62 episodes

Shelley and Chad kick off each week with a provocative thought leader who has something to say about the power of inner growth to drive outer impact. From building resilience to life design to life transitions to leadership to growing ourselves up, we touch on all things Big Self. At the back end of the week Chad and Shelley dish on their experiences and expertise.

The Big Self Podcas‪t‬ Big Self School

    • Self-Improvement
    • 5.0 • 29 Ratings

Shelley and Chad kick off each week with a provocative thought leader who has something to say about the power of inner growth to drive outer impact. From building resilience to life design to life transitions to leadership to growing ourselves up, we touch on all things Big Self. At the back end of the week Chad and Shelley dish on their experiences and expertise.

    Mirror mirror on the wall with Tara Well

    Mirror mirror on the wall with Tara Well

    Although Tara Well calls herself a “mirror-gazing expert,” what this really means is that she helps people find a way back into themselves. She does that by teaching self-compassion through Mirror Meditation.
    After many years of disregarding her feelings, Tara found that something as simple as looking into the mirror can help with https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-clarity/201912/what-mirror-meditation-can-teach-you (self-awareness and emotional regulation). Now, she shares her method with others — and it seems to be https://www.mirrormeditation.com/testimonials/ (working miracles).
    But those miracles are well-backed by science. Tara is an associate psychology professor at Barnard College of Columbia University, where she teaches the theoretical base for her mirror work. On top of that, she writes a column for Psychology Today called https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-clarity (The Clarity).
    Time Stamp:
    2:41 Tara explains Mirror Meditation
    5:47 Tara shares the challenges that people face with Mirror Meditation
    10:49 Self awareness and body awareness as part of Mirror Meditation
    13:09 The first shift Tara sees in her clients once they start Mirror Meditation
    15:35 Finding your true self under the layer of self criticism
    17:45 The power of self talk and techniques to manage your inner critic
    19:22 The technique of video journaling
    26:53 Video journaling and its impact on image management
    31:36 The mirror and narcissism
    38:10 Tara shares how people react when she tells them that she is a Mirror Gazing Expert
    39:36 Shelley shares a quote from Joseph Campbell
    41:51 Tara shares about her book and where you can find her
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    • 44 min
    Letting your life speak with Jordan Gross

    Letting your life speak with Jordan Gross

    Jordan believes that personal development is a never-ending process of imagining who you want to be, interpreting why you want to be that person, creating a plan to get there, and then implementing that plan in the most enjoyable and fulfilling way possible.
    He helps guide people to think differently and make daring changes in their lives. Jordan is trailblazing in the personal development field by using creative storytelling to allow people to gather their own insights from the characters he creates and the stories he shares.
    He’s a former startup founder, restaurant manager, and soccer goalie. A solopreneur, podcast host, and 2x TEDx speaker, he is also the #1 bestselling author of Getting COMFY: Your Morning Guide to Daily Happiness and The Journey to Cloud Nine.
    Freebie from Jordan: https://mailchi.mp/27a1b3700431/61-books (61 of the Best Personal Development Books Summarized in One Sentence.)
    Time Stamps:
    2:20 Jordan shares about his soccer journey and the experience of close but no cigar
    9:27 How that same theme carried over into his experience when trying to get a consulting job
    11:46 Jordan shares what these experiences revealed to him about life
    13:34 How this experience led him to where he is today
    18:06 The conversation shifts to the topic of luck
    21:17 Jordan shares his life motto
    22:33 Shelley shares a story that speaks to the power of reframing and rethinking about challenges in life
    26.22 Three ways to redirect when things aren’t working out
    28:54 Shelley talks more deeply about failure and ego
    30:36 Jordan explains why he is more open to failure at this point in his life
    32:29 Jordan shares about his morning routine and explains the C.O.M.F.Y acronym
    38:59 His No News Challenge
    41:32 Where to find Jordan
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    • 45 min
    The new golden rule with Emily Golden

