and there’s a pandemic outside. It’s okay to not be okay right now. If you are okay, wonderful! And if you’re not, you’re not alone.

    Thanks to our Patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Janie K., Fairy, B, and Jessica G.,

    Links from the episode:

    Shop Hot Octopuss — use code CMM15 thru July 21, 2020 to save 15 percent off sitewide! (affiliate link)

    Watch Elegantly Owned Review — and enter the giveaway

    Friday night (July 3) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EST (video may not be available after the stream)

    The Impact of COVID-19 on D/s Relationships (episode 211)

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    • 1 hr 13 min
    Compromise in D/s Relationships

    Compromise in D/s Relationships

    We’ve talked about the importance of compromise before but always as part of other discussions — on teamwork, goal-setting, and disagreements. This week, we give it an episode all its own. Yes, compromise can (and should!) exist in D/s relationships, no matter which slide of the slash you’re on.

    In this episode:



    * Thanks to this week’s sponsor: ElegantlyOwned

    It’s dangerous to think a Dominant should always get their own way, no matter what.

    Compromise means meeting in the middle and is an important part of teamwork. 

    Think about the outcome you want — not necessarily the method it takes to get there. If you both want the same outcome, focus on that.

    Submissives have opinions, expertise, and experience. Don’t discount that just because they’re meant to obey or follow a Dominant.

    There are multiple ways to arrive at a solution and multiple ways to accomplish a task.



    Thanks to our Patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Janie K., Fairy, B, Devoted Cricket, Jessica G., and Ashley

    Links from the episode:

    ElegantlyOwned – use code LOVINGBDSM15 to save 15 percent off your order until August 1, 2020

    Friday night (June 26) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EST (video may not be available after the stream)

    The Importance of Teamwork in D/s Relationships (podcast)

    Goal Setting in D/s Relationships (podcast)

    Disagreements and Arguments in D/s Relationships (podcast)

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    • 1 hr 8 min
    Podcast Minisode 12: Bare-Handed Spanking Tips

    Podcast Minisode 12: Bare-Handed Spanking Tips

    For the final minisode (for now?), John Brownstone and Kayla Lords are together, sharing bare-handed spanking tips. This episode assumes you know the basics — connect bare hand to bare butt. After that, what else can you do? Plenty!

    Links from the episode:

    How to Take a Bare-Handed Spanking to the Next Level (blog post)

    Spankings (episode 59)

    5 Things to Know About Spankings (video)

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    Thanks to our patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Janie K., Fairy, B, Devoted Cricket, Jessica G., and Ashley

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    • 13 min
    How Kayla’s Mental Health Makes Us Feel

    How Kayla’s Mental Health Makes Us Feel

    We’ve talked about mental health and D/s relationships before. And Kayla is fairly open about her mental health in nearly every episode. After a recent bout of anxiety and depression, we’re talking about how we feel during those times, specifically how Kayla feels as a submissive when her mental illness flares up.

    Thanks to this week’s sponsor: ElegantlyOwned

    Thanks to our Patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Janie K., Fairy, B, Devoted Cricket, Jessica G., and Ashley

    Links from the episode:

    ElegantlyOwned – use code LOVINGBDSM15 to save 15 percent off your order until August 1, 2020

    Donate to Black Lives Matter Organizations (this is where we donated)

    Blacks Lives Matter resource page — to find other ways to help and to educate yourself on the moment

    Friday night (June 19) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EST (video may not be available after the stream)

    How Mental Health Impacts Our D/s Relationship (podcast)

    Is BDSM Good for Your Mental Health (podcast)

    How D/s Helps My Depression and Mental State (guest blog post)

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    • 1 hr 45 min
    Podcast Minisode 11: Things Good Dominants Do

    Podcast Minisode 11: Things Good Dominants Do

    This week’s minisode was inspired by how hard I roll my eyes when I heard about a “real” Dominant or a “true” Dominant and what they supposedly do or don’t do. Instead, let’s talk about what good Doms do. And, as always, this list isn’t exhaustive and there are plenty of other things a good partner does. Some of these things are examples of activities, not definitive.

    Thanks to this week’s sponsor: Hot Octopuss

    Links from the episode:

    Buy the Pulse Solo from Hot Octopuss — use code SOLOKL20 through June 30, 2020 to save 20 percent (affiliate link/code)

    Pulse Solo Essential Review (video)

    7 Things Good Dominants Do (blog post)

    Roles Outside of D/s Relationships (episode 81)

    Apologies and D/s Relationships (blog post)

    Forgiveness in D/s Relationships (episode 185)

    Disagreements and Arguments in D/s (episode 25)

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    Thanks to our patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Janie K., Fairy, B, Devoted Cricket, Jessica G., and Ashley

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    • 17 min

Customer Reviews

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245 Ratings

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