Own Your Pleasure

Whitni Miller
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Own Your Pleasure is a podcast hosted by sex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller, also known as BDE Moves. Airing on the 1st and 15th of each month, the show centers around pleasure for vulva owners and their lovers, delving into topics ranging from the science behind pleasure to practical tips and safety considerations. ​ Each episode features candid conversations that explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy. Whitni engages with guests to discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in contexts like aging, healthcare, and diverse relationship dynamics. ​ Listeners can expect a blend of expert insights and personal stories that challenge societal norms and encourage embracing one's desires. The podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other major platforms.​

  1. Sapphic Love Empowered by BDE Moves Part II

    5D AGO

    Sapphic Love Empowered by BDE Moves Part II

    Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Vicki and Nicole, a couple who recently married after completing Whitni's signature BDE coaching program. They discuss their journey of discovering intimacy, communication, and the tools that helped them navigate their relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of prioritizing oneself, the evolution of their understanding of intimacy, and the joy of making significant life decisions together. The couple shares their experiences with emotional tools that have enhanced their connection and how they are preparing for a new chapter in their lives. More about Vicky and Nicole that they wanted to share. They met almost 5 years ago in the most unlikely of places. Hinge. Just as they were both set to delete the app, Vicky sent a message to Nicole, and they haven’t stopped chatting since. Shortly after moving in together, life began to life. Job changes, health issues, and more left little time for intimacy. After attempting to self diagnose for too long, they sought out help from Whitni via her signature coaching program. Now, they are stronger than ever, recently eloped, and are using the tools from the program to help keep intimacy present in their relationship in all forms.  Follow Vicky and Nichole:@vowvixens Learn More From Whitni or apply to the program:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    32 min
  2. Sapphic Love Empowered by BDE Moves Part I

    FEB 1

    Sapphic Love Empowered by BDE Moves Part I

    Show Notes:In this heartfelt episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guests Vicky and Nicole explore the journey of intimacy and connection in relationships, particularly within the queer community. They discuss the challenges faced in their relationship, the importance of seeking help through therapy and coaching, and the significance of communication and understanding intimacy. They share their experiences of navigating pressures around intimacy, the turning points in their relationship, and the ongoing practices that help them maintain a strong connection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and personal growth in fostering healthy relationships. Vicky and Nicole's story serves as an inspiring testament to the power of love and the journey of self-discovery within a relationship while embracing support that strengthens the relationship at its core by working through Whitni’s signature coaching program. More about Vicky and Nicole that they wanted to share. They met almost 5 years ago in the most unlikely of places. Hinge. Just as they were both set to delete the app, Vicky sent a message to Nicole, and they haven’t stopped chatting since. Shortly after moving in together, life began to life. Job changes, health issues, and more left little time for intimacy. After attempting to self diagnose for too long, they sought out help from Whitni via her signature coaching program. Now, they are stronger than ever, recently eloped, and are using the tools from the program to help keep intimacy present in their relationship in all forms.  Follow Vicky and Nichole:@vowvixens Learn More From Whitni or apply to the program:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    24 min
  3. Navigating Hormonal Changes & Health Part II

    JAN 15

    Navigating Hormonal Changes & Health Part II

    Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guest, Dr. Michelle Gordon, discuss the complexities of hormonal changes in women, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. Dr. Gordon emphasizes the importance of understanding how weight impacts hormonal health and the misconceptions surrounding weight loss. The discussion also covers sexual health, the role of various hormones, and the significance of finding a supportive healthcare provider who listens to women's concerns. Dr. Michelle Gordon is Board Certified in Obesity Medicine, Lifestyle Medicine, and General Surgery and is a Telehealth Innovator. After building and running a multi-million dollar surgical practice, she shifted her focus from surgery to weight management, hormone health, and longevity through high-impact telehealth for lesbian midlife women. She brings advanced, personalized care straight to you —without gatekeeping, delay, or the one-size-fits-all approach of traditional systems. Her background in surgery gives her a sharp clinical lens in obesity and lifestyle medicine. She’s seen how strategic, non-surgical interventions can reverse complex metabolic disease. Her experience drives the results she delivers today, through evidence-based care that respects your time, autonomy, and goals. She uses telehealth to deliver high-quality, personalized care. This isn't a quick prescription model. She takes the time to understand each patient’s goals, history, and challenges to create treatment plans that are safe, effective, and built for long-term success. Her mission is simple. She gives you clear, evidence-based guidance and real support throughout your health journey. You deserve more than a rushed visit or generic advice. She takes the time to understand what’s actually going on so you can make lasting, meaningful changes together. You are never just a number. She works closely with you so you feel seen, heard, and respected from start to finish. With a foundation in clinical experience and systems thinking, she focuses on what works. She uses tools that make personalized medicine more accessible without compromising quality. This isn’t about hype or trends. It’s about real care, delivered with intention, one patient at a time. Follow Dr. Michelle Gordon at:TikTok: @drmichellegordon IG: @doctormichellegordon FB: @michelleEgordon Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    25 min
  4. Navigating Pleasure & Politics Part II