    The new golden rule with Emily Golden

    Emily is a master certified coach who specializes in executive leadership and career coaching. She has seventeen years of corporate human resources experience; practical experience from more than 2,500 hours of coaching; and a deep understanding of the human mind, spirit, and potential.
    Chad: Her clients range from seasoned executives to emerging leaders, to career changers who utilize her support to close the gap between where they are and where they want to be. Emily’s ontological approach allows individuals to clarify their goals, shift beliefs and habits, take risks, execute brilliance, and make quantum leaps rather than incremental improvements.
    Check her https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilybgolden/ (out here), or go straight to her book, http://thenewgoldenrule.info/ (The New Golden Rule).
    Time Stamps:
    1:48 Emily shares about the new golden rule
    3:53 Emily talks about the bumpy road that got her to discover the new golden rule
    9:18 Emily shares how her real transformation happened when she learned to ask for support
    11:46 The new golden rule as a unisex message and how men struggle with this as well
    14:55 How to know what you really need
    17:52 Emily explains why it’s so important to retrain the people in our lives
    19:29 Emily shares her fundamental belief that there are two sides of self
    23:22 How to find the confidence to clarify your needs, communicate them and maintain them
    24:42 We discuss fear of failure
    26:24 Shifting to a growth mindset and committing to the work over looking for a quick fix
    27:40 The importance of community
    30:56 Emily talks about the importance of self awareness
    33:27 Emily shares about her book: The New Golden Rule
    35:21 Emily shares the practice and routines that work for her
    38:21 Where to find Emily
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    • 40 min
    The mind that can't be measured with Kevin M. Johnson

    The mind that can't be measured with Kevin M. Johnson

    Kevin M. Johnson’s work is on the recovery of the space outside of ego, so our work in Big Self School swims in the same waters. Kevin is a teacher, retreat director, and co-host of the podcast Encountering Silence. Having spent years achieving a number of advanced degrees, speaking at large academic conferences, and even presenting at prestigious schools like Yale and Harvard Universities, he discovered he needed to walk a bit outside the halls of the Academy to explore deeper.
    Although he continues to teach at the university level, he now jokingly refers to himself as “a recovering academic” who teaches online and in various settings outside the university that often crosses boundaries into spaces that are not currently on our cultural maps.
    Kevin is looking to recover a space for holistic wellness and wisdom. Somewhere in the intersection of spirituality, psychology, wellness, self-help, and philosophy. A space that does not fit in easily on our current cultural maps.
    Find out https://kevinmichaeljohnson.com/ (more about Kevin at his website) and at his podcast, https://podcasts.bcast.fm/encountering-silence (Encountering Silence).
    Time Stamps:
    2:15 Kevin explains why he refers to himself as a recovering academic
    6:15 Kevin talks about the mental map and the difference between how we think about things today versus the past
    12:06 We discuss Seneca and Stoicism
    14:23 The philosophy conversation continues
    17:36 Kevin shares the essential parts of what it means to be human and how it has been left out of our cultural map
    21:06 Kevin talks about silence and why it is so essential
    22:41 Kevin leads us through an exercise
    26:01 Silence and our inner critic
    28:23 Kevin answers the question ‘what makes us ready for silence?’
    34:48 We discuss the intimacy of silence with ourselves and others
    37:43 What silence actually allows us to see
    41:34 Kevin shares two simple things you can do to help you feel more connected
    45:20 Shelley shares a Parker Palmer quote that she loves
    47:37 Where to find Kevin
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    • 51 min
    The myth of hard success with Caterina Kostoula

