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I’ve been pretty open about caring for my aging mother while juggling a family of five. There’s actually a term for this stage of life-- when you’re caring for your kids and your parents. It’s called ‘The Sandwich Generation’ when you’re sandwiched between caring for your kids and your parents. 

When I heard your similar stories and learned that so many of you are in the thick of this season, I knew we had to talk about it. And I knew there was only one person we needed to talk to. 

Jessica Kim is a mom of three and a fellow mompreneur who cared for her parents in her home until they passed away. In 2018, she founded IANA Care because she experienced firsthand how isolating, overwhelming, and unsupported this time of life can be. (IANA=I Am Not Alone)  

Caring for our parents is an honor, but it can also be a big stressor. I hope this conversation helps you navigate what to do when caring for your kids and parents. And, more importantly, I hope you know you’re not alone in it. 

Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. 

Listen in to learn more:
(09:13 - 11:25) Selling the Family Home Emotional Journey
(15:49 - 16:34) Acknowledging the Role of Caregiver
(28:46 - 30:00) Support for Caregivers

In this episode, we discuss the importance of naming and defining our role as caregivers, why caregiving does not have to be all or nothing, two questions to ask as you decide what to delegate, why caregivers burn out, and what we can do about it, and some practical tools to help ease the load on your caregiving journey. 

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I’m not sure we’ve had more interest in any other topic than the one we’re going for today. We’re talking YOUTH SPORTS: the #1 reason your kids should play, how to NOT be one of those crazy sports parents, and whether youth sports have gone too far. 

It’s a big topic to tackle (no pun intended), for sure. But one that we’re all very passionate about. 

There’s a reason 70% of kids quit sports by the age of 13: the pressure, intense parents, and unrealistic expectations. 

In fact, there’s a bit of tension in our own home about how far is too far. We’ll talk about how we’ve navigated it, answer some of your biggest questions, and explain why we believe every kid should play youth sports. 

You’ll also enjoy hearing John’s take on all this, as he's coached college, high school, and AAU basketball and was a college basketball All-American (which is super hot).

Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It.

Listen in to learn more:
(00:00 - 00:40) Parents' Expectations in Youth Sports
(03:29 - 03:48) Sports-Loving Duo Met in College
(07:58 - 08:24) Coaching Youth Basketball Lessons
(10:46 - 11:53) Qualities of an Exceptional Athlete
(18:36 - 20:08) High School Athletes and Sports Chances
(26:02 - 27:01) Perspective on Letting Kids Compete
(28:56 - 29:51) Year-Round Travel Sports Specialization
(35:14 - 36:16) Individualized Support for Children
(38:31 - 39:17) Connecting With Teen Boys

Summary: 
In this episode, we explore the benefits of youth sports that shape our kids long after the ball stops bouncing, what it means to keep our expectations realistic as parents, how to encourage and support our kids without pushing them too hard or too far, and how to navigate the pressure of intense sports schedules as a family. 

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Mario Lopez joins me to talk about parenting, marriage, and how turning 50 really messed with him. 

The “Saved By The Bell” alum and Access Hollywood host says his favorite role is family man. I was honestly a little surprised, in a good way, to hear he’s a strict and hands-on parent. 

I loved getting to know Mario and hearing how much he adores his wife of 10+ years, as well as how they navigate their relationship while raising three children. 

Mario and I also share a love for The Boys & Girls Clubs of America. Mario spent a lot of time at his local club growing up, and I’ve been a longtime supporter and Trustee of the BGCA. 

You’re going to love seeing a new side of AC Slater, um, Mario. And hear his hot take on all the things we’re talking about as parents. 

Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It! 

Listen in to learn more:

(03:16 - 04:01) - Mario Lopez - Marriage and turning 50  
(07:24 - 08:34) Parenting in the Digital Age
(18:22 - 19:24) Life-Giving Activities and Passions
(21:28 - 22:12) Upcoming Episode – The Youth Sports Debate +  Paula vs. John

In this episode, we are diving into the importance of being present for our kids, why being a strict parent is not a bad thing, the thoughts and feelings that come up with midlife and turning 50, and how to prioritize your partner in the midst of raising a busy, active family.

