The Attachment Confessions

Chelsea S.
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From FA to Secure AF: How Attachment Science Changed My Life...For Real. From the moment I discovered attachment science, everything – literally EV-ERY-THING – about every relationship I'd ever been in finally made sense. And now, I'm learning what it takes to earn my attachment security and have awesome, healthy relationships moving forward. We'll dive into the mind-blowing and freakishly accurate world of attachment science, my childhood, my relationships, and my journey of going from FA to secure AF (iykyk – and if you don't know, don't worry! You will soon). Throughout The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my own attachment healing journey. We'll get into some pretty heavy stuff but have a grand 'ol time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least! Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a Fearful Avoidant, OR the holy grail of them all – Securely Attached – all are welcome! Let's freaking go, y'all! xo – Chelsea

  1. 1D AGO

    Love Languages vs Attachment Styles

    Hello, everybody! Happy Valentine's Week! Welcome back for episode 18 of The Attachment Confessions. On this week's episode, we're doing a deep dive into a topic that I've received a number of questions about since starting the podcast – love languages. The 5 Love Languages is a concept developed by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992, and his work has shaped how millions of people around the world understand the concept of giving and receiving love.  So, in the spirit Valentine's Day, we're going to take a look at the difference between love languages vs attachment styles. They are certainly intertwined, but the science shows us that our formed attachment style is actually what predicts our preferred love languages.  Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a fellow Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached – knowing and understanding your own and your partner's attachment style and preferred love languages is an absolute game-changer in creating a healthy, successful relationship.  Wanna find out you or your partner's love language? Take the quiz here: The Official 5 Love Languages Quiz Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.  Happy Valentine's Day! xo - Chelsea

    24 min

  2. JAN 28

    Relationship Goals: How Secure Couples Handle Conflict

    What's up, everybody! Welcome to episode 17 of The Attachment Confessions! On today's episode, we're diving into a topic that is a major factor in either making or breaking a relationship – how couples handle conflict.  Fights. Arguments. Tension. Disagreements. Misunderstandings. All-out war.  There are few things more dreaded in life than when there's trouble in paradise. Chances are, you're a lot like me – AKA you've been an absolute train wreck at handling conflict in your relationships.  Conflict. Is. Inevitable. But a primary element that sets secure couples apart from the insecures is that they've mastered the art of effective conflict management.  So today, we're taking a look at the tactics secure couples swear by when it comes to handling the hard times the best way possible. Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow {healing} Fearful Avoidant, we could all stand to learn a thing or two when it comes to dealing with discord in a more healthy, mature, secure manner. And this week's episode is sure to set you on a path to handling the dreaded C word like a champ! As mentioned in today's episode, here is a link to attachment expert Dr. Sarah Hensley's "Achieving Your Attachment Security" online coaching program. In this program, Dr. Hensley provides her step-by-step no-fail conflict resolution plan. I wish I had this plan in my former relationships!! I will definitely be using it moving forward. The Love Doc - Coaching Programs Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.  We've got this! xo - Chelsea

    20 min

  3. JAN 14

    Taking Accountability for Our Insecure Attachment

    What's up, guys?? Happy Wednesday! Welcome back for episode 16 of The Attachment Confessions! "I am who I am – take it or leave it!" Sound familiar?? Maybe you've had partners make similar claims? Perhaps your current partner has told you this a time or two? Or shoot, you might even be the guilty party, just like I have been in past relationships! Today's episode is all about facing the person we see in the mirror and taking accountability for our bad insecure attachment behavior. New Year, New Us!! Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow Fearful Avoidant – it's time to put our insecure patterns in the past, and experience life and love to its fullest. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. xo - Chelsea

    27 min

  4. 12/31/2025

    Dating & Relationship Resolutions For 2026

    Happy New Year's Eve, everyone! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions! Since we are on the cusp of a new year, there's no better time than now to set some solid dating and relationship goals. Whether you're single, dating, or already committed to someone special, this week's episode is packed full of resolutions to ensure that your love life thrives in 2026.  Cheers to the new year! xo - Chelsea

    32 min

  5. 12/17/2025

    Love Bombing 101: How to Evacuate Before Things Blow Up

    Hello confessions fam!! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions! On today's episode, we're diving into a topic that has been all the rage on social media in the dating world, especially over the last few years – love bombing. Not gonna lie you guys, just the mention of that term gives me full-on body chills. In the worst way! Love bombing is essentially bombarding a new romantic interest with over-the-top attention, affection, compliments, and the extravagant, finer things in life very early on in the getting-to-know-someone phase. I've been love-bombed a time or two, and let me tell you, it can feel absolutely amazing! For those of us with an insecure attachment, that is (healing Fearful Avoidant talking). However, love bombing is not a true testament of someone's motives, character, or {realistic} true feelings. In fact, there are two types of love bombing to be aware of – narcissistic-driven and attachment-driven. In today's episode, we'll break down each type along with some helpful tips on how to appropriately spot and handle a love bomber in action.  Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a fellow Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached – this week's episode is sure to set you up for success next time you feel premature love grenades coming your way. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story,  you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least!   xo - Chelsea

