Post Traumatic Parenting

Dr. Robyn Koslowitz
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“How can I give my kids a normal childhood, when mine was anything but?” Post-Traumatic Parenting is the podcast for anyone who has ever asked themselves that question. Robyn Koslowitz, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and Post-Traumatic Parent, combines the fields of post-traumatic recovery and growth with our best understanding of how to raise Little Humans. Through interviews with experts in the fields of behavior science, psychology, trauma, and child development, as well as interviews with toy developers, children’s book authors, and anyone else who makes childhood a delight, Dr. Koslowitz explores how trauma impacts our parenting, and how to hack our traumas into superpowers and super-parenting. Each week, Dr. Koslowitz unpacks how to survive and thrive as a Post-Traumatic Parent. She shares behind-the-scenes insights into the research that underlies what we know about parenting, child development, and trauma recovery. Each podcast provides actionable tips about how to transform our Post-Traumatic Parenting and how to turn our parenting journey into a post-traumatic growth experience. Dr. Koslowitz interviews some of the famous names in these fields, and some experts you’ve never heard of (but should have!). Ready to go from survivor to thriver? Ready to become the parent you've always dreamed of being? Join us!

  1. Kids Do Well If They Can: Rethinking Behavior, Trauma, and Parenting with Dr. Ross Greene

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    Kids Do Well If They Can: Rethinking Behavior, Trauma, and Parenting with Dr. Ross Greene

    What if your child’s “behavior problem” isn’t a behavior problem at all? In this deeply practical and paradigm-shifting conversation, I sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Ross Greene, originator of the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) approach, to rethink everything we’ve been taught about parenting, discipline, and so-called “challenging behavior.” Dr. Greene, author of The Explosive Child and Lost at School, shares how years of working with children and families led him to one central realization: kids don’t fail to meet expectations because they “won’t," they struggle because they “can’t yet.” Together, we explore why traditional tools like sticker charts, timeouts, punishments, and “tough love” often miss the real issue entirely; and how they can damage trust and connection in the process. Instead, Dr. Greene offers a radically different approach: one that prioritizes collaboration, curiosity, and solving the real problems behind behavior rather than reacting to the behavior itself. Topics covered in this episode: The hidden flaw in behavior-based discipline systems (timeouts, sticker charts, rewards)Why behavior is often a signal, not the problem itselfHow trauma shapes both kids’ behavior and parents’ reactionsWhy “proactive” problem solving reduces conflict and overwhelmWhat to do when kids shut down, escalate, or refuse to talk About the Guest: Dr. Ross Greene is a clinical psychologist and the originator of Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS), an evidence-based approach to understanding and supporting children with behavioral challenges. He is the author of several influential books, including The Explosive Child, Lost at School, and Lost and Found, as well as his recently published book The Kids Who Aren’t Okay: The Urgent Case for Re-Imagining Support, Belonging, and Hope in Schools. To learn more about Dr. Ross Greene, and to buy copies of his books, you can visit his website here. Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and check out my new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be

    52 min
  2. Complex PTSD & Parenting: Why Control Won’t Save Your Child with Stephanie Foo

    15 DE ABR.

    Complex PTSD & Parenting: Why Control Won’t Save Your Child with Stephanie Foo

    What if the pressure to “get parenting right” is actually coming from your trauma? In this powerful and deeply validating conversation, I sit down with Stephanie Foo, author of What My Bones Know, to unpack what it really means to parent while healing from complex PTSD. Together, we explore the intense fear many trauma survivors carry into parenting; the belief that one wrong move could damage their child forever. We also discuss how modern parenting culture often amplifies that fear instead of easing it. Stephanie shares her personal journey of becoming a mother while navigating C-PTSD, including the anxiety, perfectionism, and overwhelming pressure to control every outcome. This episode is a must listen for anyone who has ever wondered: “Am I messing up my child?” Topics covered in this episode: Why “perfect parenting” is often a trauma responseThe hidden ways parenting advice can prey on vulnerable momsThe difference between child distress and actual harmWhy control doesn’t create safety (and what does instead)How C-PTSD shows up in parenting from hyper-attunement to dissociationThe truth about attachment (hint: you only need to get it right ~30% of the time)The role of repair, not perfection, in raising resilient children About the Guest: Stephanie Foo is the author of the bestselling memoir What My Bones Know, where she chronicles her journey of healing from complex PTSD. Her work has helped bring C-PTSD into mainstream conversation, giving voice to experiences that were long misunderstood or overlooked. To read more about Stephanie, and to buy a copy of her book, you can visit her website here. Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and check out my new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be

