What do you do when life takes everything you thought you could rely on, your marriage, your safety, your bank account, your sense of self, and it all collapses at once? In this deeply human conversation, Leigh-Anne sits with Belinda J. Shaw, author of Resilience Is a VERB, to explore resilience as something we practice, not a trait we either “have” or “don’t.” Belinda shares how she rebuilt after narcissistic harm, financial devastation, and returning home to live with her mum, later becoming her mum’s carer, and how small, conscious choices became the stepping stones back to self. You’ll hear why Belinda believes resilience is human evolution, not “bouncing back,” and how boundaries protect your energy, values guide your decisions, and tiny actions can shift a life that feels impossible. This episode also shines a light on an urgent reality: women over 50 are the fastest-growing cohort experiencing homelessness in Australia, and what that means for our communities, our compassion, and our responsibility to each other. Show notes In this episode, we exploreIf you’ve ever laid awake at night with fears about money, retirement, safety, or feeling trapped, this episode is for you. When life “dismantles” you: identity loss, financial collapse, and rebuilding from zero Resilience as evolution (not “bouncing back”) The power of small choices in hard seasons Why boundaries contain your energy and “no” is a full sentence Values and expectations: how misalignment drains you Grounding practices that change your state (earthing, routine, memory-stacking) The late-night fears many women over 50 carry: retirement, money, homelessness, feeling trapped The growing reality of homelessness among women, and how community can respond with dignity and care Belinda’s frameworks: Resilience Is a VERB + the Resilient ROAR (above/below the line) Why Belinda’s book is designed as a “companion” you return to, not a read-once-and-forget Powerful moments & quotes “Resilience is part of human evolution.” “No is a full sentence.” “Your boundaries contain your energy.” “It’s a decision to decide. It’s a choice to choose.”Resources & links Belinda Shaw: belindajshaw.com Book: Resilience Is a VERB (Belinda Shaw) Free resource: “Resilience Abilities” download (available via Belinda’s website)Share this episode with… A woman over 50 who is quietly carrying late-night fear Someone rebuilding after heartbreak, control, or financial loss Anyone who needs practical steps to regain agency, one choice at a time #ResilienceIsAVerb #BelindaShaw #SuddenlyDifferentPodcast #Resilience #RebuildingYourLife #Boundaries #Values #Expectations #PersonalGrowth #HealingJourney #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #TraumaRecovery #WomensWellbeing #WomenOver50 #MidlifeReinvention #FinancialWellbeing #HomelessnessAwareness #CommunityCare #NervousSystemSupport #ChooseAgain