Lowkey Chaotic

Zoë Lilou

A podcast contributing to the wider cultural shift toward emotional intelligence - hosted by Zoë Lilou.

  1. 6D AGO

    The Kiss Test & The Science of Attraction

    I went down a rabbit hole of research on why humans kiss and what might actually be happening in that moment - from biological signals our bodies pick up subconsciously to the complicated dance between chemistry and compatibility. Because sometimes your body knows something your brain hasn’t figured out yet.

    37 min

  2. MAR 8

    Can Men Be Feminists?

    This conversation is rooted in my perspective as someone who was lucky enough to be born and live in a country where women have basic rights. But there are millions of women around the world who still don’t. If you’d like to support organizations working to change that: Malala Fund — https://malala.org Equality Now — https://www.equalitynow.org

    26 min

  3. MAR 1

    Sobriety, Self-Love & The Decisions That Changed Me

    A reflective episode about sobriety, escapism, and the slow journey towards self-love. I share my experience quitting weed after eight years, my relationship with alcohol, and how my understanding of discipline and self-respect has evolved over the past two and a half years.

    40 min

  4. FEB 21

    Women Perform Pleasure. Men Perform Control.

    This is a conversation about how, during sex, women often perform pleasure, comfort, and emotional regulation, while men perform control, composure, and stamina - roles shaped by culture, language, and expectation. We talk about performance vs presence, the aggressive language we use to describe sex, emotional labor during intimacy, and the feeling of being an experience instead of sharing one.

    33 min

  5. FEB 14

    I Knew It Was Bad for Me, But I Stayed Anyway

    I didn’t stay because I was stupid. I stayed because the pain and relief cycle is addictive. A raw conversation about abuse, self-abandonment, and choosing someone else over yourself again and again.

    44 min

  6. FEB 4

    I Feel Rejected All the Time (And Abandoned)

    I feel rejected all the time. Not just when the guy i caught feelings for ends things. Also when someone texts me with a dry tone. Or doesn’t reply. And it feels embarrassing to have such big feelings about such small things. So let’s unpack rejection.

    38 min

  7. JAN 28

    Why I Hold Back in Bed

    As women, we’re constantly monitoring ourselves: on dates, in relationships, and in bed. This episode explores self-surveillance in dating and sex, why transactional intimacy can feel safer than romance, and why even with safe, respectful partners, being fully present can still feel impossible.

    44 min

  8. JAN 18

    Women Who Love Too Much (You Were Never Too Much)

    A deeply personal and cultural deep dive into why women are taught to believe they love too much and why that was never true. From heartbreak and sensitivity to situationships, ghosting, and emotional detachment, this episode is about reclaiming your heart, trusting your instincts, and remembering that you were never broken. You were just loving in a world that taught men to love too little.

    1h 13m
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About

A podcast contributing to the wider cultural shift toward emotional intelligence - hosted by Zoë Lilou.

Information

  • Creator
    Zoë Lilou
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    37
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Zoë Lilou
  • Show Website
    Lowkey Chaotic

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