    1h
  3. Helping Your Child Feel Seen: Why Mattering Changes Everything with John Miles

    20 DE MAR.

    Helping Your Child Feel Seen: Why Mattering Changes Everything with John Miles

    What if the deepest wound a child carries isn’t what happened to them, but the feeling that they don’t matter? In this episode, I speak with John Miles, host of the Passion Struck podcast and author of You Matter, Luma, to explore the hidden impact of emotional invisibility, achievement culture, and what it really means for a child to feel seen. John shares his personal journey from high-achieving executive to feeling “invisible” in his own life, and how that experience led him to a deeper mission: helping children and adults reclaim their sense of mattering. Together, we unpack why so many trauma survivors become high achievers, how “good” and compliant kids are often overlooked, and why feeling seen (not just safe or successful) is foundational to healing. This conversation is a must-listen for any parent who wants to break generational cycles and raise children who know, deep down, that they matter. Topics covered in this episode: What it means to “disappear” in your own life and why it happensThe difference between belonging vs. matteringWhy high-achieving environments can actually erase identityHow childhood trauma can lead to achievement-based self-worthThe hidden struggle of quiet, compliant kidsWhy being “easy” doesn’t mean a child is okayThe concept of the "mattering gap"How emotional invisibility impacts long-term mental health Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and check out my new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be To connect with John Miles, click here to visit his website. You can also visit the website You Matter, Luma to buy a copy of his recently released book!

    1h 6min
  4. When Parenting Awakens the Past: Dissociation, Healing & Making Sense of Your Story with Sally Maslansky, LMFT

    4 DE MAR.

    When Parenting Awakens the Past: Dissociation, Healing & Making Sense of Your Story with Sally Maslansky, LMFT

    What if the symptoms you’re ashamed of once saved your life? In this powerful and deeply human episode, I sit down with Sally Maslansky, LMFT author of A Brilliant Adaptation and longtime patient of Daniel J. Siegel, to explore dissociation, DID, adoption, attachment, and what it truly means to make sense of your story so your child doesn’t have to carry it. Sally shares her extraordinary journey of living with Dissociative Identity Disorder — and fully healing from it — through relational, attachment-based therapy. We talk about: Why DID is not what movies portray it to beWhat dissociation actually is (and why it’s often brilliant)How parenting can awaken unresolved traumaThe difference between protecting your child from their story… and helping them make sense of itWhy behavior is almost never “bad”How repair transforms parentingAnd why relationships cause harm — but relationships also heal it Sally’s story reminds us that dissociation isn’t pathology, it’s adaptation. And healing doesn’t require perfection — it requires safety, relationship, and the courage to face your own story. This episode is for you if you’ve ever wondered: “Am I broken?”“Why does parenting trigger me?”“Can trauma really heal?”“Is integration actually possible?” Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and check out my new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be Connect with Sally Maslansky, LMFT at her website sallymaslansky.com and check out Sally Maslansky's book A Brilliant Adaptation: How Dissociative Identity Disorder & the Power of the Therapeutic Bond Saved Me

    52 min
  5. Healing Through Recovery: Dr. Frank Putnam on Childhood Trauma, Biological Aging, and Hope for Change

    16 DE FEV.

    Healing Through Recovery: Dr. Frank Putnam on Childhood Trauma, Biological Aging, and Hope for Change

