REDHEADREVEAL with Jenn Pinkerton

Jenn Pinkerton
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  • Mental Health

I am Jenn Pinkerton, your redhead host, a psychotherapist, coach, writer and the private practice owner of Pinkerton Psychotherapy. I am a connection expert whose mission is to reveal connectedness within relationships and enhance sexuality while understanding attachment, inner child and trauma as root causes of behaviors that impact our ability to thrive.

  1. Sep 24

    Signs Your Dating a Narcissist

    Are you dating someone who makes you question your memory, silence your needs, or feel responsible for their behavior? Maybe the relationship started with intense attention and connection, but over time you began walking on eggshells, apologizing for things you didn't do, and wondering whether you're the problem. In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explains the signs that you may be dealing with significant narcissistic traits and why narcissism is about more than simply being selfish, confident, or difficult. You'll learn what to look for in patterns of entitlement, accountability, manipulation, boundaries, and emotional control—and why one difficult interaction does not automatically mean someone is a narcissist. Jenn also explores the difference between narcissistic traits, emotional immaturity, selfishness, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, why gaslighting is often misunderstood, and what happens when your boundaries are treated as betrayal. Most importantly, you'll learn why you don't need to prove that someone has a diagnosis before taking repeated manipulation, emotional harm, or unsafe relationship patterns seriously. Whether you're dating, married, or trying to make sense of a relationship that has left you feeling confused and disconnected from yourself, this conversation will help you focus less on labeling the other person and more on understanding the patterns happening in your relationship—and what those patterns are doing to you. SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. They happen through awareness, intention, and practice. Subscribe for weekly insights on relationships, attachment, emotional wellness, communication, boundaries, intimacy, and building lasting connection. https://www.youtube.com/@jennpinkerton Take the Pinkerton Relational Health Index Quiz Now: https://pinkertonrelationalhealthindex.scoreapp.com CONNECT WITH JENN: Website: www.jennpinkerton.com Instagram: @Jennbpinkerton Facebook: Jennifer Pinkerton Twitter: @redheadreveal TikTok: @redheadreveal Connection Cards: Shop Here: https://linktr.ee/jennbpinkerton?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Purchase one of Jenn's course here: https://jennifer-pinkerton.mykajabi.com/to-do-before-i-do Click here to work with Jenn and her transformational 30 day program: https://jennpinkerton.com/

  2. Sep 22

    HOW to Go From Anxious Attachment to Secure

    Do you constantly worry that someone you love is pulling away? Maybe a delayed text, a change in tone, or a little distance sends your mind into overdrive. You find yourself seeking reassurance, overanalyzing their behavior, or trying to prevent abandonment before it happens. Anxious attachment can make love feel like something you have to constantly monitor, earn, and protect. In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explains how to move from anxious attachment toward secure attachment and why anxious attachment is a protective pattern—not a personal defect. You'll learn how early experiences of inconsistent connection can shape the way you respond to uncertainty, why your nervous system may interpret ordinary changes as signs of abandonment, and how to separate emotional activation from actual information. Jenn also shares practical strategies for breaking the cycle, including learning to self-regulate before reacting, questioning the stories anxiety creates, using reassurance in healthier ways, replacing protest behaviors with direct communication, and developing greater self-trust and relational discernment. You'll learn why secure attachment isn't about never feeling anxious—it’s about being able to stay connected to yourself when anxiety appears. Whether you're dating, married, healing from past relationships, or constantly afraid of losing connection, this conversation will help you understand your attachment patterns and begin creating relationships that feel safer, more secure, and more grounded. SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. They happen through awareness, intention, and practice. Subscribe for weekly insights on relationships, attachment, emotional wellness, intimacy, communication, and building lasting connection. https://www.youtube.com/@jennpinkerton Take the FREE Pinkerton Relational Health Index Quiz Now: https://pinkertonrelationalhealthindex.scoreapp.com CONNECT WITH JENN: Website: www.jennpinkerton.com Instagram: @Jennbpinkerton Facebook: Jennifer Pinkerton Twitter: @redheadreveal TikTok: @redheadreveal Connection Cards: Shop Here: https://linktr.ee/jennbpinkerton?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Purchase one of Jenn's course here: https://jennifer-pinkerton.mykajabi.com/to-do-before-i-do Click here to work with Jenn and her transformational 30 day program: https://jennpinkerton.com/

