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Dean Sluyter is an award-winning author who has taught meditation since 1970, from maximum security prisons to the Guatemalan rainforest. He’s a student of Eastern and Western sages from multiple traditions and has completed numerous pilgrimages and retreats in India, Tebet, Nepal, and the West. 

In this episode, Eric and Dean discuss his latest book, The Dharma Bums Guide to Western Literature: Finding Nirvana in the Classics, which reflects his lifelong exploration of the awakening process as well as his years as a prep school English teacher.

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Dean Sluyter and I Discuss How to See the Dharma in Western Literary Classics and …


His book, The Dharma Bums Guide to Western Literature: Finding Nirvana in the Classics
The role (or lack thereof) of efforting in meditation
The difference between awareness and mind 
What it means to “relax your grip” or “let it be” during meditation
The Dharma and the Infinite in The Cat and the Hat 
That dualism is the way the world appears to us when viewed through the thinking mind
How to find the fragrant emptiness at the core of our minds, beyond all thoughts
That only the infinite can give us infinite joy, in the finite world – having can’t match our yearning.
The nature of desire is that it replicates itself
Kindness in Huckleberry Finn
That the kingdom of heaven is spread upon the earth, within and all around us

Dean Sluyter Links

Dean’s Website

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Dean Sluyter Interview (2019)

Inventions in Literature with Angus Fletcher
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Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher, and writer who for the last 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationship with themselves and others.  Jillian is also the host of the podcast, Jillian on Love.  

In this episode, Eric and Jillian discuss her work coaching and teaching people how to develop healthier relationships with themselves and others.

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Jillian Turecki and I Discuss How to Have Healthy Relationships with Yourself and Others and …


Her podcast, Jillian on Love
Recognizing that our minds create stories that we can easily get caught up in.
The importance of understanding issues in a relationship aren’t just about the other person, but as much about yourself
Taking responsibility for your love life is not about blaming yourself
How we need to love ourselves before we can love others well
Important medicine for relationships:  accountability, forgiveness, and truth
The biggest problems in a relationship is trying to change the other person and relying too much on the other person to make you happy
Asking “how can I change to help you change?”
When a relationship is failing, we often go into survival mode and neglect to see our role in the relationship
How we need to keep acknowledging our appreciation to our partners
Our “emotional home” is the pattern of what we do when we’re stressed
How all of our emotional patterns come from fear
The critical role of cC\ommunication in relationships
Remembering that we should be listening more and talking less
How you think about your partner’s intent when feeling hurt or angry

Jillian Turecki Links

Jillian’s Website

Jillian’s Podcast

Instagram

Facebook

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Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigatin Romantic Relationships

Cindy Stulberg on Relationships
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Ginny Gay is a Certified Mindfulness Teacher and has worked with Eric to create content here at The One You Feed for the past 8 years. Prior to that, she spent 13 years in the corporate world where she thought climbing the corporate ladder equated to success in life. Instead, that approach ultimately led her to a place of severe burnout, addiction, anxiety, and depression. Now, she knows that for her, success in all aspects of life comes from living from a place of authenticity and integration where meaningful work and relationships are the fruit and contribution to the world. 

Ginny loves creating courses, programs, workshops, and written content to help people live life more skillfully and help them navigate the difficulties that come from the inherent challenges of being human so that they can experience more peace, purpose, and joy in their daily lives.

In this episode, Eric and Ginny discuss her story of struggle and growth, how to work with the inner critic and what it means to practice mindfulness.

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Ginny Gay and I Discuss How to Free Yourself from the Inner Critic Through Mindfulness and …


The way not wanting to experience internal pain can drive us to act in potentially harmful, problematic ways
Her experience in a fundamentalist Christian church
Her experience hitting the glass ceiling in the corporate pharmaceutical industry
The circumstances surrounding her addiction and burnout 
How she was able to believe in growth through difficulty during the worst time in her life
The key learnings that helped her transform her life from the ground up
The radical shift she made that saved her life
The power of naming things as they show up inside of us
The corrosive impact of the inner critic
How to differentiate the inner critic from our helpful inner conscience
Where the inner critic comes from
The various ways the inner critic shows up in us
How to free yourself from the inner critic
What mindfulness really means
The benefits of practicing mindfulness
The connection between mindfulness and meditation
Her definition of spirituality
Her mindfulness program, The Well Trained Mind

Ginny Gay Links

FREE 3-Part Mindfulness Training: How to Quiet the Inner Critic

The Well Trained Mind Program

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Mindfulness in Nature with Mark Coleman

Transforming Your Inner Critic with Dr. Aziz Gazipura
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Dr. Gabor Maté is a highly sought expert on a wide range of topics such as addiction, stress, and childhood development.  He has written many books, of which several are best-sellers, including the award-winning “In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts” , “Close Encounters with Addiction”, and “When the Body Says No:  Exploring the Stress-Disease Culture.”  Gabor’s work has been published internationally and in more than 30 languages.