    What if the very fact that you’re worried about passing on your trauma means you probably won’t? In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Frank Putnam, one of the world’s leading researchers on child maltreatment, dissociation, and intergenerational trauma, for a profound and deeply hopeful conversation about what really happens to the brain and body after childhood abuse… and what actually breaks the cycle. Dr. Putnam shares insights from his 35+ year longitudinal study following sexually abused girls across generations, along with what he’s learned from decades of clinical work and trauma intervention. We talk about dissociation as a survival response, why trauma accelerates biological aging, and the single most important factor that predicts whether abuse gets passed down. Yes, trauma leaves marks; psychologically, relationally, even biologically. But no, it does not make harm inevitable. In fact, most survivors do not go on to maltreat their children. And the difference often comes down to one powerful act: acknowledging what happened. If you’ve ever felt damaged, polluted, afraid you’re doomed to repeat what you lived through, this episode offers science-backed hope. Topics Covered in This Episode:Why 70% of parents with maltreatment histories do not go on to abuse their childrenThe single most important factor that reduces intergenerational transmission of traumaWhat dissociation actually is (fight, flight… and freeze) and why it can feel calmingWhen dissociation becomes adaptive and when it starts interfering with lifeHow parenting helps children develop integration between emotional “states”What happens biologically after childhood trauma including accelerated puberty, immune disruption, and epigenetic agingWhy trauma survivors often experience autoimmune disorders, chronic illness, or early health declineWhether biological aging from trauma is reversibleThe role of CBT and TF-CBT in healing traumaWhy “self-care is childcare” isn’t cliché; it’s neuroscience Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and check out my new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be You can find Dr. Frank Putnam’s book Old Before Their Time wherever books are sold. His earlier work, The Way We Are, explores personality, state transitions, and integration.

    1h 3min
  6. Healing Through Estrangement: Eamon Dolan on Boundaries, Anger, and Breaking the Cycle of Family Trauma

    28 DE JAN.

    Healing Through Estrangement: Eamon Dolan on Boundaries, Anger, and Breaking the Cycle of Family Trauma

    What if stepping away from a harmful family relationship wasn’t an act of betrayal, but an act of healing? In this episode, I’m joined by Eamon Dolan, author of The Power of Parting and longtime book editor, for a deeply honest conversation about childhood abuse, estrangement, boundaries, and what it really means to break generational cycles. Eamon shares his personal journey of growing up with severe psychological and physical abuse, the long road to recognizing how deeply it shaped his inner voice, and the courageous process of setting boundaries with a parent who could not, or would not, change. Together, we explore why estrangement is so often misunderstood, why shame and silence keep so many people trapped, and how anger can be a powerful source of clarity. Topics Covered in This Episode:Why is estrangement from family almost never impulsive, and what usually leads people to that decision?How does childhood abuse create an internal critical voice that follows us into adulthood?Why do shame and isolation keep so many survivors silent about family trauma?How can anger help identify boundaries instead of turning into rage or withdrawal?Is giving parents or relatives feedback about harm an act of disrespect or an act of self-respect?How does becoming a parent change the way survivors understand their own childhood abuse?Why don’t boundaries destroy family relationships and how can they actually protect them?Can choosing distance from harmful family members help ensure our trauma doesn’t get passed on to our children? Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and check out my new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be Connect with Eamon Dolan on Instagram @eamondolan and check out Eamon's new book The Power of Parting

    1h 6min

  7. 12/11/2025

    How Parenting Changes Your Brain: Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum Explains the Science of Healing Trauma Through Nurturing

    What if the very act of nurturing your child could rewire your traumatized brain? Today I explore how parenting changes your brain with neuroscientist and author Greer Kirshenbaum. As someone who couldn't co-sleep because of my PTSD flashbacks, I was deeply moved by what Greer revealed about the science of parental transformation. We discuss why some parents feel disconnected from their bodies and struggle with physical closeness, yet still can create secure attachments with their babies. Greer shares surprising research about what happens in both parent and baby brains during those early years, and why your perceived "failures" as a parent might actually be completely irrelevant to your child.  We also tackle the tough questions—what if you never learned how to nurture because you weren't nurtured yourself? What if trauma makes traditional bonding advice impossible to follow? This conversation gave me a completely new perspective on my own parenting journey and the healing that happened without me even realizing it. Topics covered on How Parenting Changes Your Brain:What specific brain regions transform when you become a parent, and why can scientists identify parents just by looking at 70-year-old brains?How does parenting change your brain differently for birthing parents versus non-birthing parents?Can nurturing your baby actually heal your own childhood trauma and create the secure attachment you never had?What if you can't co-sleep or struggle with physical touch due to PTSD—are there alternatives that still foster connection?Why do babies in the NICU still recognize their parents, and what simple voice recording technique helped me bond with my medically fragile newborn?If you never received nurturing as a child, how can you learn to parent differently without an internal working model?How does parenting change your brain to see your body differently—why did I finally love my body only after becoming a mother?Why does your baby think you're perfect even when you hate your body or feel like a failure? Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and check out my new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be For full show notes and more resources visit https://www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/11/12/how-parenting-changes-your-brain-dr-greer-kirshenbaum-explains-the-science-of-healing-trauma-through-nurturing/