  3. Sep 17

    Being the Family Scapegoat or Problem Child: Honesty About Dysfunction

    Were you always described as the difficult one, the dramatic one, the overly sensitive one, or the “problem child” in your family? Maybe you spent years believing that if you could just behave better, achieve more, or stop causing conflict, everything around you would finally be okay. In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explores what it means to become the family scapegoat and why the person labeled as the problem may sometimes be carrying or exposing pain that the rest of the family has learned to ignore. You'll learn how family systems can project blame onto one person, why families may resist confronting uncomfortable truths, and how the role you were assigned as a child can continue shaping your identity and relationships as an adult. Jenn also explores one of the most important distinctions in healing: being unfairly scapegoated does not mean you never caused harm. You can take responsibility for your behavior without accepting the belief that you are fundamentally bad. You'll learn how to separate what you're responsible for, what belonged to other people, and what belonged to the family system as a whole. Whether you're still navigating your family relationships or trying to understand how childhood experiences affect your adult life, this conversation will help you separate your identity from the role you were given, create healthier boundaries, and begin letting go of shame that was never entirely yours. SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. They happen through awareness, intention, and practice. Subscribe for weekly insights on relationships, attachment, emotional wellness, communication, boundaries, and building lasting connection. https://www.youtube.com/@jennpinkerton Take the Pinkerton Relational Health Index Quiz Now: https://pinkertonrelationalhealthindex.scoreapp.com CONNECT WITH JENN: Website: www.jennpinkerton.com Instagram: @Jennbpinkerton Facebook: Jennifer Pinkerton Twitter: @redheadreveal TikTok: @redheadreveal Connection Cards: Shop Here: https://linktr.ee/jennbpinkerton?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Purchase one of Jenn's course here: https://jennifer-pinkerton.mykajabi.com/to-do-before-i-do Click here to work with Jenn and her transformational 30 day program: https://jennpinkerton.com/

  4. Sep 15

    Activities to Heal Your Inner Child

    Do you ever find yourself reacting strongly to something in your relationship and wondering, “Why did that affect me so much?” A partner's silence, criticism, distance, or rejection can sometimes activate emotions that feel much bigger than the situation itself. That may be because an older wound has entered a present-day relationship. In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explains what people mean when they talk about the “inner child” and how childhood experiences can continue influencing the way we respond to love, conflict, rejection, and emotional safety as adults. You'll learn three practical activities to help you recognize when an old wound has been activated, understand the unmet need underneath your reaction, and respond to yourself with greater compassion. Jenn walks you through creating a Trigger-to-Origin Map, reconnecting with a younger version of yourself through compassionate imagery, and creating corrective experiences that help you meet old needs in healthier ways. These exercises can help you understand your protective patterns without shaming yourself for having them. Most importantly, you'll learn that healing your inner child isn't about living in the past. It's about becoming the adult who can finally offer yourself the safety, protection, consistency, boundaries, and compassion you may not have received before. Whether you're dating, married, healing from past relationships, or simply trying to understand why you react the way you do, this conversation will help you recognize old patterns, build internal safety, and begin creating healthier relationships from the inside out. SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. They happen through awareness, intention, and practice. Subscribe for weekly insights on relationships, attachment, emotional wellness, intimacy, communication, and building lasting connection. https://www.youtube.com/@jennpinkerton Take the FREE Pinkerton Relational Health Index Quiz Now: https://pinkertonrelationalhealthindex.scoreapp.com CONNECT WITH JENN: Website: www.jennpinkerton.com Instagram: @Jennbpinkerton Facebook: Jennifer Pinkerton Twitter: @redheadreveal TikTok: @redheadreveal Connection Cards: Shop Here: https://linktr.ee/jennbpinkerton?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Purchase one of Jenn's course here: https://jennifer-pinkerton.mykajabi.com/to-do-before-i-do Click here to work with Jenn and her transformational 30 day program: https://jennpinkerton.com/