PAULA’S KIDS BOOK, which 100% benefits the  Boys and Girls Club of America 

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He’s one of my favorite humans, and I refuse to censor him; that’s why this conversation is spicier than usual. Dan Harris was my "work husband" for a long time at Good Morning America, where we co-anchored the weekend edition of GMA. 

A few years ago, Dan made a bold and scary decision. One that caused him much anxiety. He walked away from ABC News to spend more time with his family. 

So, what do you do when your career and family don’t align? When it conflicts with who you want to be?

Dan talks about how he wrestled with the decision, why he ultimately walked away, and the extreme pressure most men feel to provide. 

Today, you’ll find Dan working from home on his 10% Happier podcast and meditation app and enjoying his existence as an “ex-anchorman.” 
Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It!

Listen in to learn more : 

(00:37 - 01:24) “Spicy” Work-Life Balance With Dan Harris
(06:27 - 07:38) Challenges in Starting a Business
(09:41 - 10:36) ABC News Support for Book
(16:26 - 17:46) A Father's Relationship With Nine-Year-Old Son
(19:56 - 20:58) Paula’s First Day School Absence and Being Set Free From Guilt
(28:05 - 29:55) Managing Stress and Self-Compassion
(35:46 - 37:03) Finding 10% Happier

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This may have been one of the biggest AHA moments I’ve had as a parent. So much of the guilt I’ve carried as a parent has been regarding work and missing important moments. 

My dear friend Jon Acuff, an author/speaker and one of the quippiest humans you’ll meet, will tell us how we can DITCH THE GUILT of being a working parent. Even if our job stinks. 

Had it not been for Jon, I’d have absolutely melted when I recently missed my kids’ first day of school because of work. I would have called myself a “bad mom” and lamented to my family about how awful I felt. But because of Jon, not only did I not carry any guilt, but my kids were actually cheering me on! 

It boils down to how we talk about it (kids have these things called “mirror neurons”) and whether we invite our family into our work. I can’t wait for you to hear this conversation and find the freedom I’ve found. 

Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. 


Listen in to learn more : 
(01:06 - 02:39) Ditching Working Parent Guilt
(06:28 - 07:35) Impact of Parental Attitudes on Work
(12:25 - 13:08) Impact of Mirror Neurons on Parenting
(18:04 - 18:33) Demonstrating Persistence in Imperfect Job
(24:19 - 25:39) Changing Mindset Through Positive Reflection
(29:53 - 31:15) Loneliness Epidemic and Isolation Supernova
(34:23 - 35:07) Work-Life Integration and Career Decisions

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 ALL ABOUT JON
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This is a deeply personal episode as John and I chat with a world-renowned expert about the ONE thing all relationships need: TRUST.

Dr. Henry Cloud is a clinical psychologist, beloved by millions for his New York Times’  bestselling books on boundaries and trust. 

You may know that John and I were separated for a time in our marriage, and the trust we had was broken. So, how did we repair it? Can trust always be rebuilt? How do you know when it’s time to walk away? 

Today, we’re talking about it. 

Dr. Cloud, John, and I discuss why trust is the most important aspect of any relationship, a framework of questions we can use to know who to trust and how to build it, what to do when trust has been broken, and knowing when to walk away. 


Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. 


Listen in to learn more : 
(00:30 - 01:56) Improving Relationships Through Proactive Communication
(06:00 - 06:54) How The Podcast Is Bringing People Together
(10:03 - 10:54) Building Trust in Relationships
(17:01 - 18:26) Attunement and Motive in Relationships
(37:01 - 37:29) Work Life Balance Discussion


In this episode, we are diving into why “believing the best” and “trusting until there’s a reason not to” aren’t the best ways to approach trust, the relationship between our motives and trust, how forgiveness and trust are related but different, and why being careless is a good thing when it comes to trust. 

Remember to subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts to hear what we’re talking about each week…

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https://www.drcloud.com/
Dr. Henry Cloud’s website: https://www.boundaries.me/
Dr. Cloud’s book on Trust:  https://www.drcloud.com/books/trust 


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