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Big Self brings you practical tools and inspiration to play big without burning out in your life and career.

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Big Self brings you practical tools and inspiration to play big without burning out in your life and career.

    From social construction to house construction: David Bell on theory and life practice

    From social construction to house construction: David Bell on theory and life practice

    Dr. David Bell has been fascinated with religion his entire life, and has come down on the side of being a "post-religious believer." He believes in the beauty of religion, but not in what he calls the supernatural. He challenges his students -- and his fellow faculty members -- to prove to him empirically that we have a soul. He loves taking his students on a journey of pulling out their intensely held religious beliefs that are mostly unexamined. All he asks is that we all strive to do the same. Besides being a senior lecturer, David is a father of three kids all under ten years old. He's taken on the task of being an ultimate do it yourself-er. He's deep into flipping houses and designing his own. From social construction to house construction, how did he get here? How does he manage it all? Do males feel more burdened to provide? Are there parts of us that are essentially instinctual? David takes us on a ride where we examine many of our beliefs -- both examined and unexamined.Time Stamps:2:18 David gives us a high-level overview of how our religious identity influences our being5:20 The experience that caused David to question his beliefs surrounding religion and explore other philosophies10:08 an objective look at Biology and science vs Mysticism14:52 Shelley explains her reconciliation with her own spiritual beliefs and how it's ok to have these hard conversations.17:13 How David Strives to make an impact as a professor20:31 Our conversations shifts to how becoming a father has impacted David's beliefs and work.24:08 David talks about his latest project--building his own home.30:00 Shelley shares some great insight into finding and doing your Big Work32:37 We ask David how he stays balanced 36:12 The conversation turns political and David shares an intriguing take on what's going on in our country and the western world44:08 We wrap up our conversation by asking the 3 Big Self podcast questions we ask all of our guests.Thanks for tuning in to the Big Self Podcast. We are a learning community for people at a career crossroads ready to rejoin their soul and their role. We have long-form conversations about self-awareness, relationships, tapping into your inner genius, and building sustainable habits. Subscribe on Apply iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us on Twitter @big_self and at the Big Self Community on Facebook. 

    • 49 min
    Special edition: Love and silver linings in a time of coronavirus

    Special edition: Love and silver linings in a time of coronavirus

    Everything changed this week. The response to the worldwide spread of the COVID-19 coronavirus upended all of our lives. Workplaces shut down. Schools closed. Airlines cut their flight schedules. Major league sports suspended their seasons. Hospitals began preparing for a predicted surge of patients. And on Friday, President Trump declared a national emergency."Social distancing" is the new catchphrase for how we are advised to behave. Staying away from other people seems to be the best tool everyday people have to flatten the rising curve of contagion and lessen the potential impact on hospitals and caregivers. As of the recording of this podcast, there are now 3,000 confirmed cases and we know that’s with extremely limited testing available: and that’s part of what’s so scary! On this special edition podcast, Shelley and Chad discuss stressors and opportunities for us all on a personal and collective level. Things are changing by the minute and we need some community, even if it's digital. The time is now.Time stamps:1:42 The Coronavirus has brought out the best and the worst in people, and we're seeing wildly different responses to the crisis. 5:28 How we've talked to our kids about this upending of our normal lives7:30 The conundrum that is self-isolating9:20 We know the sobering facts, so what do we do with that now?11:21 We discuss how consciousness plays into how we are dealing with this stressor on a personal level, as well as a collective level.14:48 We're all familiar with the stress response "fight, flight, or freeze." But there's another intriguing stress response we're seeing play out that very few people have heard of.17:10 Now IS the time for mindfulness and coming together18:41 Chad shares a little about his big leap of faith and how he's intentionally building some habits23:35 A little preview of what's to come from us on Facebook in the next few weeks and some very exciting news about an upcoming launch! Subscribe on Apply iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us on Twitter @big_self and at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

    • 28 min
    Designing a way through brokenness to a bigger self with Kaysie Strickland

