So What Now? with Carla and Dex

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So What Now? with Carla and Dex is the podcast that meets women exactly where they are—in transition, in hustle, in healing, in joy. From motherhood and womanhood to news, culture, and personal reinvention, Carla and Dex bring humor, candor, and lived experience to the mic. Each episode is a mix of perspective, real talk, and connection that leaves you with something to think about long after the laughs fade.

  1. 4d ago

    EP 69: Comfortable Alone: When Independence Becomes Protection

    After a three-month break, Carla & Dex are finally back behind the mic catching up on life, burnout, motherhood, the internet being absolutely unhinged, and the uncomfortable realization that healing can sometimes start looking a lot like isolation. This episode feels like sitting on FaceTime with your homegirls after avoiding the group chat for too long. We talk about: what happens when your life gets so busy you stop checking in with yourself anxiety vs. depression and how the same world events can affect people completely differently doom scrolling, emotional exhaustion, and trying not to lose your mind online the terrifying reality of social media becoming more influential than actual policy parenting adult children and learning when to let go why independence can sometimes feel offensive to parents who sacrificed everything the hard truth that you cannot protect your children from becoming who they need to become raising daughters in a world that feels increasingly heavy the emotional complexity of watching your kids become adults while still seeing them as babies And then… the conversation shifts. What starts as a discussion about singer K. Michelle talking about her strained relationship with her son turns into a much deeper conversation about love, survival, celibacy, emotional safety, and what happens after heartbreak changes the way you move through the world. One of the most vulnerable moments of the episode comes when the question finally gets asked out loud: "Am I actually at peace being alone… or am I just protecting myself?" The girls unpack: being single for years and no longer knowing where a partner would even fit into your life how independence can slowly turn into emotional avoidance the fear of making space for someone after building a life alone what trauma and toxic relationships can do to your nervous system the difference between wanting love and trusting it Also discussed: Florida heat vs natural deodorant (please act accordingly) pheromones, attraction, and why some people like a little "outside smell" grown daughters still stealing your bathroom products why boys are basically born trying to injure themselves and whether adult children should be allowed to have sleepovers at their parents' house   Basically: this episode is chaos, honesty, healing, laughter, and existential dread… all at once. Welcome back to So What Now?    CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit "Write a Review" and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.

    1h 38m

  2. Mar 31

    EP 68: Are We Dating Wrong?

    This week, the ladies are all over the place in the best way possible. Carla & Dex kick things off with a hilarious discussion about unexpected celebrity crushes, dating preferences, and what happens when you realize your "type" might be changing. From Daddy Yankee admiration to conversations about dating multiple people, they unpack how attraction evolves and why putting all your emotional energy into one person too soon might not be the move. The conversation then shifts into real-life pressures: overcommitted schedules, social burnout, and the exhaustion that comes from trying to do it all. If you've ever looked at your calendar and immediately needed a nap, this episode will feel very familiar. In the Woman of the Week segment, they spotlight Quinta Brunson and her efforts to help fund student field trips, sparking a larger conversation about childhood experiences, educational opportunities, and ways communities can support kids who need a little extra help.   The episode also dives into: Dating multiple people versus focusing on one person Why some people struggle with social exhaustion School lunch debt and supporting students in need Hygiene education and whether schools should teach it Alternative birth control conversations and the importance of doing your own research A shocking DoorDash story that raises questions about safety and accountability Family conflict over life insurance payouts and caregiving responsibilities Finding joy in personal style, self-expression, and feeling like yourself again As always, the laughs are loud, the opinions are strong, and the conversations go places nobody saw coming.   Quote of the Episode "When you're dating, you shouldn't immediately make yourself fully available to one person."     CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit "Write a Review" and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.

    1h 5m

  3. Mar 24

    EP 67: Pleasure Over Pressure

    We're back for another week of So What Now? and this episode? Yeah… it goes there.Carla kicks things off with a life update, sharing Plasm's progress in school, while Dex is on the complete opposite vibe—outside, having a time, and leaning into joy. From there, things take a turn as Carla recounts her experience at a sex club (yes, we had questions), and somehow it opens the door to a bigger conversation: women, pleasure, and owning what feels goodwithout guilt. In honor of Women's Month, we're talking role play, toys, and the importance of actually knowing what you like. But it's not just about pleasure—it's also about the hard stuff. This week's "Woman of the Week" is for the ones who walked away from relationships that weren't toxic… just not right. Because let's be real, those are the hardest to leave. So we had to ask: were you actually happy… or just comfortable? Because those two are not the same. And of course, we get into some wild side conversations—from studies linking lack of sex to weight gain (do what you will with that info), to a surprising confession from Tim Gunn, to the story of a woman falling in love with an AI chatbot. Yeah… it's one of those episodes. Press play and let's talk about it.   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit "Write a Review" and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.

