SOLACE: Soul + Grief

Candee Lucas
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This podcast is sponsored by SOULPLUSGRACE serving the San José/Santa Cruz area, offering grief support and grief journeying with spirituality.  I hope to help you travel through grief with God at your side. "I am a trained Spiritual Director for those who seek to complete the 19th Annotation of St. Igantius’ spiritual exercises OR seek spiritual direction while grieving.  I have also worked as a hospital/cemetery chaplain and grief doula. I believe all paths lead to God and that all traditions are due respect and honour. I take my sacred inspiration from all of my patients and companions–past, present and future; the Dalai Lama, James Tissot, St. John of the Cross, the Buddha, Saint Teresa of Ávila, and, of course, Íñigo who became known as St. Ignatius. I utilize art, poetry, music, aromatherapy, yoga, lectio divina, prayer and meditation in my self-work and work with others. I believe in creating a sacred space for listening; even in the most incongruous of surroundings." BACKGROUND Jesuit Retreat Center, Los Altos, CA -- Pierre Favre Program, 3 year training to give the Spiritual Exercises of Saint IgnatiusCentro de Espiritualidad de Loyola, Spain -- The Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius of Loyola -- 30 Day Silent RetreatCenter for Loss & Life Transition – Comprehensive Bereavement Skills Training (30 hrs) Ft. Collins, COCalifornia State University Institute for Palliative Care--Palliative Care Chaplaincy Specialty Cert. (90 hrs)Sequoia Hospital, Redwood City, CA -- Clinical Pastoral Education19th Annotation with Fumiaki Tosu, San Jose, CA, Spiritual Exercises of St. IgnatiusSanta Clara University, Santa Clara, CA M.A. – Pastoral MinistriesCONTACT ME:  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com with questions to be answered in future episodes.

  1. 1D AGO

    Faith May Start With A Wound

    Send us Fan Mail Grief can make you feel like you’ve been exiled to a place no one else has ever been. When people try to help by saying “I know exactly how you feel,” it can land like a second loss, because your pain is not a template. I’m Candy Lucas, a chaplain and spiritual director, and I want to slow down with a part of the Bible that refuses quick fixes: the Book of Lamentations. We walk through why Lamentations may be one of the most pastoral books in Scripture for Christian grief and mourning. These poems are born after Jerusalem’s collapse, written from inside the devastation, and they begin with a wound instead of a solution. We talk about how that honesty challenges the habit of rushing to Romans 8:28, and why real grief support starts with presence, not explanations. Then we name what many believers are afraid to admit out loud: anger at God. Lamentations models raw prayer without pretending it is polished testimony, making space for faith and loss to coexist. At the center, we explore the famous line “Great is your faithfulness” and why it is not a mountaintop slogan but a remembered truth spoken from the rubble. We also face the book’s unresolved ending, and what it means to live a “theology of the middle” when your story is still unfinished. If you’re mourning or walking alongside someone who is, listen and let lament speak. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs permission to be real, and leave a review so more grieving hearts can find the circle. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE :  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com ATTEND MY SUMMER WORKSHOP ON "SOULFUL LISTENING" THROUGH THE MARKEY CENTER AT SANTA CLARA UNIVERSITY VIA ZOOM. https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    22 min

  2. APR 10

    RAHNER: Love Beyond Death--What Now

    Send us Fan Mail Grief shows up like a power outage in the middle of ordinary life: the silence after the phone call, the empty chair, the moment you realize the world has kept moving while yours has split open.  We turn to theologian Karl Rahner for language that doesn’t flinch at that darkness or try to hustle you into feeling “better.” He offers a way to tell the truth about love, death, and the ache that follows. Walk through Rahner’s view of the human person as “spirit in the world,” grounded in bodies and time yet always reaching beyond what any finite thing can satisfy. That restless longing, Rahner says, is a clue to God as holy mystery, the horizon beneath every question and every desire. From there, explore why grief is not an accident but a disclosure, how the “hole” left by someone you love is shaped like them, and why the depth of pain can reveal the depth of the bond. Rahner reframes death, not only as something that happens to us, but also as a final human act of self-surrender, and how that can invite real hope without pretending to provide certainty. We also push back on the modern pressure to compress mourning into a neat timeline. Rahner helps us see lingering grief as fidelity, a witness that people are not interchangeable and love is real. Drawing on the via negativa, consider how grief can hollow us out and, if we resist the urge to numb it, become a place where God can be encountered without blaming God for suffering. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE :  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com ATTEND MY SUMMER WORKSHOP ON "SOULFUL LISTENING" THROUGH THE MARKEY CENTER AT SANTA CLARA UNIVERSITY VIA ZOOM. https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    19 min