    25 min

  6. 12/04/2025

    Attachment Healing Journey Update

    What's up, guys! Thank you so much for joining me for episode 13 of The Attachment Confessions! As mentioned on previous episodes, I've been participating in attachment expert Dr. Sarah Hensley's virtual group coaching program aimed at learning the tools needed to earn my attachment security. I just wrapped up the program last week. On today's episode, I'm giving you all the scoop on how everything went. Spoiler alert – it was SO good, you guys! Along with giving major props to Dr. Hensley, I walk you through each of the 4 weeks, sharing some highlights of my experience while giving you the deets on what to expect throughout each session. Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow Fearful Avoidant – if you're serious about healing and earning your attachment security, Dr. Hensley's program is 1,000% worth it. Check out all her services at her website below, including a direct link to the hybrid group coaching program: The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services Hybrid Group Coaching Program Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story,  you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey – just like me. That's my hope, at least!   xo - Chelsea

    17 min

  7. 11/26/2025

    Dismissive Avoidant Guest Lived Experience Feat. Brent Stokes [Part 2]

    Happy Wednesday, everyone! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions! Today's episode features part 2 of our conversation with Brent Stokes – our very first lived-experience Dismissive Avoidant guest. Last week, Brent took us on a journey through his childhood, highlighting how his dismissive avoidant insecure attachment formed.  On today's episode, we are continuing the convo, diving into Brent's romantic history and getting a peek behind the curtain of how his DA tendencies played out in his marriage.  We also chat through where Brent is now in his journey, now that he's discovered attachment science thanks to listening to The Attachment Confessions ;) One of the resources we discuss is social psychologist/attachment expert Dr. Sarah Hensley's 4-week hybrid group coaching, which I am in the middle of participating in, learning all the tools to earn my attachment security. Check out all of Dr. Hensley's services here: The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services HUGE shout out to Brent for being so awesome and open about his attachment journey!! If you'd like to be considered for a future Guest Lived Experience episode, DM me on Instagram at The Attachment Confessions (especially if you're an Anxious Preoccupied!) Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. We'll get into some pretty deep topics but have ourselves a good 'ol time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey – just like Brent. That's my hope, at least!   xo - Chelsea

    41 min

  8. 11/19/2025

    Dismissive Avoidant Guest Lived Experience Feat. Brent Stokes [Part 1]

    What's up, everybody! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions! On today's episode, I'm SUPER pumped to introduce you guys to a brand-new series we'll be doing from time to time here on The Attachment Confessions – Guest Lived Experiences!  My confessions fam knows my Fearful Avoidant woes all too well, so I figured we should spice things up and have other peeps from different walks of life and across all ends of the attachment spectrum join the pod to give us an insider's view of what it's like to walk a mile in their insecurely-attached shoes. Our very first lived-experience guest is Brent Stokes – a Dismissive Avoidant. For part 1, Brent takes us all on a trip down memory lane, highlighting how his dismissive avoidant insecure attachment formed in childhood. Be sure to tune-in next Wednesday for part 2, where Brent will give us the deets on how his formed DA attachment went on to impact his romantic relationships, and how he's now in the process of figuring out how to earn his attachment security. Both episodes are sure to bring a whole new perspective to The Attachment Confessions, so I can't wait for you guys to listen! Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing journey. We'll get into some pretty deep topics but have ourselves a good time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey – just like Brent. That's my hope, at least!   xo - Chelsea P.S. – Be sure to follow the pod on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions and DM me your burning attachment-related questions so that your question can be featured/answered on an upcoming Q&A episode of The Attachment Confessions!

    32 min
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From FA to Secure AF: How Attachment Science Changed My Life...For Real. From the moment I discovered attachment science, everything – literally EV-ERY-THING – about every relationship I'd ever been in finally made sense. And now, I'm learning what it takes to earn my attachment security and have awesome, healthy relationships moving forward. We'll dive into the mind-blowing and freakishly accurate world of attachment science, my childhood, my relationships, and my journey of going from FA to secure AF (iykyk – and if you don't know, don't worry! You will soon). Throughout The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my own attachment healing journey. We'll get into some pretty heavy stuff but have a grand 'ol time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least! Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a Fearful Avoidant, OR the holy grail of them all – Securely Attached – all are welcome! Let's freaking go, y'all! xo – Chelsea

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  • Creator
    Chelsea S.
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Clean
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