Not Your Average Autism Mom

Shannon Urquiola
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This podcast was started for parents and caregivers raising autistic children, but has evolved, and we have listeners across the world who are relatives of someone with autism, special education teachers, and other professionals. My son Jordan was diagnosed with autism when he was 5 years old, now 30. I have been where you are. Jordan will likely never live independently. I am in the trenches every day, just like you. Each week, for 20 minutes or less (most episodes), I discuss topics that directly impact your life on this unique parenting journey. info@notyouraverageautismmom.com

  1. 2d ago

    BEST OF Summer Series —When Behavior Speaks: Medical Insights into Autism Aggression

    ☀️ BEST of Summer Series This episode is part of our BEST of Summer Series, where we're revisiting some of the most impactful, most downloaded, and most shared episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Originally released as Episode 221, When Behavior Speaks: Medical Insights into Autism Aggression continues to be one of the conversations that has helped parents look beyond behavior and ask a different question: "What if my child's behavior is trying to tell me something?" Whether you're listening for the first time or coming back for a refresher, I hope this episode gives you exactly what you need today. Summer often brings changes in routine, sleep schedules, travel, heat, different foods, and increased sensory demands. For many autistic children, those changes can lead to an increase in challenging behaviors—including aggression. But what if aggression isn't simply "bad behavior"? What if it's communication? In this episode, Shannon explores the often-overlooked medical factors that can contribute to aggressive behavior and why it's so important to look for the why before assuming it's purely behavioral. You'll learn: • Why aggression is often a form of communication • Medical issues that may contribute to challenging behaviors, including gastrointestinal concerns, hidden pain, vitamin deficiencies, hormonal changes, and more • Why "it's just autism" isn't always the complete answer • How to advocate for further medical evaluation when something doesn't feel right • Practical strategies for working with healthcare providers to uncover potential root causes • Why understanding the "why" behind behavior changes everything This episode is a reminder that behavior always has meaning. Sometimes the answer is behavioral. Sometimes it's medical. And sometimes it's both. When we stay curious instead of making assumptions, we become better advocates for our children. 🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, please consider leaving a review. Your feedback helps other autism parents discover the podcast and reminds them they aren't alone. 💙 And if you feel like you're constantly holding everything together, but inside you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or stuck in survival mode... I created something specifically for you. The Stepping Out of Survival Mode RESET Workshop is a coaching experience designed for moms raising autistic children who feel like their nervous system is always "on." If you're ready to move out of survival mode and start feeling more like yourself again, learn more here: 👉 https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/coachingreset 💚 Looking for additional support on this parenting journey none of us planned? Visit www.notyouraverageautismmom.com to find resources designed specifically for moms raising autistic children. 🎧 With more than 270 episodes available, summer is the perfect time to explore the podcast library and discover conversations that meet you exactly where you are today. BEST of Summer Series Note: This episode was originally recorded before the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast moved to video format, so it is available on audio podcast platforms only. You can listen to this episode—and explore our library of more than 270 episodes wherever you enjoy podcasts.

    BEST OF Summer Series —When Behavior Speaks: Medical Insights into Autism Aggression

  2. Jul 9

    BEST OF Summer Series - Unwrapping the Rule Book: Strategies for Discipline

    ☀️ BEST of Summer Series This episode is part of our BEST of Summer Series, where we're revisiting some of the most impactful, most downloaded, and most shared episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Originally released as Episode 174, Unwrapping the Rule Book: Strategies for Discipline continues to be one of the conversations that resonates most with moms raising autistic children. Whether you're listening for the first time or coming back for a refresher, I hope it gives you exactly what you need today. Summer has a way of testing even the best parenting strategies. Routines change, expectations become less structured, and our children often have more downtime, more transitions, and more opportunities to push boundaries. If you've found yourself wondering whether you're being too strict, too lenient, or simply inconsistent, this episode is for you. In this episode, Shannon dives into one of the biggest questions autism parents ask: "How do I discipline my autistic child in a way that actually teaches instead of simply punishes?" You'll learn: • Why clear expectations help children feel safer and more successful • How boundaries and consistency build confidence—not fear • Practical discipline strategies that teach instead of shame • Why visual supports and predictable consequences can make such a difference • Real-life examples of handling public meltdowns, homework battles, and everyday parenting challenges • How to respond with confidence, compassion, and consistency—even when it's hard Discipline isn't about punishment. It's about teaching. It's about preparing our children for the world while meeting them where they are today. This episode will encourage you to stop second-guessing yourself and begin seeing discipline as one of the greatest gifts we can give our children. 🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, please consider leaving a review. Your feedback helps other autism parents discover the podcast and reminds them they aren't alone. 💙 And if you feel like you're constantly holding everything together, but inside you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or stuck in survival mode... I created something specifically for you. The Stepping Out of Survival Mode RESET Workshop is a coaching experience designed for moms raising autistic children who feel like their nervous system is always "on." If you're ready to move out of survival mode and start feeling more like yourself again, take a few minutes to learn more here: 👉 https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/coachingreset 💚 Looking for additional support, coaching, and connection with moms who truly understand this journey? Visit www.notyouraverageautismmom.com to learn more about other ways we can support you on this parenting journey none of us planned. 🎧 With more than 270 episodes available, summer is the perfect time to explore the podcast library and discover conversations that meet you exactly where you are today. ☀️ BEST of Summer Series Note: This episode was originally recorded before the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast moved to video format, so it is available on audio podcast platforms only.

