More Human More Kind: Guidance for Parents & Allies of LGBTQ Teens

Heather Hester

Do you wish you could better support your LGBTQ child? To be an ally who shows up with courage, clarity, and compassion in your family, workplace, and community? You're not alone. More Human. More Kind. is a twice-weekly podcast supporting concerned parents and allies of LGBTQ+ kids who are ready to move from fear, grief, and confusion to healing, resilience, and empowered advocacy. Hosted by Heather Hester, author of Parenting with Pride and a fierce advocate for human rights and social justice, each episode blends grounded insights, personal stories, and practical guidance to help you protect what matters, raise brave kids, and spark collective change. * You'll learn to navigate mental health challenges, set loving boundaries, and find hope and support through the messiness of parenting, allyship, and becoming. * Whether you're wrestling with bigotry, searching for connection and community, or ready to shift your mindset toward kindness and open-minded action, this show offers the education and encouragement you need. New episodes drop every Tuesday and Friday, featuring expert interviews, vulnerable Listener Queer-ies, and timely solo episodes that foster growth, empathy, and activism. Start with fan-favorite Episode 3: Embrace the Messiness of Supporting Your LGBTQ Teen (With Resilience & Hope), an honest conversation that will help you exhale, reflect, and show up more fully and fiercely for the people you love.

  1. Parents of LGBTQ Kids: Do You Quietly Hope It’s “Just a Phase?”

    1D AGO

    Parents of LGBTQ Kids: Do You Quietly Hope It’s “Just a Phase?”

    Are you an overwhelmed mom of an LGBTQ+ teen who's feeling lost trying to navigate the coming out process, and wants to let go of shame and embarrassment, as well as build a deeper connection of trust within yourself and your teen? Click here to learn how to work with me 1-1. Have you ever quietly hoped that what your child just told you about their identity… might still be a phase? Many parents of LGBTQ kids find themselves in this exact moment. You’re trying to be supportive. But internally there’s still a quiet “just in case.” You tell yourself you’re just being cautious. But that quiet hesitation can shape your parenting and your relationship with your child more than you realize. In this episode, Heather explores the deeper emotional pattern many parents experience after a child comes out. You’ll learn: Why hoping something is “just a phase” often comes from fear, grief, and uncertainty, not lack of loveHow unresolved hesitation creates subtle instability in your relationshipWhy children stop pushing for acceptance and instead begin protecting themselvesHow inconsistency quietly erodes trust, even when love is still present Most importantly, you’ll understand how parents can move from quiet hesitation to grounded steadiness so their child feels fully seen and affirmed. ActionReal change doesn’t happen by forcing certainty. It happens by confronting the hesitation underneath it and learning how to show up steady and grounded for your child. Press play now. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Are you ready to take action? Let's connect and create a personalized plan! Stay informed - receive my newsletter 2x/month Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review! Connect heather@heatherhester.net Buy Me A Coffee Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    16 min
  2. 5 Ways Moms of LGBTQ Kids Know They’re Becoming Stronger Allies

    4D AGO

    5 Ways Moms of LGBTQ Kids Know They’re Becoming Stronger Allies

    Are you a parent of an LGBTQ child, noticing that something inside you is shifting even if you’re not ready to admit it yet? Parenting an LGBTQ child doesn’t just change your child’s life; it transforms you. Many parents and allies experience a quiet evolution. You begin noticing gendered language in school forms. You feel tension when someone makes a “joke.” You question faith spaces, friendships, policies, and even your own old beliefs. What once felt neutral now feels personal. This isn’t overreacting. It’s identity growth. It’s allyship becoming embodied. For moms and dads raising gay, trans, or diverse kids, this shift often marks the moment you move from passive support into advocacy rooted in empathy, love, human rights, and social justice. In this episode, you will: Recognize the subtle signs that your parenting identity is evolvingUnderstand why discomfort is often clarity not confusion for LGBTQ parentsGain practical guidance to strengthen boundaries, advocate with confidence, and build stability in your family and community You’ll also explore how grief, shifting belief systems, education, and mental health awareness shape this transformation and why that evolution makes you a stronger, steadier ally. If you’re an LGBTQ parent ready to move from quiet discomfort to grounded allyship and courageous advocacy, press play now and discover what your next aligned step looks like. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Are you ready to take action? Let's connect and create a personalized plan! Stay informed - receive my newsletter 2x/month Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review! Connect heather@heatherhester.net Buy Me A Coffee Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    16 min
  3. Parents of LGBTQ Kids: The Biggest Mistake Allies Make When a Child Comes Out (Interview on No Guilt Mom)

    5D AGO

    Parents of LGBTQ Kids: The Biggest Mistake Allies Make When a Child Comes Out (Interview on No Guilt Mom)