    53 min

  4. Mar 17

    Ep 66: Dating Intentions & Messy Reality Checks

    We're back just like we said we would and honestly? We have some thoughts. This week, we're unpacking a wild (but very real) stat about marriage and how women somehow end up doing more work at home. Like… how did we get here? From there, Dex opens up about her dating life and what it looks like to date with intention think pizza nights, bubble baths, and the question we're all asking: is this real love or just a vibe? Carla taps in with a full recap of Love Is Blind Season 10 (because of course we had to), and let's just say… opinions were formed. Then we get into the ANTM documentary discourse and the internet's hot takes. Are we holding early 2000s reality TV to today's standards a little too hard, or is the criticism valid?   It's giving perspective, a little mess, and a lot of so what now?   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit "Write a Review" and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.

    1h 6m

  5. Mar 10

    EP 65: Disney Adventures and Finally got my Lipo!

    This week we're catching up… like really catching up. From Disney adventures and parenting wins to healing after cosmetic procedures and navigating dating in 2026, this episode is a mix of honesty, laughs, and a little bit of reflection about where we are in life right now.We talk about the emotional side of cosmetic procedures that people don't always mention, why dating as successful Black women can feel complicated, and what it looks like to want love that feels like peace—not struggle. Plus, we highlight an incredible woman using tech to help families navigate the special education system, break down why women's intuition is actually backed by science, and reflect on the wild reality of being millennials—the generation that remembers life before the internet but is raising kids in a completely digital world. Sometimes life moves fast, things change, and you just have to pause and ask yourself… CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit "Write a Review" and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.

    1h 10m

  6. Jan 19

    EP 64: Glow-Up Guilt, Unsupportive Partners, and Soft Exits

    Back for another week of So What Now, and friends… we're in our advice bag. Carla and Dex sit down to answer listener letters that hit close to home—from glow-up guilt and feeling unsupported in your relationship, to the exhaustion of always being the "strong friend," to that quiet but heavy realization of a soft exit when your spirit checks out before your body does. As always, we don't just answer the questions—we bring our own experiences, honesty, and a few side tangents along the way (because life isn't linear and neither are we). If you've been feeling confused, tired, or unsure of your next move, this episode is your reminder that you're not alone—and none of us have it fully figured out. One day at a time, friends  And send Dex some love as she recovers from surgery 💛 We'll see you next week.   What We Get Into Glow-up guilt and navigating growth when your partner isn't supportive Being the "strong friend" and what happens when you're finally tired Soft exits and realizing your spirit has already checked out Personal stories, reflections, and figuring life out in real time   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit "Write a Review" and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.   Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Idea to Launch Productions. Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen.   Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → Take the course now → Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support   Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 thesowhatnowpod@gmail.com We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.

    35 min

  7. Jan 12

    EP 63: White Couch Era, Tax Season Scams & Lawsuits

    We're back again with another episode a week has passed and somehow a lot happened. Dex has officially entered her white couch era (growth!), Carla shares a voice note from a friend that sparks conversation, and Dex is now claiming her title as a sports girly… to the point where she believes if she doesn't watch the game, her team will lose. Logic? Questionable. Commitment? Real. With tax season right around the corner, Carla gives her annual reminder to stay alert and read your paperwork — because the scams are scamming. We also get into Venus Williams' five-day wedding, the Cam Newton interview with T.D. Jakes on the NXT Chapter podcast, and how T.D.'s words hit Carla with a much deeper message about purpose, presence, and cherishing the life you're living right now. Plus, we debate a wild legal story out of Italy involving a restaurant promo video that allegedly exposed a man's affair. Does he have a case? And would he actually win? A little light, a little deep — just how we like it.   WHAT WE GET INTO Dex's white couch era and what it says about growth A voice note that sparks reflection and conversation Becoming a "sports girly" and superstition logic Tax season is coming — don't get scammed, read your paperwork Venus Williams' five-day wedding Cam Newton x T.D. Jakes on the NXT Chapter podcast Messages about purpose, time, and being present The Italian restaurant promo lawsuit — does he have a case?   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit "Write a Review" and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.   Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Idea to Launch Productions. Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen.   Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → Take the course now → Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support   Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 thesowhatnowpod@gmail.com We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.

    54 min

  8. Jan 5

    EP 62: New Year, Same Us

    Carla and Dex are officially back for the first episode of the new year and there's a lot to catch up on. After a brief stretch of audio-only episodes, the duo is back in the studio and back in their groove.   From holiday bar crawls and questionable screen time habits to life with Debo the cat, Disney adults, and everything that's unfolded behind the scenes, this episode feels like a much-needed reset. No heavy agenda, just real-life updates, laughs, and that familiar "okay… so what now?" energy.   Hit play, settle in, and welcome back — we missed you.   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit "Write a Review" and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.   Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Idea to Launch Productions. Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen.   Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → Take the course now → Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support   Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 thesowhatnowpod@gmail.com We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.

    50 min
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So What Now? with Carla and Dex is the podcast that meets women exactly where they are—in transition, in hustle, in healing, in joy. From motherhood and womanhood to news, culture, and personal reinvention, Carla and Dex bring humor, candor, and lived experience to the mic. Each episode is a mix of perspective, real talk, and connection that leaves you with something to think about long after the laughs fade.

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