In this episode, Eric and Dr. Maté discuss his book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture

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Dr. Gabor Mate and I Discuss How to …


His book,  The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture
Defining the myths of normal
How the increasing anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues are a result of toxic culture
Stress and trauma can begin for a child in utero, at childbirth, and throughout childhood
The modern stresses of our world contributes to a toxic culture
How parents pass down their traumas to their children
Defining trauma as a psychic wound that happens inside of you
The healing process is the recovery of self
Understanding the clash between attachment and authenticity
How emotions and immune systems are part of the same system
The importance of understanding the important link between emotions and physical health
Trauma imposed self beliefs are the main obstacles of healing
Remembering that healing is a lifelong process
The 4 A’s of healing:  authenticity, agency, acceptance, and anger (healthy) 

Dr. Gabor Mate Links:

Dr. Gabor Mate’s website

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook

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Dr. Gabor Mate’s Interview from 2016

Healing Trauma with Dr. James Gordon
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Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D., is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist exploring the depths of human potential. He is a professor at Columbia University and director of the Center for Human Potential. Dr. Kaufman has authored 10 books and is host of The Psychology Podcast. In 2015, he was named one of “50 groundbreaking scientists who are changing the way we see the world” by Business Insider.  

Jordyn H. Feingold, MD, MAPP, MSCR is a resident physician in psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in NYC, well-being researcher, and positive psychology practitioner. Her research and clinical interests involve protecting and promoting health care worker and patient well-being and incorporating positive psychology approaches into health care delivery.

In this episode, Eric talks to Scott and Jordyn about their book, Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt

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Scott Barry Kaufman, Jordyn Feingold, and I Discuss How to Choose Growth and …


Their book, ChooseGrowth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt
How practicing what is uncomfortable will lead to growth
Understanding the relationship between security and growth
The importance of the word “yet” and how it creates a belief that change is possible
How growth is about finding the balance between doing and being
Healthy transcendance includes fusing the connection of self with the world
The self actualization process and getting in touch with our potential
Learning to embrace our character strengths as our super powers
How we can improve our weaknesses by using our top strengths
The importance of defining our values and what matters most to us
Closing the gap between how we’re living and the values that we hold

Scott & Jordyn Links:

Scott’s Website

Scott’s Twitter

Facebook

Jordyn’s Twitter

Jordyn’s Website

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Living a Transcendant Life with Scott Barry Kaufman (2020)

Fixed and Growth Mindset with Carol Dweck
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Steve Magness is a world-renowned expert on performance, well-being, and sustainable success.He is coauthor of the best selling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox. In his coaching practice, Steve works with executives, entrepreneurs, and athletes on their performance and mental skills. He also serves as a consultant on mental skills development for professional sports teams, including some of the top teams in professional sports. 

In this episode, Eric and Steve discuss his book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness. 

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Steve Magness and I Discuss How to Build Resilience and …


His book, Do Hard Things:  Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness
Asking ourselves if our inner voice is fair, rather than good or bad
How we handle difficult things better when we feel secure and supported
Defining toughness as navigating discomfort to make the best decision you can
Understanding the importance of confidence in toughness
Quiet internal confidence is about being realistic in our ability and the difficulty of the task at hand.
How doubt is a necessary component of confidence
A central component of internal confidence and motivation is seeing progress
How consistency and taking small steps is what matters most
Accurate appraisal of both the challenges we face and our internal feelings
Understanding that feelings are the body’s communication system
The importance of awareness and contextualization when dealing with feelings and emotions
Dealing with the two types of inner dialogue – integrated and confrontational
Learning to shift your self talk to 2nd or 3rd person voice
How stress narrows our perspective and amplifies negative feelings

Steve Magness Links:

Steve’s Website

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Strengthening Our Resilience with Linda Graham

Lisa Feldman Barrett on Emotions
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