The Reclaimed Man

Angus Pyke

You don't need to be fixed. You need the interference removed. The man you're looking for is already in there. Maybe you built the life — the business, the income, the family — and you're standing on top of it wondering why it doesn't feel like you thought it would. Or maybe the dream you carried in your twenties went quiet somewhere along the way. You told yourself that letting it go was just being realistic. Mature. Sensible. Either way, you've stopped reaching. And part of you knows it. The Reclaimed Man is hosted by Angus Pyke — a man who walked through crippling anxiety and a stage four cancer diagnosis holding onto one idea: this is not happening to me. It is happening for me. This is not a self-help show. It's a rite of passage. Body first. Soul second. Mission third. Come with me.

Episodes

  1. 6d ago

    3 Reasons The Weight Won’t Shift — And Food Isn’t One Of Them

    Last September I was told I had cancer. Within about a week I'd changed how I ate, completely — straight to ketogenic, sugar out, no wavering. Give me a hard thing to do and a reason that big, and I'll do it. A few months ago some of my bloodwork moved, and it was put to me that it might be worth trying ninety days eating entirely plant-based. I'm in the middle of it as I record this, and I don't know yet how it ends. And it has been so much harder than going keto ever was. Nothing about the mechanics is hard. I know what to buy. I know how to cook. I spent twenty years as a chiropractor teaching people how to eat. But something in me has been dragging its heels the whole way, and it took me weeks to work out what. It isn't the food. It's the stories. Here's why I'm telling you. I had the strongest reason a human being can be handed. In writing. With a stage number on it. If motivation was the answer to this, I should be the easiest case in medical history. And I still sat there arguing with a plate of food. So can we please put down the idea that the thing standing between you and the body you want is that you don't want it enough. You already know most of it. More protein, fewer things out of a packet, something heavy a couple of times a week, more walking, better sleep. If information was the missing piece, you'd have finished this years ago. The weight isn't sitting there because you don't know what to do — it's sitting there because something is getting in the way of you doing what you already know. Three things, in fact, and not one of them is your diet. One — you're arguing with yourself and you don't know it. You're not at the start line neutral. You're carrying a verdict, and it was passed on you, not on the plan. Two — you're waiting until you're sure. Confusion isn't a shortage of information. It's the most comfortable room in the house, because from the inside and the outside it looks exactly like diligence. Three — you're doing it in secret. Nobody knows, so nobody notices on day four. And day four is the day somebody needed to. They're not three separate problems. They're one loop — and it's how a man arrives in his fifties with a thick folder of proof against himself, not one page of which was ever about food. Also in here: the eighteen months of training I wrote off because of one knee, the eighty metres of road that's all anyone ever gets, and the rule a professional netballer gave me that I've never forgotten. And the question at the end, which stopped me: what have you stopped doing completely — because you couldn't do it properly? If your body's fine, don't sit this one out. Swap in the thing that isn't. It's the same three reasons the business never starts and the conversation with your father is still sitting there fifteen years later. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  2. Aug 9

    Ep 5 - The 3 Roles Costing You The Life You Want

    A mate texted me last week. Three words: how are you? And I sat there with my thumb over the screen for longer than I want to admit — because I'm good ends the conversation, and there was a part of me that wanted the follow-up. Nothing dramatic happened. I typed I'm good, he sent back something about the footy, life went on. But I caught it — and what I caught myself doing has a name. It's one of three. Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor. The Karpman Drama Triangle. Three roles that need each other to exist, that nobody ever agreed to play, and that spin so fast you can get through all three inside a single conversation. Between them they run most of the conflict in a man's life, and they cost more than you'd think. Mine that morning was the Victim, and the deal is a good one: be sick, and people will come. You don't have that particular deal — good, I wouldn't wish it on you. But you get offered the same role every single day. In the car. Across the table at the pub. At the kitchen bench at ten o'clock at night when you're tired and someone asks how it's going. Yours might be the economy — and it is hard out there right now, that's not me being dismissive. It might be the business. The interest rates. The clients who don't value what you do. It might be your wife, and what she doesn't understand about the pressure you're carrying. Your kids, and what they've cost you. Your father, thirty years ago. And here's what makes the offer so good: every one of those might be completely true. Nobody's asking you to lie. You're just being handed a place to stand where none of it is yours to do anything about. Most men take it without ever noticing there was a choice on the table at all. The way out isn't three roles to avoid. It's three to grow into: Creator, Coach, Challenger. Same instinct. Matured. Including the part I got wrong, and the question that stops me in my tracks: who have you already decided isn't strong enough? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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You don't need to be fixed. You need the interference removed. The man you're looking for is already in there. Maybe you built the life — the business, the income, the family — and you're standing on top of it wondering why it doesn't feel like you thought it would. Or maybe the dream you carried in your twenties went quiet somewhere along the way. You told yourself that letting it go was just being realistic. Mature. Sensible. Either way, you've stopped reaching. And part of you knows it. The Reclaimed Man is hosted by Angus Pyke — a man who walked through crippling anxiety and a stage four cancer diagnosis holding onto one idea: this is not happening to me. It is happening for me. This is not a self-help show. It's a rite of passage. Body first. Soul second. Mission third. Come with me.

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