94 episodes

If you are raising a child diagnosed with autism this podcast is for you. Every week, we talk about ALL things that go hand in hand with our unique parenting journey.
info@notyouraverageautismmom.com

Not Your Average Autism Mom Shannon Urquiola

    • Kids & Family
    • 5.0 • 18 Ratings

If you are raising a child diagnosed with autism this podcast is for you. Every week, we talk about ALL things that go hand in hand with our unique parenting journey.
info@notyouraverageautismmom.com

    93. When your Autistic Child isn't your Only Child

    93. When your Autistic Child isn't your Only Child

    Being a sibling can be a difficult dynamic and when you add in autism, it takes it to an entirely different level.

    It is normal for siblings to have a range of ever-changing emotions being part of a family whose lives have been impacted by autism.

    As you continue to explain autism to your child or children who aren’t diagnosed with autism, we hope that they will become more understanding and more tolerant and have compassion for their brother or sister's needs but I believe that it is important for us as parents to understand that they might feel sad and they might feel confused about how their sibling acts or reacts in different situations. The good news is that the more they understand their sibling's autism, and maybe as they get older, there is hope that their relationship will change and grow with them.

    It is our job while we are navigating this journey to help our other children navigate theirs too. There will be times when they might be embarrassed or angry at their sibling, there will likely be times when they are frustrated when their sibling doesn’t want to play with them or only wants to play with something they want to play.

    Many siblings will be embarrassed to bring friends into their home for fear of how their new friends might react to their brother or sister.

    Part of our job in this autism parenting journey is planning ahead for situations that we know might be difficult. Just like you have felt overwhelmed at times, your other children will feel that way too at times.

    Have you checked out our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD?

    You should see all the training, resources, coaching, and above all, community inside.

    We are an amazing group of women who are all traveling this unique autism parenting journey and we would love you have you join us.

    Get all the details at www.notyouraverageautismmom.com

    Additional Resources:

    https://anchor.fm/shannon-urquiola/episodes/20----Independent-Living-Skills-are-SO-IMPORTANT--Do-you-DO-too-much-emjq0l 

    • 23 min
    92. Slow Processing Impacts Everyday Life

    92. Slow Processing Impacts Everyday Life

    Processing speed is the amount of time that we take to take in the information being presented to us, make sense of it, and respond to it.

    This can be visually when we are reading something, auditory when we are listening to something or someone is telling us something, or motor planning which basically means that even when a child has done a task before, every time it is like they are doing it for the first time because their brain isn’t giving them the feedback they need. They might seem clumsy, it might take them what seems like forever to learn to tie their shoes and many physical tasks are just simply harder for them.

    The speed of how someone processes information is not related to their IQ or intelligence, it is simply that some individuals take longer to process the information they are taking in than others do. Many very intelligent people process information slowly.

    Unfortunately, slow processing can impact so many areas of their lives where they might already have challenges, like social settings and their educational setting.

    The problem with their struggles is that many people jump to the conclusion that they are unmotivated, lazy, or not focused. This is important for you to listen for because I promise you, if they are a slow processor, that is likely not the case.

    What if for a minute we just allowed them to be them?  Slowing down and having a less rushed approach to life might be exactly what we need.  

    If you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out all of the benefits available to you in our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD.

    www.notyouraverageautismmom.com 

    • 23 min
    91. Exploring Tic Disorder and Tourette Syndrome

    91. Exploring Tic Disorder and Tourette Syndrome

    Tourette Syndrome is a condition of the nervous system. It is a neurological disorder that involves often sudden and repetitive movements, twitches, or unwanted sounds (tics) that cannot be easily controlled.

    Statistics show that around one in five children with Tourette Syndrome also meets the criteria for Autism. All the research that I have done, says that it is unlikely that so many children have both disorders but instead, Tourette’s symptoms often mimic or seem quite similar to those of autism.

    No one knows exactly what causes tics to occur and they often change in type and intensity. You will usually notice that they might increase in times of excitement, anxiety, anticipation, stress, AND sleep deprivation.  They can also change over time and appear, disappear and reappear, they are considered chronic.

    Screen time on electronic devices increases dopamine and tics are dopamine-related so if your child is using electronics in excess and experiencing tics, whether they are vocal or motor, I really would like to encourage you to evaluate their screen time and consider lessening their daily time.  

    If your child’s tics are negatively impacting their education in the educational setting, we recommend that you request a meeting to discuss the possibilities of a 504 plan or an IEP to give them the necessary accommodations or services to help them.

    Have you checked out our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD?

    You should see all the training, resources, coaching, and above all, community inside.

    We are an amazing group of women who are all traveling this unique autism parenting journey and we would love you have you join us.

    Get all the details at www.notyouraverageautismmom.com



    Additional Resources:

    https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/blog/electronics-and-the-benefits-of-setting-screen-time-limits 

    https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/blog/72-ripping-the-band-aid-off-on-electronics

    You can contact the Tourette Association at www.tourette.org or by calling 888-4TOURET.

