Talking Without Permission

Rini Spencer
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Hi friends! It’s your host Rini Spencer! Welcome to The Rini Spencer Show — Talking Without Permission—a space where we get real about healing, growth, and breaking free from the past to create the life you truly LOVE. I’ve been on my own journey of overcoming childhood trauma, breaking generational cycles, and facing my fears—and now, I’m here to walk that path WITH YOU. Through raw personal stories, expert interviews, and honest conversations, we’ll talk about the good, the bad, and the messy in between! Join me every Thursday— You are not alone, and healing is possible!

  1. 09/15/2025

    Remembering Charlie Kirk: A Call to Courage

    Charlie Kirk was more than a voice—he was a force. In this episode, we honor his life, his work, his family, and the movement he built. From founding Turning Point USA at just 18, to becoming one of the most influential conservative voices of his generation, Charlie proved that courage doesn’t wait for permission. But his story is also a gut-punch reminder: speaking truth in a world that thrives on silence comes with risk. Charlie faced ridicule, enemies, and finally violence—but he never backed down. And now, it’s on us to carry the torch he lit. This episode is part tribute, part rallying cry. It’s about grief, about anger, and about courage. Because if we let fear silence us, then Charlie’s death means nothing. But if we rise—if we speak, if we stand, if we choose conviction over comfort—then his legacy lives on through us. Rest in power, Charlie. We’ll take it from here.

    29 min

  2. 09/09/2025

    The Cost of Avoidance: Why “Later” Always Comes with a Price

    Isn’t it easier to hit snooze, eat the food that comforts you, or avoid the hard conversation that’s been weighing on your heart? Avoidance feels safe in the moment — like a quick fix for the stress, fear, or overwhelm we’re carrying. But here’s the truth: avoidance always has a cost, and it almost always makes things worse in the long run. In this episode, I share real stories from my own life — the times I avoided my finances until the problem got bigger, the way I pulled back from my goals when I got pregnant, and how avoiding hard conversations led to resentment and distance. I’ll break down the science behind why we avoid in the first place, how it connects to trauma and survival, and the very real consequences of staying in that cycle. But most importantly, this isn’t just about awareness. It’s about learning to choose your hard. Because yes, facing things is uncomfortable — but so is living with the fallout of avoiding them. I’ll walk you through practical steps to stop running, face the things that scare you, and start building a future that’s worth the discomfort it takes to get there. If you’ve ever told yourself “I’ll deal with it tomorrow,” this episode is your wake-up call.

    39 min

  3. 09/02/2025

    Awareness Isn’t Enough: Breaking the Patterns That Hold You Back

    Just because you’re aware of your toxic patterns doesn’t mean your life is magically going to change. Awareness is only the first step — the flashlight that shows you the problem. The real transformation happens when you choose to do the hard, opposite action that breaks the cycle. In this episode, I open up about my own struggles over the past few months — how my default under stress is to isolate, withdraw, and detach, even though I know better. I’ll walk you through the different ways people cope under pressure — from isolation and overdrive to numbing and anger — and break down how to actually interrupt those cycles in real time. We’ll talk about: Why awareness alone won’t change your life The sneaky ways people detach or disassociate when stressed Practical, opposite actions you can take to break your old patterns Why your future self is built on today’s choices, not your intentions My own commitment to showing up even when I don’t feel like it If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I know what I need to do, but I just can’t make myself do it,” this episode is for you.

    32 min

  4. 08/14/2025

    What Anxiety Really Is (and Isn’t) — with Counselor Kristen

    In this episode of Talking Without Permission, I sit down with Kristen — a counselor with over 17 years of experience helping people navigate the tangled web of anxiety. We get real about what anxiety actually is, why it shows up the way it does, and how it impacts our thoughts, bodies, and relationships. Kristen shares insight from her years of clinical work, breaks down common misconceptions about anxiety, and offers practical tools you can start using today to calm your mind and regain control. Whether you’re battling daily worry, panic attacks, or the creeping feeling of “something’s wrong” without knowing why — this conversation is packed with guidance, hope, and a few lightbulb moments that might just change how you see anxiety forever. 🎁 Exclusive Offer for Listeners: Join Kristen’s exclusive workshop! Click here: https://kristenramirezlpc.myflodesk.com/anxietyreset

    1h 31m

  5. 07/03/2025

    Hard Truths Nobody Warned Me About: But Life Taught Me Anyway

    Have you ever felt like life is supposed to be black or white? Like you’re either healing or broken, thriving or failing, right or wrong, happy or miserable—with no in-between? I lived in that mindset for a long time, and let me tell you... it kept me stuck. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the truths I wish someone would’ve told me sooner—truths I had to learn the hard way, mostly through life humbling me again and again. We’re diving into the messy middle where real growth happens:— How two things can exist at the same time. You can love someone and still need distance. You can be grateful and still want more. You can forgive and still set a boundary.— How healing gets lonely before it gets peaceful—and why that loneliness is part of the process, not a sign you’re doing it wrong.— How becoming emotionally aware changes how you see the people around you—and how that awareness is both freeing and frustrating.— Why empathy doesn’t mean carrying other people’s pain and how to support someone without drowning in their emotions.— The importance of believing people when they show you who they are... instead of holding on to who you wish they’d be.— Asking yourself one of the hardest but most freeing questions in your healing: “What’s my part in my own suffering?”— And finally, how action (even the smallest step) helps pull you out of depression when overthinking keeps you stuck. This is one of those “let’s sit on the couch and have a real conversation” episodes. No fluff. Just the honest truths that finally stuck in my own life. If you’re in a season where you feel stuck in your head, caught between your feelings and your reality—this one’s for you.