  5. Sep 15

    Sex, Intimacy, and ADHD

    Does ADHD affect your sex life? Maybe one partner feels constantly rejected while the other feels pressured, distracted, misunderstood, or ashamed. Over time, intimacy can stop feeling like connection and start feeling like a test of whether one person is still desirable and whether the other is constantly disappointing their partner. In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explores the complex relationship between ADHD, sex, and intimacy and explains why ADHD-related challenges can sometimes be mistaken for a lack of love or attraction. You'll learn about the rejection-pressure cycle, how difficulty transitioning attention can affect intimacy, why distraction and emotional dysregulation can make sexual connection harder, and how shame can quietly push couples further apart. Jenn also shares three important shifts for breaking this cycle: stop personalizing rejection, create the conditions that make desire and attention more accessible, and repair the shame and resentment that can build outside the bedroom. You'll learn how to communicate about desire, create affection without pressure, protect intentional connection time, and replace the parent-child dynamic with a healthier adult partnership. Whether you or your partner has ADHD, you're experiencing mismatched desire, or sex and intimacy have become a source of tension in your relationship, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface and begin creating a more connected, compassionate approach to intimacy. SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. They happen through awareness, intention, and practice. Subscribe for weekly insights on relationships, attachment, emotional wellness, intimacy, communication, and building lasting connection. https://www.youtube.com/@jennpinkerton Take the FREE Pinkerton Relational Health Index Quiz Now: https://pinkertonrelationalhealthindex.scoreapp.com CONNECT WITH JENN: Website: www.jennpinkerton.com Instagram: @Jennbpinkerton Facebook: Jennifer Pinkerton Twitter: @redheadreveal TikTok: @redheadreveal Connection Cards: Shop Here: https://linktr.ee/jennbpinkerton?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Purchase one of Jenn's course here: https://jennifer-pinkerton.mykajabi.com/to-do-before-i-do Click here to work with Jenn and her transformational 30 day program: https://jennpinkerton.com/

  6. Sep 14

    Intimacy in Relationships: What Are You Really Missing?

    Do you ever feel like something is missing in your relationship, but you can't quite explain what it is? Maybe you're having sex but still feel emotionally alone. Or maybe you feel emotionally connected but rarely experience affection, touch, or physical closeness. The problem may not be a lack of intimacy—it may be that you're missing a specific kind of intimacy. In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explains the difference between emotional intimacy and physical intimacy, why they aren't interchangeable, and how couples can end up feeling disconnected when each partner is longing for a different kind of closeness. You'll learn why intimacy is about feeling seen, safe, wanted, and connected—not simply talking or having sex. Jenn also explores what emotional intimacy actually looks like, why physical intimacy is about much more than sex, how the two influence each other, and why couples can become stuck waiting for the other person to make the first move toward connection. You'll learn how to identify the kind of intimacy you're missing and communicate your needs in a way your partner can actually understand. Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or feeling disconnected in a long-term relationship, this conversation will help you understand what closeness really means, recognize where your relationship may be struggling, and begin rebuilding intimacy through small, intentional moments of connection. SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. They happen through awareness, intention, and practice. Subscribe for weekly insights on relationships, attachment, emotional wellness, intimacy, communication, and building lasting connection. https://www.youtube.com/@jennpinkerton Take the FREE Pinkerton Relational Health Index Quiz Now: https://pinkertonrelationalhealthindex.scoreapp.com CONNECT WITH JENN: Website: www.jennpinkerton.com Instagram: @Jennbpinkerton Facebook: Jennifer Pinkerton Twitter: @redheadreveal TikTok: @redheadreveal Connection Cards: Shop Here: https://linktr.ee/jennbpinkerton?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Purchase one of Jenn's course here: https://jennifer-pinkerton.mykajabi.com/to-do-before-i-do Click here to work with Jenn and her transformational 30 day program: https://jennpinkerton.com/

  7. Sep 14

    Limerence: What is it and How Do We Let it Go?

