Navigating Adult ADHD Xena Jones

You know that low feeling you get after you return from a holiday? That reason why you book the next trip to look forward to asap? THIS is a dopamine hangover. Anytime we spike our dopamine levels, for example jumping out of a plane & then feeling on top of the world. Later results in a significant drop in dopamine (what goes up must come down, literally!) & it doesn't feel so good. This results in us feeling lower in mood, having less motivation & drive to do things & h...

Do you tie your self-worth to how productive you are? Never feel like you're doing enough? Due to the way we've been raised & the messages we've absorbed growing up, most adults with ADHD, especially women, struggle with this! (myself included)In this episode we explore:The messages ADHDers & women have received growing upHow these impact our self-worth Questions we can ask ourselves to challenge & change our self-limiting beliefsPlus I share my own recent revelatio...

Somewhere along the way we developed this idea that in order to be better & do better we had to beat ourselves up. How’s that working out for you? Are you improving your life by hating yourself? Are you creating positive results?The truth is: You can’t hate your way to happiness.Trust me, I tried. Hate only creates more negativity in our lives.And beating ourselves up is effectively punching ourselves in the face. It hurts & it’s not creating a positive outcome. All feelings dri...

Your capacity is the amount of mental, emotional & physical energy you have to be able to "human" & get things done each day. Everything you do will either add to your energy levels in the "tank" or take away from them. Just like a car that can run out of gas - we need to be checking in with ourselves & be mindful of refuelling or checking how much gas we have left for the day. Are you spending your mental, physical & emotional energy where you WANT to ...

As ADHDers many of us learned to people-please from a young age... Making it hard to say no. This is one of the many ways we masked our ADHD & tried to meet the neurotypical expectations that society placed on us.But when we say yes to one thing… we are saying no to another. In this episode you’ll learn: Why adults with ADHD can be quick to say yes & can struggle with saying noHow I handled saying no last week & all the drama my brain had about doing itSelf-coaching...

Have you ever called yourself a people-pleaser? I’m Xena & I am a recovering people-pleaser.I cared so much about what other people thought of me & would prioritise the needs & desires of my friends, family or colleagues, above my own. And by doing this I was telling myself that my needs & what I wanted weren’t as important... Further adding to my insecurities & lack of self-worth. Overtime I became a chameleon - I didn’t know who I was or what I really like...