    42 min

  6. 06/26/2025

    Friendship & Growth:Choosing People Who Choose You

    In today’s episode, we’re talking about something that matters to all of us… friendship. The real kind. The kind that grows with you, challenges you, and feels safe even when life gets messy. I’m sharing the 4 biggest truths I’ve learned about friendship over the years—truths I wish someone would have told me sooner. We’ll talk about why some friendships last and others shift, how timing and proximity play a bigger role than we realize, and what it really takes to build meaningful, lasting connections as an adult. I’ll also share a personal story about my own journey—how I spent years keeping people at a distance, only letting one person in, and what happened when I had to learn to open myself up again and redefine what friendship looks like. Whether you’re in a season of making new friends, nurturing old ones, or simply wanting to show up better in your relationships, this episode will remind you that real friendship is built on honesty, grace, and choosing each other—over and over again. Because at the end of the day… the right friendships won’t feel like chasing or forcing—they’ll feel like coming home.

    35 min

  7. 06/19/2025

    Bitterness or Better? Your MINDSET Decides

    What happens when life doesn’t go the way you planned? When disappointment hits hard, pain lingers longer than expected, and your emotions feel louder than reason? In this deeply honest episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent surgery that should’ve been simple—but quickly became something that physically, emotionally, and mentally derailed me. If you've ever felt like life blindsided you—whether it was a relationship ending, an unexpected diagnosis, a surprise pregnancy, or even just the weight of unmet expectations—you’re not alone. I’ve been there. And I know how easy it is to let our mindset spiral into fear, frustration, and hopelessness. But I also know that’s not where the story has to end. In this episode, I reflect on past moments where I let my mindset keep me stuck—from pregnancy during a crumbling marriage to this recent surgery that left me feeling unheard and violated. I walk you through the science of how our mindset shapes our healing, how resentment can block recovery, and how we always have a choice: to freeze or to flex. You’ll walk away with 4 powerful mindset shifts that have helped me start healing—mentally, emotionally, and physically. We’ll talk about: How your mindset filters every experience What you can (and can’t) control when life goes off-script How stored emotions impact your physical health The power of envisioning the outcome you do want, instead of obsessing over what went wrong Whether you’re in a season of heartbreak, healing, or just holding it together—you’ll find compassion, practical encouragement, and a reminder that your mindset is the greatest tool you’ll ever have. So if you’re listening today because someone sent this to you… know this: they see your pain, they believe in your future, and they love you enough to want better for you. This episode is for the one who’s ready to shift from survival mode to strength. Let’s talk about how we do that—starting in the mind.

    50 min

  8. 06/12/2025

    Comfort in the Chaos: Why You Keep Going Back

    Let’s be honest—sometimes peace feels more like a threat than a relief. If you’ve ever found yourself asking “Why do I keep ending up in toxic friendships, dramatic relationships, or jobs that drain the life out of me?”... this episode is for you. In Comfort in the Chaos, I unpack why your nervous system might be addicted to dysfunction, why chaos can feel oddly comforting, and how growing up in a high-stress or emotionally unstable environment trains your brain to find “safety” in all the wrong places. We’re diving into the science behind why your body craves what it knows—even when what it knows is chaos—and how you can start rewiring that response. I’ll share some stories from my own chaos-loving era (spoiler: I had a PhD in picking projects with legs), how I used to find friendships that needed me to be the hero, and why learning to stop fixing people has made me a better, more genuine friend. This episode is equal parts science, story, and soul work—and it’s not just about recognizing your patterns, it’s about breaking them. We’re making peace feel like home again. So if you’re tired of chaos being your comfort zone, grab your headphones—we’re about to reintroduce your nervous system to calm… and teach it not to panic.

    19 min
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Hi friends! It’s your host Rini Spencer! Welcome to The Rini Spencer Show — Talking Without Permission—a space where we get real about healing, growth, and breaking free from the past to create the life you truly LOVE. I’ve been on my own journey of overcoming childhood trauma, breaking generational cycles, and facing my fears—and now, I’m here to walk that path WITH YOU. Through raw personal stories, expert interviews, and honest conversations, we’ll talk about the good, the bad, and the messy in between! Join me every Thursday— You are not alone, and healing is possible!

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