    BEST OF Summer Series - Unwrapping the Rule Book: Strategies for Discipline

  3. Jul 2

    BEST OF Summer Series Reset & Reconnect: What to Do After You Lose Your Lane (and You Will)

    ☀️ BEST of Summer Series This episode is part of our BEST of Summer Series, where I'm revisiting some of the most impactful, most downloaded, and most shared episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Originally released as Episode 248, Reset & Reconnect: What to Do After You Lose Your Lane (and You Will) continues to be one of the conversations that resonates most with moms raising autistic children. Whether you're listening for the first time or coming back for a refresher, I hope it gives you exactly what you need today. Summer has a way of stretching us. Schedules change. Routines disappear. Everyone is home more. Emotions run high. And sometimes, despite our very best intentions, we lose our lane. Maybe you snap. Maybe you raise your voice. Maybe you react in a way you wish you hadn't. Here's what I want you to know... You're human. And what matters most isn't that you never lose your lane—it's knowing how to find your way back. In this episode, Shannon shares practical strategies to help you reset after difficult moments and reconnect with your child, your family, and yourself without getting stuck in guilt. You'll learn: • Why life's busiest seasons put everyone's nervous system under more stress • What a realistic reset looks like after you've reacted in a way you regret • How to reconnect with your autistic child after a difficult moment • Why repair is often more powerful than perfection • Practical ways to move forward instead of carrying guilt for days • Why losing your lane doesn't make you a bad mom If you've ever finished a hard day wishing you could have handled it differently, this episode is your reminder that tomorrow—and sometimes the next five minutes—is another opportunity to begin again. 🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, please consider leaving a review. Your feedback helps other autism parents discover the podcast and reminds them they aren't alone. AND if you feel like you’re constantly holding everything together, but inside you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or stuck in survival mode… I created something specifically for you.The Stepping Out of Survival Mode RESET Workshop is a coaching experience designed for moms raising autistic children who feel like their nervous system is always “on.” If that sounds familiar, take a few minutes to read about it here:👉 https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/coachingreset 🎧 With more than 270 episodes available, summer is the perfect time to explore the podcast library and discover conversations that meet you exactly where you are today. ☀️ BEST of Summer Series Note:Throughout the summer, I'll be revisiting some of the most impactful episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Some BEST of Summer episodes were originally recorded before the podcast moved to video format and may be available only on audio podcast platforms.

    BEST OF Summer Series Reset & Reconnect: What to Do After You Lose Your Lane (and You Will)

  4. Jun 25

    BEST OF Summer Series - Social Expectations vs Autism Reality

    ☀️ BEST of Summer Series This episode is part of our BEST of Summer Series, where I'm revisiting some of the most impactful, most downloaded, and most shared episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Originally released as Episode 143, Social Expectations vs Autism Reality continues to be one of the conversations that resonates most with moms raising autistic children. Whether you're listening for the first time or coming back for a refresher, I hope it gives you exactly what you need today. Summer often means more family gatherings, vacations, community events, restaurants, pools, camps, and outings. And with those experiences often comes something many autism families know all too well—society's expectations. We live in a world filled with unwritten social rules. Personal space. Physical touch. Conversation topics. Waiting in line. Reading social cues. For many neurotypical children, these expectations are picked up naturally. For our children, the social world can often feel confusing, overwhelming, and sometimes unfairly judgmental. In this episode, Shannon explores the gap between social expectations and autism reality—and the impact that gap can have on both our children and us as parents. You'll learn: • What social norms and boundaries really are • Why social expectations can be especially challenging for autistic children • How misunderstandings can lead to judgment, exclusion, and frustration • Why many autism parents feel pressure to meet society's expectations • How to shift your perspective and protect your peace • Ways to advocate for greater understanding and acceptance • Why your belief in your child matters more than public opinion Shannon also discusses the emotional toll that social expectations can place on families and shares encouragement for parents who often feel caught between helping their child navigate the world and helping the world better understand their child. This episode is a reminder that while our children may experience the world differently, different does not mean less. Together, we can continue creating a more compassionate and inclusive world—one conversation at a time. 🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, please consider leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and helps other autism parents find the encouragement and support they need. 💙 Looking for additional support, coaching, and connection with moms who truly understand this journey? Visit Not Your Average Autism Mom to learn more about our private membership, trainings, and resources designed specifically for moms raising autistic children. 🎧 With more than 270 episodes available, summer is the perfect time to explore the podcast library and discover conversations that meet you exactly where you are today. ☀️ BEST of Summer Series Note:Throughout the summer, I'll be revisiting some of the most impactful episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Some BEST of Summer episodes were originally recorded before the podcast moved to video format and may be available only on audio podcast platforms.

