Marriage iQ

Dr. Heidi Hastings and Dr. Scott Hastings
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Most couples were never taught how to build a great marriage. They were just told to work at it. But what actually works? Marriage IQ is a relationship podcast hosted by marriage and sex researcher Dr. Heidi Hastings and physician Dr. Scott Hastings. Each episode blends relationship science, real stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication in marriage, deepen intimacy, rebuild trust, and resolve conflict. If you want a stronger, more connected marriage, this podcast is for you. New episodes every Tuesday.

  1. Episode 128 - What Amish Marriages Teach Us About Lasting Love

    3D AGO

    Episode 128 - What Amish Marriages Teach Us About Lasting Love

    Amish marriages are known for one thing: they last. In a world full of distractions, disconnection, and rising divorce rates, the Amish have quietly built a culture where commitment runs deep and marriages endure for generations. So what are they doing differently? In this episode, we explore with Enos Hershberger, who grew up Amish, what Amish marriages can teach us about lasting love, deep commitment, and real connection. From a lifestyle with little to no smartphones, fewer distractions, and a radically different approach to dating and marriage, you’ll discover insights that challenge everything most couples believe about relationships. We dive into: ✨Why commitment—not chemistry—is the foundation of strong marriages ✨How removing distractions can instantly improve connection ✨The hidden cost of modern dating and technology on intimacy ✨What today’s couples can learn (and apply) from Amish culture This isn’t about going backward—it’s about learning from a different culture and then seeing parts of your own marriage differently. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, overwhelmed, or unsure how to build something that truly lasts… this episode will give you a new perspective. 🎧 Listen now and discover what we can do differently to build lasting marriages. 🔗Connect With Enos Hershberger : Amish Media Group 👉Podcast : The Amish Rebel Podcast🎧 If this resonated with you, these previous episodes offer even more insight. ✨Episode 99: How Phones Are Replacing Connection in Marriage ✨Episode 66: Why You Don't Have Time For Your Marriage ✨Episode 45 - Should You Put Your Marriage Before Your Kids? SOCIAL MEDIA 📸Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ==⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🅵Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

    38 min
  2. Episode 127 - Men's Sexual Health: Expert Insights Revealed

    APR 14

    Episode 127 - Men's Sexual Health: Expert Insights Revealed

    50% of men by age 50 experience erectile dysfunction—but almost no one talks about what it does to a marriage. Specializing in urology and sexual health, Dr. Stephanie Zwonitzer joins Drs. Scott and Heidi Hastings to break down the truth about sexual dysfunction in men as they age—and why it’s not just a physical issue. Most couples think it’s about performance. But what’s really happening is deeper: Shame. Avoidance. Miscommunication. Emotional distance. And over time it quietly impacts the entire relationship. We cover: ✨Why erectile dysfunction affects 50% of men by 50 ✨The hidden emotional toll men don’t talk about ✨Why many women think “it’s me” (and why it’s usually not) ✨The connection between ED, stress, and overall health ✨When it’s physical vs. psychological ✨Real solutions—from lifestyle to medical options This is a conversation every couple needs—but very few are having. 🔗Connect With Dr. Stephanie Zwonitzer : reviveish.com 👉Podcast : Between the Sheets: Exploring Sexual Health & Wellness SOCIAL MEDIA 📸Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ==⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🅵Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

    46 min
  3. Episode 126 - The 5-Minute Habit That Rewires Your Marriage

    APR 7

    Episode 126 - The 5-Minute Habit That Rewires Your Marriage

    In Part 2 of our happiness series, we break down three more simple habits—eye contact, touch, and prayer—that can instantly deepen connection, boost intimacy, and even rewire your marriage relationship. Backed by research from Dr. Arthur Brooks and real-life experience, these small shifts can transform how you and your spouse feel—starting today. If you missed Part 1 of this episode, click this link to listen now. https://open.spotify.com/episode/3V7FHAsRDshyo3Oee1uwPn?si=2abf96a03e8844cf 👉Episode 7 : Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Hormones & Connection 👉Episode 31 : From Roommates to Soulmates: Reviving Connection Through Daily Rituals SOCIAL MEDIA 📸Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ==⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🅵Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

    23 min
  4. Episode 125 - Are Happy Marriages Even Real?

    MAR 31

    Episode 125 - Are Happy Marriages Even Real?