  3. APR 3

    Good Friday Grief

    Send us Fan Mail Sometimes grief has a way of making us feel like we’re doing faith wrong, especially when we can’t “move on” or wrap our pain easily. On Good Friday, refuse to rush. Sit at the cross and let what is heavy be heavy, making space for the losses that can be named and the quiet ache that cannot.  Start at a tomb in John 11, where the shortest line in Scripture becomes a lifeline: "Jesus wept". Not a polite tear, but real mourning. That moment reshapes Christian grief and pastoral care because it shows a God who does not stand far off from suffering. From there, move to the crucifixion and listen to Jesus pray Psalm 22, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” Lament is in no way rebellion. It’s a spiritual message of telling the truth in God’s presence. The cross becomes the safest place to bring your questions, your anger, your tears, and your exhaustion.  Then, Holy Saturday, the in-between space after devastation and before any sense of resurrection, when time feels strange and comfort feels delayed. If you’re there right now, you’re not falling behind. Grief does not run on a schedule, and Jesus’ blessing over mourners makes room for slow healing.  Take a quiet moment, name what you’re carrying, and place it at the foot of the cross.  SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE :  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com ATTEND MY SUMMER WORKSHOP ON "SOULFUL LISTENING" THROUGH THE MARKEY CENTER AT SANTA CLARA UNIVERSITY VIA ZOOM. https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    16 min

  4. MAR 27

    Naming Sibling Grief

    Send us Fan Mail There’s a word for losing a parent. There’s a word for losing a spouse. But when a sibling dies, many of us are left with a strange, aching blank, and that cultural silence can make the grief feel invisible. We sit with that truth and name what so many people carry quietly: sibling loss is not “less than” other losses, and it deserves space, language, and care.  Why are siblings often treated as forgotten mourners and how that plays out at funerals, in family conversations, and in the months after everyone else goes back to normal? We explore what makes a brother or sister different from any other relationship: they can be your longest bond, your keeper of childhood memories, and a living witness to your story. When that person dies, it can feel like losing part of your own history along with them.  From there unpack the deeper layers of sibling bereavement, including grief for the person, grief for a complicated or unresolved relationship, grief for a family system that is permanently reshaped, and the sudden confrontation with your own mortality. Challenge popular myths about “stages” and explain why grief comes in waves, why the second year can hit harder, and why emotions like anger, numbness, relief, or even joy do not mean you’re doing it wrong.  Offering practical, steadying tools: naming yourself as a bereaved sibling, using language that validates your experience, building continuing bonds that honor love in a new form, and finding support so you don’t have to carry this alone.  SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE :  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com ATTEND MY SUMMER WORKSHOP ON "SOULFUL LISTENING" THROUGH THE MARKEY CENTER AT SANTA CLARA UNIVERSITY VIA ZOOM. https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    11 min

  5. MAR 20

    Like Waking From A Dream

    Send us Fan Mail You know that split second after a vivid dream where it still feels real, like the person is still there? That’s the doorway we walk through today, because grief often behaves exactly like that: irrational, symbolic, and completely untethered from clocks and calendars. I We talk about how both dreams and bereavement collapse time the past becomes present and the dead feel alive. Rather than treating that as weakness, we name it as the mind doing what minds do: trying again and again to metabolize a loss it cannot fully accept.  We also face the hard part: the nightmare moments. Sometimes the most painful waves are the most honest, because they put us in direct contact with what’s real. I reflect on C.S. Lewis and the idea that love’s “impact” continues even after death the other is gone, but the impact remains. The takeaway is simple and sturdy: we don’t get over grief; we learn to dream differently, until this landscape becomes something we can move through without drowning. If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with someone who’s hurting, and leave a review so more people looking for grief support can find it.one who is grieving.  Subscribe for new Friday releases, and if you can, leave a review so more people searching for grief support and spiritual care can find us. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE :  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com ATTEND MY SUMMER WORKSHOP ON "SOULFUL LISTENING" THROUGH THE MARKEY CENTER AT SANTA CLARA UNIVERSITY VIA ZOOM. https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    9 min

  6. MAR 13

    Grief Is Proof Of Love

    Send us Fan Mail Grief can be loud, but it can also be quiet enough to hide in plain sight. Sometimes it settles into the corners of our lives like dust we promise we will deal with later, when we have more time, more strength, or fewer responsibilities.  What happens when we keep postponing mourning, and why the “later” we wait for rarely arrives on its own. Start with a simple image that opens a big question: who and what lives at the corners of our lives? From there, we look at the corners where grief gathers, along with the complicated pieces that often come with loss like resentment, lingering harm, words we never said, and words we wish we could take back.  Grief has no clean endpoint, because love has no clean endpoint, and  avoiding grief can quietly intensify pain over years. We also explore a faith-centered perspective through the story of Jesus and the woman at the well, where someone who might be treated as a “corner person” is fully seen. That becomes a guide for our own healing: the things we fear in our grief corners are not calamities waiting to destroy us. They are shards of living love, chipped from both hearts, and they deserve gentle attention. This is a simple, practical image to carry with you: hold a bright candle to the corner, and bring what you find into the sunshine. If this speaks to you, listen, follow the show, and share it with someone who is grieving.  Subscribe for new Friday releases, and if you can, leave a review so more people searching for grief support and spiritual care can find us. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE :  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com ATTEND MY SUMMER WORKSHOP ON "SOULFUL LISTENING" THROUGH THE MARKEY CENTER AT SANTA CLARA UNIVERSITY VIA ZOOM. https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    10 min