    37 min

  8. 29/10/2025

    Emotional Inheritance: How Your Family's Trauma Becomes Your Child's Story with Dr. Galit Atlas

    What if your childhood trauma isn't just yours to carry? What if emotional inheritance means your kids are already carrying pieces of it too?  Today I'm talking with Dr. Galit Atlas, whose book "Emotional Inheritance" completely changed how I think about the invisible legacies we pass to our children. We get real about something that happened to both of us: being told we couldn't possibly have PTSD because we were "too functional." (Spoiler: that's not how trauma works.) We explore why some parents literally can't tolerate their baby's crying - not because they're bad parents, but because their own pain was never held. Dr. Atlas shares the story of Naomi, a patient who insisted she had perfect parents but couldn't figure out why she felt like an outsider everywhere. We talk about the burden of parents who say "I just want you to be happy" and why sitting with your child's pain matters more than fixing it.  Plus, we discuss how therapy might actually change your gene expression (yes, really) and why even the angriest, most difficult parts of what we inherited can become something different in our children's lives. Topics covered on Emotional Inheritance:What does emotional inheritance really mean, and why does Dr. Atlas call therapy an "epigenetic drug" that can actually change how our genes express themselves?Why do trauma survivors often struggle to recognize their own trauma, especially when they compare themselves to their parents' experiences?What happens when well-meaning parents who desperately want their children to "just be happy" accidentally create a different kind of burden?Why is sitting with your child's pain more important than fixing it, and how does this relate to emotional inheritance patterns?What is mentalization, and how does one patient's reaction to a creepy doll reveal the profound impact of never experiencing true attunement?Why is the ability to integrate both the positive and negative aspects of our family legacy essential for breaking unhealthy cycles?What resilience and survival skills do we inherit alongside trauma, and how can we consciously pass on the strengths while healing the wounds? Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and check out my new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be For full show notes and more resources visit https://www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/10/29/emotional-inheri…h-dr-galit-atlas/

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“How can I give my kids a normal childhood, when mine was anything but?” Post-Traumatic Parenting is the podcast for anyone who has ever asked themselves that question. Robyn Koslowitz, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and Post-Traumatic Parent, combines the fields of post-traumatic recovery and growth with our best understanding of how to raise Little Humans. Through interviews with experts in the fields of behavior science, psychology, trauma, and child development, as well as interviews with toy developers, children’s book authors, and anyone else who makes childhood a delight, Dr. Koslowitz explores how trauma impacts our parenting, and how to hack our traumas into superpowers and super-parenting. Each week, Dr. Koslowitz unpacks how to survive and thrive as a Post-Traumatic Parent. She shares behind-the-scenes insights into the research that underlies what we know about parenting, child development, and trauma recovery. Each podcast provides actionable tips about how to transform our Post-Traumatic Parenting and how to turn our parenting journey into a post-traumatic growth experience. Dr. Koslowitz interviews some of the famous names in these fields, and some experts you’ve never heard of (but should have!). Ready to go from survivor to thriver? Ready to become the parent you've always dreamed of being? Join us!

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  • Criado por
    Dr. Robyn Koslowitz
  • Anos de atividade
    2021 - 2026
  • Episódios
    57
  • Classificação
    Explícito
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Post Traumatic Parenting
  • Site do podcast
    Post Traumatic Parenting

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