30 episodes

We got married because we thought we’d be better together rather than apart. So why is it so easy to feel isolated from your life-long partner? Host, author, and fellow married pilgrim, Brian Goins, tackles the relational pitfalls, from the trivial to the tragic, that move couples towards isolation rather than experiencing the real benefits that come from saying “I do.”

Married With Benefits‪™‬ FamilyLife Podcast Network

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.8 • 124 Ratings

We got married because we thought we’d be better together rather than apart. So why is it so easy to feel isolated from your life-long partner? Host, author, and fellow married pilgrim, Brian Goins, tackles the relational pitfalls, from the trivial to the tragic, that move couples towards isolation rather than experiencing the real benefits that come from saying “I do.”

    13: Rapid-Fire: Questions (a lot of) Other Husbands are Asking

    13: Rapid-Fire: Questions (a lot of) Other Husbands are Asking

    Gathered from a live audience at FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" "How can I convince her I think she looks good?" "How am I supposed to avoid fix-it mode when she talks?"

    Show Notes and Resources

    For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com

    Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/

    Come join us for romance and relaxation in 2021 on FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It® marriage cruise. https://www.lovelikeyoumeanitcruise.com/

    Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/

    Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

    • 31 min
    12: Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind?

    12: Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind?

    Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Does trying to interpret all that mystery feel frustrating, even exhausting? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship.

    Show Notes and Resources

    For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com

    Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/

    For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx

    For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx

    Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/

    Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

    • 24 min
    11: When Conflict with Your Wife Leaves You Defeated

    11: When Conflict with Your Wife Leaves You Defeated

    In this episode, Brian, Jen, and Shaunti address the common insecurities husbands experience in conflict with their wives. At work they feel they can tackle anything, but everything changes at home when emotions enter the scene. Are you curious why late-night arguments leave you feeling outmatched? Or why you'd rather withdraw to think before processing together? Listen for the reasons behind your feelings and for some healthy conflict management tips.

    Show Notes and Resources

    For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com

    Shaunti's book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. The little things that make a BIG difference! https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/

    From Season 1: Why Is He So Touchy? https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/2-why-is-he-so-touchy/

    Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/

    "When Sinners Say 'I Do': Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage" by Dave Harvey.  https://www.amazon.com/When-Sinners-Say-Do-Discovering/dp/0976758261

    Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/

    Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

    • 27 min
    10: My Wife Cries A Lot…Help!

    10: My Wife Cries A Lot…Help!

    Husbands all over the world struggle to understand and respond to their wife's tears. Considering two thirds of women admit to crying for no reason, they have good reason to. Curious why women cry so much? Shaunti and Brian, joined by Brian's wife Jen, dig into the "why" behind women's tears and some helpful "dos" and "don'ts" as you move towards your wife. Also learn how God responds to our tears.

    Show Notes and Resources

    For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com

    Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/

    For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx

    For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx

    Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/

    Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

    • 26 min
    9: Every Hallmark Movie Is The Same. Why Does She Still Watch Those?

    9: Every Hallmark Movie Is The Same. Why Does She Still Watch Those?

    In season #1 of Married With Benefits we explained what a wife can learn about the mind of her husband from watching ESPN. Here Brian and Shaunti explain the heart of most wives as revealed in Hallmark movies. What core question is she asking that a good love story answers? What insecurities does she carry that she's hoping you will cover? Good news: You don't need to go ice skating or build a rocking chair out of raw cedar to win her heart every day.

    Show Notes and Resources

    For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com

    Hallmark Christmas Movie Plot Generator: https://wronghands1.com/2019/11/29/hallmark-christmas-movie-plot-generator/

    From Season 1: "Why Doesn’t My Marriage Look Anything Like a Hallmark Movie?" https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/14-why-doesnt-my-marriage-look-anything-like-a-hallmark-movie/

    Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/

    For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx

    Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/

    Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

    • 26 min
    8: Why Aren’t Decisions Ever Final For My Wife?

    8: Why Aren’t Decisions Ever Final For My Wife?

    Does it feel like decisions are never final with your wife? Does she like to "taaaaaaaaaalk" things thru way too long? And what should you do when it feels like she's questioning a decision you've made and felt was final? Host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explore this common experience with humor, wisdom, and insight on how to finally "lock in" her answer.

    Show Notes and Resources

    For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com

    For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx

    For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx

    Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/

    Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

    • 21 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
124 Ratings

124 Ratings

MJZoot ,

Spot on

I’ve listened to most of the episodes and so far they are spot on. My wife and I, in addition to our marriage group have read for men only and for women only. Shaunti and Jeff are incredibly honest, intelligent and insightful. Thank you!!!

Soliloquy72 ,

Pseudoscience and promoting outdated stereotypes

Shaunti Feldhahn calls herself a "social scientist" yet she refuses to quote any legitimate scientific research that is less than a decade old. She consistently refers to research in neuroscience that has been refuted multiples time in both better studies and in meta-analysis. Her own research surveys are full of fatal flaws. She consistently promotes outdated gender stereotypes as simply the way men and women are--while consistently ignoring differences in gender expression across time and culture. This entire podcast encourages couples to remain immature and to try and fit a mold that culture has created.

Shannon Poore ,

Might be the BEST marriage podcast out there

Practical, funny, relatable, this is one of my very favorite podcasts and I’ve recommended it to so many people since listening. I only wish there were new episodes!

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