    BEST OF Summer Series - Social Expectations vs Autism Reality

  5. Jun 18

    BEST OF Summer Series— Rules Matter: Consequences That Teach, Not Punish

    ☀️ BEST of Summer Series This episode is part of our BEST of Summer Series, where I'm revisiting some of the most impactful, most downloaded, and most shared episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Originally released as Episode 241, Rules Matter: Consequences That Teach, Not Punish continues to be one of the conversations that resonates most with moms raising autistic children. Whether you're listening for the first time or coming back for a refresher, I hope it gives you exactly what you need today. Life runs on rules—and our kids need opportunities to learn them at home so they can navigate the real world with greater safety, confidence, and independence. In this episode, Shannon shares why rules aren't harsh or unfair—they're loving preparation for life. You'll learn how to make expectations clear, follow through consistently, and use consequences that teach rather than punish. Shannon also opens up about one of the most difficult parenting seasons she experienced with her son Jordan. She shares the story of electronics in their home, why she used to give in, what happened when she finally held the boundary, and why taking devices away at 24 years old ultimately led to more freedom, not less. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why rules are an important part of preparing our children for adulthood • The difference between consequences that teach and consequences that punish • How consistency builds trust and understanding • Why following through is often harder on parents than it is on kids • How boundaries can create more freedom over time • A simple challenge you can start implementing today This episode is filled with practical encouragement, real-life experiences, and a reminder that teaching responsibility isn't mean—it's one of the most loving things we can do. 🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, please consider leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and helps other autism parents find the encouragement and support they need. 💙 Looking for additional support, coaching, and connection with moms who truly understand this journey? Visit Not Your Average Autism Mom to learn more about our private membership, trainings, and resources designed specifically for moms raising autistic children. 🎧 With more than 270 episodes available, summer is the perfect time to explore the podcast library and discover conversations that meet you exactly where you are today. ☀️ BEST of Summer Series Note:Throughout the summer, I'll be revisiting some of the most impactful episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Some BEST of Summer episodes were originally recorded before the podcast moved to video format and may be available only on audio podcast platforms.

    BEST OF Summer Series— Rules Matter: Consequences That Teach, Not Punish

  6. Jun 11

    BEST OF Summer Series—Stranger Danger, Autism & Online Risks: When Safety Isn't Simple

    ☀️ BEST of Summer Series This episode is part of our BEST of Summer Series, where I'm revisiting some of the most impactful, most downloaded, and most sharedepisodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Originally released as Episode 252, Stranger Danger,Autism & Online Risks: When Safety Isn’t Simple  continues to be one of the conversations thatresonates most with moms raising autistic children. Whether you're listening for the first time or coming backfor a refresher, I hope it gives you exactly what you need today. How do you teach stranger danger to autistic kids — withoutcreating fear? In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism MomPodcast, Shannon Urquiola dives into a topic so many parents worry aboutbut rarely feel confident navigating. Inspired by a question from a follower, ValenciaShannon, this episode explores what “stranger danger” really looks like forautistic children and why traditional advice often falls short. Shannon walks you through: Shannon also shares personal stories about her son Jordan,including why, at 29, safety planning and supervision are still necessary due to impulse control and lack of fear — and how meeting your child where they are is not failure, it’s love. 💙 For moms in the Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership: Two parent resource downloads are available in the portal and the Village resource section to support youwith online monitoring tools. This episode is compassionate, practical, and honest —because teaching safety doesn’t have to come from fear. It comes from preparation. 🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and createsa space for other parents to find inspiration and connection. Together, we can overcome challenges and create a brighterfuture for our families. P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? Check out all the ways we can help you at NotYourAverageAutismMom.com Additional Resources: Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ FREE group on FB If there is a specific topic that you would like us to talkabout on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠ Don't miss these episodes... ⁠217. Your Words Matter: Raising Resilient Kids⁠ ⁠110. Have You Ever Secretly Hated Autism?