    Designing a way through brokenness to a bigger self with Kaysie Strickland

    Kaysie Strickland went through a major bottoming out. Over the course of a year and a half, she and her husband both lost their jobs unexpectedly, they got pregnant, and her parents were bottoming out from a long battle with alcoholism, just to name a few of the stressors. She was left reeling emotionally, physically, and spiritually.Somehow, through the course of career and personal setbacks, she found her calling. It's the convergence of design and creativity -- all while making an impact in others' lives. Her mission is called Homes and Havens. Listen in to how she mended herself and, eventually, others through her journey.Thanks for tuning in to the Big Self Podcast. We are a learning community for people at a career crossroads ready to rejoin their soul and their role. We have long-form conversations about self-awareness, relationships, tapping into your inner genius, and building sustainable habits. Time Stamps:2:26 Kaysie tells us about a turbulent time in her life and how she coped with it7:44 Kaysie shares about her childhood and the story of her parents going through addiction15:51 How Homes and Havens was born out of the trials Kaysie faced 22:09 We talk about the important role that environment plays in addiction recovery27:09 How peace and stability can feel like death to some people 33:33 Kaysie tells us what it took for her to realize her true gifts39:09 We have a conversation about what Big Self is really about42:37 The conversation delves for a moment into our Enneagram types46:06 Kaysie give some tips for creating a healing design in a home51:54 Kaysie tells us what book she's reading, her morning routine, and what Big Self means to her.Subscribe on Apply iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us on Twitter @big_self and at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

    • 59 min
    The body, the brain, and dealing with pain with Matt McClanahan

    The body, the brain, and dealing with pain with Matt McClanahan

    On this week's episode, we have a wide-ranging conversation with Matt McClanahan. Acute, chronic, or auto-immune pain, Matt McClanahan has seen a great deal over the past decade and a half. What do you do when medicines don't work, and diagnoses are tricky to figure out? What's the difference between pain and tissue damage? And even if it's not tissue damage, while pain is in the brain, it doesn't mean it's just made up. At the same time, dealing with pain is very much a mindset. We deep-dive into stress. Stress is there to protect us. But our bodies have a threshold depending on the input and output--and subjectivity--of stress. He talks about his own personal experiences in dealing with pain, and the processes involved in managing it, as well as the lightbulb moments. And are ice baths a real thing for health and wellness and longevity? Train you mind and body and autonomic nervous system with us on this week's episode!Thanks for tuning in to the Big Self Podcast. We are a learning community for people at a career crossroads ready to rejoin their soul and their role. We have long-form conversations about self-awareness, relationships, tapping into your inner genius, and building sustainable habits. Time Stamps:2:53 Matt tells us a little bit about himself and why he focused his medical practice on Musculoskeletal Medicine8:31 Matt discusses the questions, "how does pain work?" and "why does it persist in some people and not others?"13:29 Matt describes how he helps people understand where their pain is coming from18:29 An important distinction between stress and stressors22:54 When there isn't an easy cure or surgery for pain, how does Matt help patients still strive to be their best selves?26:36 Matt explains his approach to treating pain when it's related to psychology and shares his own personal experience with this issue.35:20 What happened when moms reacted with no emotion or response to their babies during the Still Face Experiment.38:39 Shelley discusses the detriment of disconnection41:58 How giving up the judgment lens and replacing it with a curiosity lens equals a growth mindset that can actually alter your physical health44:34 We discuss the cold plunge made popular by Tony Robbins, and whether there's any real benefit to it according to Matt.51:11 Matt answers our 3 Big Self podcast questions. Find out what he's reading, what his morning routine looks like, and what "Big Self" means to himSubscribe on Apply iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us on Twitter @big_self and at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

    • 56 min
    Breaking through defenses, and helping the whole person with Patricia McLelland