    The biggest mistake LGBTQ parents and allies make when a child comes out isn’t what you think, and it can quietly damage trust if you don’t catch it early. So many loving parents and allies want to support their LGBTQ child, but fear takes over in real conversations. You worry about saying the wrong thing, offending them, or not doing enough. In today’s media environment, the pressure to “get it right” can make you freeze—or overcorrect—and neither one feels good. Learn the 3 mindset shifts that make parenting LGBTQ teens and allyship steadier and more confidentGet clear guidance for building trust through empathy, curiosity, and simple supportive languageUnderstand how to set boundaries, find community support, and keep learning without shame Press play to listen to JoAnn Crohn interview Heather Hester on No Guilt Mom, and learn how to support your LGBTQ child with calm, courage, and connection so your allyship feels authentic and your child feels safe. Listen to more episodes of No Guilt Mom here! Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Are you ready to take action? Let's connect and create a personalized plan! Stay informed - receive my newsletter 2x/month Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review! Connect heather@heatherhester.net Buy Me A Coffee Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    34 min
  4. Ways Guilt Impacts Parenting LGBTQ Kids (And How Allies Can Repair It)

    MAR 6

    Ways Guilt Impacts Parenting LGBTQ Kids (And How Allies Can Repair It)

    Are you an overwhelmed mom of an LGBTQ+ teen who's feeling lost trying to navigate the coming out process, and wants to let go of shame and embarrassment, as well as build a deeper connection of trust within yourself and your teen? Click here to learn how to work with me 1-1. Are you a parent of an LGBTQ teen who is still carrying guilt about how you reacted when your child came out as gay, trans, or questioning? Many loving, well-intentioned parents and allies experience an emotional shock when their child first comes out. Even moms and dads deeply committed to LGBTQ allyship, human rights, social justice, and empathy can feel grief, confusion, or fear before their mind catches up with their love. But when that guilt goes unprocessed, it quietly shapes your parenting. It impacts boundaries. It affects mental health. It changes how you advocate for your child. And it can subtly shift trust within your family and broader LGBTQ community. In this episode, Heather offers grounded guidance for parents navigating guilt, grief, and the emotional aftermath of a coming-out conversation, without shame or judgment. Understand why guilt lingers for even the most supportive LGBTQ alliesLearn how unprocessed shame affects parenting, boundaries, and connectionGain clear guidance to move from fragile allyship to steady advocacy rooted in empathy and love If you’re an LGBTQ parent ready to strengthen trust, improve mental health, and become a steadier advocate for your child, press play now and take the first step toward grounded, intentional allyship. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Are you ready to take action? Let's connect and create a personalized plan! Stay informed - receive my newsletter 2x/month Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review! Connect heather@heatherhester.net Buy Me A Coffee Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    12 min
  5. Are You a Performative LGBTQ Ally? Here's How to Know.

    MAR 3

    Are You a Performative LGBTQ Ally? Here's How to Know.

    Get Your Ally Impact Checklist! Are you sure your LGBTQ allyship is creating real impact or just looking supportive on the surface? If you’ve ever bought Pride merch, shared a rainbow post, or wondered whether you’re “doing enough,” you’re not alone. In a culture filled with rainbow logos and marketing campaigns, it’s harder than ever to tell the difference between meaningful support and performative gestures. And the last thing you want is to unintentionally contribute to harm while trying to help. A simple framework to instantly identify performative allyship in brands, organizations, and even yourselfClear, practical questions to guide your spending, advocacy, and influenceA powerful mindset shift that builds real trust with LGBTQ people in your life Press play to learn how to move from visible support to meaningful, credible allyship that actually makes a difference. Celia Daniels episode Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Are you ready to take action? Let's connect and create a personalized plan! Stay informed - receive my newsletter 2x/month Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review! Connect heather@heatherhester.net Buy Me A Coffee Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    13 min
  6. Why Parents of LGBTQ Kids Feel So Alone (And How to Break the Isolation Cycle)

    FEB 27

    Why Parents of LGBTQ Kids Feel So Alone (And How to Break the Isolation Cycle)

    Are you an overwhelmed mom of an LGBTQ+ teen who's feeling lost trying to navigate the coming out process, and wants to let go of shame and embarrassment, as well as build a deeper connection of trust within yourself and your teen? Click here to learn how to work with me 1-1. Do you ever scroll social media and wonder why everyone else’s family looks lighter, easier, less complicated than yours? Parenting an LGBTQ child can feel isolating, especially when you’re carrying quiet fear behind closed doors. In this episode, Heather Hester unpacks why isolation magnifies anxiety, how shame convinces parents they’re uniquely broken, and why silence quietly widens the emotional gap. If you’ve been trying to be a steady LGBTQ ally while secretly feeling alone, this conversation offers grounded guidance and reassurance. In this episode, you’ll: Understand how this Shame Cycle keeps parents isolatedLearn why comparison distorts reality and fuels disconnectionGet one simple, brave step to interrupt loneliness and rebuild connection You’ll leave feeling less alone and more empowered to seek real support. Press play to step out of isolation, challenge shame, and reconnect with your child, your community, and yourself. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Are you ready to take action? Let's connect and create a personalized plan! Stay informed - receive my newsletter 2x/month Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review! Connect heather@heatherhester.net Buy Me A Coffee Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    9 min
  7. Voice Dysphoria: The Piece of Gender-Affirming Care That Parents of LGBTQ Teens Often Overlook