    Are happy marriages actually real—or are most couples just figuring it out as they go? In this episode of Marriage iQ, we respond to a powerful listener question and unpack what truly creates a happy, connected, and fulfilling marriage. Drawing on insights from Arthur Brooks, we explore why happiness isn’t something you feel—it’s something you do.And one of the most overlooked ways to build a happy marriage?Having more fun together. If your relationship feels a little routine, disconnected, or stuck in logistics, this episode will show you how to bring back energy, laughter, and real connection.Because happy marriages don’t just happen— they’re built on purpose. What You’ll Learn: ✨What actually makes marriages happy✨Why couples lose connection over time✨How fun and play rebuild intimacy✨Simple ways to feel close again SOCIAL MEDIA 📸Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ==⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🅵Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

    32 min
  5. Episode 124 - How Polarity Affects Attraction in Marriage

    MAR 24

    Episode 124 - How Polarity Affects Attraction in Marriage

    Masculinity in marriage is under pressure—and it may be quietly hurting your relationship. In this episode of Marriage iQ, we break down the real reason many couples feel disconnected: the loss of masculine and feminine polarity. Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings sit down with gender intelligence expert Andre Paradis, who shares how discovering he didn’t understand his own wife changed everything—and led him to study how men and women are wired differently. 🔥 In this episode: ✨Why many men shut down in relationships✨Why women feel emotionally alone—even when married✨The difference between love and respect in male vs female psychology✨How “nice guy” behavior can kill attraction✨Why polarity—not equality—drives chemistry and connection This conversation is honest, provocative, and may challenge what you’ve been taught about relationships. 👉 If you want deeper connection, stronger attraction, and a more energized marriage—start here. CONNECT WITH ANDRE PARADIS:🔗 Website: www.projectequinox.net SOCIAL MEDIA 📸Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ==⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🅵Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

    53 min
  6. Episode 123 - Why Saying “I’m Sorry” Too Much Backfires

    MAR 17

    Episode 123 - Why Saying “I’m Sorry” Too Much Backfires

    Why saying “I’m sorry” too much can hurt your marriage. In this episode of Marriage iQ, Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings explore “apology inflation”—how unnecessary apologies can quietly erode respect, blur responsibility, and create emotional imbalance in relationships. Using research, personal stories, and cultural examples like Princess Diana, Meet the Parents, and the viral “All About the Nail” video, they reveal why many people apologize even when they’ve done nothing wrong. You’ll learn the difference between empathy and responsibility, healthier alternatives to filler apologies, and how the Marriage iQ cornerstones—identity, intentionality, insight, and intimacy—can strengthen communication in your relationship. 👉 Viral YouTube video “All About the Nail” : https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg?si=wQ7UaVroTqkS4nCh SOCIAL MEDIA 📸Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ==⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🅵Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    26 min
  7. Episode 122 - Turn Anger Into Power Without Damaging Your Marriage

    MAR 10

    Episode 122 - Turn Anger Into Power Without Damaging Your Marriage

    Anger in Marriage might be the emotion you’ve been taught to avoid—but what if it’s actually a powerful tool for deeper connection? In this episode of Marriage IQ, Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings sit down with anger expert Davina Hehn to explore the surprising benefits of anger in marriage and how to harness anger without aggression. You’ll learn why anger can act as a compass pointing to unmet needs, how couples get trapped in reactive conflict cycles, and the simple skills that transform anger into clarity, boundaries, and healthier communication. If anger has ever scared you, confused you, or damaged connection in your relationship, this conversation may completely change how you see it. 👉 Mentioned in this episode: Episode 12 :https://open.spotify.com/episode/0X4XnfkUQkwpRZ4u79Sr9d?si=jaP_O_woR4W90r5FaLx_Kw CONNECT WITH DAVINA HEHN :🔗 Website: www.asteadyspace.com SOCIAL MEDIA 📸Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ==⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🅵Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠⁠

    46 min
  8. Episode 121 - Grief Almost Broke Us

    MAR 3

    Episode 121 - Grief Almost Broke Us

    Grief Almost Broke Us - and we didn’t see it coming. After the deaths of Heidi’s parents just weeks apart, we found ourselves navigating overwhelming grief, secondary losses, emotional reactivity, reduced intimacy, and serious miscommunication in our marriage. In this episode, we unpack the stages of grief, the emotional and physical symptoms of loss, how partners grieve differently, and what research says about healing, prolonged grief, and recovery timelines. If you’re coping with loss, supporting a grieving spouse, or wondering why your marriage feels distant after a death in the family, this conversation offers practical tools, hope, and validation. Grief is natural - but without awareness and support, it can quietly strain even strong relationships. 👉 Mentioned in this episode: I Can Do This With Her: Jim and Cheryl Hastings' Story of Transcending Stress and Grief 🧠 Deep Dive Resources: 📖Conscious Grieving: https://a.co/d/07z3WLJm📖On Grief and Grieving: https://a.co/d/0iizC7vk📖On Death and Dying: https://a.co/d/0hwAqp4J SOCIAL MEDIA 📸Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ==⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🅵Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

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Most couples were never taught how to build a great marriage. They were just told to work at it. But what actually works? Marriage IQ is a relationship podcast hosted by marriage and sex researcher Dr. Heidi Hastings and physician Dr. Scott Hastings. Each episode blends relationship science, real stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication in marriage, deepen intimacy, rebuild trust, and resolve conflict. If you want a stronger, more connected marriage, this podcast is for you. New episodes every Tuesday.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Heidi Hastings and Dr. Scott Hastings
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    132
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    Marriage iQ

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