    BEST OF Summer Series—Stranger Danger, Autism & Online Risks: When Safety Isn't Simple

  7. Jun 4

    BEST OF Summer Series—Stop Chasing Calm: The Truth About Regulation

    ☀️ BEST of Summer Series This episode is part of our BEST of Summer Series, where I'm revisiting some of the most impactful, most downloaded, and most shared episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Originally released as Episode 234, Stop Chasing Calm: The Truth About Regulation continues to be one of the conversations that resonates most with moms raising autistic children. Whether you're listening for the first time or coming back for a refresher, I hope it gives you exactly what you need today. In this episode, Shannon breaks down why “just stay calm” is one of the most misleading pieces of advice parents of autistic children hear—and what to focus on instead. Calm and regulation are not the same thing, and confusing them can leave you feeling like you’re failing.   Shannon explains how kids pick up instantly when your words and your body don’t match, why chasing calm can backfire, and how your regulation—not your calm—becomes the anchor your child needs. You’ll learn co-regulation strategies and discover simple tools to create space before reacting.  If you’ve ever felt like you can’t keep it together during meltdowns, this episode will help you shift your focus from perfection to connection, and from chasing calm to building true regulation. With more than 270 episodes available, there's never been a better time to explore the podcast library. 🎧 Please Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection and please share it with another autism mom who needs to hear it. Additional Resources: Looking for deeper support, coaching, and connection with moms who truly understand this life? Visit ⁠Not Your Average Autism Mom to check out all the ways we can help you.   And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or like your mind won’t shut off — this workshop was created with you in mind.  The Stepping Out of Survival Mode RESET Workshop is a coaching experience designed for moms raising autistic children who feel like their nervous system is always "on."   ⁠READ ALL ABOUT IT HERE⁠  No pressure, just something to explore if you need it. Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠⁠⁠ FB group. If there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠⁠  ☀️ BEST of Summer Series Note: Throughout the summer, I'll be revisiting some of the most impactful episodes from the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast. Some BEST of Summer episodes were originally recorded before the podcast moved to video format and may be available only on audio podcast platforms.

    BEST OF Summer Series—Stop Chasing Calm: The Truth About Regulation

  8. May 28

    272. Summer is Coming... And I Know You're Already Tired

    Summer is coming... and if you're already feeling overwhelmed thinking about it, you're not alone. In this episode, Shannon talks about the unique challenges summer brings for families raising autistic children—from the loss of routines and the fear of regression to the realities of ESY, sibling dynamics, and trying to keep everyone regulated when structure disappears. You'll hear why summer often feels heavier instead of lighter for autism families, how to think differently about learning and progress during the break, and simple ways to support your child without turning your home into a full-time classroom. Shannon also shares practical life skill activities, ideas for creating predictable summer routines, and encouragement for the moms who are already carrying anxiety because last summer was hard. If you're worried about keeping it all together this summer, this episode is your reminder that progress isn't as fragile as you think, life skills are learning, and you do not have to create a perfect summer to create meaningful moments. In this episode, we discuss:• Why summer can feel overwhelming for autism families• The fear of regression and how to manage it• Understanding the role of ESY (Extended School Year)• Everyday life skills that support growth and independence• Creating simple summer routines that reduce stress• Letting go of unrealistic expectations• Finding joy in the small moments This episode is also our final new episode before we begin our annual BEST OF Summer Series, where we'll revisit some of the most-loved and most-downloaded episodes from the past several years. 🎧 Please Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection. Please share it with another autism mom who might need to hear it. Additional Resources: 💙 Looking for deeper support, coaching, and connection with moms who truly understand this life? Visit ⁠Not Your Average Autism Mom to check out all the ways we can help you.   And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or like your mind won’t shut off — this workshop was created with you in mind.  The Stepping Out of Survival Mode RESET Workshop is a coaching experience designed for moms raising autistic children who feel like their nervous system is always "on."   ⁠READ ALL ABOUT IT HERE⁠  No pressure, just something to explore if you need it. Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠⁠⁠ FB group. If there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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This podcast was started for parents and caregivers raising autistic children, but has evolved, and we have listeners across the world who are relatives of someone with autism, special education teachers, and other professionals. My son Jordan was diagnosed with autism when he was 5 years old, now 30. I have been where you are. Jordan will likely never live independently. I am in the trenches every day, just like you. Each week, for 20 minutes or less (most episodes), I discuss topics that directly impact your life on this unique parenting journey. info@notyouraverageautismmom.com

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  • Creator
    Shannon Urquiola
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    298
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Shannon Urquiola
  • Show Website
    Not Your Average Autism Mom

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