Real Conversations about Aging Parents

Rebecca Tapia, MD

Join me every week for REAL conversations about the ups, downs and sideways of navigating life with aging parents. We focus on mindset, education and collaboration through a willingness to discuss raw stories and all the sticky topics. Cultural pressure? Financial problems? Family dynamics? Fascinating!! No judgement here. No shoulds. Just a bunch of people figuring this out together. About the host: I am a recovering perfect daughter, former roommate of my 91 year old grandmother, and a rehabilitation physician who has seen *thousands* of families navigate the chaos that can occur when the unexpected happens (falls, strokes, etc). I've been taking notes and I'm ready to share and listen.

  1. 11/26/2025

    108 || Solo Podcast: "She ain't right..." Normal vs Concerning Cognition

    Welcome! In this episode I am discussing how to tell the difference between "normal aging" problems with memory/thinking versus what would cause more concern. AI Show Notes: Recognizing Cognitive Changes in Aging Parents during the Holidays In this episode of Real Conversations about Aging Parents, host Rebecca Tapia discusses the cognitive changes one might notice in aging relatives during the holiday season. Rebecca outlines what is generally considered normal age-related cognitive decline and highlights more concerning signs that may warrant further evaluation. She also provides practical advice on how to differentiate between temporary issues, such as poor sleep or new medications, and more serious cognitive concerns. The episode aims to help listeners understand and observe the cognitive health of their aging loved ones during holiday gatherings. 00:00 Introduction and Apologies 00:38 Understanding Cognitive Changes 02:58 Normal Cognitive Aging 12:31 Concerning Cognitive Signs 22:39 Reversible Causes of Cognitive Decline 27:31 Conclusion and Holiday Wishes Caveats: This is a judgement free zoneThere are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosityTake what works well for you, leave the rest!This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice If you are finding value in this podcast, please share and leave a review so others can find it too! Rebecca Disclaimer: The information presented on this podcast is solely for information purposes. We do not provide medical, legal, financial, or other professional advice through this podcast and we are not responsible for any errors or omissions. It is your responsibility to seek advice from a licensed professional. Any actions you take are done at your own risk.

    29 min
  2. 11/12/2025

    107 || Solo Podcast: Earned Rest

    Welcome! In this episode I am talking about the "earned rest" period of life and all that can bring up. AI show notes: Understanding the Concept of Earned Rest for Aging Parents In this episode of Real Conversations About Aging Parents, host Rebecca Tapia delves into the concept of 'earned rest'—the idea that after a lifetime of hard work and caregiving, individuals hope to receive care and support in their later years. Rebecca shares insights from conversations with a retired nurse grappling with her new reality of needing long-term care. The discussion touches on the emotional and practical challenges faced by aging individuals who find their expectations of care unmet due to various life circumstances. Rebecca emphasizes the importance of having early and clear conversations about post-retirement plans, managing expectations, and being prepared for the psychological and physical transitions that accompany aging and retirement. 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Updates 00:39 Exploring the Concept of Earned Rest 01:36 Case Study: A Retired Nurse's Struggle 03:21 The Emotional Impact of Needing Care 04:43 The Reality of Long-Term Care 08:54 Managing Expectations and Grief 16:17 The Importance of a Health Retirement Plan 20:44 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Caveats: This is a judgement free zoneThere are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosityTake what works well for you, leave the rest!This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice If you are finding value in this podcast, please share and leave a review so others can find it too! Rebecca Disclaimer: The information presented on this podcast is solely for information purposes. We do not provide medical, legal, financial, or other professional advice through this podcast and we are not responsible for any errors or omissions. It is your responsibility to seek advice from a licensed professional. Any actions you take are done at your own risk.

    23 min
  3. 11/05/2025

    106 || Solo Podcast: Completed Relationships

    Welcome! Thank you for joining me today. Here is the AI version of show notes =) In this episode of Real Conversations about Aging Parents, host Rebecca Tapia shares a poignant story of a friend's complex relationship with her estranged father, leading to a broader discussion on the concept of 'completed relationships.' Rebecca explores how various factors like death, distance, disease, disability, drift, disagreement, and divorce serve as natural points of completion in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of viewing these completions neutrally and understanding that relationships evolve through different phases. The episode aims to help listeners reflect on their own relationships, making peace with their complexities and transitions. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:34 A Friend's Story of Estrangement and Loss 02:32 Understanding Completed Relationships 03:17 The Concept of Relationship Completion 05:34 Reasons for Relationship Completion: The D's 05:50 Death: The Ultimate Completion 12:19 Distance: Geographic and Emotional 14:56 Disease and Disability: Changing Dynamics 18:19 Drift: The Quiet Completion 21:27 Disagreement and Conflict 28:13 Divorce: A Different Version of Relationships 32:05 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Caveats: This is a judgement free zoneThere are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosityTake what works well for you, leave the rest!This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice If you are finding value in this podcast, please share and leave a review so others can find it too! Rebecca Disclaimer: The information presented on this podcast is solely for information purposes. We do not provide medical, legal, financial, or other professional advice through this podcast and we are not responsible for any errors or omissions. It is your responsibility to seek advice from a licensed professional. Any actions you take are done at your own risk.

    33 min
  4. 10/29/2025

    105 || Solo Podcast: Making "sit to stand" sexy again

    Welcome! In this episode I dive into the often overlooked but critically important activity of sit-to-stand transitions. Or as AI says: Rebecca shares insights from her clinical practice, emphasizing the significance of upper body, core, and leg strength in performing this movement, especially as one ages. The discussion highlights the intricate sequence of muscle activation required to stand from a seated position, the social and safety implications of impaired sit-to-stand ability, and practical considerations including chair selection and car transfers. Rebecca also touches on strategies to preserve and improve sit-to-stand functionality, ultimately aiming to enhance the independence and quality of life for the elderly. 00:00 Introduction to Sit to Stand 01:13 The Importance of Upper Body Strength 03:46 Core Strength and Sequential Movement 05:36 Challenges and Solutions in Standing 16:05 The Role of Functional Therapy 18:11 Car Transfers and Mobility 25:05 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Caveats: This is a judgement free zoneThere are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosityTake what works well for you, leave the rest!This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice If you are finding value in this podcast, please share and leave a review so others can find it too! Rebecca Disclaimer: The information presented on this podcast is solely for information purposes. We do not provide medical, legal, financial, or other professional advice through this podcast and we are not responsible for any errors or omissions. It is your responsibility to seek advice from a licensed professional. Any actions you take are done at your own risk.

    30 min
5
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Join me every week for REAL conversations about the ups, downs and sideways of navigating life with aging parents. We focus on mindset, education and collaboration through a willingness to discuss raw stories and all the sticky topics. Cultural pressure? Financial problems? Family dynamics? Fascinating!! No judgement here. No shoulds. Just a bunch of people figuring this out together. About the host: I am a recovering perfect daughter, former roommate of my 91 year old grandmother, and a rehabilitation physician who has seen *thousands* of families navigate the chaos that can occur when the unexpected happens (falls, strokes, etc). I've been taking notes and I'm ready to share and listen.

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