    FEB 26

    Voice Dysphoria: The Piece of Gender-Affirming Care That Parents of LGBTQ Teens Often Overlook

    SPECIAL GUEST EPISODE! Contact Nicole and learn more about Undead Voice Voice is more than sound. It’s identity. It’s safety. It’s confidence. It’s how we take up space in the world. And yet voice dysphoria is one of the most overlooked and misunderstood parts of gender-affirming care. In this episode, Heather sits down with Nicole Gress (she/they), licensed speech-language pathologist and founder of Undead Voice, the leading voice transition training company serving trans and gender-diverse individuals worldwide. Nicole shares: Why traditional medical voice models often fail trans peopleHow gender is actually perceived in the voice (hint: it’s not just pitch)What voice dysphoria can look like in youthThe psychological impact of selective mutism and social withdrawalWhy early voice training access can be life-changingWhat parents can say if they notice their child becoming quieter Nicole also explains their groundbreaking Five Pillars of Voice method, a curriculum designed specifically for trans people, and how centering community transforms outcomes. If you are: A parent or caregiver wanting to better understand your child’s experienceAn ally trying to support someone navigating voice transitionSomeone on your own voice journeyOr simply curious about the intersection of identity, autonomy, and expression This conversation will expand your awareness — and offer practical next steps. Nicole’s free three-week beginner voice training program, Jumpstart, is accessible in all 50 states and globally, and runs throughout the year. You can learn more and enroll here: 👉 https://www.undeadvoice.com/joinjumpstart This program is open to trans and gender-diverse individuals of all ages and provides both skill-building and community support. 🎧 Listen to the episode 🔗 Share it with a parent, educator, or ally 📌 Bookmark Jumpstart for someone who may need it Your voice deserves to feel like home. And when we create safety for people to use their voice fully, everything changes. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Are you ready to take action? Let's connect and create a personalized plan! Stay informed - receive my newsletter 2x/month Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review! Connect heather@heatherhester.net Buy Me A Coffee Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    45 min
  8. “I Treat Everyone the Same” Is Not the LGBTQ Ally Move You Think

    FEB 24

    “I Treat Everyone the Same” Is Not the LGBTQ Ally Move You Think

    Get the 60-Second Ally Response Kit! Have you ever said, “I treat everyone the same,” thinking it signaled love only to feel the room shift? In this episode, Heather Hester unpacks one of the most common phrases well-meaning parents and allies use and why it often lands as erasure instead of inclusion. If you’re trying to support your LGBTQ child but sometimes feel unsure what to say, this conversation offers practical, grounded guidance to help you move from equality language to equity-based support. In this episode, you’ll: Understand the critical difference between equality and equity in LGBTQ allyshipLearn why “I treat everyone the same” can unintentionally create emotional distanceGet simple, real-life phrases you can use to help your LGBTQ loved one feel seen, safe, and supported You’ll walk away with more clarity, more confidence, and language that builds trust instead of tension. Press play to learn how to upgrade one simple phrase and become the kind of LGBTQ ally whose support truly lands. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Are you ready to take action? Let's connect and create a personalized plan! Stay informed - receive my newsletter 2x/month Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review! Connect heather@heatherhester.net Buy Me A Coffee Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    12 min

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Do you wish you could better support your LGBTQ child? To be an ally who shows up with courage, clarity, and compassion in your family, workplace, and community? You're not alone. More Human. More Kind. is a twice-weekly podcast supporting concerned parents and allies of LGBTQ+ kids who are ready to move from fear, grief, and confusion to healing, resilience, and empowered advocacy. Hosted by Heather Hester, author of Parenting with Pride and a fierce advocate for human rights and social justice, each episode blends grounded insights, personal stories, and practical guidance to help you protect what matters, raise brave kids, and spark collective change. * You'll learn to navigate mental health challenges, set loving boundaries, and find hope and support through the messiness of parenting, allyship, and becoming. * Whether you're wrestling with bigotry, searching for connection and community, or ready to shift your mindset toward kindness and open-minded action, this show offers the education and encouragement you need. New episodes drop every Tuesday and Friday, featuring expert interviews, vulnerable Listener Queer-ies, and timely solo episodes that foster growth, empathy, and activism. Start with fan-favorite Episode 3: Embrace the Messiness of Supporting Your LGBTQ Teen (With Resilience & Hope), an honest conversation that will help you exhale, reflect, and show up more fully and fiercely for the people you love.

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