  7. MAR 6

    Sorrow As A Teacher, Love As A Map

    Send us Fan Mail Grief rarely follows our plans, and neither does love. We step into scripture using Ignatian imaginative prayer and walk alongside Jesus as the caravan grows, the chores pile up, and friendship matures through late-night talks and hard truth. When a stranger brings the unthinkable news—John has been beheaded—the scene turns to lament: a howl in the dark, a body received with care, linen and balm prepared, prayers whispered at a rocky graveside. Rather than rush toward answers, we sit in the holy weight of mourning and notice how faith breathes through presence, not performance. That tenderness meets a new test with the message about Lazarus. Should love hurry, or can delay bear a meaning we cannot see yet? We argue, plead, and name the fear in a mother’s eyes. The response points to a wider point of love, a horizon bigger than our urgency. This tension anchors a larger conversation about how believers wrestle with God’s timing: anger that tells the truth, hope that will not vanish, and trust that grows one honest prayer at a time. To hold all this, we turn to Kahlil Gibran’s meditation on pain as the breaking of the shell around our understanding. The image does not excuse suffering; it invites us to recognize the physician within, the remedy that stings because it heals, and the seasons that pass over the heart as surely as winter yields to spring. Along the way, we offer grounded spiritual direction for mourners, simple practices for noticing God’s nearness, and a gentle reminder that community can carry what we cannot. If this journey meets you where you are, subscribe, share this episode with a friend who is grieving, and leave a review so others can find a circle of support when they need it most. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    11 min

  8. FEB 27

    What Grief Means to Us

    Send us Fan Mail Happiness showing up in the middle of grief can feel like a breach of loyalty. We talk honestly about that knot in the throat—the moment a new baby, a friend’s engagement, or a quiet sunrise stirs warmth while your heart is still heavy—and we offer a way to hold both truths without apology. Drawing on Scripture and lived experience, we explore whether joy follows sorrow, lives inside it, or both, and why that tension is normal, human, and often holy. We reflect on verses like “weeping may last for the night, but joy comes in the morning” and Paul’s paradox of being “sorrowful, yet always rejoicing.” Rather than forcing a winner between emotions, we frame pain and joy as grounded in different realities: grief names what was torn; joy names what remains unshakable. Through a vivid boulder-in-the-storm image, we show how joy can be submerged by waves yet never dislodged, reappearing as the waters calm. The goal is not to erase sadness but to keep joy from going, trusting that tearful joy can, with time, become more spacious and even, at moments, tearless. If this conversation steadies you or someone you love, share it with a friend who’s grieving, subscribe for weekly solace, and leave a review with one moment of joy you noticed today. Your words may be the lifeline another listener needs. Please subscribe to us on Amazon Music, Spotify, or Apple Music SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    17 min
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This podcast is sponsored by SOULPLUSGRACE serving the San José/Santa Cruz area, offering grief support and grief journeying with spirituality.  I hope to help you travel through grief with God at your side. "I am a trained Spiritual Director for those who seek to complete the 19th Annotation of St. Igantius’ spiritual exercises OR seek spiritual direction while grieving.  I have also worked as a hospital/cemetery chaplain and grief doula. I believe all paths lead to God and that all traditions are due respect and honour. I take my sacred inspiration from all of my patients and companions–past, present and future; the Dalai Lama, James Tissot, St. John of the Cross, the Buddha, Saint Teresa of Ávila, and, of course, Íñigo who became known as St. Ignatius. I utilize art, poetry, music, aromatherapy, yoga, lectio divina, prayer and meditation in my self-work and work with others. I believe in creating a sacred space for listening; even in the most incongruous of surroundings." BACKGROUND Jesuit Retreat Center, Los Altos, CA -- Pierre Favre Program, 3 year training to give the Spiritual Exercises of Saint IgnatiusCentro de Espiritualidad de Loyola, Spain -- The Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius of Loyola -- 30 Day Silent RetreatCenter for Loss & Life Transition – Comprehensive Bereavement Skills Training (30 hrs) Ft. Collins, COCalifornia State University Institute for Palliative Care--Palliative Care Chaplaincy Specialty Cert. (90 hrs)Sequoia Hospital, Redwood City, CA -- Clinical Pastoral Education19th Annotation with Fumiaki Tosu, San Jose, CA, Spiritual Exercises of St. IgnatiusSanta Clara University, Santa Clara, CA M.A. – Pastoral MinistriesCONTACT ME:  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com with questions to be answered in future episodes.

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  • Creator
    Candee Lucas
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    213
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 SOLACE: Soul + Grief
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