99 episodes

If you are raising a child diagnosed with autism this podcast is for you. Every week, we talk about ALL things that go hand in hand with our unique parenting journey.
info@notyouraverageautismmom.com

Not Your Average Autism Mom Shannon Urquiola

    • Kids & Family
    • 5.0 • 25 Ratings

If you are raising a child diagnosed with autism this podcast is for you. Every week, we talk about ALL things that go hand in hand with our unique parenting journey.
info@notyouraverageautismmom.com

    98. Chaos Happens. It is Part of the Journey for Most of Us.

    98. Chaos Happens. It is Part of the Journey for Most of Us.

    Why it is important that we embrace the chaos along this journey? There are going to be times that are unpredictable and full of uncertainty, there just are.  When we accept that this is our life and we are navigating it the best we know how with what we know at the moment, it becomes way easier to live in it.  There are things that we must let go of in order for this to happen.  

    You cannot control how your child acts or reacts and you can't control the meltdowns, but what you can control is you.  You can control how you show up in any situation and the way you decide to show up can make the situation either better or worse.  

    When you choose to just embrace and accept your life as it is and move forward without worrying about judgment from others, you will ultimately find yourself happier and more at peace with your life.

    The chaos will change as your child grows. There is often verbal stimming, you know those noises that go on and on and on, or pacing back and forth, back and forth, or what about a meltdown in the grocery store, or biting or hitting another child in school and some of our children may even become violent and destructive.

    So many of our children’s behavioral challenges are escalated by the way we are interacting with them which is why learning to manage your own mind and realizing that you are in control of YOU matters.

    For many of our children, mine included, their thinking is very rigid and inflexible, very black and white, and definitely no gray area. When things don’t go as they expect, they panic and go into a meltdown. Their ability to control their emotions is just not developed and they don’t have the ability to manage them.

    You cannot predict the future. Uncertainty about how things will go in any situation is usually an unknown for us, right? 

    There are things that you can do to help your child if there is a possibility of chaos and I share strategies you can use in this episode.

    You don’t know what real strength you have unless you are put in a situation that forces you to bring it out. Raising a child or children with autism will show you the depth of your strength.

    If you want to learn more about managing your mind and learning to control your emotions, the coaching program inside our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD might be exactly what you are looking for combined with many other benefits.  Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out all of the benefits available to you in our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD.

    www.notyouraverageautismmom.com 

    Additional Resources:

    Episode 90.  The Many Negative Impacts of Yelling

    Episode 89.  Calming Down Big Emotions

    • 21 min
    97. Strategies for Deficits in Executive Functioning

    97. Strategies for Deficits in Executive Functioning

    For most of us, we take executive functioning skills for granted.  It is something that just came naturally, but for our children, it is not that way. They need to be taught these skills through repetition and practice and you must be patient and understanding of their struggles.  

    Not all autistic individuals have deficits in executive functioning skills and some may have deficits in only one or two areas.  

    Executive functioning skills are the mental skills that we use to navigate our everyday lives.  These abilities help us pay attention, stay on task, understand other people's perspectives, make decisions and organize and prioritize what needs to be done.  

    Planning is the ability to forward think and sequence things to have a start and end.  Many individuals on the spectrum have difficulty formulating a plan to organize those tasks.  

    In this episode, I give you strategies that you can begin to use to help your child build this skill-set.  

    The earlier you begin to work on these things, the easier it will be for them as they continue to grow and develop and the reward for their self-esteem and ultimately their independence will be well worth your time and patience.  

    If you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out all of the benefits available to you in our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD.

    www.notyouraverageautismmom.com 

    Additional Resources:

    Episode 92. Slow Processing Impacts Everyday Life

    Episode 40. The Impact of Mind Blindness

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    • 20 min
    96. Our Parenting Journey IS Different

    96. Our Parenting Journey IS Different

    I believe that for our children to grow and develop we cannot raise them the same as we would raise our neurotypical children because there are differences.  The vast majority of autistic children, even children who are non-verbal are able to understand and comply with basic rules of conduct they just might need more time to adjust and become comfortable with what is and what isn’t allowed.

    Think about this… your child or children experience the same world we do but in an extraordinary way.

    The more that you are willing to expose your children to the world it will help them become aware and accustomed to the world around them. While I know that sometimes it feels easier to stay home, especially if their behavior is unpredictable, that isolation is not healthy for them or for you.

    You will try many different approaches when it comes to parenting as your child continues to grow and change along the way and it is important that you don’t get discouraged when something doesn’t work.

    This autism parenting journey can feel lonely, and friendships can be difficult when others don’t understand your journey. Find support from those who understand. That is what our SISTERHOOD is all about.  

    We are CLOSING the DOORS for NEW MEMBERS SOON so don't MISS IT!  Click below for all the details:

    www.notyouraverageautismmom.com 

    Additional Resources:

    60. The Most Important Relationship Along Your Autism Parenting Journey 

    • 19 min
    95. Your Child Refusing to Cooperate

    95. Your Child Refusing to Cooperate

    For some of our kids who might have limited language cooperating is extra challenging because they might not understand the directions of what exactly you want them to do and if you are giving them multi-step directions, this creates more overwhelm for them when you are asking them to do too many things at once.