    12/15/2025

    Navigating Pleasure & Politics Part II

    In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Dr. Lex Brown James continue their conversation and explore the intricate dynamics of relationships, trauma, and pleasure. They discuss the importance of understanding personal values in relationships, navigating trauma, and expanding the concept of sexual pleasure. The conversation emphasizes the need for community, curiosity, and joy in the face of societal challenges, while also addressing the significance of self-care and training one's social media algorithms to foster positive connections.  Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame free sexuality education and building intimate partner connection. As an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, Dr. Lexx lectures, trains, and does therapy for academic, professional and general audiences. As a multiple time best seller, Dr. Lexx is an international sexologist. Featured in prominent media like CNN, Essence, It Gets Better,  Scary Mommy, and Therapy for Black Girls, Dr. Lexx’s goal is to educate others about sexuality from womb to tomb. Through her practice, The Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy, LLC, Dr. Lexx has:  developed a curriculum that creates interventions to interrupt racism in sexuality created a therapeutic framework to decrease sexual shame, provides professional training,  and has resources for Sex Positive Parenting.   Dr. Lexx breaks down the most complicated and taboo topics to create easily digestible information and actionable change. Learn More From Dr. Lexx:https://lexxsexdoc.com/  Follow Dr. Lexx at:@lexxsexdoc across all platforms no youtube or X Dr. Lexx’s Gifts to you:Free Resources Gifted by Dr. Lexx → https://lexxsexdoc.com/shop  Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    34 min
  5. Navigating Hormonal Changes & Health Part I

    12/01/2025

    Navigating Hormonal Changes & Health Part I

    Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guest, Dr. Michelle Gordon, discuss the complexities of menopause, hormonal changes, and the healthcare system's treatment of women's health issues. Dr. Gordon emphasizes the importance of finding a doctor who listens, the impact of the Women's Health Initiative on hormone therapy, and the cultural dismissal of women's health concerns. Dr. Gordon advocates for a holistic approach to treatment, recognizing obesity as a disease and the need for hormone optimization to improve quality of life. The discussion also touches on the importance of self-advocacy and the challenges women face in the medical system. Dr. Michelle Gordon is Board Certified in Obesity Medicine, Lifestyle Medicine, and General Surgery and is a Telehealth Innovator. After building and running a multi-million dollar surgical practice, she shifted her focus from surgery to weight management, hormone health, and longevity through high-impact telehealth for lesbian midlife women. She brings advanced, personalized care straight to you —without gatekeeping, delay, or the one-size-fits-all approach of traditional systems. Her background in surgery gives her a sharp clinical lens in obesity and lifestyle medicine. She’s seen how strategic, non-surgical interventions can reverse complex metabolic disease. Her experience drives the results she delivers today, through evidence-based care that respects your time, autonomy, and goals. She uses telehealth to deliver high-quality, personalized care. This isn't a quick prescription model. She takes the time to understand each patient’s goals, history, and challenges to create treatment plans that are safe, effective, and built for long-term success. Her mission is simple. She gives you clear, evidence-based guidance and real support throughout your health journey. You deserve more than a rushed visit or generic advice. She takes the time to understand what’s actually going on so you can make lasting, meaningful changes together. You are never just a number. She works closely with you so you feel seen, heard, and respected from start to finish. With a foundation in clinical experience and systems thinking, she focuses on what works. She uses tools that make personalized medicine more accessible without compromising quality. This isn’t about hype or trends. It’s about real care, delivered with intention, one patient at a time. Follow Dr. Michelle Gordon at: TikTok: @drmichellegordon IG: @doctormichellegordon FB: @michelleEgordon Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

    25 min
  6. Navigating Pleasure & Politics Part I

    12/01/2025

    Navigating Pleasure & Politics Part I

    In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Dr. Lex Brown James discuss the importance of self-care, navigating the current political climate, and how societal issues impact personal relationships. They explore the significance of intimacy, values, and community in fostering healthy connections, while also emphasizing the need to protect joy and vitality amidst challenging times. The discussion highlights the complexities of relationships in the context of differing political beliefs and the importance of understanding and supporting one another. Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame free sexuality education and building intimate partner connection. As an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, Dr. Lexx lectures, trains, and does therapy for academic, professional and general audiences. As a multiple time best seller, Dr. Lexx is an international sexologist. Featured in prominent media like CNN, Essence, It Gets Better,  Scary Mommy, and Therapy for Black Girls, Dr. Lexx’s goal is to educate others about sexuality from womb to tomb. Through her practice, The Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy, LLC, Dr. Lexx has:  developed a curriculum that creates interventions to interrupt racism in sexuality created a therapeutic framework to decrease sexual shame, provides professional training,  and has resources for Sex Positive Parenting.   Dr. Lexx breaks down the most complicated and taboo topics to create easily digestible information and actionable change. Learn More From Dr. Lexx:https://lexxsexdoc.com/  Follow Dr. Lexx at:@lexxsexdoc across all platforms no youtube or X Dr. Lexx’s Gifts to you:Free Resources Gifted by Dr. Lexx → https://lexxsexdoc.com/shop  Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    32 min
  7. Ten "Relationship Don'ts" when Libidos Differ Part II

    11/15/2025

    Ten "Relationship Don'ts" when Libidos Differ Part II

    In this episode Whitni discusses the complexities of libido differences in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding intimacy, communication, and connection. She outlines her remaining key things not to do when navigating these differences as well as their counterparts. She also shares how she can help. Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    21 min
  8. Ten "Relationship Don'ts" when Libidos Differ Part I

    11/01/2025

    Ten "Relationship Don'ts" when Libidos Differ Part I

    In this episode Whitni discusses the complexities of libido differences in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding intimacy, communication, and connection. She outlines the first few of her key things not to do when navigating these differences. Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

    19 min
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About

Own Your Pleasure is a podcast hosted by sex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller, also known as BDE Moves. Airing on the 1st and 15th of each month, the show centers around pleasure for vulva owners and their lovers, delving into topics ranging from the science behind pleasure to practical tips and safety considerations. ​ Each episode features candid conversations that explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy. Whitni engages with guests to discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in contexts like aging, healthcare, and diverse relationship dynamics. ​ Listeners can expect a blend of expert insights and personal stories that challenge societal norms and encourage embracing one's desires. The podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other major platforms.​

Information

  • Creator
    Whitni Miller
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    38
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 2024, 2025
  • Show Website
    Own Your Pleasure

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