Everyone carries fire. It is inside of you right now. It may be a spark; it may be embers; or it may be full-blown, raging flames. It may have been given to you by someone; maybe passed on from fathers, mothers, grandparents, coaches, or friends. The fire may be acquired from tragedy and difficulties in your own life. Or it may be passed on to you from someone distant; someone you don't even know; but still they have left a mark. These are the things we talk about on this podcast. We, ourselves, have felt this fire. We continue to strive to become better men, husbands, fathers, friends, and citizens. This podcast is the result of our own journey, of our own discoveries; and it is our hope that you will come along with us and discover your own fire. We are constantly interviewing men we respect; men who have kindled their own fires. They may be successful in the workplace, exemplary as a husband or father, or simply set an example in how they stay fit at any stage of life. We are firemen, and we often focus on issues that we face daily: Trauma and PTSD; from how to stay fit when your life might depend on it; to learning how to be present as a husband and father even when we're gone from home a lot of the time. What we are learning applies to the military, law enforcement, EMS, and even UPS drivers. The principles that make anyone a successful man are universal truths that do not change based on a job description or a phase of life. Come, stoke the fires that you carry, and dare to kindle some new ones.
042: Max Kayes, Nole & Kevin's Life Coach, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist & President of New Hope Christian Counseling Foundation.
In this episode, we are talking to Max Kayes. Max is both Kevin and Nole's life coach and a good friend. This is a wide-ranging conversation with a lot of good takeaways for people from all walks of life. We cover Max's morning and evening routines, how the covid shutdowns affected his practice, being present, some really good marriage advice that has helped both Nole and Kevin be better husbands, and a lot more. Don't miss this one!
Big thank you to Facedown Records and My Epic for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast.
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New Hope Christian Counseling.
Old Old Fashioned by Frightened Rabbit.
041: We Need Your Help. A Call To Action For Our Fellow Firemen In Los Angeles County Fire Department.
This is a special episode specifically for our brothers in LACoFD. For this episode, we have teamed up with Rich Zuniga of Talkin Outta My Stash Podcast. With the recent tragedy in our department as a catalyst and with everything else leading up to that we decided to sit down together and share some of the things that we think can be helpful to guys in our department not only to hopefully keep anything like this from ever happening again but also to help us all begin to heal and become more resilient. These lessons come from our collective experience with trauma and life, both on and off the job. Please, if you are a fireman in LACoFD, share this with everyone in your station. We need your help to get the message out. These are real concrete things that we can all start doing right now to begin to rebuild our brotherhood. The three of us are on board for the work that needs to be done, join us, we need your help.
Mike DeSena at Anchored Psychotherapy. (Mike is a combat veteran, a good friend, and a genuinely good guy. If you have been directly impacted by the tragedy in our department we can get you in touch with Mike and he will talk to you free of charge, contact Kevin for more info)
Max Kayes of New Hope Christian Counseling. (Both Nole and Kevin have been working with Max for many years, he is a great resource.)
LACoFD Benefit and Welfare Association, Firewire App. (Links you up to our PEER support with the click of a button)
LACoFD PEER support information through IAFF Local 1014.
24-Hour Suicide Crisis Line - call toll-free anytime, day or night 1-800-273-8255
040: Fatherhood, The Importance Of Family & Working Hard To Achieve Your Goals With John Estrada, Vice President of Universal Pictures International.
John Estrada is one of Kevin's cousins and is a man that Kevin looks up to as a great example of what a father should be. In this episode, we talk about how he became the father that he is today despite not having a father in his own life. How the strong women in his life raised him and helped shape him into the man he is today. John shares some of his experience working hard for years before finally breaking into Hollywood and eventually making it to where he is now as Vice President of Universal Pictures International. We also talk with John about the importance of family and keeping those connections alive and well.
Big thank you to Facedown Records and My Epic for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
Go Fund Me for the Carlon Family.
Go Fund Me for the Sandoval Family.
039: John Schaefer, Former Police Chief of Placentia and San Marino, Former City Manager and Current Shepard At Fullerton Free Church.
With 38 years in law enforcement that culminated with time served as the Chief of Police in the cities of Placentia and San Marino John has a great deal of life experience to draw from. In addition to that he also became the City Manager of San Marino and now serves as one of the Shepards at EV Free Church in Fullerton. More important than all of that though is his faith, his long-standing marriage, and his children. In this episode, we talk to John about losing a fellow officer early in his career, how that has impacted him to this day. We explore how he feels he could have better managed to care for his family while pursuing his career and how policing is different today vs 30 years ago. John has a tremendous amount of wisdom, this is a great conversation, hopefully one of many.
John Schaefer's Website
038: Mike Desena, From Combat Veteran to Clinical Therapist
In this episode Kevin and I sit down with our good friend Mike Desena. Mike is a combat veteran who was deployed 9 times before being wounded by and IED. Those wounds changed Mike's life and while working through his own unique struggles related to the injuries and time overseas he realized that his calling was to become a clinical therapist himself and use his experience to help others. Mike talks to us about how he has seen dramatic changes in the teenagers he has worked with over the past year of covid and shares his thoughts on things we can all be on the look out for weather or not we think we are struggling with mental health issues.
037: Our Fitness Journeys & Why What We Do Now For Fitness Works So Well
In this episode Kevin and I break down a little bit of how we got to the place we are now with fitness. We break down how we work out and why, how many rest days we have and what that means for us, along with how we eat most days and what an average day at the station looks like. If you've got questions (or concerns) we would love to talk to you, (unless you want to talk to Nole about eating more vegetables).
Every time a motivation
One of my favorite podcast to listen to everyday I drive to and from work. There stories are always positive and not just regarding fire topics, but family importance outside of work that is always relatable or for me learning new ways of becoming better on both ends of the spectrum. It’s a daily reminder how great this job is which can be easily taken for granted if not aware. There open about themselves talking about past ups and downs and the positive changes that have come to there lives now. Every morning before shifts it hypes me up ready to start the day! Thanks guys!
Episode regarding Germain Aguilera
Germ is my cousin. He is an amazing human being. Hearing his story brought me to tears, but it made me love him even more. Thank you for telling his story.
I look forward to The Fire You Carry every Monday! A lot of great stories relating to the fire service and military. All the guests bring something different and unique while creating a natural conversation. Very motivating for someone working on getting into the fire service.