    Many of our children have deficits with executive functioning skills and multi-step directions require them to utilize that skill that they simply just might not have available to them, right?

    When our children don’t understand the reason for the request they are resistant. If it doesn’t make sense to them they might not comply. You might find it helpful to explain the reasoning behind the request or even better the outcome after they comply.

    Don’t give in just because you get resistance or you will be teaching them that resistance wins every time, right? If they resist, you won’t require them to do it.  When we allow their behaviors to get them out of doing a non-preferred activity or something that you are asking them to do, it teaches them a habit that you absolutely don’t want to teach.

    Many of our kiddos also get frustrated when they can’t manage their strong emotions when they are asked to do something they don’t want to do so they act out and resist your request.

    Always give them encouragement and high fives or hugs when they are cooperating or doing what you ask.

    If you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out all of the benefits available to you in our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD.

    www.notyouraverageautismmom.com 

    Additional Resources:

    Episode 92. Slow Processing Impacts Everyday Life

    Episode 40. The Impact of Mind Blindness

    • 18 min
    94. Not All Autism is the Same

    94. Not All Autism is the Same

    In this episode, I am talking about the perceptions and misconceptions that people have about autism when their lives have not yet been impacted by autism. With the increased number of families whose lives are being impacted by autism, surely more and more people's lives will be impacted.  Currently, 1 in 44 children here in the US are diagnosed and that number is not far behind Internationally.

    Autism is a different way of thinking and experiencing the world and each autistic individual will have different challenges and struggles along the way. The saying when you have met one person with autism, you have met one person with autism is so true.

    You know, one of the questions that I get a lot is WHEN WILL I KNOW if my child will be able to live on their own or have to live with me for the rest of their life?  Have you ever wondered?  Well, in this episode, I address this exact question.

    I also go into detail about a few of the misconceptions about autistic individuals and some things for you to consider.  

    I am hopeful you find it helpful.  

    We are CLOSING the Doors SOON to our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD... Don't MISS OUT on JOINING US!

    If you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out all of the benefits available to you in our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD.

    www.notyouraverageautismmom.com 

    Additional Resources:

    Chris Ramsay on YouTube

    https://www.youtube.com/user/MrTricksforfun

     

    • 22 min
    93. When your Autistic Child isn't your Only Child

    93. When your Autistic Child isn't your Only Child

    Being a sibling can be a difficult dynamic and when you add in autism, it takes it to an entirely different level.

    It is normal for siblings to have a range of ever-changing emotions being part of a family whose lives have been impacted by autism.

    As you continue to explain autism to your child or children who aren’t diagnosed with autism, we hope that they will become more understanding and more tolerant and have compassion for their brother or sister's needs but I believe that it is important for us as parents to understand that they might feel sad and they might feel confused about how their sibling acts or reacts in different situations. The good news is that the more they understand their sibling's autism, and maybe as they get older, there is hope that their relationship will change and grow with them.

    It is our job while we are navigating this journey to help our other children navigate theirs too. There will be times when they might be embarrassed or angry at their sibling, there will likely be times when they are frustrated when their sibling doesn’t want to play with them or only wants to play with something they want to play.

    Many siblings will be embarrassed to bring friends into their home for fear of how their new friends might react to their brother or sister.

    Part of our job in this autism parenting journey is planning ahead for situations that we know might be difficult. Just like you have felt overwhelmed at times, your other children will feel that way too at times.

    Have you checked out our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD?

    You should see all the training, resources, coaching, and above all, community inside.

    We are an amazing group of women who are all traveling this unique autism parenting journey and we would love you have you join us.

    Get all the details at www.notyouraverageautismmom.com

    Additional Resources:

    https://anchor.fm/shannon-urquiola/episodes/20----Independent-Living-Skills-are-SO-IMPORTANT--Do-you-DO-too-much-emjq0l 

    • 23 min

Customer Reviews

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25 Ratings

25 Ratings

User 2579 ,

For Moms of children with Autism

Being the Mom of a child with Autism can be a very lonely path. It’s complicated , frustrating, and a learning curve that could make every parent cringe. I happen to have two best friends with Sons on the Spectrum. I also know that they have a unique ability to support each other. This podcast is a resource to improve the lives of Mothers of children with Autism. Not all Mothers have a safe place to go for understanding. It’s going to be incredible to find so much help and support in one place.

Karen Woermann ,

Amazing!

Shannon is such a great resource for this community. Because of her personal & professional experience, she is on point and so helpful with the information she shares. Great podcast!!

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BEST PODCAST! For anyone raising a child w/autism🧩

Absolutely love listening to this podcast , it has helped me so much with stuff I didn’t understand or stuff I’m now dealing with . I’m a single parent raising a child with autism and it can be confusing, overwhelming . But since I have been listening to your podcast , it has given me hope ! THANK YOU 💙

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