Out Here Tryna Survive

Grace Sandra
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Out Here Tryna Survive is a trauma-informed, reflective podcast centering the emotional lives, resilience, and humanity of Black women — especially those of us navigating midlife, healing, motherhood, and healing after survival. Hosted by Grace Sandra — Mama, storyteller, advocate, and lifelong student of survival — this podcast explores what it feels like to live in a world that constantly demands our strength while offering little protection.  Through personal storytelling, cultural reflection, and nervous-system-aware conversations, each episode holds space for truth, grief, joy, rage, softness, and repair. This is not a place for perfection or performance. It’s a place for us as Black women to exhale, feel seen, and remember ourselves. We are braver than we believe ✨

  1. 6D AGO

    Ep 46: I Feel For the Epi Survivors. On Anxiety And The Survivor's Need For Accountability

    Send a text The hardest part of watching the Epstein files dominate the headlines is not the shock. It is the familiar, stomach-dropping feeling of seeing alleged abusers stay protected while victims get ignored. If you are a sexual abuse survivor, that public denial can hit like a flashback, not because you are “too sensitive,” but because your nervous system remembers what it meant to have power used against you with no consequences. I’m Grace Sandra, and I get personal about why accountability matters at a bodily level. I share the story of being sexually assaulted as a child, testifying in court, and the complicated emotions that followed even after my abuser went to prison: shame, guilt, confusion, and eventually relief. We talk about victim blaming, how justice can reduce cognitive dissonance, and why societal validation helps the brain finally register that what happened was real and wrong. Then we zoom out to the bigger power problem: institutions that protect harmful men and the way that protection retraumatizes survivors through helplessness, rage, dissociation, and deep cynicism. To end on something you can actually use, I walk through trauma healing practices that support recovery when the world refuses to do the right thing, including EMDR therapy, meditation, mindfulness, journaling, and building safe relationships while cutting off toxic dynamics. If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more survivors can find this space. Support the show

    28 min

  2. MAR 6

    Ep 45: Is it Time For Black Women to Leave the Church? On Deconstruction.

    Send a text What if survival means walking away from what was supposed to save you? Grace opens up about growing up in church, stepping into ministry, and the slow burn of shame that came with purity culture, constant confession, and the pressure to be “holier than thou.” When her marriage and identity cracked, she didn’t lose the sacred—she lost a system that needed her small. This is a raw, grounded journey from evangelical guilt to a freer, embodied spirituality that keeps God and drops control. We explore the difference between conviction and conditioning, and why a faith that shrinks your voice, your body, and your questions cannot be called good news. Grace shares how listening beyond the evangelical bubble, studying on her own, and hearing other women’s stories reframed everything: patriarchy as governance dressed as God, prayer as presence instead of pleading, and holiness as inherent worth rather than earned approval. Along the way, we name the cultural forces at play—Christian nationalism, apocalyptic fear, and the political weaponization of scripture—that have untethered compassion from the very figure who embodied it. If you’re quietly deconstructing, you’ll hear practical anchors: start from inherent value, measure teachings by their fruit, and choose communities that honor agency over compliance. We center Black women’s healing, autonomy, and joy, insisting that true spirituality expands your life instead of shrinking it. Keep the flame and leave the furnace. Hit play, then tell us: what belief are you brave enough to release today? If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help us reach more listeners. Support the show

    29 min

  3. FEB 25

    Ep 44: How My Sexual Freedom & a GoFundMe TRIGGERED a Hater

    Send a text A stranger’s 5 a.m. DM tried to make me small—attacking my sexuality, my finances, and my motherhood in one breath. What they didn’t expect was how quickly I would choose boundaries, body wisdom, and community over shame. This conversation starts with the gut punch of anonymous cruelty and opens into something larger: why sexually autonomous Black women who ask for help in public unsettle people who rely on control. I unpack how purity culture once trained me to police myself and how perimenopause, therapy, and hard-won healing led me to claim my desire without apology. We talk through nervous system flares, the difference between constructive critique and projection, and the discipline of not feeding the spiral—block, delete, breathe, phone a friend, and return to self. I share the much-speculated Detroit story as a case study in assumptions, and then we get to the heart of it: support without moral tests. My GoFundMe was fully funded, not because I performed respectability, but because people chose care over punishment. That truth breaks a brittle system built on withholding. We also zoom out to a fresh look at America’s Next Top Model: Reality Check on Netflix, asking where accountability lives when power shapes and harms young women on camera. Tyra’s role as mentor and face of the franchise comes into focus, along with what responsibility looks like when the receipts are public and the wounds are real. Across the episode you’ll hear practical tools for stopping rumination, language for rejecting shame, and a reminder that asking for help is not a moral failure. It’s community in action. If you’ve ever been told your sexuality disqualifies you from dignity, motherhood, or support, take this as your permission slip to live ungoverned. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help more people find these conversations. Support the show

