Jake and Whitney are Christians ...and Life Coaches. In Jake's 20 years teaching math to the youth of America, he learned that the secret sauce to learn quickly is connecting new information to your prior knowledge. In each episode of Steadfast Life, Jake and Whit explore popular concepts, in both Self-Growth and Christianity, from unique perspectives to provide that same learning opportunity for you.
Allowing Disappointment - Whit's Story
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BIG BELIEF is just so scary because it creates opportunity for BIG DISAPPOINTMENT! I suppose you could just believe small, achieve small, love small, and live small, but if you're reading this - those kinds of solutions are not an option for you!
The best solution is to build your CAPACITY to feel disappointment so that when it does show up, it doesn't have such a devastating impact.
How do you do that? You FEEL it! You don't buffer it, you don't resist it, and you don't appease it. You ALLOW it.
In this episode Whit discusses the BIG DISAPPOINTMENT she felt after choosing the BIG BELIEF that she was pregnant. She holds nothing back as she walks you through the practical steps and the emotional experience of befriending her disappointment.
"As I continue to practice allowing ALL emotion, my life gets fuller, richer, and more authentic." - Whit
Laughing through the Heavy Stuff
The best word to describe the time we've spent with Lindsey is DELIGHTFUL. As we worked with her and watched her grow through over 65lbs of weight loss, we would consistently find ourselves blown away by 2 things:
1. Lindsey's willingness to hold her story loosely. She had her justifications, her excuses, and her well rehearsed stories of her limitations just like the rest of us. The difference was that she wasn't so chained to them. When she saw them, rather than fight to defend them ...she would laugh ...HARD!
2. Lindsey's consistency in her weight loss - as a matter of fact she has had the most steady and uninterrupted weight loss of any client we've worked with.
Now she is NOT the most driven, striving, hustling, grinding client we've worked with ...hmmm, isn't that interesting.
Is there something to this "laughing and adapting" technique of hers?? We think it's worth exploring in a podcast for sure!!
Your Worth is NOT a Number on a Scale
When Chelsie started her time with Steadfast Life Coaching, her biggest obstacle was that she didn't believe she was worth the tough choices required to reach her goals. She was plagued by lies running on repeat in her mind that had been so well practiced they now felt like truth.
The journey away from one framework of belief to another can be extremely uncomfortable, so Chelsie started off by borrowing belief from Whitney and I ...and her supportive husband. As she kept doing the work she built some belief in herself and the progress was even faster.
Recently she began to include her faith in Jesus as she sought this transformation ...and that adjustment has changed EVERYTHING!!!
If you feel trapped by the story in your mind ...or if you just thought , ""Yeah, but mine's not a story, it's reality" - then Chelsie's story could be just what you need to put some cracks in that wall that is holding you back.
And when you're ready to bust those cracks open, that's our specialty: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/
Life After People Pleasing with Shanna Nail
You've been there before. You're committed. You've got a plan. You've prepped your veggies and protein. This is the week you're going to make the changes. And then it begins:
"Mom - I'm not going to be able to eat before practice tonight."
"Is it OK if Maddy spends the night?"
"Hey babe, let's do date night Thursday night. What do you say to going out to a nice restaurant and getting appetizers AND dessert!?!?"
Maybe you even get the words out, "I had planned to eat healthy this week."
But the rebuttals come in, "Oh come on - you deserve a night out." "One dinner won't make that much of a difference."
And deep down, you agree, but mostly because you think the same stuff. It's not going to make a difference, I'll just blow it in a few days anyway, it's so selfish to ruin everyone's night since I never even stick with it."
...and there it is. You go to the back burner, your weight stays the same, you have plenty of fuel to beat yourself up for failing again.
But at least other people are happy ...for tonight.
What if you could end that cycle? What if you could fill yourself up with so much love and validation that you become the example you dream of being for your family? How would you show up differently at your ideal health?
Is it really selfish to make some difficult choices on the way to that change?
I like the way Shanna puts it, "NO!"
Shanna did it. She lived that reality and she did the work to live a new one now!! Check out her story.
5am - That sounds miserable. I'm not a morning person.
Whit and I break down our path through the obstacles to becoming "morning people." The biggest game changer was getting honest about what we'd have to give up and what we would gain. Having the TRUTH on the table ...NOT just the story we were telling ourselves ...allowed to us to truly understand what we were trading.
If you find that you want to make changes like this faster than you're actually doing it - let's get connected!
How to Overcome Impossible
As Whit and I get back to life after taking 12 teenagers on a 7 day wilderness adventure, we reflect on some of the insights that came up while the kids were staring at challenges with NO BELIEF that success was possible. Then what they learned as they leaned into the impossible hard enough to make it possible.
The key is the fuel ...the emotion ...the feeling that you are experience as you are taking on a difficult challenge. I KNOW you have a "mountain" of your own - that challenge in your own life that just looks impossible from here. I believe that these lesson learned in the Sierra Nevada Mountains in California are the same lessons that help you to climb yours.
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I love these two as my own personal coaches and all the value offered right here on the podcast! I love the biblical wisdom, real life examples, humor and compassion these 2 bring.
2 Jays Explained it All!
I started my Monday morning with listening to the 2 Jays episode and it explains my entire last week!!! I was constantly going back and forth between justification and Judgement and not creating the results I desired. Each Monday I do an evaluation of the week before but usually there is a lot of Jaying going on there too. But after listening to this episode, I decided to release the judgement and justification and truly ask how am I responsible and what could go even better instead? I feel so much more empowered to create my week. Thanks Jake and Whit. I'll let you know how it goes...