    The myth of hard success with Caterina Kostoula

    Caterina Kostoula is an executive coach and founder of https://www.theleaderpath.com/ (The Leaderpath). Her mission is to coach pioneering leaders and teams for meaningful impact and fulfillment.
    ​Prior to The Leaderpath, Caterina was a Global Business Leader at Google. She managed some of the company's largest C-level partnerships. She was also an internal coach, awarded a 5-star-rating distinction from her coachees.
    Caterina has coached leaders from Google, Amazon, Vodafone, Ferrero, ArcelorMittal, Workable, and several entrepreneurs. She collaborates with INSEAD, coaching Executive MBAs and alumni. She is a member of the Forbes Coaches Council.
    Caterina has lived in more than seven countries across America, Europe, and Asia. She now lives in London.
    https://www.theleaderpath.com/ (https://www.theleaderpath.com/)
    https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6741992273124433920/ (https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6741992273124433920/)
    https://www.theleaderpath.com/single-post/2019/11/04/Success-feels-easy-when-you-are-on-the-right-track (https://www.theleaderpath.com/single-post/2019/11/04/Success-feels-easy-when-you-are-on-the-right-track)
    Freebie: http://www.theleaderpath.com/mindset (www.theleaderpath.com/mindset)
    Time Stamps:
    2:17 Caterina shares how team coaching set her on the path to writing her book
    5:17 She explains the idea behind her 4 D’s Framework for meetings
    8:13 Caterina discusses the importance of trust in meetings and how to foster that trust
    11:14 The most common mistakes people make in meetings
    13:02 Caterina shares about the myth of the lonely genius
    15:19 Caterina outlines 3 reasons not to have a meeting
    18:20 We discuss ego management
    21:07 Caterina answers how she coaches her clients on the difference between when to push through the hard and when to opt out
    23:04 Shelley shares a quote from her favorite book and how it relates to the illusion of struggle
    25:45 We discuss burnout and the dangerous myth of associating struggle with success
    28:03 Caterina shares how she coaches about failure
    32:05 Caterina explains Leaderpath
    33:48 Caterina shares about her book, Hold Successful Meetings, available now for pre-order
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    • 37 min
    Our relationship to ourselves and one another with Chris Collins

    Our relationship to ourselves and one another with Chris Collins

    A large part of holistic healing and being an upper cervical chiropractic practitioner is helping people manage pain, often chronic pain. What role does stress play in people’s pain? What is something Chris sees again and again and that he sees as vital to helping people manage their stress (and their pain)?
    Today’s guest is Dr. Chris Collins. He received his doctor of chiropractic degree from Sherman College of Chiropractic in Spartanburg, SC. He received his bachelor’s degree in Exercise Science from University of Southern Mississippi, and has a background in exercise physiology and cardiopulmonary rehabilitation. Chris has advanced training in Knee Chest Upper Cervical Technique, which is one of the most researched, and advanced applications of chiropractic today.
    We met Chris through the Big Self School, so we can honestly say that Chris is a verified Big Selfer. Chris has a big heart and wants to help build communities where people have access to everything they need to lead a healthy life.
    Time Stamps:
    4:22 Chris shares his vision for his community in Chattanooga
    5:58 How to form connection mindfully
    7:22 We discuss community and the importance of boundaries
    11:58 The risk of connection and setting expectations
    14:08 Chris talks about how his practice changed when he discovered that his chiropractic patients with chronic conditions all had an underlying relationship with stress
    18:22 Chris shares the story about when his morning started with a Tik Tok video and the impact it had on his day
    25:17 Chris makes a powerful point about managing stressful moments
    26:33 We discuss emotional vulnerability
    31:46 Chad shares why he was reluctant to become a chiropractic doctor and what shifted for him
    36:04 Recommended healthy practices to process stress
    42:35 Where to find Chris
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    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

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29 Ratings

Jordan gross ,

One of my favorite interviews ever!

It was a joy being on this podcast. The hosts do so much research to personalize the interview as much as possible. It's a specific format with questions that create a story about the person who's speaking. Such a great initiative!

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Big Self=True Self

Love everything about this couple and their teachings, lessons and advice. Comes from the heart and each one speaks to something deep within my soul that I didn't even know was there. Keep it up, you ARE changing the world!

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Relevant and down-to-earth!

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