    33 min

  4. FEB 18

    Ep 43: Women Standards Hit Different in this Political Climate

    Send a text The anger you’re feeling isn’t random—it’s a signal. We open up about what happens when survival mode collides with a culture that shrugs at harm, from the Epstein files to everyday silence, and why so many women are rethinking romance, risk, and what safety actually looks like. This is a candid walk through fury, data, and the deep relief that comes with choosing alignment over appeasement. We explore the matriarchy not as a revenge fantasy but as a care-centered blueprint that prioritizes children, community, and the planet. Along the way, a seemingly small DM exchange becomes a case study in how “correction” can slip into control, and why policing a marginalized person’s language often lands like gaslighting. If you’ve ever been told your boundaries are “intellectually unbecoming,” you’ll recognize the moment the window of tolerance snaps shut—and why that’s wisdom, not weakness. From South Korea’s 4B movement to shifting marriage and birth trends, the global signals are clear: women are recalibrating. We talk about midlife data that shows many perimenopausal and menopausal women are happier single, the power of building intentional community over coupledom, and how reality dating shows read differently when you refuse to gamble with safety. Through it all, we keep coming back to one question: where are the loud male allies who name harm without hedging, and what does real partnership require now? Listen for a grounded, unflinching take on modern love, safety, and the quiet revolution happening in women’s lives. If this conversation resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more folks can find it. Your voice helps this community grow. Support the show

    32 min

  5. FEB 13

    Ep 42: I Quit My Job over Verbal Abuse | A Narc Boss | Panic Attacks & CHOOSING MY DAMB SELF!

    Send a text The mic is on, the map is clearer, and the mission just got sharper. We’re opening Season Two with Survival Diaries—a deliberate turn toward stories that center how Black women survive, heal, and reimagine life in a world that keeps testing our limits. This isn’t about polish. It’s about truth told from a steadier place, where faith can shift and still affirm that God wants us whole. We trace the path from early social posts and mommy blogs to a podcast born after a near‑spiral, then plant a stake in what comes next: intentional storytelling, cultural reflection, and moments to breathe. Along the way, I share a raw work story—public belittling at a post office counter, a 20‑minute tirade over a spreadsheet, and a last‑minute commission yanked to wound on purpose. My body remembered old patterns of verbal and narcissistic abuse: shaking hands, tight chest, sleepless loops. The lesson is simple and hard—if survival costs your nervous system every day, it isn’t survival. It’s self-erasure. So I chose a different cost: boundaries, no‑contact, and walking away despite rent due and court dates looming. Community stepped in where cruelty tried to starve me—support arrived and, with it, proof there are other ways to live than enduring harm. We talk about decentering men, why romance can’t bloom without accountability, and how self‑love can look like closing a laptop and refusing to negotiate your dignity. This season brings guests—Black women at every stage of the journey—plus tools that have helped me heal, including a digital journal packed with prompts and reflective questions. If your nervous system needs a place where your story is honored and your safety matters, you’re home. Press play, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations. And if you’re a Black woman with a survival story to tell, reach out—your voice belongs here. Support the show

    51 min

  6. FEB 6

    Ep 41: Nikki Minaj & Why Trading Your Soul For Power Never Buys Peace

    Send a text The day already felt heavy—parenting logistics, frayed edges, and no Sunday reset—so we start where real life starts: tired and still showing up. From there, we move into the sharp stuff making so many of us ache right now: Don Lemon’s arrest for “witnessing,” Nicki Minaj’s homophobic attacks, and the public prize of siding with power. The throughline is bigger than celebrity drama. It’s the old playbook of authoritarianism: punish dissenters, criminalize documentation, and loudly reward betrayal so everyone else gets the message. We connect the headlines to the body. When you trade your people for clout, the invoice lands in your nervous system—anxiety, shame, and a hollow “win” that cannot hold. That’s why we talk about PMDD, gratitude, and high-vibration practices as more than self-help; they’re survival tools that keep us regulated enough to tell the truth without burning out. We walk through how platforms amplify bullying, why witness work matters even when it’s risky, and what it means to protect journalists and storytellers who hold a mirror to power. Then we imagine something better. Drawing from a decolonized faith and years of anti-racism work, we sketch a grace-shaped society where repair is real, accountability isn’t performative, and community is the safety net that systems refuse to provide. White folks must do the work with white folks; Black communities deserve to center care, joy, and mutual aid. The most practical takeaway lands close to home: name where you’re self-abandoning, set the boundary that brings you back, and let your people keep you honest. If this conversation steadied you or sparked a boundary you’re ready to set, share it with a friend who needs the reminder, hit follow, and leave a quick review so others can find our community. Your voice keeps this space alive—what line are you drawing today? Support the show