    Why can’t you stop thinking about someone—even when you know they're unavailable, inconsistent, or not giving you the relationship you actually want? Sometimes the person we can't let go of isn't necessarily the love of our life. We may become attached to the possibility of what the relationship could become, the hope of finally being chosen, or the feeling we imagine their love would give us. Limerence can keep us emotionally invested in a future that the relationship itself has never actually created. In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explains what limerence is, why uncertainty can make romantic fixation so powerful, and how we can become attached to an imagined version of someone rather than the person they're consistently showing us. You'll learn how to separate the person from the promise, recognize the difference between potential and reality, and understand why inconsistent connection can keep hope alive. Jenn also explores the behaviors that keep limerence going, including checking social media, rereading messages, looking for signs, and repeatedly reopening emotional contact. Most importantly, you'll learn how to interrupt that cycle, identify the deeper emotional need underneath the fixation, and begin healing the part of yourself that may be waiting to feel chosen. Whether you're struggling to move on from an unavailable person, stuck in an almost-relationship, or constantly wondering if someone will finally choose you, this conversation will help you understand why letting go can feel so difficult—and how to begin returning your focus to yourself. SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. They happen through awareness, intention, and practice. Subscribe for weekly insights on relationships, attachment, emotional wellness, intimacy, boundaries, and building lasting connection. https://www.youtube.com/@jennpinkerton Take the FREE Pinkerton Relational Health Index Quiz Now: https://pinkertonrelationalhealthindex.scoreapp.com CONNECT WITH JENN: Website: www.jennpinkerton.com Instagram: @Jennbpinkerton Facebook: Jennifer Pinkerton Twitter: @redheadreveal TikTok: @redheadreveal Connection Cards: Shop Here: https://linktr.ee/jennbpinkerton?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Purchase one of Jenn's course here: https://jennifer-pinkerton.mykajabi.com/to-do-before-i-do Click here to work with Jenn and her transformational 30 day program: https://jennpinkerton.com/

  8. Sep 12

    Why Overthinking RUINS Every Relationship (And How To Stop)

    Do you ever find yourself overanalyzing a text, replaying a conversation, or assuming something is wrong before you actually know that it is? You notice a change in your partner's tone, they seem distracted, or they ask for space—and suddenly your mind starts filling in the blanks. Over time, this constant need for certainty can create anxiety, conflict, and emotional distance in a relationship. In this video, psychotherapist Jenn Pinkerton explains why overthinking can quietly damage relationships and how it often begins as an attempt to protect yourself from being hurt. You'll learn why overthinking creates a false sense of certainty, how we confuse feelings with facts, why reassurance can become a cycle that never feels complete, and how fear can change the way you communicate with your partner. Jenn also shares practical strategies for breaking the cycle, including separating facts from assumptions, slowing down before reacting, learning to self-soothe, replacing relationship tests with direct communication, and building trust in yourself. The goal isn't to stop caring or ignore your intuition—it's to stop treating every fearful thought like evidence and learn how to respond to what's actually happening. Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or simply trying to understand your relationship patterns, this conversation will help you recognize when fear is driving your reactions and begin creating healthier, more secure ways of connecting. SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. They happen through awareness, intention, and practice. Subscribe for weekly insights on relationships, mental health, attachment, emotional wellness, intimacy, and building lasting connection. https://www.youtube.com/@jennpinkerton Take the FREE Pinkerton Relational Health Index Quiz Now: https://pinkertonrelationalhealthindex.scoreapp.com CONNECT WITH JENN: Website: www.jennpinkerton.com Instagram: @Jennbpinkerton Facebook: Jennifer Pinkerton Twitter: @redheadreveal TikTok: @redheadreveal Connection Cards: Shop Here: https://linktr.ee/jennbpinkerton?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Purchase one of Jenn's course here: https://jennifer-pinkerton.mykajabi.com/to-do-before-i-do Click here to work with Jenn and her transformational 30 day program: https://jennpinkerton.com/

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I am Jenn Pinkerton, your redhead host, a psychotherapist, coach, writer and the private practice owner of Pinkerton Psychotherapy. I am a connection expert whose mission is to reveal connectedness within relationships and enhance sexuality while understanding attachment, inner child and trauma as root causes of behaviors that impact our ability to thrive.

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