Pastors on Porn

Vern Tompke
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Pastors on Porn is a podcast providing hope, healing and help for those who know the call of God on their lives but also struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors

  1. 06/30/2025

    Ep. 97 - That-L Preach! - Walking Into Temptation

    There is a saying that says - That-L Preach!  Something that immediately you want to share.  The following is something from my morning quiet time that I think has real relevance to our recovery journey. In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform. in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app).  You can use your initials (first or last) to provide you with a greater sense of privacy. https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2 Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

    18 min

  2. 05/09/2025

    Ep. 96 - Garrett Kell - Stepping into the Light

    Garrett Kell is a pastor who knows what it is to struggle with pornography.  In this podcast he speaks about his experience with stepping out of the shadows into the light. Garrett has written a book called "Pure in Heart" and is the current pastor of Del Ray Baptist Church in Alexandria Virginia.  In this podcast he also references some articles he has written which links are below... https://www.9marks.org/article/does-pornography-use-disqualify-a-pastor/ https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/pornography-and-church-discipline http://garrettkell.com/should-i-tell-my-spouse-about-my-struggles-with-sexual-sin/ In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform. in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app) https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2 Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

    36 min

  3. 03/06/2025

    Ep. 95 - The Numbers Don't Lie

    Back in 2016 the Barna Research group did a study around the use of pornography in society and in the church.  9 years later Barna (working with Pure Desire) did an expanded version of this same study.  We now can have an accurate and real time look at what is really going on in the lives of people regarding porn and also get a current view of the effect it is having on their individual lives and marriages. If you want to get a copy of that study you can purchase one at https://puredesire.org/shop/beyond-the-porn-phenomenon/ In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform. in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app) https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2 Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

    22 min

  4. 02/06/2025

    Ep. 94 - Talk for Youth and Young Adult Pastors

    If you are a youth pastor or work with young people in their teens or 20's you know that porn is a big challenge - for both guys and girls.  Recently I did a talk in Brazil (and later at our church) that talked about how the enemy uses addictions in our lives to rob from us - including porn.  More importantly, I also talk about how to walk free as a young person!  Below is the information on how to sign up for circle where you can find a downloadable powerpoint presentation of this talk. (under the Pastors on Porn section)  If you want me to talk to your young people life or by zoom reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background) https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2 We are starting a brand new group for 2025!  This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course.  Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern.  If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.care

    45 min

  5. 01/27/2025

    Ep. 93 - Dave's Big Reveal

    Listen to my friend and pastor Dave talk about his big step to open up to his wife and church about his struggle with porn! If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background) https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2 We are starting a brand new group for 2025!  This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course.  Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern.  If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.care

    32 min

  6. 11/01/2024

    Ep. 92 - The Hospital Church with James Reeves

    How do you transition your church from a "shiny" facade to one that truly is a hospital for hurting broken people.  James Reeves has done it and shares some of his insights with Vern. James is the author of the TwoFearless Video series - one for men and one for women which deal with healing from emotional wounds and trauma.  They can be found here: https://fearlessresources.org/ James is the Author of the book Refuge: How hospital Church ministry can change your church forever.  It can be accessed  on Amazon If you would like to contact James you can do so by the followin email:  jamesreeves68@gmail.comphone: (817) 938 4562 (text first)

    46 min

  7. 09/27/2024

    Ep. 91 - Sam Black on Church Culture

    Sam Black works with churches at one of my favorite companies - Covenant Eyes. In this free ranging conversation we talk about why he joined Covenant Eyes, his book "The Healing Church" and what sort of churches provide a safe place and a safe process for healing. We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions. If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background) https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2 You can link up to some some of Covenant Eyes resources by going to  www.covenanteyes.com/church (tools for churches) www.strive21.com (a 21 day porn detox plan) www.covenanteyes.com/arise  (for women struggling with porn)

    37 min

  8. 09/23/2024

    Ep. 90 - Not Even a Hint

    Ephesians 5:3 Says this "but among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity" Some of us have heard this verse as sort on an unattainable standard that makes us feel that we can never live up to God's standards.  Today I share my thoughts on this verse that has brought a new motivation and energy to my desire to walk in sexual purity. We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions. If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background) https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

    21 min
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Pastors on Porn is a podcast providing hope, healing and help for those who know the call of God on their lives but also struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors

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  • Creator
    Vern Tompke
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2025
  • Episodes
    97
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Vern Tompke
  • Show Website
    Pastors on Porn