    23 min

  7. JAN 29

    Ep 40: When AmeriKKKa has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, go NO CONTACT

    Send a text Your eyes told the truth, and then the headlines told you they didn’t. That whiplash has a name—DARVO—and once you see how deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender operate, it becomes impossible to unsee the pattern in both intimate relationships and public life. We connect the dots between personal narcissistic abuse and national narrative control, exploring how gaslighting erodes trust in your senses, scrambles your nervous system, and turns outrage into exhaustion. I share hard-earned survivor tools to navigate this moment with clarity and care. We unpack the Minneapolis case as a live example of how stories get spun within hours, then zoom out to the larger system that punishes truth tellers, manages its image, and conditions the public to accept the unacceptable. Instead of feeding the doom machine, we build a plan: set an information diet, refuse trauma loops, block freely, and pick one role—caller, donor, organizer, caregiver, or witness—so your energy touches real people. We talk about why sleep is resistance, how a regulated body is harder to manipulate, and we practice a simple grounding reset you can use today: feet on the floor, long exhale, and the affirmation “We are here and safe enough in this moment.” This conversation is a warm hug of solidarity for Black and brown women carrying too much for too long, and an invitation to stay awake without burning out. If this spoke to you, share it with a friend who’s been doom scrolling into despair, subscribe for more hope-oriented storytelling, and leave a review so others can find their way here. What boundary will you set this week to stay engaged without being consumed? Support the show

    25 min

  8. JAN 23

    Ep 39: When The State Spins A Story: Renee Good, Media Power, And Black Women’s Clarity

    Send a text The camera rolls, a woman dies, and then the story tries to kill her again. We talk about Renee Good’s killing and the speed with which power moves to rename a victim a threat, turning language into a shield for violence. As Black women, we know this pattern by heart. The harm happens, then the management of the harm—press briefings, headlines, talking points—asks us to doubt our eyes. We refuse that bargain. We grieve without confusion, and we get practical about what comes next. I share why the DOJ’s non-action reads as posture, not neutrality, and how labels like domestic terrorism blur law on purpose. We look at the long history of “law and order” as a tool to justify surveillance, force, and public fear, and we name the cost of that blur: fewer checks on state power and more room for abuse. For white listeners, this is a mirror as much as a map. Organizing is not a slogan; it’s sustained work—roles, logistics, fundraising, safety teams, and local pressure where you actually live. Study what Black organizers have built for generations and put your numbers to use. We also draw a hard line around energy and care. Doom scrolling is wrecking our nervous systems, so we set simple rules: choose two reliable sources, read once, log off. We talk through roles beyond protests—mutual aid, childcare, food banks, mental health support, and raising children who refuse dehumanization. If you do march, plan like it matters: buddies, meeting points, charged phones, shared locations, exits. If you don’t, support those who do. Most of all, we hold memory. They will try to erase what we saw and who Renee was. Don’t let them. If this lands heavy on your chest, you’re not broken—you’re human. Stay informed but not consumed. Stay connected so fear can’t isolate you. And if a Black woman you love is carrying too much, send this her way. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs clarity and care today, and leave a review with the role you’re choosing this week. Support the show

    19 min
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Out Here Tryna Survive is a trauma-informed, reflective podcast centering the emotional lives, resilience, and humanity of Black women — especially those of us navigating midlife, healing, motherhood, and healing after survival. Hosted by Grace Sandra — Mama, storyteller, advocate, and lifelong student of survival — this podcast explores what it feels like to live in a world that constantly demands our strength while offering little protection.  Through personal storytelling, cultural reflection, and nervous-system-aware conversations, each episode holds space for truth, grief, joy, rage, softness, and repair. This is not a place for perfection or performance. It’s a place for us as Black women to exhale, feel seen, and remember ourselves. We are braver than we believe ✨

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  • Creator
    Grace Sandra
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    46
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Out Here Tryna Survive
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