    HBO documentary, I Have Tourette’s but Tourette’s Doesn’t Have Me

    • 21 min
    90. The Many Negative Impacts of Yelling

    90. The Many Negative Impacts of Yelling

    In this episode, I am talking about those moments when you have had it and you are simply at what feels like the end of your rope and why staying calm in those moments will pay off in the end.  

    I know that every one of us knows intellectually that in the moments of chaos, staying calm is the answer, but it’s not always easy to execute and at that moment we find it hard to do the right thing. While yelling may seem effective in the moment, it won’t change their behavior long term. Their behaviors are often confusing to us, we don’t understand why they act a certain way or melt down for no apparent reason and that is why it is so important that you continue to try to learn and get a better understanding of your child or your children along this journey. Learning why they react the way they do will ultimately help you to help them.

    It is also important to recognize when you are about to lose control so you can remove yourself from the situation. Take a break and breathe.

    When you work on being focused on your own emotions and your reactions in difficult situations, when you remember to take a deep breath, to be calm and assertive when dealing with a frustrating situation you will begin to see a difference. You will begin to see that when they are out of control and you remain in control you will be dealing with the situation in a much more positive way and above all, you will feel a lot less stressed out in those moments.

    Have you checked out our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD?

    You should see all the training, resources, coaching, and above all, community inside.

    We are an amazing group of women who are all traveling this unique autism parenting journey and we would love you have you join us.

    Get all the details at www.notyouraverageautismmom.com 

    • 22 min
    89. Calming Down BIG Emotions

    89. Calming Down BIG Emotions

    If your child is consistently having meltdown behaviors that include an intense amount of emotion or appears to be unable to control their temper, it is not typical behavior but unfortunately, our autistic children often feel things more intensely and they are often unable to return to a place of calm as quickly as we would like.  

    It is important for our children when they are exhibiting these meltdown behaviors that we do our best to try to find the cause or the triggers so that we can help them understand that emotion does not come on like a freight train. Emotion comes in waves and over time and we want to learn how to help them identify their emotion before it is at the explosive level.

    Emotions are part of life and learning to identify them is key.

    Much of the anger in our children stems from their inability to effectively communicate, maybe due to an expressive language deficit, and because they aren’t able to effectively communicate their frustration, they lash out with these behaviors.  Their emotions are on overload and they are extremely dysregulated.

    Your emotions are also an integral part of this dynamic because you must be in control of your own emotions before you can expect them to control theirs.  They are not doing this to you.  This is happening to them.  

    If you are working through some BIG emotions and challenging behaviors with your child just know that you are not alone.

    Additional Resources:

    Episode 38: Emotional Dysregulation and the Challenges that come with It.

    Episode 58. Tackling Challenging Behavior with Positive Interventions

    If you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out all of the benefits available to you in our PRIVATE SISTERHOOD.

    www.notyouraverageautismmom.com 

    • 19 min
    88. Social Awkwardness

    88. Social Awkwardness

    Most of our children diagnosed with autism, share this commonality of having social awkwardness, right?  Think about this, we use social skills to some extent every single day of our lives which means that our children will need help in learning and developing these skills if our goal is for them to become independent adults.

    They need help understanding how to act and engage in different social settings.  It doesn't come naturally to them.

    In this episode, I am giving you ideas and suggestions on social skills groups as well as those community opportunities to have them participate in recreational activities.  

    I am also discussing the importance of you embracing the teaching opportunities that you have throughout your daily lives.  

    There is also the component of you being able to manage your thoughts and emotions and are you willing to be understanding and accept the fact that your child may not be able to do what the other children can?  

    No one's involvement in their growth and development is more important than yours.  What are you willing to do to ensure that they continue to build the skills they need that will lead to their independence?  

    Have you signed up for our Let's TALK AUTISM Monthly Newsletter?  

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    • 24 min

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18 Ratings

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You’ve seriously saved me with what I’ve been listening to. I’m happy to report my son and I have a much better/easier relationship and same with my husband. Went from everyday is a struggle to maybe 1 day a month I feel was just flat out bad. I cannot thank you enough!!
I am not a parent of a child diagnosed with autism, and this was still very relevant to all parents. Common behavioral issues are addressed and now to properly navigate them in a healthy way. If you’re a momma just thinking you’re doing everything wrong but, you’re trying-this is for you!! Constant affirmations that simply state if you’re trying, you’re succeeding. If I could give it more stars, I would!!

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Life Changing

I stumbled upon this podcast in search of advice and hope, what I got was so much more!!! As I listened to episode after episode, I quickly realized that I needed these ladies in my everyday life. They are my community and my friends who really know what “our” day to day life really is like. The advice, training and laughter we get from each other is awesome. I wish someone had told me about this podcast/ group sooner. It makes the journey so much easier:) #member #2022 #ittakesavillage

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