    Breaking through defenses, and helping the whole person with Patricia McLelland

    On this week's episode, we have a wide-ranging conversation with Patricia McLelland. Patricia is a physician, but does more than merely meet bodily symptoms. She coaches and guides her patients to understand the whole person, beginning with what is going on within. She's been on a mission to help women for years, but over the years she's learned how to communicate processes and how to begin where you're at. She also asks: Where do you want to go? She gives insights into how to manage stress, and fight back against overwhelm. It's not always easy to let go of the many things we feel we have to do, but among the things to let go is NOT self-care. McLelland is also a voracious reader of the latest literature on sleeping, stress and wellness. Check out some of the surprising things she has to say about what's important, and how to make the best decisions to lead a big and sustainable healthy self. As she says, "You don't have to listen to me, but I've spent the past few weeks reading all the world's literature on sleep studies." Thanks for tuning in to the Big Self Podcast. We are a learning community for people at a career crossroads ready to rejoin their soul and their role. We have long-form conversations about self-awareness, relationships, tapping into your inner genius, and building sustainable habits. Time Stamps:2:52 Patricia tells us about herself and how contracting a terrible illness in Africa when she was 16 shaped her decision to be a doctor.10:46 How Patricia's love of Math influences how she practices as a leader in women's health14:04 Patricia talks about the role of valuing yourself in overcoming health challenges 18:23 The important distinction between self-care and self-indulgence21:35 Patricia talks about the two types of stress we face and tells us which type is most insidious 24:04 We have an in-depth conversation around the importance of sleep. Did you know sleep-deprivation is akin to being intoxicated? Also, the magic "sleep" hour when we should call it a night and go to bed.33:32 Patricia talks about how critical proper nutrition is to being healthy and whole38:50 We ask Patricia the age-old question: "what diet do you recommend?" Hint: it's probably different for me than for you.46:52 The best place to start when you're striving for better health. 49:20 We wrap up with the three questions we ask each of our guestsSubscribe on Apply iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us on Twitter @big_self and at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

    • 55 min
    The power of story, truth-telling, and strategic family planning with Hilarie Robison

    The power of story, truth-telling, and strategic family planning with Hilarie Robison

    On this week's episode, we have a conversation with Hilarie Robison about the importance of listening well, and how that plays into good storytelling. Hilary tells us about what she does with her work in helping people find their family stories, as well as digitizing it and making it a part one's legacy. She also talks about the why and the how it's done. What does it mean to publish a life story? What is the process like in sharing our stories with our children? A lot of it is about intention, and there's more and more research backing up the power of family storytelling and how it makes us stronger. Especially in these times of social and family fragmentation, storytelling is all the more critical. She also talks about strategic planning with the whole family, and how her faith is a part of her evolving story.Thanks for tuning in to the Big Self Podcast. We are a learning community for people at a career crossroads ready to rejoin their soul and their role. We have long-form conversations about self-awareness, relationships, tapping into your inner genius, and building sustainable habits. Time Stamps:2:06: Hilarie shares a little about her personal history and the events that led her family to Chattanooga6:48: Hilarie tells us about how her career transitioned from Ethics and Policy Studies to Memory Keeping, Storytelling, and Personal Histories9:56: Hilarie shares a cool story about how her work benefitted a young woman going through a tough experience13:46: We discuss the power of storytelling and the strong positive impact it has on children, as well as the biggest challenge adults face in telling their personal stories to their kids21:41 We learn about the 20 "do you know" questions and what those questions indicate about how25:53: The importance of family dinner in staying connected to your immediate family as well as extended family, plus a cool tip and app for keeping family records and making them accessible for your whole family33:56 A discussion on feeling disconnected from family and ways that we can remedy this while staying authentic to ourselves40:17 Hilarie shares about her approach to strategic family planning43:22 We close out the episode by asking Hilarie what book is impacting her right now, about her morning routine, and what Big Self means to her. Subscribe on Apply iTunes.Subscribe on Spotify.Find us on Twitter @big_self and at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

    • 50 min

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Wisdom and Flow

With the wisdom of positive psychology and a husband/wife dialogue, Shelley and Chad bring a flow of conversation about tuning into our purpose. We can get caught up in living our lives as "human doings" instead of "human beings." This is a worthwhile podcast to help you tune into your Big Self, rather than just the Big idea.

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